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Really Shy Boyfriend.
My boyfriend is really shy. In general. So i was really amazed when he asked me out. Here's the problem. I'm getting really bothered by his shyness. He doesnt do anything a boyfriend should so. He hugs me occasionally. When he does they are really stiff hugs and very quick. I feel like he hugs me because he has to not because he wants to. We dont hold hands or kiss. He never compliments me. He acts like a friend even less. He doesnt flirt or anything. I want him to start acting like my boyfriend and not like my friend. I at least want hugs that mean something. My friends with boyfriends all have held hands and hug and do normal things like that. I want him to start doing that but i dont want to talk to him about it. What should i do? Is there any way i can hint at it without coming on too strong?
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Next time when you are sitting outside on the lawn or where ever, keep the atmosphere light, make jokes and such, then start poking him (lightly at first) and stuff like that, then try to play wrestle him, try to end up with your face close to his and then TELL him to kiss you if he hadn't started already.
Sound strange but it might get the stiffness out.
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the reason why he is shy its in alot of people well the main reason most of the people i have helped is because they are unsecure they believe that if they dont say anything nobody will hurt them or say anything to them they are afraid of what people might say you know and he is probaly worried that you might hurt him and break his heart you might know you wont but he doesnt and he has like a infisable safe wall around him and youre even lucky that you that he asked you out. You just have to make him feel secure and even if its around you try sitting him down by yalls selves and talk to him and ask him if he feels secure and sometimes they will lie but its just a way to get out of telling you how they feel and he does most probaly love you and want to kiss you and hold you but he is afraid of doing it wrong and you telling people or just hurting him emotionly. just you say to how deeply and howc much you feel for him and how he can trust you to actualy be with him and that he you can hold him and i really dont him or you but i deal alot with teens like this and he really should open up to you but it might take a little time but im really sure he should and if he doesnt tell me and ill give you some more advice but that should really help but the rest is up to you and him.
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Hey there,
ok well i am sorry to say but the only way is to sit him down and talk to him because smetimes it is hard for someone to show their feelings because he light think that if he moves to fast you want want him....you might even think about holdinh his hand and not wait for him to hold yours it might just push him to start doing the other thing
well i hope i helped
if you have anyother questions ask me
xpoetx
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Well, I'm sorry to say, but you are going to have to talk to him about it. Why don't you want to? Relationships NEED communication. Without them, there's not really alot of point.
You can hint at it too. Why are you waiting for him to make the move. Girls can do it too. Grab his hand and hold it. See how he responds. Hug him from behind. Or you can even ask him to hug and kiss you more often. He could just be one of those people that don't show affection alot. You can work on it, though and it most probably will get better within time. Just give him a while to adjust to your relationship if he really is THAT shy.
If you do talk to him, you don't have to make it sound harsh. Say it in a jokey way. "I wish you'd hug me more!!" with a smile on your face.
Best of luck. :)
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