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Q: I'm a 20 year old girl and I've found myself in what seems to be a fairly unique situation... I've recently made a guy friend, who was limited to being a friend since day one because he made it very clear he was interested in one of my friends(very much my opposite).Our friendship got really strong really quickly.But I'm not sure where the boundaries are, I find myself attracted to him, and its not helping that we sometimes sleep in the same bed. If he didn't constantly remind me of how much he likes this friend of mine, I would have though he was flirting... We talk all day, most days, and I spend every free hour with him... There's a constant sexual tention, but that might just be from my side.Really hoping there's someone who understands this situation. Thanks :/
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I think he enjoys the attention, affection, and affirmation he gets from being around you. Based on what you've described, it's probably pretty obvious to him that you're into him, and that always feels great to all of us. He may return the feelings, but is distracted or conflicted because he's also interested in your friend.
Unfortunately, I think it's more likely that, either on purpose or unconsciously, he's using you a little bit because you make him feel good about himself. In other words, he likes how you feel about him because it's nice to be liked, but he doesn't return the feelings.
My first piece of advice is to talk to him. Ask him if he's interested. The worst that can happen is that you remain friends. If you don't feel ready to do that, I would recommend putting a little distance between you. Stop the sleepovers, cut back on hanging out, etc. It might help you both to have a little time apart to figure out how you really feel.
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Q: ok im really shy around my boyfriends, and i dont know why..but im sick of it.its like i wont do anything not even be close to him. i'll be like on the other side of the room and if i do get close to him i get real nervous and crap...does anyone know how could become un shy around him and not be as nervous? thanks!
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Just remember that if he didn't like you already, he wouldn't be your boyfriend. So, try to see the cool things about yourself that he sees.
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Q: my husband takes seroqueal at night to help sleep & 4 bipolar. he used to want sex alot but for last 1 1/2 yrs. only 1 or 2x a mo. i never used to want it but now i always want it. i need to know what i can take that will reduce my sex drive? we are both 38 yrs. i don't know if theres something otc i can take or if i need to ask the dr. 4 somethin spasific or even if there's a food that i can use. please help me. i don't know what else to do. it's definately not a lack of luv on his part he blames the meds. and all other aspects r fine thanx...
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A lot of people find that birth control pills lower their sex drive. Otherwise,, I recommend investing in a vibrator. A woman has needs, and if your husband isn't able to meet them for medical reasons, there should be no shame in taking care of things yourself.
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Q: how can you ask your boyfriend for money without him thinking you are a golddigger?
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You can't. Unless you're sick or something, just get your own job.
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Q: My boyfriend is 24 and I'm 22 and we've been dating for at least 2 years. We love eachother dearly and are serious about one another. The only issue he and I occasionally discuss is religion. We do have a lot of the same morals however he's Christian and I was born into a sect of Hinduism, which I do believe in. Although we do respect and appreciate eachothers beliefs, I kinda get the feeling he wants me to convert. I really don't want to label myself something I'm not comepletely. Is it possible to have a healthy 'interfatih' relationship that works in the long run?!
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I do think it is possible to have a healthy, long term, interfaith relationship, however, if religion is something really important to either of you or your respective families, I expect it will be difficult. At the very least, you should have a discussion about how you would want to practice your religions if you lived together or were married and how you would want to raise any kids you might have together, etc. Also, discuss what your families will be expecting from your spouse/partner. Looking at it in the REALLY long term that way should help each of you to honestly evaluate whether you can live with having a partner who does not share your religion.
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Q: over a period of time about 6 months i have become infatuatated with my colleugues wife. whenever i go to her house to see my collegue i keep staring at her. some times i feel she is also doing the same some times.i have definiteky seen her doing the same. I am 45yrs old happily married.she is about 40.I have a hunch that she wants me to make a move but i am not sure.i want to to take minimum of risk as the consequences are too much to bear.on other hand i feel a fling for a short time is not bad as we only live once.please help me
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Making any move at all in this situation would be a mistake. If you are unhappy in your marriage, leave. If you are just bored, talk to your wife and work on the problem together. Having a fling would be both selfish and self-defeating as it would hurt two innocent people and possibly have a negative impact on your career since you've described this woman's husband as a colleague.
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Q: What are some good ways to let me boyfriend down gently? I'm not into him as much as I used to be and we're just not working out. He never calls me and he never really talks to me. We've been one of those couples that looks so cute from the outside but there's nothing on the inside. I just need a way to break up with him without the old "we're better off as friends" excuse or something cheesy like that. He's a nice guy and he's really cool but he's not the dude for me. Thanks :)
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If you aren't talking much, then he's probably not that into you anymore either. Try talking to him and be honest. Tell him he's a nice guy, you just don't think he's the guy for you.
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Q: christmas is coming soon and I need some ideas on what to get my boyfriend for christmas. I'm thinking about getting him a hat and a matching shirt for christmas in his fav color green, but I don't not sure. I NEED HELP!!
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That sounds like a good idea. You also can't go wrong with CD's or video games.
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Q: Would you take offense if your gf/bf said that although they find you attractive, they would never want to see a "Picture" of you, or see you in your underwear? I'm sure you can guess of what nature.
My gf said this to me and I felt offended. I don't really know why. I guess it's no big deal, really. We were only kidding around and she said that. I'm pretty insecure about my looks, which doesn't help I suppose. So would you take offense, or am I making a big deal?
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Boys look funny when they're naked. It's not you, it's very general.
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Q: Hi, I would REALLY apprecaite some advice :) OK, my partner (male 32) is driving me (female 26) up the wall! We have a 6 month old baby. My parner works, I am at home alone with the baby all day. He has this really annoying habit where he get's home, sits on his lap top and then only goes to bed at about 5am! His alarm goes off at least 6 times before he gets up for work (obviously making him late!) and then he has to stay at work late to make up the time. By the the time he gets home from work, I am so wound up that we argue! I have tried to comprimise by designating "laptop evenings" but when we do this, it lasts for a few days and then we are back at square one. The worst of it is, that he he has difficulty with "demands". He sees everything as a demand and then feels that he must rebel! This makes him worse. Please can you give me some practical advice to get him to sleep earleir and to wake up on time for work. We are due to get married in Jan and I feel that this is a real reason for me to call it all off :( Thanks :)
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First of all, don't marry this guy until he straightens up. For one thing, he needs to learn to respect what you do is work as well. I would hide the laptop if it were me. Or, if you want to be less extreme, explain to him that in a long term relationship that it is reasonable for each person to have demands on the other person. Relationships are a compromise. You may also want to see a therapist together to help you work through these issues. Good luck.
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Q: I'm 17 and I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months! I adore him so much! I took his virginity which I promised myself I would never do! Sometimes I think about breaking up with him because of stupid reasons but than I think about all the good things about him! I love his company and the way he treats me but I just don't know how I really feel about him! lately all he wants to do is sexual things and I've talked to him about it and he said he would calm it down, but I have yet to find out if he will! I really don't know what I should do! I also have another twist in this! I am talking to another guy! Like he is fun to talk too but he is totally crazy and I would never think about breaking up with my boyfriend for him! I just like to talk to him. Ever since I started talking to this kid my boyfriend has been asking me all these questions about him and like if he should fix what he is doing in the relationship! It so overbearing and I don't know what I should do! Please help me! I'm so lost! p.s I don't want to break up with him!
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The other guy is the problem. It seems like you are looking for a way out of the relationship that you are in.
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Q: ok this is for guys mainly, unless girls have any idea
what would you want as an anniversary present?i have no clue what to get my b/f. any opinions?
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Q: Hey, I was just wondering what you guys thought about a freshman in highschool dating a senior because i've really started to like this guy and he likes me too. Is it too big of an age difference? Will people start spredding rumors about me "giving" him something for him to b going out with me?
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It will be illegal for you to have sex with him. Hanging out is probably ok though. Just don't make your parents angry, or he could be arrested.
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Q: We've been together with my bf for 1 yr and 1 month and recently we had a fight(a big fight) two days ago.And in the next day, he wont call me,text me or even visit me at my house...i miss him so much because everyday he wud visit me in my house...and that night i texted him that are we still together? and he doesnt text back...today i texted him that im home now, will u visit me and he didn't...i really really miss him...i cry a lot bcoz i totally miss him...what should i do?forget him?or should i stay in this realtionship?
i will rate 5...promiz
jean
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You can't stay in a relationship that you're not having at this point. Don't waste your time on this guy if he can't be bothered to respond to you, much less work things out. Cut your losses and be rid of him. There are other fish in the sea.
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Q: is having sex before marriage a sin
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Probably, but I did it anyway. Just make sure you're ready to deal with the consequences.
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Q: I love my boyfriend but lately he has been acting so possessive! He doesn't want me to hang out with my friends (though it fine for him to hang out with his). He doesn't even want me talk to them on the phone when I happen to be around him. He is starting to give me the creeps. Any advice?
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Q: I broke up with my boyfriend because he was slacking off on his school work and getting in trouble. But other than those things, I still really like him. I can't get over him! Today we hung out and had a lot of fun. I think want him back but I'm scared to ask. And what about the reason I broke up with him in the 1st place? Has anyone got any ideas on what I should do?
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I think that breaking up with him for those reasons was a really mature, responsible thing to do, and you should stick with that desicion. Even if you still like him in some ways, you should be with someone who you can respect.
S
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Q: I'm 17 yrs old and me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months and i love her alot. i've been pouring out my feelings to her, tellin her how much i love her n everything, but i dont feel like she feels the same way.. what do i do? i dont wanna dump her cuz i love her alot..
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Unfortunately, you can't make someone love you and you can't love her enough for the both of you. If she doesn't reciprocate your feelings, the only good solution is to try to move on.
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If she's not saying it, then there's a reason. Cut your losses and move on.
J
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Q: I am a 16 year old female. Well i have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and at first everything was fine I was happy. Now its like everytime he talks or even if he just looks at me i get annoyed. I don't know what to do. I care about him a lot but i don't know why im so unhappy with him. Maybe its not him maybe im just trippin. sometimes i really want to be with him and sometimes its like why am i with him. I want to know should i break up with him or not. im not sure i really do care about him and all my friends think i should stay with him. but i want to know what you think. Please help. what should i do
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Usually, if you have to ask, you should dump him.
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Q: I am a 17/m and i really like this girl. I have a plan to ask her out. The only problem is that it involves two weeks and Valentines day. The plan is to leave notes in her locker with no name just ending it the same way. Should i go for the two week plan or should i just ask her?
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Just ask her out. You can come up with something different for Valentines Day if you are still into each other then.
J
I have to agree. Your plan sounds really sweet, but it will be pretty disappointing if she's not interested after all that. Just be direct.
S
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We are two twenty-somethings with plenty of advice and opinions to spare. Really, we have something to say about almost anything: love, money, clothes, cars, life in general. So, ask away and be prepared for us to do a little something we like to call breakin' it down for you.
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Gender: Female Age: 26 Member Since: January 28, 2005 Answers: 81 Last Update: August 5, 2012 Visitors: 7654
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