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i dont know what i want? =/
I'm 15/f
i just got out of an 11 month relationship with a boy named jimmy well i'll start by saying
i have a really messed up family..
and lately its really been taking its tole on me
i love my dad but he can be really verbally abusive to me when we get in arguments ;; calling me a cunt, bitch, that he hates me and wants me to get the fuck out the day i turn 18 and thats not the worst he's said to me.. my mom had phybromialga (when she does normal things like going up stairs a few times her knees will hurt her for days) and my mom is really unhappy with him a lot and takes off quite a bit leaving me to suffer but she needs his income
me and my dad got into a huge fight (it happens to often) but everytime it seems to be happening i freakout MORE AND MORE and i'm becomming a very angry person and its scary =[
i told my exboyfriend jimmy that i think we should take a break because i'm taking out my anger on him and things are way to messed up with my family that i cant handle fighting with him all the time as well ;; i felt like if i stayed with him we'd end up ending BADLY
well.. now he basically doesnt talk to me
i miss him and idn if i did the right thing
because its hurting me not being with him too
but on the other hand new cute boys are comming along and they make me feel exited and happy which i havent felt in a while =/
my friends are telling me i'm rebounding and that i need to stay alone for a while
i dont know whats best for me
i dont know what i want
eh any advice?
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It sounds to me like your relationship problems are just the beginning.
What your father is doing is emotional abuse. You do not deserve to be called foul names like that. Nobody does. The way your father treats you is affecting everything else in your life. You're justifiably angry, and it's going to get worse unless you can come up with an outlet.
Is there an adult you can trust with this? Have you spoken with a counselor at school? If you don't feel safe at home, the counselor may be able to come up with a better situation. I'm not talking foster care or anything like that, but perhaps some counseling for you or your father. You definitely need some sort of advocate, and an adult you can trust is a good place to start.
One more thing: my mom was in a similar situation when she was your age. She kept her grades up and got into college on a full scholarship. This was after years of her father telling her that she was useless and there was no point in educating her past high school. College is your way out, if nothing else is.
Hope this helps.
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listen here at teens 2 teens program i have has alot of teens with the same problems and even worst there mom or dad's achully hit them so yea we helped them out but in your case at first it might of seemed to be the right thing to do but its not because thats the first thing you need you need someone that will be there even if you yell or even if you parents say something to him and still stays with you when you broke up with jimmy you lost your safe zone and right now listen you really need somebody to cry on or hold on too but if you rebound it kinda make it worst because of your not likeing them or loveing them for the right reason like jimmy yall had a long realationship going on and it was like yall had a bond and yea the reason he isnt talking to you is because misses you and wasnts to hold you and make you safe again. but listen dont beat yourself over it just talk to him and say your sorry and explain how much you miss him and how much you need him yall were together for almost a year. but if you need anything else just ask anything ok
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