Hey all, Im Charli :) I'm usually the one all my freinds come to for advice so I thought why not start helping other people with their problems. I've been through and seen quite a lot in my 15 year life, most of the crap has happened to me lol :( My strongest advice is given on relationships and friendships, but you can ask em anything n ill be happy to try n help :) I like to know how peoples problems turn out so if i do help you then please let me no what the result was. Bye bye for now :) x x x
E-mail: l.x.charli.x.l@hotmail.co.uk
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Location: Lincolnshire
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Age: 15
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16-female ♥
well you see there was this guy that went out with this girl for about a year and 4 months i think? only thing he is 14 but looks older than me and acts really mature! well after him and his gf broke up he started talking to me and i didnt know him that well and he like started being all nice and saying wow when i first saw you i thought damn that girl is beautiful.and he is like i will never be able to forget that face of yours and all this stuff. but then i didnt want to start liking him because he was like still in love with his girlfriend. and everyone knew it. he would want me to like come over late at night -but i think to just do stuff and i wasnt about to go over with my car at like 130 and get caught just for him; not happening. he asked if i would ever have sex with him and i was like noo im not doing that with you..im not ready and he was totally cool with it! i blew it though i really wish we got to hangout because i wouldnt mind making out with him =) and just cuddling with him while watching a movie. but now we dont even talk i dont see him anymore! i wish he would just i/m me on AIM or message me on myspace or do something to know that he still has interest in me. but sometimes or the way i told you it looks like he is just trying to use me and get in my pants and he would only want to do stuff with me-but im a strong girl and wouldnt let anyone pressure me into stuff and i know he wouldnt pressure me. only thing is he treated his girlfriend like a f'in queen. loved her so much did anything for her and she treated him like shit but he STILL loved her after that..i just dont know what to do. do you think its the right thing to wait for him to talk to me or whatever and if he doesnt then just blow this whole thing off and obviously he still doesnt have interest in me or what?
well THANKS (link)
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I hate to say this hun and your not going to like it.... you refuse to have sex - your no longer speaking? See the connection. Yeh he may of said some really nice things to you but lads will say anything if they think its going to get them some. He is obviously on the rebound from his last relationship,since it sounds to me like he worshiped the ground he ex walked on. I don't think you should wait around for him to talk to you, get out there and find someone thats worth it, afterall you will never see whats out there if you cant let go out this boy. If he does start to speak to you again then fair enough try it again, but dont just sit around waiting for something that might never happen. Gud luk! :)
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16/f
So there is this boy and he came to see my friend that was in a play with me. He was later telling her that he needed a girl friend and asked if i was available. After we hung out a few times I got really interested in him. That was in may now its august and nothing has happend yet. I know he is a shy guy but how can i make him feel more comfortable around me?.
thanks in advance! (link)
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Why does the boy always have to do the work eh!? lol... Who said you can't ask him? If your still in contact and still hang out then I think instead of waiting for him, you should ask him. Ask him if hes stil wating for that girlfriend, like flirty little comments. You need to find out where you stand though, but if you dont ask him then you might regret it so be brave and just go for it!! Gud Luk :)
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I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me? (link)
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I can't answer your question of him being violent because its impossible to tell, but what he is doing is obviously making you feel bad and hes being really disrepectful!! He isnt considering your fellings, even worse, he is making you feel guilty over your fellings. I suggest having a talk with him and telling him how you feel, if things continue like this though you need to get out of the relationship and find someone who cares about you! best of luck hun :)
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I'm 15 years old and I am in love with my best friend's brother who is 18. I know that it's probably horrible to like someone with that much age difference, but it's so hard not to. He is my ideal guy and always makes me feel better than anyone else. We are really close and I can always talk to him about things and we make each other laugh all the time. I really want to tell him I like him, but I feel like I will be ruining the friendship. I would never want to do that because I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I'm not sure how he would react and if he likes me. He always says how funny I am and a couple months ago he said I was one of the most amazing girls in the world. He still treats me like I"m just a really good friend though. It's hard for me to realize how he feels about me...and I'm really not sure. I don't know if I should keep quiet...or say something. (link)
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Well this is a tough one. Also something I have personally been throughâ?¦
First of all you have to consider your best friend, because when I told my best friend I liked her brother she freaked out! However, your friend might be a little nicer lol. If she doesnt already know then it could be best to tell her about your feelings first because she will obviously know her brother better than most.
Second thing is the age gap. Personally, in matters of the heart, I think age doesnt play a part. Its only 3 years, and it sounds to me like you both get on really well. The only problem is, is that other people dont share our views and would see it as a very big problem, and especially parents. So before considering this relationship, take on board others feelings else you could create quite a situation for yourself.
You say that he still treats you like a friend? It sounds like a lot more going on there than a friendship. Some of the tell tale signs of him really like you are:
*Looking at you and then looking away when your meet eyes.
*Offering to do little, unimportant things for you.
*Putting kisses at the end of texts. *Not being able to make eye contact for too long in conversation (occasionally looking downwards or to the side.)
If he thinks your one of the most amazing girls he has ever met its a bit of a give-away that he likes you. But he has got to think of the age difference also so he may not be willing to say, and also for the sake of his sibling who is your best friend. But it does sound to me like you have a very strong friendship, so I think you should tell him how you feel else you will just regret it. You could also ask him little question like, Who would be your perfect girlfriend and subtle things like that because it could lead to a very pleasing answer. Good luck honey and please let me no how everything goes! L.x.charli.x.l@hotmail.co.uk, if you want anymore info or just want to chat then add me, I'm usually always online xoxoxox??
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Ok, so My boyfriend of 2 years dumped me 3 months ago because he said first it was because I was possesive and then he said he just wanted to be single. Well two weeks later he started dating a girl who was 15 and he is 17 and she lives 3 hours away. Well, they broke up a few days ago and NOW he is dating a girl from my school. It just hurt me so bad to find out that he found ANOTHER person and Im still by myself. I hate going to school because I don't want to see them together. I havent talked to him since we broke up and when he sees me at school he literally puts his head down and darts to the other side of the hall. I feel like I will never find anyone else. Things just get better for him and suck for me. (link)
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What an ass!!! Look huni, if you ask me he dnt no what hes missin! he is jumpin from girl to girl, p[ossibly just a rebound. Just look on the brighside of the fact that non of those girls compare to you as he hasnt stayed with them for long. You do NOT need a boy to feel good about urself! please dont forget that. I no at the moment you may thinkt hat your never going to find anyone like him or your going to feel this way forever but trust me your not, you wil find someone ten times better and hopefully the hurt will go away in time. As for school, If it was me i would be out there showing him what hes missin and show him that your not missin him one little bit and he wil soon realise he made a big mistake letting you go. And as for him.... well boys will be boys, hes the one thats lost out sweetie nbot you! hope your feelin beta soon :)
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i've been goin out with my gf for about 6 months but latly she barly ever talks to me unless i talk to her first ad she never comes to be with me and i always end up haveing to go look for her how can i tell her in a nice way to be a better gf (link)
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wow! this is very close to home sometimes i can be like it with my boyfriend n he is often like ti with me. Thing is you have been together for 6 months and you ur gf may be wonderin if your bored of her or dont want to be with her anymore (u no wt sum boys r like) she wont want to cum ova to you if your with friends cos she might feel like shes been clingy and nt givin u much space. Have a chat with her and tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels and if theres anything causin this problem. In the meantime try sendin her a cute text or sumthin tellin her how loved she is and make sure she knows shes appriciated cos girls suffer badly from paranoia best of luk! :D
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Hi there. This is the first time asking advice like this. First let me start by saying. I am a 31 years old man.
now for my problem.
I have been with the same woman for 12-13 years. we have had 2 children together, one of whom passed away last year and the other that was just born this year. Lately we've been going throughsome rough times. She has been playing with my emotions. A virtual rollercoaster ride. One day i try to cuddle get intimate, and she'll say "We shouldn't do this" the next she's kissing me pationately. The problem i have, is that i have feelings for her how ever dwindled that they are, while exhibiting feelings for another woman. One who has captivated me over the last few weeks.
My issue is i don't feel that the relationship i am in is going anywhere. but with my new born baby i am kind of in a bind. thus my title. I am torn between 2 loves. Or three if you add in my newborn.
please help me figure out what i should do.
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First of all let me say how sorry i am to hear of your loss as i can imagine as a parent is one of the hardest things to go through. At this time you and your present partner are both going to have very mixed emotions because of what has happened, which is normal. It takes time to deal with loss and people deal with it in different ways, your partner may feel that the loss was her fault in some ways and may have some guilt issues, she may feel like she cant get too close because she doesnt want to have to deal with the loss again. I think that you should sit down with her and talk about your issues, tell her how you feel. Maybe you could both do with some space. The other option would be to go to a relationships councilor, which often helps people in your situation. It is not neccesarily that you have strong feelings for this other woman, it could just be that she is there for you when your partner isnt. If you have a baby then surely he/she would be worth fighting for. Trya nd mend your relationship by talking and trying to undertsand eachother. If this still doesnt work then it would probably be in your best intrests to let go of the relationship. Just remember that what you and your have gone through would cause problems in even the strongest of relationships. I hope everything works out for you and I wish you the best.
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ok, well my boyfriends of a year & a half broke up w/ me about 2 and a half months ago and Im still upset. He dumped me for a 15 year old who lives 3 hours away and he is 17. Well, like 3 weeks ago i met a boy who i fell really hard for( it was a rebound) and i got really upset when he said he would call me & never did. Everytime I hear something about my ex I get really upset & wanna cry. School is going to start in about a month & im really scared to go back because I dont want to see him. I havent seen him since school got out. I just want him to realize that he made a mistake & talk to me so I can tell him how bad he hurt me. And I want him and his g*f to break up! Do you think that I will be a little better by the time school starts? What should I do because I really really dont want to see him ever again! (link)
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Getting over someone you love is never an easy thing to do and it does take time, and him breaking up with you for another girl just adds to blow. I can imagine that at the moment you are feeling like no1 will ever replace him and that you will never find happiness with any other boy, but you will! When you go back to school you need to really show him what hes missing. If you really think that you could make things work with him again though you need to stop waiting for him to talk to you and just talk to him, tell him how u feel else it will be something that u regret not doin later on. You may feel better by the time you go back to school, or even going back to school and seeing him might help you feel better. Who knows? But i really think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel and that way you will get reassurace that it will happen again or it isnt going to happen again, if it isnt going to happen again atleast youre not left wondering if it can happen and you can move on to other people without thinkin what if theres another chance for him and me. I hope this all works out for the best and just remember that after some time hell be just an ex boyfriend and you will one again be happy :) let me no how things go...
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Ok, I really like his guy and I think I'm going to dump my boyfriend for him.
I'm positive he likes me too by the way..
And we made this deal where we're saving our first kiss for each other, and I really want to kiss him. Should I make out, too?
Should I make the firts move, because he's shy.
Any help is loved =] (link)
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Just one thing i would like to say befire i go onto the kissing part... make sure you are definate in your decision of dumpin ur current boyfriend because if youre not to sure yet then dont because you could end up regretting it. But if you really want to be with this other lad then go 4 it! :) If he is shy then defo make the first move, guys love a girl tht makes the first move and takes control, they find it very sexy! First go for the kiss and if its good then go for the makin out after... it wil be a kiss your bound to remember :) let me no hw things go :)
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ok, i am 14f. i am dating this guy, that is kind of shy, but i really like him. We've been friends for a couple of years, and dated last year, but last year he was kind of selfish so we were friends this year, and he asked me out, i said yes. We've been dating for 2 and a half weeks, and last week he got dared to kiss me. He hasn't yet. I'm worried. I'm kind of nervous cause this is my first kiss, and i really do like him. help,
M.J. (link)
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Not a nice feeling lol :) The first kiss is also the scary one, however, it can be really special. If he is shy then you might have to make the first move but it will be worth it. Just remeber your not the only one who is scared because no doubt he will be nervous too. The best thing is just to go for it, that way its out of the way and it will improve your relationship. If your not ready though, then wait. If you are ready then just go for it and let it happen. You could also tell him that your nervous because that will aslo calm any nerves because he will probably admit he feels the same which will amke it more comfortable for both of you. Good luck and do let me no how things go :)
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its been about a month or so since my boyfriend broke up with me. and that was like the 4th time we've been together and now he has a girlfriend. i just found that out the other day and when i heard he had a girlfriend, it made me cry.everyone keeps telling that i need to get over him and move on but i've been trying to do that for like 3 weeks now and we didnt really talk alot but the other day i went to my friends house and me and him started to talk again. and that was a big mistake cuz i was almost over him and now im starting to like him again. (link)
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I wish there was an easy answer but there really isnt :( But i know exactly how you feel and it isnt easy at all. If you loved him then it will take longer than 3 weeks to get over him. If you think there is a chance it could work agin then you should try talking to him again, ask him how he feels about things, more to the point, how he feels about you. There must be something there as you keep going out so maybe his new girlfriend is just someone for him to be with since he hasnt got you. The thing that is making it harder for you to get over him is yopu wondering wether you could be together agin like before and if you find out that there isnt then it will help you move on, and if there is a chance you could then fight for what you want. Afterall 'All is fair in love and war' Let me know how things turn out, and i really hope that things get better for you. For the time being keep your chin up and show him what he is missing :) best of luck to you!!
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Okay so I'm a girl and i'm 14. I like this guy he's 14 as well. He's been flirting with me alot, he thinks i'm gorgeous, hot, he says noone can resist me and such. A friend of mine asked him if he was gonna ask me out cuz he was going to a while ago but he had a girlfriend. He said that I'm a cool girl and he wants to but he's afraid cuz of how his relationships have beeng going. So, I want to ask him out. The problem is that one of my best friends likes him too. It feels like if I ask him it'll be betraying her. But if he asks me it'd be different since i didn't pursue it even though I knew she liked him. Plus, she's laid back and i'm sure she wouldn't really mind if this guy and i go out.
My question is: Should I ask him out? Or wait for him? (link)
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There are two very important facts you need to consider here:
1. Your friends feelings
2. His relationship problems
Lets start with number 1, i thinkt hat before you go out with this boy at all ( no matter hu asks hu out) you need to talk to your friend, make sure she is ok with it and if there is any doubt in your mind that she isnt then dont do it! Friends are not worth givin up for lads especially at this age cos they wil be the people you need wen the relationship ends.
now to number 2, he says that he hasnt much luck with relationships but if he likes you as much as he sed he does he should be willing to give things ago and should not be telling you already that he doesnt think its going to work.
You need to give this a bit of thought my adivce is to wait for him to come to you, but make sure before you say yes that your friend is definatly ok with it. Let me know how things go :)
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. The first few months we started dating, he asked me the usual "virginity" questions and things like that.. I told him everything, BUT I added and took away things to make me sound ok. I still wasn't comfortable telling him everything.
After the drama of me being a "liar", I prayed, and realized that if I want this relationship to be the way it needs to, then I need to let him know EVERYTHING about me. Nothing should be hidden. So, at 4am (what a great time) I let him know.
8 months later, he has moved to my city for me, we'll be going to school together.. basically starting a new chapter. Everything is PERFECT.
I live in a VERY small town where everyone knows everyone and everyone likes to have something to say bad about someone. A guy that comes into my boyfriends store often came in to tell my boyfriend a handful of LIES about me. The things he said didn't derive from any truth.. they were literally made up off of the top of his head. My boyfriend knew this guy lies about a lot of things, but then someone I had never met before that was friends with the liar backed him up.
The liar is someone I went to highschool with, but never knew. I knew of him. The other guy I have yet to have ever met him, nor have seen in my entire life. Plus.. both guys kept saying to my boyfriend "don't tell her we said this.." That's pretty obvious to me that those were all lies.
I want to confront the liars without making a scene.
I feel like I'm 15 again.
Why can't people grow up, and why can't my boyfriend believe me??? I have been truthful to him since the one and only incident before.
I'm way past this nonsense drama. I'm ready for a future and I can't have this future here with people like that. I'm tired of people that I don't even KNOW stepping into my relationship and causing problems.
...I'm clueless.. Hopefully this will blow over. (link)
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Sometimes it can be very difficult to escape the past, but what you need to do is forget your past else this relationship will never work. It sounds to me like you and your boyfriend have a good relationship going and why compromise that over something this? I think that if you were to confront the liars it would only make things worse and they would just start more lies. If your boyfriend believes what they are saying isnt true then why does it bother you? Obviously its hard knowing that they are spreading hurtful rumours about you but the best thing you can do is to show them that it isnt bothering you and certainly isnt affecting your relationship. Let me know how things work out :)
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lately ive just been so FED UP with my appearance i hate looking in the mirror because its not what i want to see =( everyone else is so much prettier than me or thats what i think. my hair bugs me it never stays right i wish i was tanner i wish i was everything else..
i know im not DEPRESSED or i dont think so but maybe just jealous of every other girl. and i really like this kid but he has a girlfriend and it kills me everytime i hear her name because i know that i cant have him
also my parents have been telling me that i need to go do other things rather than come home go on the computer go to my cousins (my best friends house) and then when i get home get back on the computer! they are telling me i need to get out of the house and go with my other friends but the only problem is i dont have many OTHER close friends i can hangout with..
my life just seems to be going completely wrong.
ahh! what do i do? i cant live like this anymore.. (link)
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I can completely relate to what you are going through as each teenage girl goes through the same thing. At some point or other (even more than once) a girl seems to think that she isnt as good looking as another girl or isnt as popular. Truth be said your probably a much nicer person, and honestly you are beautiful and don't forget that! Every one is beautiful in there own way and you are no exception. Next time you look in the mirror tell youself your beautiful no matter how much you dont believe it or one nice use your spare time to do your hair and make up and then you will see your real beauty. Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting to be out with your friends all the time, your obviously more of an independant person, your parents might just be saying this because they think you are unhappy about being in alot. Why not arrange to go out for the night with some of your close friends or have a girly night in with just one friend. Its not about quantity its about quality :) Let me no how everything goes and I really hope you are feeling better soon! P.S You are beautiful! dont forget that! :)
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I will try and explain this without rambling on. There is this guy, "Q" is what we will call him. Well I have liked "Q" for awhile. We messed around and stuff (not bad, making out, not much worse than that), but I thought he liked me and that was why he was doing stuff with me, but then I came to realize he was just using me. I don't get why he doesn't like me. He gives me mixed signals like he likes me, then he doesn't. He knows I like him (or I think he still does), so he takes advantage of that. I'm just confused..and he likes so many other girls (which I'm not part of that list). And I really really don't want to like him, but I can't help it. I might even love him, not even joking. But everytime I even think about him, he makes me cry because I know he doesn't like me. But he likes so many of my friends its unreal. When I'm around him, it's like I'm not even there.
I just need some help on this situation.
Any advice at all will be great.
Maybe some ways to get over him.
Or maybe ways for him to notice me.
I see him a lot.
Thanks for anyone who helps : ]. (link)
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You need to show this guy what he is missing! Next time your around him act like he isnt there, have fun, flirt with his m8z and don't even give him a second look. He doesnt sound worth it and i know its hard getting over him but how will you get into a great relationship with somone good for you if your clinging on to this loser! Make him realise what hes lost and regret it!
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i get jealous of all the girls my boyfriend talks to... how do i keep myself from feeling bad. (link)
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Its normal to feel that way. But your the one that has got him, you should try talking to him and telling him that it makes you feel bad when he does it. If this makes him stop then you know he loves you however if he stil does it you need to think wether or not hes worth it. If its only talking though its most likely harmless, start worrying when its something more. let me know how things work out l.x.charli.x.l@hotmail.co.uk.
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Ok, this could be a little long, so I'm going to apologize for that right away.
Anyways, I was going out with this guy, let's call him C, for almost 2 months. Then I started thinking that I only liked him as a friend && I didn't want to keep going out with him && hurt him later, so I broke up with him.
About 2 weeks after I broke up with C, I found out my friend, M, was going out with him because he asked her out. When I found out, I seriously broke down && cried because him going out with another girl made me realize I still really did like him.
It's summer, so I'm doing OK since I don't have to see him, but when school starts I'm afraid I'll cry when I see him.
I still really love him && whenever I talk to M, she's my friend you know, she always talks about him and it literally breaks my heart. My friend, E, asked C once if he'd ever go back out with me but he never answered. My friend M, the one he's going out with, bounces from guy to guy all the time, but I'm just afraid she won't this time && I'll live with a broken heart.
I really need advice just on what to do. (link)
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Well first things first! tell your friend how you feel. However if she already knows then you shouldnt be calling her your friend. It sounds to me like this boy went out with her to get back at you since he didnt answer when he was asked if he would go back out with you. As for you though, you just might not like the thought of him moving on so quickly or him liking anyone else but you. Its a syndrome known as 'I don't wan't him - But noone else is having him.' If you like this guy then tell him, love is worth fighting for, plus if you don't him you will regret it cos you wil never no wt cud have been. Let me no how things turn out l.x.charli.x.l@hotmail.co.uk
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14/f. ok i dont normaly get tounge tied or anything around guys, even if i like them. but there is one guy i like sooooo much. im different around him, its like when he smiles at me, my face instantly goes red and i forget how to speak. my problem is that i cant ask him out, or even flirt with him for that matter, i get to shy. and trust me, im NOT a naturaly shy person. I dont know what to do. i just cant figure this guy out.
oh did i mention, he is like drop dead gorgous, hes like the hottest guy in my school, in my opinion. [not all the girls like him, some even say he has a big nose, i dont think so] (link)
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Yep every girls been here lol. The easiest way to talk to him without going all red and tongue tied is through the miracle of 'SMS.' Or if you have it, msn. If you cant do either of these then why not get one of your friends to invite him and some friends out, go bowling or to the movies, places like this make it easier for social interation. Let me know how you get one l.x.charli.x.l@hotmail.co.uk good luck! :)
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HOw do you know if your a good kisser? (link)
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Unfortunatly you cant kiss yourself so you don't really ever know. Kissing is like paining a picture, you can do it first time and it can be a masterpeice or you can do it thirty times over and it still looks like your baby brother nicked your pencil case and had a field day. Its not about wether or not your good its about enjoying every minute with the person your kissing.
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I went out with this one guy for like, a year and a half, and never even kissed him. I just always thought of him as a.."oh were dating, but i dont want to "date him", kinda thing. So anyway, just a couple days ago, he called me up, and asked me to go out with him. (just to let you know, i dated him like, 4 years ago) Anyway, so i guess he still liked me, but i still dont think of him like that. I kinda said yes to the date, only cause i felt bad for him, but then i had to cancel.
How can i avoid things like this in the future? I really dont like him at all like that, and would rather remain friends. (link)
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Girls are not very good at rejecting are they now! You need to tell this boy that you are not intrested so he can move on and find someone that is. I can understand completely why you did it but if he is still calling yopu after 4 years he must like you quite a bit so put him straight before its too late. Also, have a think as to wether or not the kissing part come into play here. Were you afraid to kiss him? If so this could make scared to go out with him at the thought of having to kiss him.
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