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Q:
I know most people might say no, men shouldn't hit a woman back. But I think that if a woman thinks shes big enough to hit a man she should be hit back. I think that a man should only hit a woman in self defense. There are women out there that hit men when they get mad over something stupid and expect not to get hit back and sometimes they try to fight the man, while they expect him to do nothing but walk away. Im a woman and I think that if a woman hits a man she should be hit back. Just like if a man hits a woman for no reason she should hit him back. Im not saying that a woman should be beaten by a man though. Ive seen women hit men, bite scratch,threaten with a knife and chunk stuff at them. The man is supposed to sit there and take that? Most women arent as weak as people think they are.

Just wondering to see people's opinions...

If a man doesnt hit a woman back after she hits him, the next time they argue, she will try to fight and hit him, some women are vicious catty fighters..Im not saying she she get beaten

If a woman doesnt want to get hit by a man like Mike tyson, then she shouldnt hit him because shes mad, or over something stupid.

I'm a woman lol, just asking.

My cousin used to hit her ex. and he would never hit her back. the one time he did though, she never hit him again after that. Shes Grown up since then. If I was a man, I would treat her the same way as I would treat a man who comes up to me and hits me, I do not practice gender discrimination. but the point is everyone deserves to learn that lesson if theyre askin for it. Im not saying men should beat women, Im just saying she should get hit back.everyone who believes in genuine equality and responsibility should agree..
Men: if she comes up to you and hits you multiple times are you going to hit her back? cause that would be self-defense right? for someone strong like her

Women: Do you think if that woman attacked a man he has the right to hit her back?

I am going to read this after I read it because I don't even think I need to. I understand the man's point of view, and being a woman I understand that point of view as well. But here is the thing, women should NEVER be hit back. No matter what they do or even if they have no reason to hit men. The only exception is when using self defense and that is only if the man cannot stop her in some other form as in holding her back or something in that sense.

Q: Movingg on is something I need to do!

One night I was with this other guy, I was smiling, laughing, and I was happy(: But then the radio was on and mine and my exes song came on and I started crying. This guy had no idea why I was crying so he just kept hugging me asking me what's wrong, and I told him I wasn't ready to move on and I'm sorry. So he left. He started dating one of my old friends, and Me? I was stuck on the ex. Me and that girl became friends again because we talked about our problems. Now theyy aren't together anymore but she's in love with him, and I'm finally ready to move on! and I feel like he's the only guy I could move on withh! What should I do?

Well, moving on can be really really difficult. You need to tell this guy how you feel. Explain to him that you needed time to move on but explain to him that you are ready for that and you that you want to be with him and that it wasn't that you didn't want to be with him you just needed a little more time. If he can't accept that then he really wouldn't be worth it. Everyone needs their own time to move on. If you know you are ready then you are ready. Just go for it! Hope I helped.

Q: Okay well I recently just got dumped by my bf about a few months ago. There's this other guy that came into the picture and we both like each other. BUT he's not wanting a relationship right now and to be perfectly honest I'm not really right now either. We slept together once. I talked to him about his intention tonight and he told me that I'm not just a girl he wants to use and dump on the side of the tracks but like I said he's not wanting a relationship. I was a tad bit disappointed in. Hearing this so all I said was alright. I would eventually like a relationship maybe if hed be willing to but right now I'm willing to. Just be fuck buddies for right now. I think he got the impression that we couldn't be that anymore either. What do I say to him the next time I talk to him to let him know that its alright.

Just tell him that you would like to spend time with him and continue seeing him a bit more intimately even if you two aren't in a relationship right now. Then, if he doesn't get it, you can always just make a move next time to push the hint a little farther. I was in that type of relationship to for a while, it really isn't too hard to just hint with actions and words. Or you can straight up tell him. That would be a good idea, but it is a little harsh of a subject to tell you. You have to decide judging on how he is. Hope I helped.

Q: how do you pleasure yourself word by word in the shower. i have never tried but i want to but i dont know how...

Let's see if I can word this correctly so that it makes sense, and of coarse I want to know how I help. Every girl has different turn on's and different ways it will help. I actually found that using the faucet is much more pleasure than the actual shower head. If you want to try the shower head, use the jets and make sure they are gentle, you don't have to stand, you actually can stand if you want I have stood and lied in tub - if you have that kind of shower, that is. Being a girl - I'm guessing you are - you should know what and where your clit is. Make it so that one of the jets or the jet hits your clit. You won't won't want it too hot, but I tend to like it warm. If you use the faucet then you can just lie down and position yourself so that your clit gets hit by the stream and if it feels good that it is working. I don't quite know if that is what you wanted, but I hope it helped a bit. thanks for asking me. Let me know if you have any other questions. and sorry it took me so long to respond.

Q: k theres this guy lets call him eric, and were like bff's but 2 days ago he said he loved me more than a friend &&i reacted badly and told me ididnt see him that way && a day later he started dating anotehr chick and tells her he loves her but never tells me he loves her is it just me or dusnt this make sense ?? is he just somneone to avoid b/c he tells people he loves them regardless or is he doing it to get over me? idk. help.plz! x0x

Either he doesn't know love as a verb but a noun, or he is trying to make you jealous. Or both. What I mean by the first is that he could possibly just say it as loosly as if he were saying he liked your shoes. This may not be the case if he is trying to make you jealous, but I have met people like this. There's nothing bad except for the fact that they really might not love you when they say it. I would stay away from him or remain very cautious of him... But the other girl the next day is a bit much. I wouldn't be surprised if he were trying to make you jealous. Hope this helped.

Q: well i dont know what your problem is kid.
You need to calm yourself down & make an appointment with me. Cause you need a therepist to discuss your problems with.

I do go to a therapist...

Q: whaaatever kid.
Well at least im not the one with the issues.

sounds like you might be

Q: f/16
I think I'm a lesbian and I'm not too sure of how I should break it to my family and friends. Lets be honest I'm petrified. Not too worried about my family but my friends I'm very scared about telling, considering most of them are girls and will probably be scared away from me. Can someone please give me some advice on how I should break the news without all my friends running a mile. I need to get it out soon or I think I might just die with worry.

Let your family know, yes... and possibly your very close friends. But I don't believe that all your friends need to know. It isn't that big of a deal and if they are your true friends they will accept you no matter who you like... so if you tell them and they run, they aren't worth your time. I hope this helps... and good luck... It may not be that big of a deal, but it's big enough...

Q: I was just wondering why people ask questions about their boyfriends and other innapropriate things that no one needs to be talking about. Doesn't anyone agree with me?

I disagree, this is a place where you don't have to state your name and you can ask the questions that might be too embarassing to ask out loud. They ask the inapropriate things becaise they need help.

Q: Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now and i thought everything was going pretty good, but latley he has been acting really weird, almost like he doesnt want to be around me, and its really starting to bug me. I mean i love this kid with all my heart and i honestly dont want to lose him does anyone have advice?? i mean i dont know if he likes someone else,or if he is just losing interest. What should i do??? Thanks =]

Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. He might not even realize he is doing that. If you tell him how you feel he can either tell you what's going on, deny it and be full of crap to the point where you can probably tell and call him on it, or apologize and possibly get better. You never know until you try. I hope it works and that you two work out.

Q: ok i like this guy but i dont know how to tell him..i mean i talk to him should i tell him that i like him?

That would be the easy way, yes. Just tell him that you have feelings for him and just keep it simple. Telling the truth is usually the best choice... Hope you have good luck with him.

Q: so theres this kid he calls me cute/ hot &stuff and invited me to go away w/ him in the summer and he sends me "

It sounds like an obvious 'Yes', keep it up, he sounds like a nice guy. Hope you two are happy...

Q: Okay, I'm kinda in the phase of my life where I'd like a boyfriend (:

I'm not totally desperate, and I'm 'taking life as it comes' however that doesn't really land you one.

Where are places I should go to at least FLIRT with guys.

Places guys would go if they don't have girlfriends would help heaps, the most nerve wracking thing about flirting in my opinion is the fact they might have girlfriends. I know it's a common thing, but since I've never really done it before it would really discourage me. Haha.

Well, flirting should be natural enough for you that you can do it without feeling too uncomfortable... The single guys usually tend to do the stupid thing and go hang with their buddies at their house or something... So, the best way is at school or work. I'm not sure how old you are... but I'm pretty sure you couldn't be too old or you wouldn't be just starting... Just find a guy you think is cute and flirt a little... if he ends up having a girlfriend, then that's not your fault... Just pick the guy, flirt but not hard core flirt, and if you see signals of a girlfriend, back off unless you have proof he doesn't have a girl. That's all the ideas I have for if he has a girlfriend or not. I hope this helped a little. Have fun flirting it up with the guys!

Q: Well me and my boyfreind have been going out for 1 year Im only 14 and I haved had qute a few boyfreinds. Well are 1 year aniversy is on the 1st of next month and latly he had been pushing me to have sex and I just dont think im ready. Yes I love him but once you do somthing like that things just change. Im pretty sure on are aniversy night hes really going to try. So what should I do give in or not?
thanks in advanced
peace

Never give in to something like that. If you are not ready, don't do it. The most common thing is to think that you are in love and you just give in, but then something happens between you two, and you gave him something you can never get back. Just wait. Tell him you aren't ready. Compromise with him, do something less and a little more comfortable. Work up to it in the future, if you chose to do it with him when you are ready. But never let him set the standards. You are your own person, and you know what you want. If he really loves you, he will be willing to wait. Hope that helped. Don't worry, you'll be ready someday, never push yourself to be ready for something like that.

Q: I like this boy named chase and friend said he does like me but how can i be sure he really does like me and i like this boy named trever to who been flirting with my freind right infront of me wut do i do please help.

Ask Chase, that's the only sure fire way to know if he likes you. And with Trevor, just don't pay attention to his flirting. Go for Chase for now, if he doesn't work out, then try to see if Trevor has anything for you. That's about the short of it. If you need more answers, go ahead and ask. Hope that helped.

Q: Okay so I was with this guy name well lets call him charles and well we were together for three years from 6th grade till 8th grade and he was my first love...well he caused me alot of drama when ever we would break up and I have even been in a huge fight because of him but evertime we fight we still end up talking again now he is the first guy I ever did anything sexual with so me and him always have that little dirty thing between us well its been like a year since we talked and he saw my mom in the store and decided to call me well now we have been talking for like 2 weeks and Im happy but my mom dosent know about it cause she really dosent want us talking...well he has a girlfriend and I told him I had a bf when i really dont well I just want you opinon cause I kind of want to have sex with him but IDK what I should do

My opinion is that you knew him. He knew you. You did lie when you said that you had a BF but that isn't what I'm getting at. He has a GF and he shouldn't (want to) cheat on her. I can't tell you much on the sex thing, since I can't tell you if you should or shouldn't. It's never a positive thing to give something that special to someone unless you love them and they love you and you plan on standing for any consequences. You don't know each other anymore. It's been a year since you talked, and even though you've been talking for 2 weeks, it doesn't mean you know each other well enough for anything like that. Has he said he wanted to have sex with you? Because that is a sure sign he is not responsible enough... he is saying he wants to cheat on his GF which means he would cheat on you... Get where I'm going? Anyway... You have to decide in the long run, but remember to respect yourself. At least get to know him better and be a lot closer to him before you give him that much. I hope this was what you were looking for. Good luck.

Q: Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year & a month . But i just like dont trust him , well i mean i trust him i just dont like him around girls ''/ idk why , he has never done anything to make me not trust him. He trusts me , and doesnt care if i go anywhere with my girls and there's guys around but i dnt like him going anywhere where girls are . I want us to have a great relationship but i just cant help it . I just always think about girls trying to flirt with him or this and that . He's told me before that im the Only one for him , he's in love with me and he doesnt want anyone else but i just dont know whats wrong with me . I have came a very long way with jelousy from the start. But like when his friends want to do stuff they usually have girls with them & sometimes i cant go so i dont want my boyfriend to & deep down i kno thats not fair from keeping him from having fun just because i cant , even though he'll let me . We have talked about over and over , dont tell me to talk to him about it because we have . TELL ME WHAT [ I ] can do , because he's done all he could . thanks

All I can say is to just let him go even though you don't want to. Just let him. Even if every fiber of your body doesn't want to, just do it. Once you do it more, you will get used to it. It's hard to be jealous for no reason, and you can't just change your jealousy... it's probably going to be there for a while. Try hanging out with him and other girls. Note when or how they flirt with him, then get over it. Tell yourself you don't care. Eventually you won't. If he does something in the future, then you can fret about it, and you will be able to see it better. I don't know if this helped, but I hope it did. Good luck...

Q: Okay, so.
There's this guy I really like, lets call him Billy, and so I went somewhere with my friends, and I knew Billy was there. So I meet up with him, and I was like can I have a hug? And his like I owe you one. So I gave him a hug. But when my friend asked for one, he didn't want to he finally did. And we talked for a bit and than he left to go back with his friends, because he was with them before. And so the next day, I texted Billy saying I really like him. And that was like 5 days ago. Finally, he writes back yesterday saying 'hi'. like nothing happen. BUT, the promblem is. I'm not over my ex. But I'm tring to get over him untill the other day he talked to me. And me and him where like in love, or really really really liked one another. What do I do? Like does Billy like me? And is there anything I can do, to like make things back to normal, because its weird when I talk to him now. What should I do with my ex? I mean I really do like him, maybe even love him. And I'm stressing out about this. Please help me :]

The first thing with your ex is that he is your ex. You have to think about why you two drifted apart, or whatever happened. You need to think of who you want to be with right now, more. You may love him still, but do you think he loves you back? Is it worth leaving your new guy crush behind? Now, with Billy... I think he might like you, but I'm not him... You need to ask him yourself if you really want to know. Him not answering and pretending it didn't happen can go either way. It sounds like he was flirting with you, but some people are natural flirts and flirt with everyone... You shouldn't go for Billy or your ex until you have truly decided what you want. When you decide, make sure you know how they feel, next. If they don't like you, what's the point? You can't make either of them like you. Just remember there are many many guys out there, if these two don't work out... it's not the end of the world... Hope I helped...

Q: Well me and my boyfreind arent talking at them moment well lets start with the basics. Im 14 this is like my 30th boyfreind I swear it just never works out me and him have been dating for 1 year. He wants to go all the way and im not ready for the responslablty of a babie if I get pregant and im jsut not ready so what should I do he said he wanted to dump me but I love him he is the only guy I ever told I loved i mean plenty of guys had said I love you but i didnt say it back.

If he can't take that you aren't ready, he's not worth staying with. Just because you love him, doesn't prove he loves you back. Tell him how you feel just incase he doesn't understand, then let him decide if he's going to be a man and face your wishes, or if he's going to cower and have to move on. I know you might not want to move on from him, but he really doesn't deserve you if he can't understand your reasons... you shouldn't have to bend to his will with something like that... if you aren't ready, you aren't ready... it's not something you just change. I hope that this helped.. stand up for yourself... you're worth it.

Q: Okay, my situation is kind of complicated so I'm going to try to explain to the best of my ability.

Some background info: I have a best friend, he is a guy. I can genuinely say I love him, he is always there for me and we hangout all the time.

Alright, so it all started a while ago, I learned he liked me, but at the time I didn't feel the same about him. Time passed and my feelings for my best friend kept getting stronger, but i just couldn't bring myself to tell him about it because I didn't want to ruin the friendship, you know? Well, I just kinda hid the feelings, even though I knew they were there. So just recently, he got into a relationship with another girl, which I'm okay with because all I want is for him to be happy. And the weird thing was that I got into a relationship the same day he did. I like the guy I'm with now, but I also have feelings for my best friend. Is that wrong? Part of me feels that I'm kinda not being fair to my boyfriend. I still want to be able to hangout with my best friend though. I just don't really know what to do.

If any of you watch or have watched Boy Meets World, I kinda feel like my situation is like Shawn and Angela. Two friends who are destined to be together, but go separate ways, date different people, and seem to never cross paths.

17/f.

It's not the point that you aren't being fair to your boyfriend... He does have the right to know, but it's more about you and your friend. You aren't being fair to anyone. You need to tell your friend and let him know that he doesn't have to worry about your feelings, but also point out that you have a boyfriend. You aren't being fair to yourself because you aren't telling anyone, and you are stressing yourself out. If you feel it is big enough that you have to make a choice between them (your boyfriend and your best friend), you should tell both of them. If you do have to pick between the two of them, you need to think about who you think is more right for you, and who is more in your interest. If your boyfriend can't handle that you like another guy, he needs to get over himself, and you need to get over him, too. You can't help that you like other guys, and you are trying to control them. Just think about what you need and want for a minute. I hope this advice helps a little, and good luck.

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Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!