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I am here for advice, on anything!!No matter the topic.. I may not have the facts but you can get my opinion on whatever (:
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I need to know what it means when you are a slut? How many guys do you have to sleep with to be a slut? Is there like a test or something you can take that tells you if you are being slutty or whatever?
I slept with tree guys in the same night. I feel like the worst person! I didn't tell any of them that I had slept with any of the others, I just wanted to see who was best. Now I feel really stupid. You can tell me the truth when you answer my question, I won't be mad or rate you low.
Is there anything that I can do to make this better? Should I tell the guys? What if one of them has a disease and I gave it to all of them?
DONT TELL ANYONE.
You will be called a slut. Wether you are or not.. people can be cruel.
It will ruin your life. I promise.
Take this as a lesson learned.. Don't sleep around.. for your safety and others'.
People in this world are SICK.
Some even sleep with wemon and men knowingly passing STD's around, even AIDS.
Be careful honey!!
I don't think you are a "slut"
But i do think that what you did that night was slutty. However.. your young and you can come back from this.. Keep ya head up.
Be careful (=
so this person i am seeing says some of the most hurtful things to me. then goes out and does something all sweet, and thinks because he has done this wonderful thing it makes up for those hurtful things he says. is words i qoute " actions woman not words"
that is what he says when i confront him, what do i do? he never can talk serious when i bring up this stuff he starts acting like a child and making noises so he cant hear me! it frustrates me beyond belief! i have hadto tell him to grow up! wwhat happend to the man i met that was loving caring respectful ?
ps i am 21 female
Girl, I've been there, done that.
He is acting a fool, becuase you let him.
If you want it to stop.. make him believe it!
My boyfriend has recently started talking to an ex girlfriend of his. I could see them talking for long periods of time when they first got in touch with eachother, but she calls him all day and texts him all hours of the morning. She's even sent pictures of herself to him. When I ask him questions about her he gets mad and tells me to get out of his face. Recently he started locking his phone. He's told me they are just friends, but he's lied about a conversation they had for over 2 hours while he was golfing. I know that this girl has feelings for him, but could he be having feelings for her too. I don't know what they talk about when I'm not there. Now when she calls he doesn't answer her calls if I'm there. Should I be concerned? We've been together for 4 years.
I been through the same exact thing, recently.. well sort of.
Anyway, your are more than likely right.
But it's not what you think..it's really not like he wants to cheat on you.. but people get comfortable and "bored" .. this fling is exciting for him.. becuase he's being selfish.. and he feels he has to keep it from you.. which makes it "exciting". If he is being shady, and has never been before.. you definently are not in the wrong to investigate.. but BEWARE.. if you got that far.. you may very well find something you don't wanna see.. but then again.. it is what you need, to confirm your worries.
Don't let him think he is fooling you even for a minute.. or he'll keep pushing his luck.
4 years is a long time.. and if he is young.. then he maybe having reservations.. So talk to him. Tell him what you feel.. and lay it out.. Tell him NOT to make you, make him choose.. between you and her!
But hunny, that maybe what your going to have to do in the end.. If he's right for you.. and truly your soulmate.. he'll make the right choice.. but if he doesn't feel blessed that it has only been 4 years.
Keep ya head up boo (:
Freaking out about it, will only make you feel worse about it.. so calm down (:
so ive been dating this guy for coming on 6 months not we are really close and we get along perfect.unfortunetly we dont go to the same school... at his school he has a friend that is a girl. lets call her...kim. anyways so kim has told him that he finds him cute and that his girlfriend (me) is the luckiest girl in the world.. also she is constantly wrighting in his face book wall and texting him.. she claims that she really wants to meet me and hangout with me but for some reason it really bothers me.
am i just being over protective? what should i do?
Meet the hefer! And if she has any bad intentions you will feel them immeadiatly..
But make sure, even though you love your boyfriend.. don't rule out the fact that he COULD be just as guilty as she is..
I know personally, that if you hold all this in.. without doing something about it.. it will not stop.. and you'll only end up hurting yourself in the long run.
Best you find out the truth now.. rather a year or two down the road, right? (:
what's something you can say to a guy to make him yours forever, well not forever but just to make him stay with you.
You can't do anything to make someone stay, where they don't want to be..
If he wants to be with you.. then being yourself is enough..
But if he changes his mind.. there is nothing you CAN do.. but get over it.
Don't mean to sound harsh.. but that's it hun (:
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Alright, I'm sick of people saying that I don't know what love is. My friend Cierra thinks the same. She's in a relationship with her bf they have been dating for 3 years, and she says that anyone can be in love at almost any age. My bf is the guy I want, he helps me feel better when no one else can. I sometimes cry and pray to god that he won't take him away from me because I have never been treated this well before. I"ve dated 3 other guys than him in the past and they never came close to be this close to me. Him and I think the same, and feel and worry in the same ways. We both need each other or we will be lost, we wouldn't know how to get threw life. We both feel like outcasts, alone and we don't fit in* even though I think he has more friends than I* He doesn't like it when I get depressed and lonely he helps me soo much. My brother told me i shouldnt be so dependent on a guy, but he's the only person I want. I just want to show people that this IS love, my parents don't like me and my bf together because he's 2 years older. He's not what they think he is. I know they want me to be safe and what not, and they don't want me to be sexual active. *which im not* I'm waiting and he respects that XD He said " You don't have to do anything your not comfortable with. I love you to much to hurt you." The most we have done is kissed. I'm shy, and quiet he's loud *when he's with me or friends* and a dare devil haha >.> Will everyone eventually get use to us? We've been dating sense january i think? He knows all that. lol There getting a little bit use to it ..my parents...i just don't want them to think badly of my bf. >.< Please tell me what you think..thank you. XD
ok.. Anyone can find love, at any age.
I don't think that people know what they're really saying when they tell you that you don't know what love is..
I think that they are just trying to tell you in the wrong way, that even if you and your b/f split up one day.. hopefully you won't.. but that if you do. It will be hard.. you'll feel like there is a huge hole in your chest and for a while you'll feel like you can't even breath. but your young and you'll find another.
You brother is just looking out for you.. because he is a guy.. and he knows how guys think.. he's also trying to prepare you for the worst that COULD happen one day.
And as for your parents, they will NEVER approve of anyone you date.. no one will ever be good enough.. because you are they're baby!!
Don't get mad or upset.. don't stress about it.. just keep living your life the way you know is right! You don't have to have sex, to make it feel like REAL love.
Real love is great with out the physical aspect of things.. and once you do graduate to that step in life and love.. you'll know that it's exactly what you want.. you'll know when the time is right.. you'll feel it in your heart.. not in your pants :D
i have this girl in my school and she is real cute. so i had the guts to ask her to come to me and i had asked her to hug me while i was sitting and she did. so she asked me what i was doing and left. i was just lookin at her. the next few days my friend had talked about her and she was behind me and us so i had put my arm around her and sweet talk her telling her i missed you and i was just wanting to see what she wud say to me. so i dont know what it means if i should keep doing what i am doing. and is she comfortable ?
Unless you really like her, and want to persue a realtionship.. stop leading her on..
She may really like you.. and you don't wanna be the one to hurt her feelings.. do you?
Hey so this is the same girl who has a crush on the boy in my art appreciation class. Well he gave me his business card, and after class i took the stairs & i was texting my dad. Well he came down and saw me and i think he gave me a weird look cause he might've thought i was waiting him, but i wasn't. And then later on i kinda did something really stupid i called from a blocked 3 times. im really embarrassed, but then i next day i called him , and he didn't answer, and yesterday he saw me and gave me a weird look again, so i didn't sit with him. He walked in and saw i was sitting somewhere else, and when he sat down he looked at me a few times, but i looked away. Then later that night, i called him, but he didn't answer. So i texted him and he asked me who i was & i told him, and he was like oh i didn't expect anyone to text me this late. And i said oh i hope you don't mind. And he was like actually i do because my girlfriend would chew me up and cause he uses that number for business purposes since he's the manager of this gym. And i was like ohh, and i was sad. So yeah i don't know what to do now cause it's going to be awkward. But i mean he it's funny cause he would smile at me whenever he saw me outside of class, and really made it seem like he liked me, but he was really shy, so i don't know. I thought he migh've been lying about having a girl, so i would stop talking to him. So yeah im really upset, what should i do? please help!!
Charge it to the game boo!
There is nothing you can do but let it go..
Just look at it like your winning, because apparently he is playing mind games.. and no one needs that drama in they're life.
Be glad he stopped it before you caught REAL feelings for him.. then you really would be hurt.
SO.
Last summer I met this guy when I was on vacation and we a quite a passionate couple of days there. :) When we got back from each of our vacations, we had about three weeks because after that he was leaving the country to study. So we went out twice. The last week that he was supposed to be here I didn't hear anything from him (I had texted him to maybe organize another date before he left or something) and at the end of the week he sent me "I can't be with you." and something about how he didn't want to hurt me even more later or something (I don't remember :P). He had already mentioned that he didn't want to have a long diastance relationship but we hadn't really discussed it very much. I was thinking it would be sort of weird anyway to have a long distance relationship since I barely knew him and he would have tons of "temptations" as a college student. But I did REALLY like him. So then he left and we've been commenting on eachothers' status' and stuff on Facebook all year. When he was here for Christmas though he didn't mention us meeting or anything so I just sent him a Happy New Year message and he answered and whatever but that was it. Then about a month or a month and a half ago, I commented on one of his status' that he's really cute or something like that half jokingly but he took it seriously and also told me we should meet when he comes for Easter. And since then we have been flirting quite a lot on Facebook. xD :) What do you think about all this? Do you think he just wants someone to "play" with while he's here? I mean I REALLY REALLY like him and stuff and like I've watched the Notebook a million times and compared us to that and stuff xD but should I give in and do something with him when he comes (in a few days!) ? Why do you think I told me "he couldn't be with me" ?
Oh and from stalking his facebook (xD) he appeared to have a girlfriend where he is before or around Christmas. (I have had two boyfriends in the meanwhile but I broke up with both of them because what I really wanted was to be with this guy and I felt like I was teasing them)
Oh and it was also always sort of assumed that we would see each other again next summer.
And, sorry last thing, I'm going to go study next year in the same country as him (and he knows that from my facebook) so theoretically if we got together there wouldn't be the distance problem next year.
Thanks! :)
I don't think you should "hook up" with him when he comes into town for a couple days, simply because if he is actually interested in you.. and wants it to be more than just a fling.. he won't mind just spending time with you.. make him want more.. keep him guessing and it'll either work out in your favor.. or he'll cut you off. BUT either way you'll have your dignity!
and if he does have a girlfriend.. and is trying to creep with you, because he knows she'll never find out.. you don't wanna be that girl. Because she will find out one way or another.. we all do!
Lol.. but again, your gonna do what you want.. I'm just giving you my opinion, on what i would do (:
GOOD LUCK BOO!
Okay so I know this is going to sound like an odd relationship, but my bf and i dont keep secrets from eachother. At all. Well at least thats how he wanted it to be. He told me he never minds if i look at his phone, or if i ask him anything he will always tell me, and he wants me to do the same...and i have been doing that, i always let him look at my texts or sometimes he will on his own nd i dont mind.
Now, last Saturday we got into a fight, and on Sunday we were together becuz we went to lunch with his family. He was texting his friend, and I asked him what about? and he didnt answer so I looked at his phone but he had deleted the convo. So I asked him, hey soo what did you talk about and he said some bs answer that was random.
Later that evening, him, me and his friend and friends brother were all hanging out and my bf and his friends brother went to see his new apartment, while me and his friend stayed back to watch this show we both love. Now during this time, his friend says to me "heyy so how come you said that yesterday?" (referring to the fight i had with my bf) and I was like "What? He told you that?" and he says "Yeah look" and he shows me the whole convo he had deleted off his phone. My instincts were right, my bf had lied to me, because the text was saying all this stuff about me, not really bad stuff, but still it wasnt nice either. He was telling his friend how I was "bitching" and I "ruined his night" etc. If i had seen that earlier on his phone I wouldnt have gotten mad because its just how he feels about our fight and he was telling his friend, its fine. But what made me mad was that he LIED to me about it, something that hes always had this thing with honesty saying how oh, if you ever take your confidence away from me its going to be over because I never once gave you a reason to doubt me blah blah, and truth is he only did once, until now. (i found out about that too) so honestly i felt kinda like well you've lied twice already so i feel kinda betrayed u know?
So even tho i promised his friend i wouldnt say he showed me, I did bring it up to him. I said that why is it that you deleted the text today? What didnt you want me to see? and he says why are you so paranoid it wasnt even about u? thats when i got mad i was like hey i have reason to ask ok I saw the conversation. And i pretty much caught him in a lie, but in order to save his friend since i promised i said that he had shown me something on his phone and I accidentally saw the conversation. Now my bf has been "out of it" as he puts it, this whole week because he says he feels weird about sunday, like he cant believe i did that and looked thru his friends phone, etc etc and hes trying to make me feel guilty. Am I wrong here? And what can I say to him to make him realize hes the one that messed up without giving away the fact that his friend showed me their conversation?
Yall are going to argue and disagree on ALOT. So get used to it.. even though you can't stop thinking about it.. you have to pick your battles. Yea, you want him to know he messed up and that your not a fool. But atleast now he knows that you aren't stupid and no matter what he does, you'll find out.
He probably just deleted it because either he felt bad about the stuff he said, and wanted to avoid a fight.. or because he was mad and wanted to make you mad. He never thought that his friend would show you or he wouldn't have deleted it.
I say just drop it.. he was mad. WE all say things we don't mean when we are mad.. I would just let it go.. and NOT throw it in his face ever again.. eliminate the shit before it ever even starts.. you'll be alot happier.. i promise (:
I wouldn't STOP looking thru his phone and everything.. if that's what works for yall.. then good.
You can't put your all into someone, even if you know they are your soulmate.. you gotta watch your back.. cause people change with the blink of an eye..
At this point in my life I want a family and I am ready for one. Very Very much. I know that my boyfriend is not ready yet and I completely respect that and am willing to wait until he feels ready. I know it's a joint decision. I never bring it up or try and pressure him. How do I get rid of these intense feelings of wanting a child until hes ready? I have tried to focus on the "cons" and the stressors of having a baby and marriage but it has not in the least altered my feelings. Nothing I try works. It's to the point where I feel stuck at where I am in life. I'm ready to settle down and start a family. So any tips for subsiding the desires would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
My personal opinion, if you were supposed to have a baby right now.. you two would have already gotten pregnant. There is a plan for all of us.. and it'll fall into place when the time is right.. you can't rush it.
Don't tempt fate..
- Your going to want what you want until you get it.. just stay focused on the future and what is to come.. you'll be fine (:
so I have thus really good friend and we talk a lot and he always brings up the one time we kissed, but it was nothing, and he always talks about how he wants to hook up with me and he always ask me if I want to hook up with him, and a couple days ago we were talking about how far we would ever go with each other..so do most guys just want to hook up or do they really like the girl?
we are both 16
Hunny, your younge. Take advantage of that.. explore. Safely of course! But do what you have to do to make yourself.
But as for him being a good friend. You have to look at it like..
What if it doesn't work out.. then your friendship is screwd.. it'll never be the same again.
And if it does work out.. is that what you really want.. I mean if your such great friends.. why hasn't it progressed into anything serious by now.
It's a scary road to go down.. but if you value the friendship.. DON'T DO IT.
He's curious.. and people in general ALWAYS want what they can't have.
i'm no cheater. i love my boyfriend to death. but lately i've been tempted. this guy that i used to have a huge crush on told me that he has always wanted me and he wants to sleep with me.
he doesnt know i have a boyfriend, and for some reason i didnt tell him. i think it was because i just enjoyed the sound of him raving about how sexy i am, and it made me feel important. i know my boyfriend finds me sexy, but hes not so open about it, especially since we cant have sex in his house or mine.
i just feel really terrible because for the past 4 days, sleeping with this other guy has been haunting my mind. i want him so bad, but i dont want to cheat and i dont want to dumb my boyfriend, either. i cant seem to have the strength to delete him on FB and i still want to hear from him. but theres another problem, too...he's engaged to be married in a few months. and he has two children with his fiancee. they are both 18, i believe.
i guess what i'm asking here is how do i find the strength to still be loyal to the one i love, and get rid of the one i've been fantasizing about for 3 years?
People always want what they can't have.. ESP. if the mystery has been going on for YEARS. Don't screw up what you have.. if you truly love him.
don't doubt your love or yourself.. everyone questions they're intentions.. it's the strong relationships that make it through that!
Telling your boyfriend about this, won't make it go away.. and it won't make you feel better about it either!
Think long and hard about this.. is the new guy what you want.. do you really wanna be a home wrecker? Not to sound rude or judgemental.. but that's what it is. Don't do it for the excitement.. he's in love and has kids. Sounds like he just wants to get his last fling in before he has one woman to sleep with for the rest of his life.. don't be that girl.
If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, leave him. Don't cheat on him.. don't "have fun" or "explore" with this new guy.
Again, no one can answer this for you.. you already know what you want to do.. or you wouldn't question it..
you'll make the right decision.. follow your heart (:
me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago and i found a new guy but i dont no if he likes me or wants to be with me. should i ask or should i go back to my ex who is like heartbroken because of the break up? help me i dont no what the right thing to do is?
The "Right thing to do"
is what makes YOU happy. You can't make someone else happy at your expensense. Don't worry, everyone has they're feelings hurt more than once in this lifetime! But what it really comes down to, is what you know in your heart. Don't go back to your ex becuase you feel bad or because your comfortable around him..Venture out. Do what you need to do to be happy for YOU!
okay so this guy from my work is driving me insane i know that he really likes me.. and i have a boyfriend ive told his countless times i am NOT interested and yet he comes up trying to hug me and almost trying to kiss me at times i am constantly puching him away and he wont leave me alone. then he took my phone and started texting my boyfriend pretending to be me... and made me sound like a huggeee bitch. my boyfriend is sick to death of him and would love to beat him up but i dont want to start a huge conflict between my coworkers and me so i told my boyfriend i would take care of it... What Do I Do!!????
Cut it short before it gets out of hand.
People are crazy.. You have to be mean, hurt his feelings if you have to .. make sure you know that your not down with the games he's playing.
If it starts to mess up your relationship, find another job!
well i've been talking to this guy for 3 months now, and we have sex all the time , our parents know each other... i like him ALOT, and i feel like he likes me too. BUT he has a problem making commitment to me . i know he's being loyal to me, but he just doesnt want to be my boyfriend, and everytime i come up on that issue, he says " whats the rush " i get annoyed alot because i like things when their set in stone. he also doesnt talk to me at school, and when we're around certain people he barely pays attention to me . he says that its not me , that thats' just the way he is , and he's shy. i reallllly need him to step it up because i'm getting tired of waiting around but i dont want to lose him either. what can i tell him or show him, so that he'll decide to finally ask me out ?
Well, my opinion..
It sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it to! Your better than this.. anyone is.
He's right it's not you, it's him. You can't keep sleeping with him and then nag him to change his ways.
You have to change your ways.. I know you like him..but you have to show him that you have standards and you respect yourself. Or he'll never respect you.. Put it out there that if he wants anything of you.. it's all or nothing! And stand by your word. If you lose him then he really wasn't meant for you. Don't " down grade" because you think he may be the one. If you have to down grade yourself for anyone.. They are in fact NOT the one!