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Is he trying to get into my pants?
I started talking to this guy (jake) that I go to school with a few weeks ago. We really hit it off and now we've been going out for a week. I really like him a lot and I can tell he really likes me too. My friends and people that know him at school tell me to be careful around him and telling me that he's a pervert and he wants sex and stuff like that. He does not seem like the kind f guy that these people are telling me he is. He is really sweet and hasn't even tried to pressure me into anything. I trust him be with all these things that I've heard about him it makes me nervous. Do you think he's just putting on an act to get in my pants? I plan to confront him about what I've heard but I'm not sure how to bring it up. What do you guys think?
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Do not give him the benefit of the doubt. I know you want to prove your friends and everyone wrong but more then likely, they're right. Guys do pretty much whatever it takes to get laid and if it means him acting like a sweet heart and telling you whatever you want to hear, he'll do it. I am speaking from several personal experiences here haha. don't let him screw you over.
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Basically, yes, I think he's putting on an act. I've met tons of guys that seemed amazing and like 'the one' but I knew the truth. Just take a look at his past and some of the girls he's dated. It is possible to change him and make him commit, but stand your ground. Don't give in because that's what pretty much all he wants. He's already figured out what to do and how to win girls over to get what he wants. There's no point in talking about it to him, that will just make him mad. He knows what he's doing, but he thinks you don't know. I guess I'm just jumping to conclusions but my best friend went through this and I don't want it to happen to you too. Later on you'll see how there are two different types of guys. I don't know what else to say. Just make the decision for yourself but keep your eyes open.
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dont listen to people. a lot of rumors go around in highschool about people that arent true. like last year, this kid spread a rumor about me that im a slut and i get money for sex, and im still dealin with it this year. basically- only confront him about it if he starts actin that way. if he seems like he really likes you, then he probably does! a lot of people like to mess up relationships too, and i couldnt tell you why. stick to your instincts and standards of how he should act, not your friends or people that know him. he sounds like a good guy, but if he starts to act like how people described him, just be like 'ohh i heard about this...' and then you can tell him what you heard. dont make it seem like youre gangin up on him, but its just somethin that you heard and youre curious about it.
good luck, message me anytime!
x sweeethoney
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Just because people are saying that's all he wants, doesn't necessarily make it true. There are a lot of rumors that go around that aren't true. If I were you, I wouldn't worry about what people are saying. If Jake is sweet to you and doesn't try to pressure you into anything, that's all that matters.
If there does come a time when Jake is pressuring you into doing something sexually, you'll know that the rumors were true and you might want to break it off. You should wait until you cross that bridge though.
If you do bring it up, don't do it in a accusatory manner. If he feels like you're accusing him of just wanting to get in your pants, you'll create a strain on your relationship. You have only been going out one week, after all. There's no need to rush into things or get too serious.
-Darby
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School? Teenagers? o.O Lots of rumors.. I mean just because he say she say.. Doesn't always mean it's true. You could ask him if there just rumors or stuff, but even if they arn't he's not going to tell you if they are or not. So, I mean confronting him might just be a waste. Just don't have sex with him, just keep the relationship easy and steady, if he really likes you he'll wait as long as you want. You know? o.o Well good luck hun.
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