hey everyone!
my name is sam and i'm 16 and i live in wisconsin. I'm a sophmore. I'm pretty good at advice, as i've had many problems of my own and helped many friends get through theirs. I hope to help out anyone who needs it!!
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i went out wiht this kid for ova a year and he cheated on me 8 times. i have a huge issue with trusting poeple becuz i am constantly afraid of gettin hurt. . i am way over him now, but i like my bestfriend =( he went out with my bestfriend[a girl] and she still likes him too. But, a few weeks ago i met this guy, he is truely amazing. he is everythin i need from a guy, he is sweet, romantic, trusting and he cares about me. now i have a big problem with trust and so does he bc he has also been hurt in the past. should i give up on my best guy friend and let my best girl friend have him, [bc i dont wanna fight wiht her] or should i go for the new guy? Help please!! (link)
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I would go for the new guy b/c if he has the same trusting issues then hes probably not going to cheat on you.. if he cares about you and is sweet and romantic then go for it. Also, if your best girl friend likes ur best guy friend then i wouldn't get inbetween that because its probably gonna start a fight between you two. good luck!
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A couple weeks ago, I met this guy and I thought I started to like him but I had a serious boyfriend and I eventually I realized I didnt like him. Today, my boyfriend came over and was looking at my buddy list and asked whos sn it was and I said "Oh some kid from summer school." Well he copied it and sent it to himself so he can talk to him! I'm so nervous if the guy I met tells my boyfriend that I sorta liked him... Any ideas on what I can do to get my bf not to talk to him?! (link)
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say that the guy is lying, but otherwise if you know ur bfs password then go on and delete the screen name
but i would definatly deny it.. whos he gonna believe, his girlfriend, or a kid he doesn't even know?
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once a cheater, always a cheater?? TRUE OR FALSE? (link)
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false.. not every one, but most
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My boyfriend is a punk and i am like a cheerleader and im like a prep and stuff i dont know if i shold break up with him because later on in life i mean we might not work because he is a punk and he told me to choose him or cheerleading i am half hawaiian so like i have been doing hceerleading since i was 5 and surfing since i was 2
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If a guy can't except you for who you are and what you do, then hes not right for you.. no guy should make you give up something you love.. cuz if they really cared about you.. they would know how important it was to you. But don't break up with him cuz hes punk and ur a prep b/c thats just as bad as making you pick him or cheerleading.
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Can u help me ? .. ok i liked this kid named james and my friend said he was hot to but then there was this other kid named nick that liked me he was ok but my friend was persuading me to go out with the nick because she thought it would be good she was like " give him a chance james styll has a girlfriend u wont be able to go out with him " [ cuz he did ] but he told everyone he was gonna break up with her for me but i didn't know that so i went out with nick cuz everything my friend said i thought made sence but no it really didn't because then yesturday shes all up on him kissen and stuff when i`m ova here with my boyfriend that i`m not even sure if i like .. i know i shouldn't of went out with him so i told him in a nice way we should just be friends.. so now james tells me online he likes me and doesn't like my friend and he broke up with his girlfriend to go out with me and i told him i broke up with nick because i liked him to .. so now i think he is gonna ask me out because thats wat his friend said but what can i do b.c if i go out with him my friend will probably be madd but i really like him tho !! PLEASSE HELP !!! (link)
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You're right your friend probably will be mad. Talk to her about it and ask her if she would care.. i mean maybe she wouldn't cuz she knew how much u liked him but if she does care then i wouldn't go out with him. i mean guys come in go but ur friends are there for you.. what happens when something goes wrong with james n you wanna turn to your friend, but shes not there. (not saying it would, just example) Is it worth hurting your friend just to get the guy? And if you really really really wanna go out with him at least wait a while until ur friends feelings are gone for him, & talk to ur friend about it first b4 you do anything.
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There'a a guy in my grade that i am BEST friends with. I know everythign about him ( not exaggerating) and he knwos everythign about be. I am closer to himthan anyone else i ahve ever met. Theres jsut ome problem...
I really like this kid. He makes me feel really special. I told another one of my close friends baout it and she just told em that she had figured. She told emt aht me and this kid had flirted so amny times before. including when he had another girlfriend.
I really like him but i dont knwo if i shoudl tlel him or not because i dont want to ruin teh friendship that we already have. I love being his best friend btu i like him so much. please tlel me what you think....Oh also, he sends me mixed signals as to whether he likes me too or not... could you also tell me some of the signals i shoudl look for? thanks (link)
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I think you should tell him straight out, it sounds like you really like him.. just tell him "if you're not intrested or if you are, it's not going to change our friendship, ur still gonna be my best friend" Flirting is a good signal and it seems that he already does that. i think you should go for it.. this is a quote i like from a movie and i think it fits for this.. "if you want big rewards, you've gotta take big risks." .. good luck with everything hun!!
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okay so ive liked this boy for the longest time every since the beginin of the year ive liked him on and off again. so then when the summer came we were talkin and hanging out and stuff and he grew to like me back so we made plans that we were gonna hook up one day when we were both free. so i was all lookin forward to this day. well i just talked to him online and he told me that he didn't mean to hurt me when he says this but "i really like this other gurl and she is the only one for me right now but we can still b friends" well wtf! PLAYER!! god i cried! i mean i knoe im not supposed to cry over boys but i mean this one really hurt my feeling i didnt kno wut to tell him but i was just trying to be nice about the whole thing saying "i hope everything works out" and just letting it go! did i do the right thing? or was i supposed to tell him how much it hurt me? or was i supposed to play it cool and act like i didn't care? or wut do i do now? please help me asap!
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It sounds to me like the guy already knew that you liked him so he probably figured that it would hurt you already. i wouldn't nessesarly tell the guy that it hurt you soo much because if he still goes with the other girl you might be kinda embarassed. maybe you shouldn't have said i hope everything works out though, because he probably thinks he did nothing wrong & you're okay with the whole thing. And about the crying thing, im sure that almost every girl has cried about a guy at least once in their life, so there's nothing wrong with that. But if he relizes that it was the wrong choice after he starts going out with this girl, and wants you back, it's up to you if you're going to let him because if you do it once, chances are you'll do it again. I think maybe you should move on and find a guy that is more reliable and that you'll like just as much and that will like you back. I know its hard to move on, but sometimes you just have to.. who know's if you keep thinking about this guy you might miss out on the right guy for you. good luck hun!
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Recently, my girlfriend dumped me...for, I'm not even sure why. We were togehter for about 4 months, and I think towards the end of the relationship...she wasn't liking me all too well. I don't know what it is that I did. But, I just wanted her to be happy, so I made the breakup easy on her..at least. She broke up with me over the phone, and I just said, "Alright" and tried not to act real hurt, so she wouldn't feel as bad. But, truth be told...I am so hurt. It's been about a month. I just really, really, miss the girl. And I think that...-maybe- the reason she broke up with me, is because there's always been this one guy she liked, but he's younger. Like...3 years, or something.
Anyway, I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I don't want to confront her about it...she just, I don't think she wants to talk to me. She won't talk to me on any messangers, or the phone, whatever. I'm like..totally out of her life now. But I miss her. She's perfect. I just, want her back... (link)
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You sound soo sweet and i know that this girl must have mean't a lot to you, but im sure you will find a girl that will like you and will treat you so much better. i know its hard, but you just gota move on, you will find another girl, im sure cuz u sound so sweet and i think you sound like u'd make an awesome boyfriend.
good luck!! :)
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man...u guys ... how do i tell my bf im mad at him?? its somethng from the past but still he hasnt apologized or even brought it up and im really surprised...i dont wanna juss randomly be like OH WHEN U GOT A NEW GF AND JUSS DROPPED ME THAT REALLY HURT ME...i juss dont kno how to say it *we werent tekinially bf/gf but we wer dateing and then he stoped callin n got a new gurl and juss left me hanging!!* hes really is a sweet guy n told his best friend he made a huge mistake blah blah but when is a good time to bring it up and wat exactly do i say???? (link)
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If you want to bring it up maybe try doing it online like through a messanger or through an e-mail. That way you don't have to feel embarassed about doing it in person or soemthing. Also, u could try it on the phone, that way you'll get a straight answer out of him because it will be harder for him to lie to you on the phone than it is online (not that he would lie, im just saying, i dont know him at all) if you want just say " you know how b4 you got a new gf, well how come you didn't tell me, and just stopped calling, im not mad, but i just wanna know how come, i know we weren't techinally boyfriend n girlfiend, but still i wanna know when you find someone else, other than u just stop calling" Also, maybe he doesn't think he needs to apologize because he doesn't know how much he hurt you, so i think you should tell him that to, maybe say "i do care about you and it hurt when you did that." < at the end of whatever you say.
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I liked this kid for a couple months.. but we always would flirt during the school year.. now its the summer n he asked me out n i said yea... because i really started to like him... we went out but he broke up wit me... then he asked me back out and i said yes... then a week later i broke up wit him because he was never wit me n he never called... but then i started to relieze that i missed him alot... n he said he still liked me but he was still thinking about goin out... i was ok wit that... but then he started liken my best friend... i told him he plays around wit peoples heads to much... should i still like this kid? or should i move on? (link)
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if he doesn't like you then i think you should move on.. i mean you don't want a boyfriend thats gonna play with ur head and lead you on. it's gonna be a hard thing for you to do, but you i bet you, you'll find someone else, and that person will wanna be with you, and will call you. & if you keep waiting for this guys to relize what he's missing ur gonna miss the guy that will treat you like and who you'll like just as much! good luck hun!!
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Well uhh I love this person and well he says Im pretty and stuff and he SAYS he doesnt like me im 13 by the way........one time my friend goes "what do u think of katie" and he goes silent for like 15 seconds and goes "nothing..." i dont know what to do!!!!!!! and he moved, and my other friend says we werent meant to be......ok, i LOVE him....im serious....could you please help someone who cries every night????????
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If he moved and said he doesn't like you, then i think you've gota move on.. hun, i know it's hard but you can't keep thinking about it & crying yourself to sleep. If he starts to like you then he'll probably tell you, i mean he's had the opportunity many times.. and he said he doesn't, i know its hard to hear though. Also, if you keep thinking about him instead of moving on your going to miss out on the guy who will like you & who you will like too. I know it's gonna be a hard thing for you to do, but have ur friends help you through it, i mean thats what ur friends are there for, to be there when you need them most! good luck hun!
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ok well..i am 14..and i am 130lbs..:( but im scared that i wont be able to control my weight and i will never get a boyfriend and never have a love life or relationship..and im just so scared that no one will ever love me..what should i do?
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hun, someone will love you and im sure you will have a boyfriend, im 14 & i weigh 115 (but im really tall) i dont know if you are or not.. also, you might have alot of muscle. & if you really want to lose weight, please don't go on any dramatic diets where you don't eat anything, cuz then you'll start to get an eating disorder & then you'll definatly not b able to control your weight.. but, if you want to lose some weight then i suggest working out and eating right.. if you want some ideas Seventeen magazine has some good ideas for excersises & some foods to eat that are good for you! i hope i helped & if you have any more questions just ask!
remember though- when it comes down to it, you should want a guy that likes you for your personality & what you've got on the inside, if all he cares about is what's on the outside, then he's not for you! (& im not even saying you're fat, cuz ur not!!!) good luck hun :)
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okie heres the thing: see iva had this reallie close frend since i was in 6th grade. we got along tite and stuff thah people started to believe thah we were going out and stuff alredy even tho we were just friends. at the end of 6th grade i moved and dint get to talk to "person" and i dint want to. i wanted to forget about "person" coz eben tho i liked him i knew there was like NO POSSIBLE WAY rite?
well at the beginning of 8th grade wen i finally did get to push "person" to the FARTHEST places in my mind i got to talk to "person" agin through AIM (coz i havent gone on fer like a whole year and a half) and started to like "person" agin. then after a month "person" told me "person" liked me in the 6th grade and that "person" still liked me. i was totally happy rite?
then i intro-ed "person" to like three of my closest frends and one of them like totally changed "person". "person" was soo different and by february "person" didnt even want to talk to me anymore- "person" only wanted to talk to my frend. i knew my frend didnt want to take "person" away or anything even tho she didnt knoe anything baout how i used to crush on him and stuff like that.
wen i went back to see "person" in my hometown, i ran into a couple of my other frends who kept telling me that "person" was sooooo different than how "person" used to be before i left, and they kept bugging me about how "person"
DID like me and that wen i left "person" went through an entire trauma. wen "person" talked to me "person" sed that "person" just turned all wierd and began hating everything since 7th grade. i felt soooo bad!!
is all his changing my fault or was it just something that was coming around? i mean, "person" wasn't anything like how people described "person" wen i was there and they sed that that was the first time "persons" been like that for a long time. so is it a yes "person" likes me or a no? its been bugging and everytime i tried to talk to "person" about it i just get too shy and it ends up to be a talk about one of our common interests or something. (link)
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You couldn't help that you had to move..& it's impossible for it to be ur fault he changed. People change because they want to, if they don't want to change then they don't. Maybe he did go through a trama or something, but that's not ur fault either because you couldn't help that you had to move. If he liked you then that's fine, he could have still kept in touch with you through emails and letters and your visits back to ur hometown, he didnt have to become a different person because of it. And i don't think you should talk to him about it, only because, he might get offended by it. cuz ur saying his changed which he might think that he changed for the worst and he might go through another trama about that or something. (if you do it once, chances are you'll do it again) unless he brings up the topic, don't talk to him about it. *And always remember its NOT ur fault for him changing, he's the only one that can make himself change*
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I just found out that my best guy friend of 3 years has a crush on me. At first I was so confused about how I felt about him... I told him that I didn't know if I liked him back. But after I thought about it, I realized that I do like him. I would ask him out, but here's the problem: He went out with my sister *she's only a year younger than me* & he was pretty jerky to her. He'd hit on me right in front of her, and as if that isn't bad enough, he broke up with her by calling her from another friend's house (who was a GIRL btw.) Then a day after their breakup, he came over to my house & starting apologizing & crap, saying that his friend made him do it. He was so mean to my sis, so I'm afraid to get involved with him. But I think he might've changed. Should I give him a chance? (link)
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i think you should give him a chance, especially if you think he's changed. but if he starts acting like he did when he was with you sister then i think you should end it right there and stick to being friends because you don't need a guy that's acting like a jerk to you! i hope everything turns out alright & lemme know how it goes!
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well me and my bf have been going out for 3 months (ish) and we havn't got past kissing on the cheek. i really do want to kiss him properly and he wants to kiss me but we're so shy. what do we do? i'm a 13 year old girl. (link)
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I think you should suprise him and do it to him.. you shouldn't be shy about it especially if you know that he wants to do it too. I know its hard for you guys to do it for the first time, maybe make it special so it means more or something. Maybe, he's unsure that you want to do and so i think you should make the move!! good luck!! :) im sure it will turn out fine.
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My boyfriends birthday is coming up and ive got no clue what to get him. He plays lacrosse and basketball. We've been going out for a month and i need some ideas please help!!! It cant cost too much and i need ideas soon! (link)
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get a nice frame and put a pic of you and him n it and give it to him.. you could get him a cd.. a dvd or something like that, or even a gift certificate
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** instead of using the guys real name i'll use Joe-
well first of all .. Joe asked me for the name of my friend Lilly bcuz he got her #- and i wouldnt tell him and hes all dont tell her i 4got it and i put a smiley face and hes all Grl dont be an ass and do this- and hes all stay out of my life.. then a min or two l8r he said well at least outa my love life- then this stuff happend-
Me): i dont get why u have to get with a bunch of grl.. why dont u be happy with one?
Joe): I dont have one, **** and I are broken up
Me): ok but i mean im sure she still cares and possibly hurts her if ur with other grls
Joe):***** doesnt care just chill out what does it matter?
Me): im just sayin and tryin to point that out 2 u because you shouldnt be a player all ur life
Joe): wtf just because I played you doesnt mean I play everyone else ok
Joe): Im single
JOe): I can go for any girl that I want
Me): ok
Joe): Im still in love with ***** and Im not going to hook up with that chick
Me): im just tryin to point sumthin important out 2 u dont get all bitchy at me
Joe): well you're jumping into my love life
Me): k sry.
Joe): no one ever said I was going to hook up with that girl
Joe): I dont even know her name
Joe): just chill
Me): k
Joe): why do you care if I get her #?
Me): i dont care- but i just dont seeing u play grls- idk why but it just bothers me sumtymes- because it seems like you dont care or something
Joe: how the hell is getting a girls # playing her?!
Joe): Im single
Me): nvm u dont get it
Me): btw her names Lilly
- then i stopped talkin 2 him.. I really love him and im soo stupid for it.. but idk what to do? i need sum advice please help!!
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if you know he plays girls then don't waste your time and don't let him break your heart which probably will happen, most likely he won't change and i think you should find someone else who will treat you right, and WON'T play you.. if hes played you once, he probably will play you again.. don't put yourself out there just to get hurt again, i know this is hard, but you have to move on and find a guy that you will like and he won't play you! good luck!
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HI Im a 14 year old girl and i told a guy I liked him right before graduation. we aren't very good friends but a friend of mine told me "he didnt want to ruin the friendship" and im pretty sure that is just an easy term for the words "i don't like you" but then at the dance two days after my friend told me the news he wouldn't stop convienently running into me and kept walking up to me like he wanted to dance but then would just say something sweet and walk away then he asked me to dance and kissed my hand. Was he just being sweet? Do I have a chance with this guy in high school? Is there a chance that he is thinking about me? And if so in a good way? (link)
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if he didn't like you, he proably wouldn't have kissed your hand.. i mean does he do that to every girl? probably not, so i think that means he likes you.. if he does like you i think you have a chance with him in high school and he probably is thinking about you if he likes you & if he does like you, its most definatly in a good way.. i think its a good thing that he finally got the nerve to ask you to dance.. and maybe thats just the begining! :) good luck!
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k i hav a bf he is awesome wev been out places be4 my moms never met him nos about him tho and he wants me to go over his house i want to go if i ask my mom what if she wants to talk to his mom first or something? ugh i hate that. who nos hois parents might not even b there.. (link)
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ask your boyfriend if his parents will be there and if they won't maybe reschedule so that his parents will be there and your mom will let you go.. if she needs to talk to his mom then thats not the worst thing in the world.. its better then her going to the door with you just to make sure his parents are there! so just have ur mom call his mom & im sure everything will be fine! don't worry about it.. good luck!
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Hey. I'm a 13 year old girl who is obessed with being in a relationship. I can't be alone. I've been with my boy friend for 9 months and we've broken up numberous times and i just seem to get back with him. I thought the world was going to end when we broke up, almost like im obessed with being with someone, like i cant be alone. He doesnt always treat me good, but he does sometimes. I just dont know what to do anymore. Does anyone have any suggestions with what i can do. I've tried to get over it but i keep running back to him, like a lost puppy, and im afraid that this will lead to worse thing when im older and in a more serious relationship. Please help me.
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if he doesn't treat you right all the time and only some of the time, he's not right for you.. try to find a guy that is right for you and will treat you well, maybe someone else that is at your school.. don't act like you need him even if you do because then he probably thinks he can treat you however he wants and you will keep coming back.. i know its hard thing to do, but hang in there and maybe that right guy will come along for you.. just don't seem to desperate, be yourself and im sure you will get a relationship and a guy that will treat you well!! good luck
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