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I just asked you about my stuck relationship, but my problem is I don't know how to break it down, when the time will be right or anything. I'm not good with break ups. I've always done it over the phone or via text. Kinda sad, but I can't face the reality of seeing someone's emotions nor reactions to it all. I just don't want to be stuck. How do you break up with someone who is in love with you but your feelings aren't mutual?? (link)
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There is no good way to break up with a person especially when they are into you more than you are into them. Avoid the cliche lines like "its not you its me" "we're better off as friends" etc. So not drag it out because that will make it harder. Just straight up tell him, I am not happy and I owe it to my son and myself to find what makes me happy. You are both going to feel so shitty but just remember that is a temporary feeling and it is the first step to leaving this unhappy relationship.
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So I'm not exactly sure where to begin. I'm a mother and 21 years old. I moved to a new state and met this guy I quickly fell in love with. Our relationship was everything I wanted it to be. Until I fou.d out I was pregnant. I dug deep to find out things I didn't know about my sons father. Our relationship was based on lies. My sons father left our relationship when he found out I was pregnant with our son. I tried to get him to be a family with me and our unborn son but he chose drugs over us, and a different girl. desperate for love I began seeking a new happiness to get him out of my mind. 3 months later I met this guy, whom was 26 at the time. He took me in and my unborn son. He chose to be there for me when I had absolutely nobody. He is the sweetest guy. And he actually has stuck by my side through it all. It seemed like we needed each other, I helped him move forward in life and he gave me the financial support and love I was seeking. The only thing is, after being together for over a year, my son being 10 months old and him being his father figure I have found myself truly unhappy. I've been in love before and this love isn't the same. I feel uncomfortable around him when it comes to kissing or anything farther. He has never romantically kissed me, its always been a peck. I am constantly picking up after him, reminding him to shower or brush his teeth and practically raising him. I'm not in love. I love him more like a friend. The problem is he has been there for me through so much, but I don't want my son to grow up seeing me unhappy. I'm constantly considering all sorts of "what ifs" and trying to find a way to be happy again. But I have no way out. I feel like he would love everything if I left....his family, home, so much more. I'm not good with break ups and he won't leave me. I've tried leaving before but he cried, begged me to stay so I did. I feel trapped now. I have a son so its hard to take risks because his life revolves around my decisions. I'm scared. To hurt anyone in my life and I don't know what the first step needs to be to being happy and finding love again...or just taking a step away from love. Please help me. I don't know where else to turn. (link)
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If there is anything i have learned about relationships, love, or life in general, it is to define your own happiness. Obviously you can not rely on this guy for your happiness. As amazing as he has treated your son and you, it is best to do what you will feel happy with in the end. This guy obviously cares a great deal but do him a favor and move out so he has the chance at a real relationship, too. It will not be easy but in the end both of you will realize it was done for a reason. It may seem selfish but I strongly encourage you to make yourself happy first. Your son will realize the change immediately and thank you in the end. He is going to see you smiling and remember that as he grows up instead of coming to you later and asking "mom why did you stay with someone you weren't happy with?". You are the relationship example your son will see throughout life so you owe it to him and yourself to find happiness and love again. It's so scary to move on but in the end, it will be worth it. I genuinely wish you the best. Please let me know what happens and if there is anything I can do to help.
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Where are good places to meet nice wholesome friendly guys besides school..cuz all the guys at my school like the sluts (link)
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I'm not trying to be the bearer of bad news but honestly, guys like sluts no matter where you meet them. They are just attracted to them because they flaunt themselves and what not. Just remember, you can't turn a ho into a house wife ha. But there are the select group of guys that actually like a girl for her emotional standings rather then physical attributions. I wish you luck girl.
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Why do guys always seem to cheat? I just don't understand it. You give them everything they could possibly want and then you find them flirting with other women and junk. What am I doing wrong? It's like nobody can be faithful anymore (link)
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Ever read "He's Just Not That Into You"? I suggest you read it. It gives great insight as to why men cheat.
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Hi,
I am a 17f. Theres this guy I met and have known for several months. He is 18 and he is the absolute sweetest guy ever, which is why I like him. We have hung out a few nights and cuddled a little. The problem is, I know he has another girl that he feels strongly for. He told me about her and hes told me he loves me, but its not the same love that he has for this other girl. Then he tells me later that he just loves me. He also said he wants to kiss me to see if theres 'a spark', I didnt think that would be right so I didnt let him. I dont want to get closer to him, expecially knowing he has another girl. Everyone thinks we are dating and I keep telling them NO WE ARE NOT. I think I really like him, Im just unsure. I think hes unsure as well. He makes me feel like I have never felt before, but I can't help but think that he will end up ditching me or I might find someone better.. you know? I told him we should just be friends..deep inside I want it to be more;I am sure he does too but..yeah. I have never dated before, cuz all the other guys I know are losers and just want sex. I want it to be right. I am not the kind of girl that dates just anybody for the hell of it. Please tell me what you think, Just be friends or.. ? (link)
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i'm going to be blunt. it's not worth it. why do people date? to find the one they're going to spend the rest of their lives with. Chances are, you two aren't getting married. He is not unsure, he has made his feelings clear to you that he loves the other girl. Stick with just being friends. You may really like him but you're 17. i promise you will have plenty more guys. this is just one of many. good luck.
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Hey!
Well, this guy I like he's awesome, cute, funny, caring and i think he could be the one. He also likes me. He makes me feel like.. I'm perfect,like an angel. I finally feel better about myself now that i met him.(I had a lot of guy trouble) Now i feel like he's the one. Right now we are like.."friends with benefits", i asked him out and he said "Can't we just stay best friends". Than after that that he said i don't know. I told him that he can think about it, and i mentioned we can be friends wit benefits..we are pratically already are. ha ha. He said he really wants me, but i don't understand why he doesn't want to date me? I think it's because some jealous girls started, a rumor about him and his last girl friend about him dating someone on My space. He wasn't that was before we even met. He was really hurt. :/ Now..that he met maybe he's to scared to date me because that rumor might seem true. This guys the sweetest guy i have ever met. Do you think we can eventually become more than friends with benfits?
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I recently read that book "he's just not that into you" because i've been in the same situation as you a few times and wanted a guy's point of view. there is a part in the book where it says if a guy wants to be with you, he will do what it takes to make that happen. however, there is also a part in the book saying that a guy would rather do something torturous to himself then tell a girl that he really isn't that into her. he may say the things you wanna hear but its because of the benefits part. i wish this stuff weren't true cause believe me girl ive fallen hard for guys like this. best thing to do is drop him, or at least the benefits part.
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I started talking to this guy (jake) that I go to school with a few weeks ago. We really hit it off and now we've been going out for a week. I really like him a lot and I can tell he really likes me too. My friends and people that know him at school tell me to be careful around him and telling me that he's a pervert and he wants sex and stuff like that. He does not seem like the kind f guy that these people are telling me he is. He is really sweet and hasn't even tried to pressure me into anything. I trust him be with all these things that I've heard about him it makes me nervous. Do you think he's just putting on an act to get in my pants? I plan to confront him about what I've heard but I'm not sure how to bring it up. What do you guys think? (link)
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Do not give him the benefit of the doubt. I know you want to prove your friends and everyone wrong but more then likely, they're right. Guys do pretty much whatever it takes to get laid and if it means him acting like a sweet heart and telling you whatever you want to hear, he'll do it. I am speaking from several personal experiences here haha. don't let him screw you over.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for about a week now. The only thing is that i have a moustache that is sorta dark and a lot of people notice it i'm sure. It's really embarrising because i don't want him to see it. I can't do anything about it. I'm not gonna wax, shave or bleach it. What do i do? I'm scared that he will be grossed out by it and break up with me. Help! (link)
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there is an alternative to waxing called threading. Not all places that have waxing do it though. i personally haven't done it but i've heard it hurts less, and there is less irritation then waxing. google threading and watch some videos of how it's done.
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I dont know how to break up with this guy! My friend dared me to date him, but it got out of hand... and i dont know what to do!
Should i tell him it was just a dare?
HELP!!!!!!
HELP!!!!!! he is driving me nuts and i dont know what to do about it
I dont want to hurt him
but i dont really like him...at all.in fact i hate him! i dont no how to break up!
i am leaving on may 20 so should i just stick it out until i leave?
once agian, HELP!!!! (link)
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just tell him you don't want a boyfriend right now. he might be hurt but i mean it's meaner to stay with him as a joke. however, don't let him know it was a dare. that would be very mean.
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I need help?
My love just broke up with me and he says he wants to wait like a week or so and get to no more stuff about me?
But i'm in love with him and it just breaks my heart and i am confused and dont want to let go i have no clue what to do?
Please help me.... (link)
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Well, if he wants to know more about you that's a good sign. I know it sucks being broken up with but this is actually a good situation because in order for him to get to know more about you, you will get to hang out with him more and talk to him more. So my advice to you is learn more about each other, by doing this he may want to get back together. But just remember, boys come and go!
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me and my ex broke up while back and we have been messing around.. now he has a gurl and he still messing.. what does that mean? (link)
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Take it from someone who has been used a few times. He's just using you. If he is cheating on his girlfriend right now, he isn't a faithful person. If you guys got back together or whatever you think he's hinting, he is just going to use you for random play and either dump you or cheat on you like he's doing now with his current girlfriend. Unless you like what's going on now, i suggest you stop. think of how his current girlfriend would feel if she found out.
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I got drunk one night over spring break and spent the night with a guy other than my boyfriend(we did NOT have sex, just messed around a little). Well, now my boyfriend doesn't want me seeing ANY of my friends that were at that party. I could understand not seeing the guy I spent the night with, but not all my friends... What should I do? (link)
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dump him.
even though you were drunk, you still messed around and it could happen again. who is he to say you can't see your friends? that is ridiculous.
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hi,theres this girl we have kissed but it was just her kissing me an i said im a better kisser then her lol she said well next time i see her i can prove it to her..in 2 days im teaching her how to play basketball and when i see her im going to tell her to close her eyes an im going to french kiss her i wana no how to make her get goosebumps and where to touch her like on her check and run my hands down her spine an that like in the movies when a girl doesnt no what to do after the kis
or girls tell me how you liked to be kissed thanks.. (link)
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That's really sweet. But i'm gonna have to agree with everyone else, just do it when you feel it. You'll definitely know if you guys are having a "moment" or something and that's when you're just gonna kiss her!
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ok so i got off work the other day and was waitin for a ride home.
i ran into this guy and we hit it off pretty good we talked for awhile and exchanged numbers.
we have been talking alot on the phone lately and he keeps saying how he wants me to be his gf but i tell him im not sure
i mean i like him alot but he is 18 and im 14
is that a big enough difference to not date him?
i mean ive dated older guys forever but its illegal since he is 18 not like we'd get in trouble but just the thought. but still i like him alot
ahh
someone help
PLEAZ.. (link)
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Boys, boys, boys. They're a mess. Here's what i say-
Stay friends. like everyone else was saying, you guys are on different levels because of the age difference. 4 years might not seem like a big deal but trust me on this, boys minds have way different thoughts. So you may be thinking it's just a fun relationship when he may be thinking he wants more. If he likes you as much as he says he does, then i think he would respect your decision if you just wanted to stay friends. And who knows, maybe if you guys are friends long enough and understand where youre both coming from, you could really hit it off :)
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Uhm.. I'm on a VERY low budget, allowance is at a minimal because the family is HUGE and my boyfriends birthday is in August, a festival we plan to go to is in September, in October we're going to a Halloween concert, in November it's out 1 year anniversary, and then there's Christmas. This is all relatively close together..
Any ideas on how I can make super low budget work and afford all of these, pulling off getting decent gifts?
[Credit card was revoked recently.. and paypal isn't an option.. am I just screwed? Lol. > (link)
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I agree, definitely look for a part time job. Or if you know you can pay them back, borrow money from a friend or sibling. But back to the jobs, babysitting is good. Or just a clothing store for a few months until you save up to get to do the things you want. Maybe even ask your parents if they can pay for the halloween concert as an early christmas gift. I hope it all works out for ya!
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I'm a 13 year old boy and I don't have a girlfriend when mostly everyone does. I like some of the girls at my school do not think they like me as much as I like them. How do I get the girls to like me?
I'm in texas by the way. (link)
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jusr be yourself. if a girls doesn't like how you are, then that's not the girl for you. but i guarantee you, every girl likes a funny guy, so if you have a good sense of humor keep that up!
also, get to know the girl you like really good, you guys will probably have some of the same interests and you can find more oppurtunities to hang out with her.
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I like this guy who l just started being friends with. AT the dances at school l usually slow dance with him. But he;s the school HOTTIE!!!!. But hes also a perve, every girl likes him. But his friend told me that he likes me. So should l ask him out or what.
7TH Grade is almost over and l won;t get to see him for the summer
HELP!HELP! What should l do? (link)
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you guys should probably just stay friends. like you said, school is almost over and you won't get to see him during the summer. so what's the point if you won't even be able to spend that much time with him? that's just my opinion though :)
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I'm 16/f and my bf is 17/m. Sometimes he acts soooo immature and after a while it gets annoying.
The other day I was at his house and he was acting like a little kid making random noises, talking about burping, jumping around like his house was a trampoline, and making stupid comments about everything.
So I said, "Stop acting like a five year old and grow up. I swear you act like my little brother"
I guess that kind of upset him because he didn't really talk to me after that. And today, he had an away message up that said "'acting like a 5-year-old' with Mike hit the cell"
I don't know if I should apologize or what because I know I might have hurt his feelings but I feel like he needs to know that he can't act like that all the time. What should I do?
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well, if he would give you a chance to apologize then i say go for it. and like you said, he can't act like that all the time, so just explain that you like hanging out with him but sometimes he needs to act 17, and not 10.
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i need help i just got a laptop but when ever i liek close it like shut it it closes my aim!! and i doont wangt it to help me (link)
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well if you have dsl, you can stay on aim for a while (obviously). so what i do is go to start>log off> switch user. and i don't shut down the computer either. the next time i log on AIM is right where i left it. you could try that and if it doesn't work then i'm sorry.
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how can i convince a guy to break up with his girlfriend bcause he thinks its okay to have me and his girlfriend at the same time and i want to show him its not i know this sounds mean but he wont leave me alone and i dont want to do stuff with him untile hes single or going out with me (link)
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well why would you want to be with someone like that? i mean, what if he does break up with her and gets with you...he might do the same thing with you and some other girl like what's going on now. well, good luck with all of that.
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