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I went out with this one guy for like, a year and a half, and never even kissed him. I just always thought of him as a.."oh were dating, but i dont want to "date him", kinda thing. So anyway, just a couple days ago, he called me up, and asked me to go out with him. (just to let you know, i dated him like, 4 years ago) Anyway, so i guess he still liked me, but i still dont think of him like that. I kinda said yes to the date, only cause i felt bad for him, but then i had to cancel.
How can i avoid things like this in the future? I really dont like him at all like that, and would rather remain friends.
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Ok, sounds like you didnt really like this guy very much. And if he asked you out, he probably thought he had some thought in his mind that you still liked him too. Have you been flirting with him? Maybe he thought you were trying to give him signals? If you didnt like him, you shouldn't have said yes. That probably just gave him un-nessary hopes. To avoid this situation later on, be 100% positive that you are sending out friend vibes only. Sound good? Hope I helped :]
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if you want to just be friends, then tell him that. also, if you want him to feel better, tell him maybe in the future.
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look! in this situation u gotta be straight and honest, so that later he wouldn't say that have been using him. and next time he calls u face him with the trueth..I know that sometimes or mabe mostly the trueth hurts but its gonna get much complicated if you keep it like that so just face him with the trueth tell him "I' sorry, but now i think of you n me as just friends..nothing more n nothing less." trust me you dont want things gong worse for you.
Nimo
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So you just want to be friends. There's nothing wrong with that, and if he cares about you he will respect your feelings. I am a firm believer in being honest about how you feel, especially when it comes to relationships.
So if he calls you for a date again, you don't have to say no if you don't want, but don't say yes unless you make it clear to him that it's date to meet as friends. Friends go on dates, but not the gushy, kissy, hand-holding type of date. Friends go on dinner dates and movie dates, etc just to go out and spend good quality time with each other and do the things that friends do.
If he doesn't want to do it that way, then he really isn't worth being friends with in the first place.
Hope the best works for you and you have a long, healthy friendship!
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Girls are not very good at rejecting are they now! You need to tell this boy that you are not intrested so he can move on and find someone that is. I can understand completely why you did it but if he is still calling yopu after 4 years he must like you quite a bit so put him straight before its too late. Also, have a think as to wether or not the kissing part come into play here. Were you afraid to kiss him? If so this could make scared to go out with him at the thought of having to kiss him.
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Next time, dont say yes. If you say yes, he'll think you still like him.Next time say, I dont like you like that, but i just want to be friends w/ you, so im really uncomfortable with going out on a date w/ you
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So you just want to be friends; and you don't want to hurt him. The most hurtful thing you can do is lead him on. It just hurts more if you've been led on then told that they don't like you that way.
Be honest with him; if you don't like him "like that," just tell him that you're not seeking a relationship right now. Tell him that you'd rather be friends with him for the time being.
That will be the least hurtful thing for him.
[thewretchedmelody]
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What you really shouldn't do is say yes I know it is the nice thing to do but it is leading him on if you know what I mean well just tell him that you just want to be friends and you dont want to go out right now (even if right now means never) try to sound truly sorry even if you aren't I hope it helps
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