Hi everybody!I'm a 14,5 year-old girl who enjoys life to the max.I'm happy-I have good family,great friends,an awesome bf,I'm beautiful and smart...What more could a girl ask for?
Anyway,feel free to ask me for advice,I'm glad to give any help needed.
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yeah i know wat your saying but im not that person alright i'm not like that. (link)
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What exactly are you talking about?Did I insult you somehow?
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Its like this I really like this girl but I'm not in her class or have never talked to her so here's the pitch I get someone to tell her that I like her not to ask her out I'll do that myself but just to see if she likes me back which I think she does You know the slight glance every single day at lunch time and so on and don't worry I'm not just imagining it in my head.I'm not a fool.I was going to ask her out myself but figured why risk getting rejected and embarrassed like that for no reason when I could get someone to see if and that's a Big If she liked me in return so then i would ask her out myself.Finally here's the question what I said above an ok way to go with it and secondly I'm 17 and she's 14 just wondering if that's alright.Bear in mind I'm from Ireland which has a completely different culture from America. (link)
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I think what you've done is ok,but...are you sure you want to date a 14 year-old girl,and you're 17?I don't think that's a good idea.If it turns out she likes you and your relationship takes off,sooner or later you'll get horny and she won't like it,since I assume she ain't gonna give up her virginity at that age.Not just that,but what about her and your parents?Would they approve your relationship?I think not.
You should find a girl your own age.Trust me,a difference in age is way too big for your relationship to work out.I hope this helped you realise a few things.
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Ohkay. So. I really need help here. I honestly dont know what to do.
Me and my boyfriend dated for a while before, (11 months) and we barely talked when we weren't together. But then he started talking to me again, and told me he still reaalllyyy liked me. Now we are dating again, and have been for over a month now.
The thing is, that i just figured out like last week that when we were dating before, (at the end, while we didnt talk as much and fought a lot)he told one of my really good friends that he liked her, and when he did he was trying to be all cute about it with her too. I just found this out a little bit ago and we settled all of that. but now im really concerned about something, he has a really good "best friend" that he always hangs out with, and stuff, and he told me that he liked her before, (while we werent dating or even talking) but the only reason he didnt date her was because they were 'too good of friends at the time'. He's ditched me one or twice for her, and she always get him to call her and stuff. Even today it seemed like i was partictly invisible, we were with other people, but him and i would be standing right beside eachother, and he doesnt even say anything. It seemed like he thinks that he HAS to hang out with me, not wants to.
Too add to all that, this 'best friend' has wanted to cheat on her ex before, while they were dating, and my borfriend is on and off. Somtimes he treats me sooo well, then other days he treats me not as well. He says he trys to do his best to make our relsationship work, but it doesnt always seem like it.
what do i do? :\
please help.! (link)
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First of all,put him in his place.
I know you might like him,but don't let him treat you like that.Stand up to him and show him your true feelings.The fact that he's sometimes treating you well,and sometimes not,says it all.
He treats you well to make you forget about all the bad things he's done.And if he's flirting with another girl(doesn't matter if it's a best friend or not)he's not true to you.He feels guilty for doing that,and therefore hangs out with you.I'm not really sure what he feels for you,but it's definitely not love.Are you going to stick around and wait to get hurt?Personally,I'd run as far away from him as possible.I think he just likes the idea of having a girlfriend.Find someone who'll treat you with respect,he doesn't even deserve to inhale the same air you do.
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I recently had my first really intimate moment, words cannot describe the way i felt at that moment. If anyone will describe their best intimate moment shared with somebody, i would love to hear it.
Thank you (link)
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My best intimate moment was on the night after my b-day when my ex bf and I were making love for the very first time.It felt amazing...
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well, heres the situation. it is long because i am kind of an emotional wreck right now haha sorry. well, it all started 2 weeks ago when my ex decided he wanted to take a break. everything seemed to be going fine. i mean sure we had the occasional fight every now and then. but thats normal. then out of nowhere he just said he couldnt handle a relationship rite now. or he wasnt mature enough for the committment. i told him i was upset but i went along with the whole break thing. we got in a few fights while on the break because i said i would always love him. he said, "thats what i need a break from. the compliments, the i love yous, the i care u dont? i just need a break from all of that". so i tried to give him his space on this break but i was heart broken. he said he thought it was what we needed and it would be better if we didnt talk. so we didnt talk at all. then he asked me to come over. i said ok. we talked a little about the problems and we solved some things. then we started kissing...... he stopped and looked at me and said,"i dont want to send you mixed signals but i still want to be on this break" it had been a week so i was like ok thats fine. i was just so happy at this point because i hadnt hugged him in a week. so we talked some more and wen i went to hug him he shook his head. i hugged him anyway n he stood there but didnt put his arms out. i muttered something kind of rude and smiled as i walked out of the door. he smirked. this is kind of how we are in fights. well we started to talk a little bit and then yesterday, he told me that he doesnt want to date anyone right now. so this break turned into a break up. we talked about why the relationship wouldnt work and some things he said were
the mutual feeling of no compromise
his jealousy and temper
that we are too much the same
and the biggest one is that he says he doesnt think i speak my mind. he thinks that i change for what i think he wants and that i wont say something because im afraid of how he will react. he says he just wants me to be myself.
well i undersand all this. i feel like we could work out the compromising thing. i think that his jealousy and anger can be fixed and it really doesnt even effect the relationship. i didnt see how us being the same really has anything to do with it. other that the fact we are both stubborn obnoxious sarcastic assholes sometimes. the last one i do understand. i think that is the main reason, i get what he is saying because i think that sometimes i do say things because i think thats what he wants to hear. he says he just wants me to be completely honest with him about everything and i completely understand this now. i feel like i can totally start speaking my mind to him and i told him this. but he said it was too late. he didnt think it could be fixed. this really upset me because i know that i can just be myself around him and i realize now that i need to tell him exactly how i feel and not worry about what he will think. i know the relationship could be fixed because i love him more than anything and im willing to do absolutely anything to get back together with him. but he doesnt think the relationship will work. actually, he is convinced that it wont work. how can i make him understand this and want to be in a relationship with me again? i dont know what do do.
p.s he used to be a player.
we started out as best friends.
i am 18, he is 17.
we are both in love. well i am. he doesnt seem to be acting much liike he cares right now.
we text alot.
live right next to eachother.
arent the best at expressing our feelings somtimes.
he has ALOT of insecurities.
doesnt believe that i love him,
never has believed it. he has lied before in the relationship and never 4gave himself.
feels bad about himself.
have been dating for 6 months.
means the world to me.
please help me get him back.
thank you so much.
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Well,I think you just need to give him some time.I really don't know why he did that,from what you said,you are understanding and a good girlfriend.You said he used to be a player-what if he's playing with YOU?This is just a possibility.It happened to me with my ex boyfriend.He was my everything...He said he needed a break from all the romance,I agreed on that,because I loved him so much,eventually it turned into a break up and I was left heartbroken,and he played with me for almost a year.It turned out he was with me just so he could say he has a girlfriend.Unfortunately,I'm not over him yet,hehe...Your ex bf might not be like that,but be aware of it.Just leave him be.The best way to find out if a guy cares about you is to start ignoring them almost completely.Since you live right next to each other,if he sees you,he'll definitely notice something's wrong.Don't text him or talk to him for a few weeks.I know it'll be hard,but be strong.If he asks you to come back to him,then it's ok,but if he wants to go on a break again some time in the future,ditch him.You don't need a boyfriend who will only see you as someone he can always come back to.And if he doesn't ask you to come back to him,then you need to move on because you weren't meant to be.If it turns out that way,don't rush into another relationship.Give yourself some time to recover,meet more people,hang out with your best friends,and don't be alone.it will only be harder until you get over it.It kinda hurts to hear there are more heartbroken girls out there...But never mind that,no guy is worth our tears!You are young and most likely quite pretty,you'll find someone who will really love you.I notified you about the possible situations,the rest is up to you.I honestly hope I helped you.
p.s. Hold on girl!
Best wishes,
cuteblondegirl94
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me and my bf just went on a break. he said he just needed some time away from the whole relationship love thing. i didnt really understand but i said ok. not like i could really make him change his mind. at 1st he said he still wanted to talk. just not hang out. so i was like ok then. then wen i told him how upset i was about the break he sed he couldnt deal with all the compliments and i love yous and i care u dont? so i guess maybe i was being too clingy? i dont know becuase he said all that stuff to me too and he seemed fine with it all until one day out of the blue he said he needed a break. but now we are not even talking at all because we were texting and he said well ill talk to you later. so i said ok? and he said yep bye. so i dont know but he seems mad and doesnt want to talk to me now. i am really upset becuase i love him alot and dont know where all this came from. could there be another girl? or is he afraid of commitment? should i talk to him or give him space? should i make him jealous? what should I do? i have so many unanswered questions and i just want to do the right thing because i really want him back because i love him so much and he told me he loved me too (link)
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The exact same case as mine was.Be careful,this could mean you'll lose him for good.He might love you,even though it sounds like he's not really into the relationship as you are.Give him some space for now.I say:don't do anything reckless like try to make him jealous or make a scene.Don't show him you're upset,play it cool.And don't talk to him too often-once a week should do.Or don't talk to him at all for now.
This guy definitely has commitment issues,just as my ex did.By the way,keep an eye on him-he might be trying to create the distance between you slowly so you don't suspect anything,because there is a possibility he likes another girl.Don't take this too seriously-this is just a thing you should be aware of.Stay away from him for a while-if he loves you,he'll ask you to be with him again.
p.s. If this kind of thing happens again after a certain amount of time,then he's playing with you.In that case,ditch him.
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last week i went on a school trip, skiing, and there i met this guy; nothing happened. but now, i can't stop thinking about him!!! and theres no way of contacting him or anything. but i can't get him out of my mind!!! do have anything you think i could try to get him out of my head? (link)
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You'll forget about him soon.You could do something fun-like dancing,going to the gym,listening to music,reading,etc.Use that to keep your mind off of him,that helped me when I was in a similar situation.Hope it helps you too.
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I'm 22/M, average looking, and only had 1 real relationship in my life
I live in Centerville now but graduate college in 4 months, and move to Akron
Names and Towns have been changed.
Cora lives in Town B where I move to. She's kind of a player, but she likes me (has kissed me when I visited last time, I know she likes me) and talks to me online quite a bit. Kind of a drama queen and pretty wild. But I'm really attracted to her and her personality.
Kris lives in current town A. She's the exact opposite, really shy, kind of a different lifestyle than me, but just super sweet and nice (very similar to my personality). Much easier for me to talk to in person than Cora.
Basically I like to party a little too, but I fall right in the middle of Wild Cora and Boring Kris. I don't want to move and have something fall apart with Cora and never have tried anything with Kris. I also don't want to fall for Kris and then move, plus I'm pretty sure I'll hurt Cora's feelings if I get into a relationship.
I also don't want to sit here idly. I'm 22 and have had one hap-hazzard relationship while my friends are already getting married. So I want to try something. It's just weird because I have feelings for both girls. What should I do/Who should I go for? (link)
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I think you should go for the person who you feel more comfortable with.Hop I helped you somehow. :)
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16 f, Long Distance Relationship.
I dated this guy for a few months and everything seemed fine. Every few weeks he'd come into town and we'd spend time together, we'd text and IM everyday, talk to eachother on the phone etc.. until one day he decided to break it off. He never really gave me a reason but I was heartbroken. I really cared for this guy. We decided we'd try and be friends and if it was meant to be we'd end up together again.
A few weeks later he tells me he misses me and wants me back. I told him I missed him to but if he wanted to be with me he had to really make an effort now. (Traditional dates, hanging out) and he agreed to it. Then a few days after that he broke it off AGAIN. I was fed up so I didn't talk to him for a week or so.
Now hes back, and I told him if he really wants me he has to TRY and until we can be functional again, i can't be his girlfriend. For the first few days he's sweet and caring and then afterwards you can TELL he loses interest again.
I'm so over all this back and forth. I DESERVE better than that. I deserve a guy who can make up his mind and be stable with me. Im sick of being toyed around with.
How can I really and truely stop going back to him. I feel like he just doesnt care as much as he thinks he does, and everytime he loses interest i just keep getting hurt. I love him with all my heart, but I need to move on.
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The same thing happened to me.I just stopped texting him and talking to him,and I was avoiding him for a while.Then I lost it and went back to him,but this time I ditched him,even though I still had feelings for him.He stopped asking to see me and that was it.Soon after I fell in love with another guy.So,the thing is keep him away from you and look for someone who'll treat you better,with respect.You may think you're in love with him,but as time passes you'll forget about him.Just as I forgot about my ex.There are plenty guys out there who won't be a total jerk to you like this guy is.Be strong and show him he can't play with you.If I were you,I'd ditch him for good.That's my opinion.Hope it helped. :)
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Let me give you some background information: (If it helps any?)
I'm 21 yr old african american female, he's a 31 yr old caucasion male...
Here's what's up....
1) I've liked him since August of 2008.
2) We're pretty close (especially now)... we've been on 3 "dates"...
3) We haven't kissed, we simply hug...
4) Anytime we depart, he tells me to be careful and to have a good night...
5) He's such a gentleman... he holds the door for me, offers to carry my stuff, offers me his jacket, pays on dates and stuff...
6) He's always staring at me....and smiling too.
7) I find him always trying to get close to me... and when he does he touches me gently in non-provocative ways...
8) He's quiet (and when he is, he says cause I'm listening to you)
9) He took the time out to show me where he grew up and the schools he went too...
10) He's opened up to me about his past relationships...
Well I can't think of anything else right now... any ideas....
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I think he does like you.If you're not quite sure,wait for a little while to see if there will be any more signs.But judging by this,he likes you a lot.
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So there's this guy I like, and I haven't really told him yet, but I cannot seem to tell if he's figured out how I feel and is just avoiding confrontation, or if he is just shy (and possibly interested back?), or if he's just completely oblivious. So far, I think he can tell that I like him and is just avoiding the situation...
He rarely looks at me or even talks to me unless I talk to him, and when I do talk to him, it's usually a short conversation. (I'm pretty darn shy around him and can't really keep a conversation going unless he keeps talking) Sometimes when I go to sit somewhere near him, he'll get up an move...there's tons of other things, but they all basically indicate that he is uncomfortable around me...I just don't know what KIND of uncomfortable...
I just hope I'm not pushing anything...anyways, thank you for reading! (link)
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That kind of behavior usually indicates that someone likes you.I think he's afraid you'll see him blush or something that could tell you he likes you.That's my opinion.The truth is,you have to talk to him and ask him why is he avoiding sitting near you and talking to you.That's the best solution.I hope I helped you,and good luck!
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years, however after our 3rd year we kinda aparted because he was talking to another girl but inspite of it i gave us a chance and have been trying to work with him, our relation have been inconsistent since then we don't talk for months and then we talk again and end up fighting because he suspects me of dating other guys when we don't talk. He refuses to hear or consider anything I have to say against his allegation on me, he is on denial.I have very strong feelings with this person and I don't know how else to fight for us or on is it even worth it based on history of its existence? .Any advice/input would be appreciated!
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Ok,so he talks to another girl and you get jealous.He lets it go.Then he suspects you talk to other guys and he goes insane.I kinda don't get it.Does he think you belong to him or something?Anyway,talk to him and sort it all out.He should understand that you have your own space and that if you talk to other guys doesn't mean that you're going to cheat on him.I mean,there should be some trust after you've spent 6 years together in a relationship.Try to reason with him,and see where it leads you.I hope this will help.
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my ex and i were dating for four months and he hinted at wanting to break up so i did it for him then a month went by and he had hooked up with another person and i started dating a new guy.. but the called me and we talked and he told me that he loved me.. which on his part is HUGE.
so we waited awhile and i broke up with the guy i had been dating.
when my ex and i started dating he told me how much he loved me and never wanted to loose me and that i made him so happy.
blah blah blah.
so then he starts acting weird and i know him well enough to know when he's going to break up with me so we talked and he texted me telling me how much he loved me and that he wasnt ready for a relationship... we dated for two weeks..
its been a month almost and nothing is getting easier.
we go to the same school so i see him every single day. and my friends and family told me to act like i didnt know him to make it easier.. while he is telling me to talk to him and he doesnt exactly understand why i dont talk to him..
i cant decide what to do..
anything would help
please and thank you. (link)
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Let me give you some advice from the personal experience:
At this time,boys are very uncertain of their feelings and don't always show them the right way.Or better yet,pretend they have them.He might love you,but the more likely is that he's playing with you.He sees you'll come back to him if he asks you to,and you do.Then,when he decides he doesn't need a girlfriend,he dumps you.After a while he needs you and you get back together.Seriously,how long do you plan on keeping that up?Don't let him play with you,explain that you're not his toy,and look for a better boyfriend,who will show his true feelings.That's what I did,and it worked for me.I hope it helps you.
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i've caught my boyfriend in a lie the other day. it wasn't something huge like hes cheating on me or anything but its still a lie =/ and he won't tell me things like why he got in trouble and stuff like that...i trust him with my life and it hurts to know that he doesn't trust me...what should i do?
were both 16
and have been together for 6 months if that matters. (link)
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Well,well.So you caught him in a lie?Then you should be more careful.Boys are just like that.They start lying about minor things,then the next thing is they cheat on you.Keep a close eye on him,but don't stalk him.Just make sure you always know the truth.However,if he continues lying to you,dump him.No one needs a liar as a boyfriend.
If you really like him,well...then stay with him.
Maybe he's just afraid how would you react if he told you certain things...you mentioned that you talked and he said he trusts you and you'd be the first person he'd come to.So just give him some time,boys are...well,boys.
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15 female.
okay so i have this guy friend and me and him have been very close for the longest time now, about 4 years. just a little backround, i've always trusted him with EVERYTHING, and he knows all my deepest secrets, and me and him also fool around, as in do sexual things, but we have never actually had sex. he had always told me how bad he wants to do it, and how amazing it would be and etc. but 3 days ago we were texting and we had decided to chill the next day, and everything was fine and normal. then after a while i told him i was thinking and i made a decision, he asked me what it was and i told him i had decided that i was 100 percent ready to have sex with him and i told him why, which is because me and him are really good friends, i trust him and cause i love him as a friend... and then after that he didnt write back AT ALL. so i called him like 3 times and he didnt answer..so i let it go. then next day i call him when i wake up, he doenst answer.. the WHOLE DAY i would text and call and he would ignore me. so i called his friend and told him to call him to see if he answers, and he did! so i got upset!! and i kept texting him, asking what was wrong and he would not respond. then i said "i want you to give me.... and explanation!" and he texted back, what about dick? and i was like WTF!! and then he said we should play mamamete which is spanish for pretty much suck and stick it in, he was refering to head then sex, and i was like wtf man, why are yu being like that? and he didnt write back!!
so its been like 3 days and we still havent talked. and im sad cause hes like the best thing in my life, and i really do love him! and i dont know what i did, and i dont know what to do, and i dont know how to get him to talk to me...
grr :'/ please help!!!! (link)
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Of course a guy would freak out if you told him so openly you wanted to have sex with him.If you were making out and you told him in the middle,I think there would be something.But like this he just got shocked and now he's ignoring you.
You should give him some time to cool down.And don't mention anything about sex or hooking up...at all.Then see if he talks to you again.If not,give him up.You deserve better.Besides,are you even sure he likes you?If it is so,he'll come by in a few days and ask you to be friends again,or something more...lol.Hope I helped!
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How do I show the guy I like that I'm interested and how can I get him to be interested in me without flat out saying "I like you do you like me?" He and I are friends and we have classes together the last 3 periods of the day and talk a lot during them. I think he might like me but I'm not 100%. (link)
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I think it's best that you talk to him.But if you don't want to do that,then flirt with him.Make a lot of eye contact and stuff like that.Give him some subtle hints you like him without actually saying it.Then see how he reacts to that.I hope it'll work out for you two.Also,hope I helped and good luck!
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my frend .. lets call her w and she liked this boy lets call him b .. so when w liked b, b liked her back and i was trying to set them up so i got b's # from my step brother because b is one of my step brothers bestfriends. but then w stopped liking b and b still liked her but now hes trying to get over her. i sorta liked b but didnt tell anybody or acted on it because i didnt know how w would react but them she said you should like him so i did and idk if it was the best think to do but i told him i liked him. after that he wasnt awkward or anything.. we flirted and every thing we said stuff like him being a bad boy and how i like the bad boys then hes like your fucking awesome and then i went to a movie with w and he was still texting her and so he admitted he still likes her and she asked about me but he said he didnt liek me.. so i texted him later and he said she doesnt like me so theres nothing to do about it so theres no point in liking her .. and we texted about other stuff the rest of the night and tthen today we were texting and he plays hockey so hees like "come to the arena one time" idk how to react do you think he might like me or what do you think is goingg on? (link)
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He's playing with you.Ditch him before you get hurt.
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17/f
Wow, so I don't like kissing guys because I'm scared I'll do it wrong.
I've only kissed 3 guys in my life.
The first was a peck and nothin more.
The second was tongue kissing, and I still didn't know what the heck I was doing. But the guy I was kissing thought I did because he was like, "I've never had anyone suck on my tongue like that before!" I was thinking, "What the heck? I didn't even know what I was doing, I did that on accident..lol." And then, I didn't even like that boy that I was kissing, I was just doing it so I could get more experience....
The third time I kissed a boy I hadn't expected it (we were in the moment I guess), I was laying on the couch and he was over me and he kissed me on the lips (a little tongue) but because of this wierd situation that we were in I didn't want to kiss him because I knew it was wrong and I turned my head. So he just started to kiss my neck.
If I ever kiss anyone, I know for sure that the person I'm kissing has to be very forward, and even then I'm thinking way too much when I'm kissing because I'm scared of what they think. So now, I'm pretty much saying that "I don't like to kiss" or "I'm not much into kissing" whenever the topic comes up with a guy friend. I'm sure as heck not good at making moves unless I feel like I'm the one in control. GAh, what should I do? I'm scared to kiss guys. (link)
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Kissing is nothing to be afraid of!Just let yourself go and don't think about what that guy will say.If he says something,think about it later.The very important thing when it comes to kissing is that you feel comfortable and that you have feelings for that person and then,only then will you be able to fully relax and enjoy the kiss...Don't worry,you can do it!It's nothing hard trust me.Kissing feels good and it can be fun!
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18/f. there is this guy i really have feelings for. he's a good friend of mine but there's always ONE problem. i always seem like i have to ask him to hangout, well if its just going to be us two. he will hint at it like oh so what are you doing tonight and lets say i will be like oh well i dont know yet, what about you? and he'll be like i don't know either. and then it's kind of like okay well you should come over and watch a movie with me! but it's always like that, WHY! or he'll be like what are you doing and then i'll ask him and he'll be like nothin, sitting at home. he will never be like hey lets hangout! why do you think this is it? i don't like it at alll, because what if one time he's not hinting that he wants to hang out and i ask him and he willl be like oh no, i'm going to do this? and then i'll feel a little dumb. but then i always feel like i don't want to miss the opportunity to see him so i wouldn't want to be like oh okay, after he just said he didnt know what he was doing or if he wasnt doing anything then. understand where i'm coming from? is this a sign, good or bad of SOMETHING? ugh i just dont know. (link)
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Have you ever learned of the signs of love?I think he likes you and just doesn't know how to act around you,so he's all shy,confused,and quiet.Does it ring any bells?Anyway,you should talk to him and his closest friends in order to find out if he likes you,then make a move.
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Ok so this guy has been known my family sense i was 5, I just started liking him over a month ago. My cousin says he likes me, But i dont know if he means just as a friend or more. People keep telling me he is giving hints to go out with me, and i dont know how to pick up on them. So what i was wondering is how do i let him know that i like him? I am a very shy person and so is he so its very confusing. I also can't talk to my cousin about this that would be to hard, If you get what i mean. (link)
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There's no particular solution for this but to talk to them both.I've gone through that a hundred times and trust me,it always paid off.I know you're shy and afraid of being...oh I don't know...rejected or something,but you need to be brave.I know what you might think,that it's easy for me to say,but you have to try,or you'll never know how he really feels about you.
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