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My name is Lauren. My life dream is to become a pirate, as well as a witch straight outta Hogwarts! I believe I was born in the wrong place and the wrong time. I often beleive I belong in England. I wish I was british. :] I'm 15 years old, and I'm called weird. I'm a spunky and smashing teenager ready to answer your questions.

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When i first met my boyfriend. I thought he was funny and just that kid back in middle school that i knew nothing about. I was SO shy back then. About 6 months passed by and I see him as someone I love to be around. Someone who i really care for. Months later, for some reason.. my feelings are changing. Whenever I look at him, he looks.. different. I don't know how to explain this but it's.. weird. I don't know what's wrong with me. He makes me so happy and he would do anything for me.. I would do anything for him. But whenever I look at him, I don't see him as someone I grew closer with.. it's something else.. Like someone I can live with.. who would take care of me when I'm sick and try to make me happy as much as possible. Does anyone know what's going on with myself? Lately, I have been so happy around him. So happy.. like in those romance movies and it happened so suddenly.. it seems weird!

It could be that for the first time, you've fallen in love. To be in love, it's definitely important that your boyfriend is not only your boyfriend, but your best friend. Hope I helped.

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My BGF and i have liked each on and off in the last year. Nothing happened until this summer because before then we both had relationships to each others really good friends. He was dating my really good friend Heather like 3 times over the year and then my BFF. And i dated 1 of his BFFs. They aren't BFFs anymore but they r still good friends. Anyway this summer he invited me to this formal 50th anniversary for his grandparents and we left and walked around the church and then he started hitting on me. The couple of weeks before we had told each other we liked each other but when he was trying to hold me and hug me i realized i didn't like him enough to date. I really wanted to start school single. And there is this Christian place where we works and if you work there you can't date until your 16. Well he's 15 and won't turn until May. We have class together and realized i like him again and i think he still likes me but he can't date! I just really want him to take me to Homecoming! I pretty sure he got my hints but he didn't ask his parents if he can go yet. I just really want to know how to flirt with him and show him I'm interested without being super obvious because that would be too weird for best friends. I think he might be picking up a little but if anyone has advice that would be so helpful!
And everyone who knows us says we are a perfect couple and look so cute togther. Even his MOM said it! He is 1 of the only people who really understands me. I can go to him with anything and i know he will be there for me. I know he really cares about me and i think we should start a relationship but i have to wait until MAY! It's so awful! Don't say "tell him to quit" or whatever because it is really important to him andi want him to stay committed. He's a Christian like me and we go to church together and hang out and stuff too. And at that formal anniversary thing he asked me out but since i wasn't feeling it and i could tell he wasn't thinking just acting on emotion i said i will think about it and a week later we talked and agreed not too. Because of his job thing. My friends and his bro and BFF really want us to date and kinda pressure us but we're used to it i guess.
Thanks so much in advance! Plus i know this is really long and sorry but i rate! :D

Well, boys don't pick up hints very quickly. I think what you're going to have to do, is talk to him whether it be by phone, IM, or face to face, whichever is most comfortable. Just tell him, 'Listen, I know you're not allowed to date until you're 16, but I really would like you to take me to Homecoming as your date, but as friends.' That way you don't seem to eager. If he says yes and you go, flirt with him like mad, and pull him aside even, and just tell him, 'I like you still, a lot, and I think when we agreed not to date, I made a mistake in agreeing.' It's hard to do this, but if you care about him enough, you can do that. And then just tell him you'll wait until May. and until then, atleast you'll both know you want to date each other, and be able to flirt a ton still.

Hope I helped!

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I have been friends with this kid for a long time, and about 1 month ago his g.f broke up with him. And he was sad for weeks and i felt so bad he liked her so much. Im 13 and hes a year younger So he Came to me for help and after that we started like talkig 24/7 and like hanging out alot. But Last night He kept on dropping SUCH obvious hints that he liked me. He kept on asking me questions about my pas relationships and about if i still liked any of the boys and who the things on my profile were for, I told him It wasn't for Anyone and He was like "dang I thought it was for me" so i guess Its kinda obvious he does like me but then after that hes like "what if one of us likes eachother but then the other person gets mad and we never be friends again" but I didn't answer cause i had to go.
But I mean its pretty Obvious he likes me but like i DONT wanna like him like that AT ALL i like things the way they are now and i really dont want to go out with him or anyone at the moment. But If he ever tells me he does like me and asks me out I dont wanna Hurt him Like his ex did cause he was So sad.
Now whenever he signs on i dont want to talk to him because I feel so awkward now.
Idk What to do.
Sorry it was long.
Helpp

Haha awww.
Don't worry about it.
I think the guy who likes you may be choosing you for a rebound. haha. He and his girl just broke up, so what do guys do? They get a rebound. So he's going to like you for some time, while he's getting over the girl. Once he's over her, he'll probably move on from you as well. Try to drop hints that you don't want to be with him, like not hanging out with him as much, and when he calls, just say you have to go. Don't talk to him as much, and he'll hopefully catch the drift. If he doesn't, then confront him and just be like 'Listen, you're a great guy, but you can do better than me, and I don't think you and me would work out...' That way he won't feel like a loser when you turn him down. And make sure he knows you will still be his friend and comfort him.

Hope I helped!

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So i just started high school and i met this boy. It's so weird. We're really, really, alike. Well the first day we talked and stuff, and then the second, we talked alot, but the third day, i gave him my phone number, and asked him if he wanted to sit at my lunch table. He sits there now and we really flirt and stuff. It's not 'innocent' flirting either. It's like..wwoahh, i don't even know how to explain it. The first night i gave him my number, he didn't call me. But he called me the second night, and we talked for about 20 minutes. The next day, my best friend gave him a note without me knowing, that said "sam likes you. wanna go out with her?' and so that night i called him and asked him what it said and he was like.. i don't remember i think it just said..he whats up..or something like that. so then i called him at ten and we talked for an hour, and he didn't say anything about the note. is he trying to avoid it, or is he just nervous?

He's both avoiding it and nervous. He's probably not sure that it was from you, so if he just tells you over the phone that he would like to go out with you, he has the fear that you wouldn't know whats going on and say no.

Especially because you asked about the note and what it said, he knows that you didn't know about it or what it said, so he doesn't want to feel like a loser by saying 'oh, well it was you asking me out.'

So, one night, just bring it up, and be like 'well, I know what it said but it was sent without me knowing... and I want to know what your thoughts on that note were...' and just be flirty. He'll hopefully catch on and tell you his answer and what he thinsk of you.

Hope I helped!

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I was going out with this one guy that I really liked for a little over a month. But then he started wanting to know where I was, who I was with, and all that stuff. He called me a million times a day and when I didn't answer his call he'd keep calling until i'd pick up. or he'd leave messages cussing at me asking why the f*** I wasn't answering my cell. Plus, he wanted all my time and if I was busy, he would just ask to come with me and do it too or come with me and my friends. So, I broke up with him.
Now, he calls me still and leaves a million more messages, wants to be "friends" and now he's bugging me even more now then he did when we were going out. He says, "I love you, babe" and all that crap.
should I take it or call the cops or what??
please help me!

That's considered abusing/harassing.
Go to the cops,
try for a restraining order.

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my bf has a really romantic song on his myspace about me....and i really want one for him!
what is a good song in the country/rap/hip hop genres that are really romantic and that he might like?

uhhh I don't know about rap or hip hop but country theres a couple of cute love songs like

The Broken Road - Rascall Flats
I love to love you out loud - Rascall Flats
Somebody like you - Keith Urban


I suggest the first one as the best and most romantic. :]]


Hope this helped!!!

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hey guys im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for a year now! and i have no idea on what to get him for christmas..any ideas? i want it to be something like special that reminds him of me or something like about us...not just like a video game and stuff you know?! thankss

A really good idea that is special is find a picture of you and him or get one taken, and have it put in a really special frame. That will make him think of you and appreciate the gift. =] Hope I helped.

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13/f. I've never had a boyfriend.

There is a guy I really like. But my flirting skills are horrible. I want to be able to confidently carry a conversation with him, or with any guy.
Like most girls, I tend to act very weird and tense, talk a lot and too fast. Occasionally try to make a witty joke- but failing.

I tell myself to just cool and calm down. I'm also extremely shy, and can never seem to start conversations.

What are some small things to do to help with my social and flirting skills?

Aw, it's alright.

One way I know works is to just act quirky.
When you're talking to him and things get awkward just be like 'So how 'bout them Red Sox?' or any other team to lighten the mood. I know it's going to seem hard at first, but you'll get used to it. Just act silly and seem carefree, that's what I do even though underneath I'm turning red with embarrassment.

If you make a mistake, like if you said 'UT SHUP!' messing up for shutup, just laugh along with him, and then go home and freak out. Haha.

Try practicing with boys you don't like that are your friends. Just pretend that you like them for a couple of minutes, and allow yourself to strike up small talk and see what happens.

I hope this helps!

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For the past 4 days I've been getting an "unknown caller" showing up on my call display. This has never happened before. Usually when someone calls their name or phone number will show up; like it might say "private caller" but then have the number. Well the weird thing is whenever this"unknown caller" shows up and I answer; whoever is on the other line never talks to me- I usually will say "hello- hello-- hello? and then I hang up. This was the third time this has happened to me in the last 3 days. Also; I check my missed calls and this "unknown caller" has also phoned when I've been out and has not left a message. My gut is telling me it's my loser ex. I think this is because he has also been getting friends of his to come into the store I work at and they just stare at me. Do you guys think I'm right? I don't know who else would be that creepy- maybe he's not ready to talk yet but wants to hear my voice; and he doesnt want me to know it's him so he's been phoning from a line that would say "unknown caller'.

Ok. Well this is very creepy. Now, it MAY be your ex, but it made me suspicious when you said that his friends come and stare at you, and that you get these 'unknown' calls. I'm afraid to say this, but either your ex and his friends are stalking you, or someone is. Those calls are very unhealthy and if it continues for a long time, you'll need to take action. Therefore, do NOT answer the calls. When his friends come in the store, confront them while someone is nearby [so they don't do anything stupid] and tell them that if they're not going to buy anything, they need to leave. And that is that.

I hope this helps.

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what are some ways to show a guy that your interested in him??

14/f

Well, I've been using my own tips to get the guy I like.

-- At dances, have your friend ask him to slow dance with you.

-- Smile at him and make funny comments or create an inside joke with eachother.

-- Have your friend walk up casually and say 'Sooo.. what do you think of ____?'

-- Make eye contact with him anytime you can, or just constantly look his way with a smile on your face.


Hope this helped. ;]

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Ok well, here is the deal... I started talking to this girl online, we talked every day, and night, we eventually became liking eachother, so after a few weeks of joking around, I decided to ask if it could be 'for real' as a relationship, She is 14, and I am 24. I know it's a bit of a age different, and no, I am not a pedophile, I never usually like people younger than me, just it's.. She acts more mature and it's really easy to talk to her, and listen to her. We have really great conversations, but we never met, but then one day, we decided to meet, and she brought a few friends with her... the whole time she avoided me, yeah I was shy also, but I would've talked to her if she wasn't avoiding me, cause I could tell she didn't want to be there with me, I mean, she did, but she didn't... and I know she's had past relationship problems, but I guess, maybe I was just another problem in a relationship, and I really fell in love with her, before we even met and she means the world to me, I just don't know what to think, she only lets me talk to her, if I ask her on this, but she speaks as if she don't know me, and I don't know what to think, any advice? P.S. She talks to me still, but don't tell me her true feelings, and acts like nothing happened, but she don't talk as much or act the same.

Wow. Well, I'm 14, and believe me, she is scared. 14 year olds only look for relationships to flaunt the boyfriend, and maybe kiss in public and go to the movies once and awhile. This girl is seriously just beginning to be a young lady, whereas you are a grown man. She's not ready for some commitment with you, she's just barely a teenager for goodness sakes!

My advice is to just talk to her online - don't meet up with her. Don't try and persuade her into dating you when she doesn't want to. Man, go to a bar or something and find someone your own age. Leave the girl alone. If I were in her situation, I would be scared and ashamed for thinking any romantic thoughts about a 10 year older man.

Just leave her alone. 10 years is a big age gap.

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Ok I have this friend who is a guy and i am a girl, I have know him for the past five years, and we are good friends but he has changes in the past few years..he got into drugs...bad. Well long story short he ask me out a few weeks ago and i said no. He got really mad/hurt and is telling how he is sleeping with other girl but pretends it is me. It really creeps me out. He been asking me out like once a week for the past 3 weeks. I feel like he is stalking me. Like everytime I turn around there he is! It scares me. I don't know what to do. Please help me. thank you!

Well obviously he may be under the influence of drugs when he's telling you these things. So lay down the law. Talk to him in person and tell him that it's either drugs and sex, or your friendship of five years. If he wants to keep the friendship with you - he will get some help. If not - he's not worth hanging around with anymore. And if he keeps bothering you, just have your parent or guardian call his parents and even though he may get mad at you for telling on him, he needs the help. Hope I helped!

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ok, so i am completely in love with this boy for the past 2.5 years. we are on a swim team together and that is the only time we see each other, so everyday. plus meets. these are some of the things he did. what is your opinion, does he like me? (hes really shy)

he stares into my eyes a lot

he layed his head on my lap, of all the girls that were there... but i was the closest cuz i sat next to him

in a game of sharks and minnows he went for me and grabbed me hard by the wrists and kept me underwater instead of forcing me up. then when i pushed off the bottom to get air he asked if i liked his tactics.

he blew on my face when we were lying next to each other at a swim meet

he sometimes "steals" my sunglasses, but not from my face, but he def. know there mine

we went to a dance once, but it was one of those "girls ask the guys". he said well go as friends, but we didnt know each other as well then, and it was a long time ago, but we danced with each other for practicly the whole dance, but he did go dance with this one girl that he went to homecoming with, and who he supposedly used to like... i dont know if he still does but he might

when we were lying next to each other, he moved hand was lying against my forhead on a pillow, then he said sorry i'm punching you in the face, and moved it down towards my nose so it was touching. than he probly felt me breathing on his hand, cuz he asked if his hand smelt good, and i smelled it, and almost kissed it (lol!) and he didnt move it away.


but otherwise we dont talk much, like we never had a conversation, but as i said he is really shy around me. but with other girls he is fine, but with the girl he supposedly might like he talks alot to her, but not as much as he used to. now there just friends. but she doesnt like him.



so ya based everything that i told you, does he like me? and how should i give him hints that i REALLY like him without scaring him?








There is most definitely a possibility that this guy is into you. Just sit him down and tell him flatout 'I like you. Do I have a chance with you?' Instead of embarrassing yourself by saying 'I know you like me' when maybe he might not. If you're too nervous then IM him, email him. There are so many ways to contact eachother. Hope this helped!

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me and my bf have been dating for 5 months and we usually talk about anything but lately whenever we talk on the phone we dont have much to say. its just alot of silence now and i really dont know what to talk about and neither does he. i really need help on what i should do!

Ahhh. The silence. What you need to do is try and get into a casual conversation. Start talking about funny memories and you'll be talking for hours on end, sharing eachothers memories. Or maybe try just telling him how you feel, maybe he'll strike up a conversation once and awhile. Hope this helped.

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i`m a 15yr old female,
i started to hang out with this boy about 2 months ago. he is in 2 grades higher than me he drives and i relly like him. tha first day we hung out i started to like him and since that day we havent gone more than 2 days without seeing eachother. But tha thing is he only wants to be friends with benifits.. and i want more. He is also involved with this other girl but they arent dateing she is an ex but they still have sex. I havent had sex with him yet he has asked but i said no. I met a few of his friends and became friends with some of them too. One night 3 of his friends asked me to hang out with them even though the guy i like wasnt there but i wsaid yes anyways. i ended up haveing sex with one of his friends. When the guy i like found out he was mad i`m not to sure why, he said he was mad because i said no to him when he cares about me and knows me well but i said yes to one of his friends that i jut met and didnt care about me. I'm not to sure why i had sex with his friend and won't have sex with him. He still asks me to have sex but i always say no. It might be a revenge thing because the night that i had sex with his friend was the same night i found out the guy i like was still haveing sex with his ex.. now the guy that i had sex with started to call me and ask me to hang out. i like him too but i don't think he knows it. i think he just thinks i like fooling around with him. so im wondering what i should do about this because i think tha first guy i like is just useing me and i don`t even know what to do about th second one.

Well, honestly, tell the first guy that you found out and how you felt about it. Tell him your not comfortable enough around him to have sex for an unknown reason. As for the second guy - if he's just looking to fool around then tell him you're not interested.

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Hello.
My boyfriend recently graduated so I'm going to strip for him when we go on vacation to the beach.
The thing is I don't know which song to stripdance to!
We both like alternative and rock but pop is okay.
I need a song that I can dance to in stilettos, seductive/sultry songs are preferred, but with enough of an update beat to dance to

Thanks!!!

Uhm you could try Ain't To Proud to Beg by the Tempations or I'm Bossy but I don't know who that one is by.

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So i am going to my bf's tomorrow and we want to do something out of the ordinary. What would be a fun activity for the two of us to do that we wouldn't normaly do? Thanks in advance

draw absolutely silly pictures, sit in the middle of the road and scream 'ROADKILL!!!!!!' when a car comes, play 'go fish', make something really gross and attempt to eat it, play hide and seek, play ridiculous pranks on his family or eachother. :] hope i helped!

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Do you think guys prefer girls who show alot of skin, a little skin or no skin at all when looking for a girl to start a serious relationship with?

Honestly, guys looking for a serious relationship often look for not a lot of skin. If he's into a serious relationship, he wants someone who's respectful and knows that if she wears next to nothing she won't be taken seriously.

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Well, the other day I find out that my gf kristin has been cheating on me. So, I broke up with her n' went into my depressin' thing trying to forget about what happend. Then, yesterday I hang out with Maia and her cuz. Maia has had the BIGGET crush on me for the longest time, and as things turned out. We actually made out a cupple times. N' I met her cuz for the frist time that day and I started to really like her too. Maia said that she liked me also, and that she'd be happy if I dated either one of them. So that made me happy because I kinda have my pick ya know? But I get back home n' kristin's friend tells me that she hates the guy she cheated on me with. And before I went to bed she said in this nice calm "everything is going to be alright" type voice that we should talk in person (i dont get to see her that offten because of her parents) if we wanna still be together so... What should I do Advicenators? (Sorry that it's a bit long)

well, i have to tell you, this is a toughie. first of all, don't take kristin back. just because she didn't like the guy she cheated on you with doesn't disregard the fact that she cheated. hello! if she didn't like him, then why did she cheat on you with him! it's quite obvious what you have to do - tell her that it's no excuse and that it doesn't change the fact that she cheated on you. as for the other two girls you like, go for one of them. there's no reason to mope because a girl cheated on you. you deserve better. hope i helped!

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