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I want to dump my boyfriend...and yes I have my reasons. He asked me if I would go to the movies with him this Friday. And I said I would, but since then I have decided I want to dump him. I don't know what to do now though. Because I went with him to the movies last week and he thought I got mad at him there. But I didn't. His friend told me that my boyfriend was shy last week and he wanted to give me a kiss and everything but he was to shy. And he was going to this Friday. I need advice on what to do, because there is another guy that I want to go out with, when me and my boyfriend break up. I'm not sure if I want to dump my boyfriend before or after the movies. What do you think?

Well why waste your time goin to the movies with somone you dont want to be with? Just tell him tell how you feel, hopefully he will be understanding and yall can still be friends!
thanks for the question: *:*SaRa:*:

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Ok I have problems trusting people..especially guyys! everytime I put my trust out there fully someone always smashes it... twice I had been cheated on, I have been lied to and ditched and I can't take it... but yea I want to know how do I trust guys more? I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years....at the very beginning of our relationship he cheated on me but we moved on... I can't seem to fully trust him, I tell him I do and I believe I should but I can't help question him after he has gone out... he is really annoyed of it ! and me to, I dont mean to question but my head is filled with them... how do I learn how to trust him ?? (PS pleasse dont go saying how i should break up with him because hecheated, or because i dont trust him, IDO trust him...i just cant show it)

Dont lie to yourself...no you dont trust him but its something that yall can both work on, You have reasons to not trust and thats ok! Your going to make your hunny mad if you tell him that you dont trust him, thats a big part of a relationship, just talk to him about it and tell him that your still hurt over him cheating and how can you trust him, then belive whatever he says bc its kept you together for a long time and if you want to keep this relationship than keep it, remember to always FORGIVE AND FORGET!
*;*SaRa*;*

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this friend of mine, Lizzy*, is in a serious relationship with my other friend, Seth*. Lizzy adores Seth, but I know that he has stopped liking her...even though I am not supposed to know, and Lizzy does not know. The problem is, I adore Seth, and he might like me, but I don't know what to do. If I ask Seth if he likes me at all and he says no it would be really akward, but I can't imagine being happy as just his friend much longer...help?!

maybe your question is annoying!.. Peace?! lol whatever!

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ok this one is going to be long, so bear with me. i have this guy friend (he's 15/m and i'm 17/f) and our relationship is kinda brother/sisterish. a couple of weeks ago, i was talking to him online and he admitted that he had a crush on me. well this totally surprised me, cause i had a crush on him too. i told him and we were both shocked but then thought that we should try and maybe go out (in secret at first, just in case it didn't work out), and just see how it goes. well we did that, and long story short, we made out a few times then i told him that i didn't think it was a good idea. i'm not really sure why i did it, but i did. but now, i think i have "more than friend" feelings for him again (but i'm not exactly sure), but i don't want to hurt him again. oh, and he still likes me a lot. what should i do?

If yall still like eachother than just tell him that youve had time to think about it and youve realized how you feel, tell him you want to make your relationship public and that you wanna be with him, if he still likes you then youll have no trouble! :*:SaRa:*:

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20/f

This guy I had a date with kissed me on the firt date. Is that werid? I have never kissed someone on the first date before. Do you think he just wants sex?

Dont stick to the normal stereotypical version of a guy like that! -Meaning that most guys thats true, thats all they want- But it doesnt really matter unless you give it up to them does it? I mean once your together awhile and dont do anything, if he stays, youll know thats not what he was wanting. Ive been in a long relationship now, its my second one and when we were first together it was 4 months before we really kissed..its up to you, dont make yourself easy when it comes to guys, play hard to get, it keeps em wanting more!
:*:SaRa:*:

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ok well i like this guy. i dont know if he has a girl friend. he always says hi to me and gives me hugs. and were both like involved with singing adn stuff at school so we like sing songs together and stuff. and he kissed me on the cheek once when he was leaving somewhere. and he asked for my cell phone number. and once he tried to hook up with me. stupidly i didnt know and didnt even open my mouth! ha ha. anyway i wanna know if he likes me. and if he does then what should i do? should i ask him out, or wait for him to ask me out, or ask a friend to ask him to go out with me? i am really confused and i really like him. please help!

Ok he obviously has a little more on his mine than chorus buddies! You say you like him, did you give him your number? Does he call you? It sounds to me like he likes you, you could always ask a fried to talk to him for you, make sure its someone you trust though..maybe while your talkin to him just ask him what hes doin this weekend, ask him if he wants to go to the movies or something bc your dying to get out of the house..
*:*SaRa:*:

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The guy who I've really liked for over a year said that he kind of likes me. What does it mean if he kind of likes me? My friend who is friends with him thinks that since he's shy, he said that he kind of likes me because he was too shy to say yes. This other guy who I talked to who doesn't even know the guy I like said that he thinks it means that the guy I like thinks I'm hot and has a little crush on me, but isn't really like in love with me. What do you think it means if he kind of likes me?

If someone likes you..thats what it means...They like you, your pretty, do you talk to this guy, maybe he likes that your easy to have a conversation with, he likes you a little, maybe he has feelings for someone else or hes never really thought about a relationship with you, why dont you talk to him about it and tell him how you feel!Tell him youve liked him for a long time and ask him how he feels! Youll never know unless you ask! :*:SaRa:*:

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okay i have a b/f now well call him "K" okay well we've been goin out for a lil while but i wanna call him but im afraid his mom or something is gonna answer what do i do/?

So whats it matter if his mom answers? Just ask if hes there,...obviously he likes you and wants to talk bc your his girlfriend, get off the internet and go call him! :*:SaRa:*:

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Hi, i really like this kid. He's kinda on the popular side, and im just not there yet. Like, the popular people like me and all but its hard talking to them. Well back to the point, i really like this kid and i know you might say "go talk to him!". Its not that easy! Ecspecially for a girl like me. I have liked him since last year, and i IMed him once asking him a question and he asked who i was and said he thinks he knows who i am and answered my question. He's not in the same class as me either. I think he knows i like him cuz of last year someone i think told him or something but i just dont know what to do! Please Help!
-- lost girl

--lost girl--
Its really hard being in situations like that, people just think that they are better than everyone and so busy with their little lives that they dont understand, your situation is not permanent! in a couple of years youll be out of highschool and never have to mess with some of those little immature freaks! Or you can look at it my way, your only who you belive yourself to be, as long as your happy with yourself, none of those freaks should matter! i wouldnt consider myself one of the most poplular ppl at my school, it takes years to climb to the top of the social ladder and im afraid of heights! Go talk to this guy, it is that simple, whats the worst he can say?If he is mean or rude then you dont need him neway, real beauty is on the inside, believe in yourself and everyone else will too! Hope it works out! *:*SaRa:*:

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As a seventeen year old female who is oober tired of stupid highschool guys and would like to move on to more mature ones... how old is too old for me?

i know how you feel im 17 and its seems like guys are so immature and even get dumber with age, as my personal opinion i think that 19 is the oldest i would go..thanks for the question, *:*SaRa:*:

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uhhh sara if you and ur g/f have been going out for a long time and you both want to take ur relationship to the next level butur too shy to make the first move how would you go about it???

Dear Bashful:)
Goin all the way is a really big step and adds alot of unwanted pressure to any relationship if your too young, my advice to you is that you need to talk to her and tell that you wanna take things to the next level and you wanna know how she feels, personally i dont have a girlfriend but i do know that if its not with the right person and the intentions arent right...it hurts any relationship...think about what i said and lemme know how if i helped!
:*:SaRa:*:

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ok i used to go out with this guy but we didnt really do anything so we broke up and plus i dont think he liked me anymore and i didnt think i liked him but now that were back @ school everytime i see him i get really really nervous but i still like him as a friend what can i do not to act so nervous around him?

Let me get this straight, you want advice on how not to be nervous? You must feel more than a frienship toward this guy for it to make you nervous! Think about other things, try to distract yourself...dont tune out or anything but just get side tracked, drift into space lol i dont know what can i say i tried! Happy daydreaming! :*:SaRa:*:

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When I first met the guy I like right now he would always tell me to call him and stuff and we'd always talk no matter where or what we were doing.Well now that school started we hardly talk but I still like hime very much.Well last Sat.when I was at his house we made out and he was holding me and stuff and when I said I was cold he would pull me closer you know he was very sweet! Well it's tues and I haven't talked to him since Sun.I like him alot and He makes me happy.But I hate calling him other then when he tells me too{{ i feel like im bugging him}} So..Should I call him?Im 13 female.

Its always a good point to never call a guy, if they wanna talk then they can always call you, but i mean who listens to that really? You said that yall always talk no matter where or what, so just call him, he obviously has some feelings for ya, maybe hes waiting for you to call, :*:SaRa:*:

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hey sweetie..question!:) my boyfriends birthday is coming up on sep. 3rd..and the same day is our 6 month ann. my first varsity soccer game and his 17th birthday. i already got him gifts, but i wanted to know what else can i get him..or surprise him with. i was going to hang out with him that night and do stuff with him like normal - but make it all about him..but i have my game..are there any little things you can think of? thanks!!

x0x-dani

Aww DaNi you sound like a really sweet girlfriend and its great that you wanna do all these nice things for your hunny and also congrats about the 6 months! Guys arent like girls, they dont have to/need attention 24/7 and cry when we forget anniversarys!I recently started playin soccer,thats hard work lol! Ok back to your question!You have good ideas, what about if you rent a limo? That would be awesome! Or think of things that yall usually do together and just let him know that you wanted everything to be awesome! Surprise party? When were talkin about love, anything is possible! Good Luck, keep me updated! :*:SaRa:*:

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ok......i'm 16 and theres this guy who's 20 that i like alot. he has been wanting to go out with me but my dad wont let me bcuz he says hes to old for me. well my friends keep tellin me i should just dont let my dad find out. what should i do? is there a way to get my dad to let? please help

Ok the first thing i must tell you is that parents know EVERYTHING! You may not think so now, but oh yea they will find out! Its only a 4 year difference i mean its not really that bad, why dont you talk to your parents and let them meet this guy and then talk about it! Good luck :*:SaRa:*:

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ok theres this guy that i met online ad we talked and stuff and i sorta like him and he likes me and we talk on the phone everynight now he wants to meet me do u think i should meet him

Well it depends on alot of things really, your age, his age, i personally wouldnt do it, but how well do you really know this guy? You cant trust ppl like you used to able to, i wouldnt meet some internet guy if i only "sorta liked him". Use your head dawl! Good luck in your decision!:*:SaRa:*:

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does age matter cause im 13 almost 14 n i like a 17 year old n a 18 year old n my friend is bout ready to get me n the 18 year old out..plz help me

When girls are your age they always like older boys, because they can drive and stuff, the truth is that the older boys most of the time really arent wantin a relationship if you know what i mean, so let him know where you stand on that part of the relationship and as far as your question age doesnt matter, its about how you feel when your with that person that makes a diference! Good Luck! :*:SaRa:*:

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hi ppl . ok well heres my problem . im not bragging or nethng but i think im pretty & hav a good personality but my one thing is , i hav NEVER had a boyfriend . and im 14 . its bothering me b/c all of my friends can get them , and i cant . i talk to guys all the time and im being myself , but it isnt working . nothing is working . i dono what to do nemore . any tips

Well your 14...its not really time for a boyfriend...Dont worry about it, i believe that there is someone for everyone and when your time comes it will be well worth the wait! :*:SaRa:*:

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me and my ex boyfriend were one of those couples where we were exact opposites. he was kind of "Wigger-ish" and i was moare "Skater". he would even call me a skater .. and then he'd say how much he hates them. it always affended me so he would add "Except for you" but it didnt make much of a difference. when he found out my favorite color was orange, he got all weird like "Holy fuck, you're only supposed to like black". who the hell tells their girlfriend, let alone anyone .. what colors they can like? it really pissed me off, and we broke up later that night for other reasons, and he just moved here over the summer (thats how i met him). now hes going to my school where no one knows him, and he's going to be in most of my classes. i really liked him even though we were different. and im shy around guys so i probably wont talk to him. what should i do if i want to be with him again, but keep him from treating me like shit?

Aww i feel really bad for you! I would hate for my EX to go to my school, especially when i still liked him, tell him how you feel, tell him that he hurts your feelings when he tried to stereotype you and maybe all this can be resolved! Keep my updated :*:SaRa:*:

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Whats like the maximum age difference thats considered normal??

Well i dont think it has anything to do with age, its about love and butterflies and all that grand stuff! :*:SaRa:*:

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