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14/m. my girlfriend is comeing over soon n im so nervous. when we kiss we makeout n shes the sweetest ever, last time we were all over eachother n it was my very first kiss, i jacked off, n my boner made her jump, then i started to... and get really into it. then she got off me i felt soooo bad, she didnt do it ina mean way she just did her little cute smile then kissed my cheek then sat back with my arm around her. im scared if it happens again, what would i do? (link)
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Ok well your only 14 and your body is still maturing and a male want fully mature until he’s mid 20's or on but in your case don’t worry about you have to make her understand if it her first time with a guy she has to understand that most men in their younger years can’t control their hormones or boner and ok when or if you masturbate by yourself you won’t go as fast because you’re by yourself and when your girlfriend is kissing on you or feeling on you it's the fact that she is there making you more relaxed and ready to feel good and go but as you do it and do it over and over again with her your body will get use to it and you will be able to control your pleasure points or your hot spots and if you want to know what to do like to stop from going for a while you and her need to make out as long as you can to pleasure her and pleasure your elf without you or her touching you or if she does or you do decide to go for at first you too start kissing let her rum you ball sac and that’s where if you don’t know that’s where a man’s sperm is made and is a hot spot but so you don’t cum as quickly stay away from the tip of your penis that’s a man’s climax point which means you’re going to cum real fast no matter how expericed you are or not it can’t really be controlled. but if you have any other questions to ask me just ask anytime ok but if you ask me just try to be more specific in question not so many ... you know but it’s ok I knew what you meant, I really hope I helped but if I didn’t answer your question right just message me again in a similar question ok thank you
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Sorry, this is sort of long.
I am 15/f, and a sophomore in high school.
I have a crush on my brother's (best) friend, who I will call Jake. He's 17. We hang out alot because of my brother (we go to his house and watch movies, football games...among other things)
At first, I just tagged along wtih my brother and his friends, but after a while Jake expected me to hang out with him. I'm usually the only girl.
Well I can't figure him out. One of Jake's other best friend's little sister also liked him. When Jake found out about this, he started being very mean to her.
On the other hand, he is nice to me. He always makes a point of opening doors for me, says things like "You're magic," and "You're on fire," and was the first person to comment me "Happy Birthday" on Myspace.
But I don't know. Although he's really outgoing, he doesn't look at me very much (unless we are talking). Even when it's just me and my brother, or if he's sitting directly across from me. However, when I talk to my brother and point at something, while Jake does not look at me, he does look to see where I point.
Also, we never talk when it's just the two of us, or just me and my brother. But when there is more people, he talks to me.
I joked around with another guy, and Jake was like, "Stop flirting," but I don't know if he actually didn't want us to flirt, or was just trying to imply that he didn't care.
One day Jake might talk to me alot, but the next day he completely ignores me, and flirts with alot of other girls. When we went to the movies, there was this one girl whom he obviously seemed to really like (he was flirting and hanging around her), but when my brother suggested it, he said, "No."
So, do you think that he could like me... or is he just being nice to me because I'm his friend's little sister? Also, why does he never look at me?
Thanks so much.
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OK Well im with the teens to teens advice and realtionship couciling we help with teens that have issues or advice problems im the founder of it im 16 so dont worry but anyway to your question well 1st yes it probaly really great chance that he likes you their is the jealousness when your were when you were jokeing with that other guy he got testy and he was more likely that when he was flirting and everything with that other girl he was trying to make you jealous and get your atention guys like that and thats alot of the time the guy is alittle blind so you might have to ask him out alot of the time its because hes afraid of denial exspecially someone younger but i was the same way untill i met my fiance i shes 3 years older then me but you should know that the age doesnt count but if you ask him around abunch of his older friends he might say no because to a older guys they might think its a joke for him to date a younger girl but dont let that stop you and if he doesnt like you dont worry about it its a one speed bump in lifes eyes and plenty will be in front of you but their are plenty of guys out there for you and you should just try him and take this bump on and take it from there. If you need any other advice or help just message me my fiance is also an advice counsiler so you can ask her as well i really hope this helps with your questions and the reason why he doesnt look at you is because hes shy to look in to your eyes.
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There are a cOuple of answers i wanna ask , but please [ guys reply Only].
- What makes a guy " want " a girl , like say your in a relationship but what would make you just " lust " or want a girl bad.
- How come guys dont care as much as girls do
- & why do yall not like to express yalls feelings like we do?
Please answer those 3 questions , thanks :)
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ok im a guy and thats why my fiance love me and i love her not all men are stupid and have no feelings i love giving advice because it helps other exspecaily when it comes to romance and realtionship's i own a advice solum and a teen to teen advice group and im only 16 but i junior major in teen psychology. Ok now what makes guys want a girl simple hormones and fate and love, lust is the feeling where either a male or female are really hormonal about the other person and is all about there like the person, ok well there are different ways to look at it, a guy could want a girl bad snd not really love her and on the other hand he could really really want her and love her truely with out no dount in his mind.Its what everybody think's in there own mind but either way it takes two to love and it take truth and trucst within eachother to make a realtionship happen and not break apart.
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14/M
I hang out with this girl alot. We go to the mall with other people very often, and we also go to movies. I like her, and I want to ask her out, but I have absolutely no clue when/how. I think she likes me but I'm not totally sure. I'm also quite positive she'd say yes, but thats not my main concern; its actually asking the question.
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ok well i see this very often as well in my advice commitiee so well on the first note i agree with the other advice a columist has given you but for more advice i would take a shot you know just watch the sign's when you too are together most of the time if you watch them and see them she does like you, well ok a few sign's are when she looks at you she tens to kinda maybe gigle and look off some where or maybe she just looks off with a little smile on the end of her face, there ius after yall are done atalking and yall have to go so she walks away and she looks back at you, Hey ill tell you this there's really two choices for you to choose on your own there is you can just get the nerve upand just ask her and if she does she does or you can show her you like her bit by bit what i mean is you need to go one on one to the movies with her or dinner and slowy ask her flirting whille you do it and ask her if she likes anbody at this point and if she say yes you have a good chance that it might be you but after you do that just keep talking to her and hinting to her that you like her but at the end you really just need to say will you go out with me and all she can say is no but but its rare so dont worry and im telling if you dont ask her she probaly going to not think about it anymore most of the time a girl is waiting on you to ask her cause they are afraid of denial and so they wait for you to ask and just talk to her and see if she feels the same way about you that you do about her.
Hey but sinbce yall are somuch best friends dont rush it and alot of the time when friends go out its hard cause if you have known someone for a while you think of them as family and at the end it will hurtboth of you but thats why yall talk about before yall start goping bnut alot of the other times best friends turn out to be the greatest of realtionship starter's.
So i hope this help it usally does but if you need anything else with advice and all your welcome to ask me an anything ok
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okay so i have a boyfriend that i like alottt and he claims to like me too, he even tells me he loves me alot and says really sweet things. Well every night we talk alot, and then at school we see eachother for like 4 minutes between sum classes and we hardly talk? he hugs me and stuff and kisses me but its hardly any conversation at all. he talks to his friends and i kinda just stand there so i have my friend wait with me and i talk to her because i dont wanna look stupid just standing there. I mean we do talk but its just like whatever nothing special. Well today she informed me that she seen him with his arms around some girl walking her to class, should i be worried about that? i mean i dont think he'd be cheating if he was hugging me and kissing me and stuff out in the open. i'm not really sure what do you guys think about all of this? (link)
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Yes well see i see alot of this going on everywere there's different way to deal with this kinda situation well first you need to talk to him about it, sit him down and ask him if he is and just say you were worried cause someone seen him walking to class with another girl then he should anwser you willing andnot have to be forced and explain to him that for a relationship to work it takes two and both to tell the truth to eachother, Anyway on the other hand even if you think its wrong for him to put his arm around some one else he might think like shes just a friend and there nothiong wrong with it as long as she isnt holding on to him tight and kissing or what ever but they just might be long best friends and there like brother and sister but to make sure you need to look in on it and just express the way you feel about it to him, and really its rare but on the other its not for friends to get jealous over eachother because you got him before she did so they try to break the couple up by saying things to get them you know edgey about eachother, but just take alittle bit of time and ask your self what your going to do and read read this over and try to understand it if its complicated my comp. is alittle messed up.
If you need anything else any more advice just message me and ill be glad to help.
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I'm 15/f
i just got out of an 11 month relationship with a boy named jimmy well i'll start by saying
i have a really messed up family..
and lately its really been taking its tole on me
i love my dad but he can be really verbally abusive to me when we get in arguments ;; calling me a cunt, bitch, that he hates me and wants me to get the fuck out the day i turn 18 and thats not the worst he's said to me.. my mom had phybromialga (when she does normal things like going up stairs a few times her knees will hurt her for days) and my mom is really unhappy with him a lot and takes off quite a bit leaving me to suffer but she needs his income
me and my dad got into a huge fight (it happens to often) but everytime it seems to be happening i freakout MORE AND MORE and i'm becomming a very angry person and its scary =[
i told my exboyfriend jimmy that i think we should take a break because i'm taking out my anger on him and things are way to messed up with my family that i cant handle fighting with him all the time as well ;; i felt like if i stayed with him we'd end up ending BADLY
well.. now he basically doesnt talk to me
i miss him and idn if i did the right thing
because its hurting me not being with him too
but on the other hand new cute boys are comming along and they make me feel exited and happy which i havent felt in a while =/
my friends are telling me i'm rebounding and that i need to stay alone for a while
i dont know whats best for me
i dont know what i want
eh any advice?
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listen here at teens 2 teens program i have has alot of teens with the same problems and even worst there mom or dad's achully hit them so yea we helped them out but in your case at first it might of seemed to be the right thing to do but its not because thats the first thing you need you need someone that will be there even if you yell or even if you parents say something to him and still stays with you when you broke up with jimmy you lost your safe zone and right now listen you really need somebody to cry on or hold on too but if you rebound it kinda make it worst because of your not likeing them or loveing them for the right reason like jimmy yall had a long realationship going on and it was like yall had a bond and yea the reason he isnt talking to you is because misses you and wasnts to hold you and make you safe again. but listen dont beat yourself over it just talk to him and say your sorry and explain how much you miss him and how much you need him yall were together for almost a year. but if you need anything else just ask anything ok
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Anyone have any tips for how to kiss i just want to be ready for my first one so i don't look like an idiot! (female) (link)
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listen there is only one way to really kiss and mean it with your heart threw your lips which means nobody can and will never be able to rely on another know how to kiss like me for example i never knew how to kiss and that was because i was saving it for my one true love and i found her and now we are getting married and im 15 at first i thought i was going to suck but i felt how much love we had for eachother i just did it and it tengled and i gave he a cold chill in the good way we were at the movies and yea im trying to say you just do it and just make sure he is the one for you you dont want to waste the first one its the most romantic.If you need anymore advice just ask were here.
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There's this boy, and I really like him.. and he knows it. When I had my friends call him and ask him out for me and stuff all's what he told his friends were that "some girls kept calling my house". He never said anything about me liking him. I don't know if it's because he's embarrassed that I like him, or if it's cause he doesn't know what to say. My bestfriend says it's probly because he's not sure if he likes me or not. That's not the only thing. He has a girlfriend too. And I don't want to like break them up, because that would be just selfish. I know if me and him were going out I wouldn't want her to come in and steal him. I can't talk to him at school either. Talking on the phone is so awkward.. Just imagine talking like that in person. Just thinking of that makes me sick to my stomach. How am I supposed to get to know him if I can't even say hi to him? What should I do? (link)
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Well yes your right umm when it comes down to your case its better to leave them untill he learns that you like him and realizes that he probaly has feeling for you and is just to shy to do anything but yea if you did try to break them up it will just come back and hit you in your face and yea just tell your self how much you truely like him and feel for him tell him that you know that it would be very disrespectful and wrong to try and break them up and say but thats why im telling you that i like you tell him that and that should tell him that you are avalible for him and that you are respectable and patennt enough to wait and be kind to his wishes which will win his heart in the long run.
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My boyfriend is really shy. In general. So i was really amazed when he asked me out. Here's the problem. I'm getting really bothered by his shyness. He doesnt do anything a boyfriend should so. He hugs me occasionally. When he does they are really stiff hugs and very quick. I feel like he hugs me because he has to not because he wants to. We dont hold hands or kiss. He never compliments me. He acts like a friend even less. He doesnt flirt or anything. I want him to start acting like my boyfriend and not like my friend. I at least want hugs that mean something. My friends with boyfriends all have held hands and hug and do normal things like that. I want him to start doing that but i dont want to talk to him about it. What should i do? Is there any way i can hint at it without coming on too strong? (link)
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the reason why he is shy its in alot of people well the main reason most of the people i have helped is because they are unsecure they believe that if they dont say anything nobody will hurt them or say anything to them they are afraid of what people might say you know and he is probaly worried that you might hurt him and break his heart you might know you wont but he doesnt and he has like a infisable safe wall around him and youre even lucky that you that he asked you out. You just have to make him feel secure and even if its around you try sitting him down by yalls selves and talk to him and ask him if he feels secure and sometimes they will lie but its just a way to get out of telling you how they feel and he does most probaly love you and want to kiss you and hold you but he is afraid of doing it wrong and you telling people or just hurting him emotionly. just you say to how deeply and howc much you feel for him and how he can trust you to actualy be with him and that he you can hold him and i really dont him or you but i deal alot with teens like this and he really should open up to you but it might take a little time but im really sure he should and if he doesnt tell me and ill give you some more advice but that should really help but the rest is up to you and him.
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15/f
i've been in love with this guy since i was 9 (never knew if he loved me back, but we were good friends) and we're seeing a movie together in about a month. (alone) The thing is, I like him soooooo much and in my mind it's a first date- but I don't know if he thinks it's just a friend thing or not... how can I know wheather or not to kiss him/hold his hand or anything?
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Umm well you know like when you are sitting next to him during th movie like rub down arm back and forth but bot too quickly and ask him how he feels and if he likes you and if he would go out with you i mean not to quick becuase he might not be excpecting it and might come on to strong and make him nervous but im sure youll do it just fine. It kinda achully happen to me but my see i was about to give up and on relationships but something told me not to and then like a week later one of my friend's of the family that ive known almost all my life she asked if i would like to go with her and her cousin to the mall and to the movies well that night her cousin and i were sitting next to each other and i like kinda put my arm next to her on the arm rest and then she started flirting with me and rubbing my arm back and forth and then she softly but her hand on mine and we held to eachother's hand and then we looked at eachother and then we got closer and closer and we just kissed and that was my first kiss because i was holding it for the right girl andnow were getting married when i turn 18 im 15 but we love each other so much sorry it was so long but you know it helps if you know somebody went threw it similarsly and if you need any other advice ask me.
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okay wel my love life has never been the best. i always fall for the wrong guys. so now u have two guys that i care aboyt but i can obvioously can only have 1. okay so guy #1(we will just call him that) is amazing, he knows what to say to me and i know he really cares. but he lives like two hours away.. and me and him are very realistic and know that it wouldnt work. but i still want to be with him. then there is boy #2 who knows also what to say and how to touch and all of that but the problem is he hasnt always treated girls the best and my younger sister likes him. now i want both of these guys but i dont know which one to go too.... it seems that i really cant be with either of them :( and i want them both!!!!!! so if anybody can help i would really apprecitae it..... thanks (link)
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well two hours isnt to bad but you have to concider that the guy#2 might abuse you and you just have to ask yourself do i want to be away from someone thats a little far away and maybe not see him for a few day or think that what if guy#2's past catches up with him and onto you belive me i have help young girls threw abuse reahab were they were in the same decicion and made the wrong one but you will never know and i mean i just wouldnt risk it because after you dont treat girls right for a while he will never go back because its either in his mind were he has been abused before or is just a mental problem i mean idk him but i still wouldnt take the risk and just tell me if you need anymore advice ok.
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I'm fifteen and my boyfriend is fourteen.
we have been together for about eight monthes is that a long time? (link)
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yea its pretty long i mean 4 more months it will be a year and if like anybody gives you a problem like how your dating a younger guy dont worry because age has nothing to do with it and hes only 1 year behind im 15 and my fiance is 18 and we are so great together and we hardly ever argue and when we do its just a little pout.
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14/f/freshman
and i'm like nervous ha. he's going to be meeting my stepdad and i don't know. i don't know what were gonna do, should i rent some movies? should i get them before or like have him come with me? ahh i know i sound like a dork, but everything i do turns into an awkward situation.. any ideas and advice would be awesome :D
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take him with you so both of you can choose movies you both like and then there shouldnt be any complication. Dont be worried just dont think to hard about like one thing because then if you do figure that out then its to late to figure something else out just take them as they come and i really do think everthing will bo ok. Just tell me if you need anymore advice.
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okay 14/f
I just turned fourteen this month, and I still have never had an actual boyfriend. I havn't really kissed a boy either. I mean not to brag or anything but people tell me I'm really pretty. But I sort of feel lonely because it seems that everyone already has someone, and don't. I'm not one of those people who just go out with people for the heck of it. I just need someone who will make me feel good, because I'm sick of having no one. Please help me! =) (link)
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well there is someone for everybody and i mean it might take a while to find someone and maybe the first boy kiss could be you one true love and dont let anybody tell you that your to young to have a true love cause im engaged and im in love i proposed to my fiance when i was 14 years old and im just 15 but im very mature for my age im actully by doctors terms im 21 but i aint rushing my childhood and my fiance is 18 but is a child at heart and we love eachother so much and you know you will find him like i tell everybody it takes time and just look at the signs closely.
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Okay so I had this boyfriend, Adam. He cheated on me. I'm really angry at him, but I'm going to forgive him eventually; it's just going to take time. Now there's this really nice guy I just hung out with recently, Ryan, who I kind of like, and I'm not really sure if he likes me. But, one of my best friends likes Ryan, too. Now, I'm not sure what to do. Adam is aware I like Ryan, my friend knows I like Ryan, but Ryan doesn't know I like him. Part of me thinks that I shouldn't even be be trusting Adam; what he did was so stupid and hypocritical and just really hurt. But I don't even know if Ryan likes me, and my other friend really likes him, so maybe this whole thing with Ryan will just mess up my possible second chance with Adam AND my friendship. Would I be a horrible friend if I were to ever date Ryan? (which is totally hypothetical because it just seems like he likes me, I don't actually know) I don't know what to do... advice? (link)
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Ok well first Adam he really needs a realty check he does not deserve a second chance if he cheated on you once then he will do it again i help teens with getting over people that have hurt them by cheating on them and i really dont like it and if your friend is really truely your friend she will understand that you like him and is going to try there is a old saying that goes love is in only in the heart of the beloved which means love will only be with you if you choose to chase it down and grab it even if it takes alittle sacrifice. I really understand how you feel after he cheated on you i was cheated on alot of the time but you know i was about to give up and something told me not to give up and a week later i waited and suddenly i got a call from one of my family friends and she asks me if i would like to go to the mall and movies with her and her cousin which i didnt even know she had and i knew her my whole life and didnt meet her cousin until then and now her cousin is now my fiance and we are so in love and i guess you probaly didnt want to hear all of that but all im saying is dont guide your heart let it guide you and if you need any more advice just ask.
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ok so id seen this guy around school and we kind of knew each other just through other people. so i sent him a request on facebook. but rite wen he added me, he sent me a message that just said, wassup. so i messaged him back, and basically our conversation lasted for 2 days, because we both got on and off in between. we werent really talking about anything special, but it was definitely flirting and i was starting to like him. we exchanged numbers and then we started texting A LOT. and at school after our conversation, he would give me hugs and like to always get hugged up with me, but i dont know why. and this was at the beginning of the week and now he doesn't do much. then on facebook he just changed his status to, "will u be mine" and i havent really seen him talking to anyone else so im thinking its me. basically i just want to know what he's feeling about me rite now, but id really want to ask him, bcuz hes the kind of person who would try to avoid me after asking a question like that. what should i do? (link)
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Well you know he's giving you a big flashing sign and you know you really should go for it because he's pretty much is saying you know make a move on me cause i really want to know if you will go for it and notice it so go for it hes telling you he really likes you but might be shy so you know show him you like him and want to be with him.
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16/m
My girlfriend always thinks I'm lying to her. For the smallest things. And I don't have a history of lying, so I don't know why she thinks so.
I'll say something like, "Today I went to the store and got skittles..." and she'll be all "stop lying to try to get attention." I don't know why she thinks I lie. I don't make a big deal of it though cause I don't want her to get mad.
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Well she could have dated many guys in the past that have either cheated,and or lied to her. What I think you should do is sit down with her and ask her if there was past realationships that have lied to her and has made her worried that every guy lies, and or cheats on her. It seems like she has alittle trust issue's and you know she need's a gentleman that will hold her with trusting arms and to let her know that she can trust you with her heart and words and love, you know just show her, do something amazing for her that she could never believe.
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Theres this guy, we'll call him Joe. I've known him for about 3 years and we're not really "close" but we can pretty much talk about anything and enjoy seeing each other. Were both flirty towards each other but we go to different schools now so its not easy to spend time together. I think we both see each other as an potential boyfriend girlfriend, but haven't talked about it at all.
He's conservative and wouldn't be outright "promusicous" I guess you could say. He's had a girlfriend before, but there relationship was pretty conservative as well.
What I'm saying is, how can I get him to make a move? I have a formal coming up, and I'd really like him to go with me, but I dont think he has any idea I like him! What can I do to subtly let him know I'm interested without being too forward and let him know its okay to make a move? (link)
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i say just talk to him and tell him how you feel because most guys like the girl to open up to him and tell him stuff and they like how a ladie will show her independance sometimes they dont but most of the time they do so go for it and you know yall will probaly be together.
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ok so i have a boyfriend problem. (he just turned 19 and i'm 15 going on 16 in february.)(that's not the problem though) so anyway, he tries to control me too much. we threaten to break up with each other but we never really do. He has a court date in 2 days for "trespassing" into my house. (It was behind my dad's back and my dad caught him in my room). i really don't want to break up with him, but he said that if i say no to him one more time about something, he'll smash my head into the sidewalk. I don't know what to do...i say no to him when he asks me to not talk to any of my guys friends, not to see my friends on the weekend, or to call him twice a day, everyday. i just don't want to and i think i should get my freedom... (link)
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Listen you need to talk to your dad and get a retraining order on him and get him for threating you because how dare him even ever think about hitting you or any women in that matter he must be a wimp. get protection from him by telling your dad and going to the police ok ive delt with people before they are crazy just get help ok.
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There is this girl at my school and she is amazing. She is always happy, extremely nice...and i swear she is friends with everyone! I'm really falling head over heels for this girl. I've noticed she acts a bit different around me now a days...and I was wondering...did i do something wrong? She always looks at the floor and has trouble keeping eye contact with me. Plus, she giggles a lot? Is she laughing at me..something I do? Anyway, it would help if I knew what these meant. A few weeks ago i started a secert admirer thingy. I've sent her flowers and wrote her short little love letter/poem things. Any chance she found out or something. Should I stop with the whole 'secert admirer'...do girls think that's lame? Well, anyways, I'm planning on asking her out, but I'm really nervous and I'm not too sure how to ask. I really like this girl, i want to impress her, put a smile on her face.
Any suggestions? Thanks in advance! =) (link)
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Well it seems that she obviously like you come on shes falling over you the reason why she is looking at the floor and not keeping eye contact is because she most probaly has a crush on you and the giggles are a girls way to be nervous around you which obviously means she's admireing you or crushing on you either way is great. I really truely think that you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel and well the secret admirer thing it really only works if they end up knowing who it is but really when you do tell her if you do just be yourself if you lie she will know just be yourself cause they will find out and only you lose if you do lie to her but Go for it and tell her how you feel.
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