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make commitment!
well i've been talking to this guy for 3 months now, and we have sex all the time , our parents know each other... i like him ALOT, and i feel like he likes me too. BUT he has a problem making commitment to me . i know he's being loyal to me, but he just doesnt want to be my boyfriend, and everytime i come up on that issue, he says " whats the rush " i get annoyed alot because i like things when their set in stone. he also doesnt talk to me at school, and when we're around certain people he barely pays attention to me . he says that its not me , that thats' just the way he is , and he's shy. i reallllly need him to step it up because i'm getting tired of waiting around but i dont want to lose him either. what can i tell him or show him, so that he'll decide to finally ask me out ?
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Well, my opinion..
It sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it to! Your better than this.. anyone is.
He's right it's not you, it's him. You can't keep sleeping with him and then nag him to change his ways.
You have to change your ways.. I know you like him..but you have to show him that you have standards and you respect yourself. Or he'll never respect you.. Put it out there that if he wants anything of you.. it's all or nothing! And stand by your word. If you lose him then he really wasn't meant for you. Don't " down grade" because you think he may be the one. If you have to down grade yourself for anyone.. They are in fact NOT the one!
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"What's the rush?"
"The rush is I'm not happy with this arrangement, and sooner or later you're going to have to choose me or loose me. And that is time is getting closer and closer as I get more and more annoyed with keeping our relationships (and yes, we have a 'relationship' even if you don't want to call me your girlfriend) a secret. This is your warning. This isn’t going to last like this. Either we start to date, or we call it off.”
Say it, or something like it, and then stick to it. When you finally get fed up, walk.
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Sounds like you are just his booty call, Think about it....
He wants to have sex with you but yet doesn't want to be your boyfriend? Something wrong there. You two are sharing something very personal...He barely talks to you and doesn't pay attention to you. There's your answer, Doesn't sound like he is as special as he seemed. You're best bet is to forget about it and move on
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Well, why would he be your boyfriend? He gets all the benefits of having a girlfriend without ever having to deal with any of the other stuff, like commitment. Ever heard the saying, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?"I have news for you, and this is a lesson you should learn early because it will apply to EVERY relationship with a man you have in the future - if you want him to make a commitment to you, STOP sleeping with him. He doesn't talk to you or pay attention to you around other people because he doesn't RESPECT you. He will never respect you if you don't respect yourself. But you are willing to sleep with a guy who is not your boyfriend and who has told you right out that he DOESN'T want to be your boyfriend, what does that say about you? What is he supposed to think about you? Stop wasting your time, muster up some self respect and walk away from this guy. I bet you any money he'll pay alot more attention to you once he can't have you. And if he doesn't then you can be sure he was only ever interested in you for sex. You need to find someone to talk to about why you think so little of yourself that you let yourself be used so easily. You sound sweet. I hope you'll be able to feel better about who you are and find a guy who is really into you and who will be totally excited to be called your boyfriend. Just remember - you don't get a boyfriend by sleeping with a guy first and then hoping he'll want to love you.
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