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AHHHH HELP??
okay wel my love life has never been the best. i always fall for the wrong guys. so now u have two guys that i care aboyt but i can obvioously can only have 1. okay so guy #1(we will just call him that) is amazing, he knows what to say to me and i know he really cares. but he lives like two hours away.. and me and him are very realistic and know that it wouldnt work. but i still want to be with him. then there is boy #2 who knows also what to say and how to touch and all of that but the problem is he hasnt always treated girls the best and my younger sister likes him. now i want both of these guys but i dont know which one to go too.... it seems that i really cant be with either of them :( and i want them both!!!!!! so if anybody can help i would really apprecitae it..... thanks <3
16/f
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This is a situation where you just have to wait and see what happens. If you want to take some chances, go ahead. If not, that's fine; neither one of these guys are ideal for you anyway.
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Unfortunately, both of these choices have their downfalls. Let's examine them...
Guy 1) The only downfall with him is that he lives two hours away. From my experience, long distant relationships CAN work, however, it is anything, but easy. I've done it, I cannot tell you how many nights I sat and cried. I don't recommend it, it's just so difficult to deal with. So I think your best bet is to not date this one, only because of that reason.
Guy 2) On the hand, this guy has two downfalls - your little sister likes him, meaning big trouble if the two of your date. And if he doesn't treat girls the way they deserve to be treated, that's not-so-good either. I actually wouldn't recommend this guy for you either, but if you want to give it a try - go for it. Just be prepared that things may not go well, and you shouldn't settle for anything less than what you deserve. I'd talk to your sister about it first, though it unfortunately, may not go so well.
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well two hours isnt to bad but you have to concider that the guy#2 might abuse you and you just have to ask yourself do i want to be away from someone thats a little far away and maybe not see him for a few day or think that what if guy#2's past catches up with him and onto you belive me i have help young girls threw abuse reahab were they were in the same decicion and made the wrong one but you will never know and i mean i just wouldnt risk it because after you dont treat girls right for a while he will never go back because its either in his mind were he has been abused before or is just a mental problem i mean idk him but i still wouldnt take the risk and just tell me if you need anymore advice ok.
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right.. guy #1 - i had a relationship like that - IT DOESNT WORK! - well all you want to do is cuddle up with them at night on the sofa but you cant because he lives miles away. when your out partying you want someone right? well you cant because hes not there and ur not single anymore. trust the best thing about a relationship is having somone there when you need them most or you just want some lloving but they wont be there maybe when you need them most. trust me it sucks.
guy #2 - exactly - how do you know he hasnt been good with other girls. no one is perfect alot of guys arent good with other girls guys are guys. we just have to deal with it. im 16 too so i know how you feel xxx
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Guy #1- this guy is about a 3/4 chance. It COULD work out between you guys, its just that you might see each other maybe like 2 or 3 times a week. you need to think to yourself... is that ok for you???
Guy #2- How do you even know if he's not been the best with girls? for this guy, you would have about a 1/2 chance with him.
My advice to you is that you go out with guy number 1... then see how everything works out. If you're life is going down the drain- then maybe he's not the best choice. If everything's going great... then you should keep him. If you decide to dump him, then possibly go out with guy number 2. But here's the catch... you're little sister likes him, so thats bad. Because if you sister gets too attached to him (always wanting him to come over and play video games, etc.) then one day when you break up with him (lets be realistic... you're not going to be together forever!) she will be mad and sad.
Its your choice.... but you just need to think what would be better for you and not only you, but you're surroundings. (aka- family, friends, school)
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