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ok there's this boy at my school how i have liked for over a year and i know he doesn't like me
i know i don't ever have a chance w/ him. in fact..he has a GF.
but i have tried and tried to get over him and everytime i fail. please help. i want nothing more than not to need him. (link)
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Try telling yourself "I don't need a guy, they need me."
Getting over a guy can be hard, believe me I know. But eventually you'll move on and find someone else you like. Try looking around at the other guys you could maybe start something up with. Perhaps there's a guy that you never thought you'd want to be with until you really thought about it.
But you don't need any guy. No matter how much you like them, no matter how much you want to be with them. You won't die from lack of Mike or Ben or Jack or whatever. Heartbreak is not a terminal illness, you'll get over it, you'll find someone new. And that person is going to want to be with you, and you with him, and you'll completely forget ol' what's-his-name in time. Just give it time.
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my girlfriend doesnt tihnk she is hot what do i do ? (link)
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Reassure her that you think she is. What she needs is a confidence boost and you can do that for her. Make with the compliments!
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long story short i went to my school dance tonight w/o a date and started to talk to this really sweet guy. he bought me candy, and danced w/ me......and i dont know him much. so....im confused. i dont know if i like him or not. how cn u tell? (link)
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I think he might be interested in you. Keep talking to him, get to know him and see what happens. But I do think he likes you and if not, then he IS interested at least.
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Please help me. Theres this girl at school that i like. I asked her out about 3 or 4 monthes ago and she sayd "i dont want to ruin our frendship by going out so for now thats a no" should i ask her out again? does she even like me? wat should i do? PLEASE HELP ME (link)
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Well, depending a lot on the situation, it's not always a good idea to keep asking someone out. But it's been a while so I think it would be okay to do so. But still, I'd suggest first asking if she liked you because when you ask someone out again when they've said no before, sometimes they can feel as though you aren't listening to them. So, just ask if she likes you now and instead of asking her out, ask her if she'd like to try going out sometime or try a relationship. That might work out better. But ask her if she likes you first.
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A Valentine Dance is coming up and I'm nervouse to ask someone out. I usally give advice, but now I need some one to help me ask a girl out.
Nervouse (link)
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Just relax, don't get yourself all worked up or you won't get up the nerve to actually do it. Just relax, be chill about it and just simply ask, "Hey, you wanna go to the dance with me?". If they say yes, you're good to go. If they say no, just be like, "Okay, that's cool." It'll be fine, just don't worry about it so much. Biggest thing is to relax.
It could always help if you had someone else you'd like to ask, too. But if the person who you want to ask is the only one and they say no, there's nothing wrong with going to the dance solo. Either way, have fun! :)
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what is a good way to ask a heavy metal guy to a prom?! and when should i ask him cuz our prom is in may. (link)
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1)"Hey, wanna go to prom with me?"
2)Not too soon, wait a few months or so. Maybe March or April.
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I like this guy and I think he likes me. he dosent pick on any one but me. does he like me (link)
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Well, thats not a lot of info to go on there, is it? But its possible, he may like you. If you're interested, try flirting with him and see what happens. If you aren't, just ignore it and he'll get the hint.
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i starting to really like this guy and he likes my bestfriend but she doesnt like him at al. what should i do, should i just try to stop liking him? (link)
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Well, if you know for a FACT that your friend doesn't like him, try just flirting with him. Eventually, he's gonna figure out that your friend has no romantic interest in him so that problem will be out of the way. Try talking to him more, flirting and so on. If it's meant to be, eventually(with much flirting and getting to know him) he'll fall into the palm of your hand.
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im 14 going on 15/f. ive never had a b/f but ive had this one crush for 2 yrs. now! Were good friends now and lately all of my friends have had b/f. i kinda feel left out, but being single is fun 2! i kno this sounds wrong...to me it does 2, but lately all ive wanted 2 do is grab my crush and just kiss him! i think i have a problem...what should i do! please help!~ (link)
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You think you have a problem? Because you want to kiss your crush? I see nothing wrong with that.
Now, if the ONLY reason you want to kiss your crush is BECAUSE your friens all have boyfriends, then you might want to think about how you actually feel about your "crush".
Ask yourself. Do you want your crush to be your boyfriend? Really? Or do you prefer being single and just daydreaming/dreaming about your crush? Think about it for a while and if you decide you want a relationship with your crush, go for it and ask him out. Best of luck!
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im madly in love with my best friend, lets call him chandler (sorry i like that name lol). well chandler knows i like him but he still wants to be my best friend because he knows that i like him and i never want to lose him. well i really want to ask him out but last time i asked this guy out he said no because im more of a girl whos friends with a guy and not girl friend material. i think chandler sort of agrees with him so how do i make him like me? we like the same stuff and we are always constently touching each other and laughing like its no big deal. i really like him but i want him to like me the same way back. any suggestions??
signed,
MaD LoVe (link)
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Well, you can't actually MAKE someone like you or even love you. But what I'd do is just keep flirting like it sounds like you are but don't lay it on TOO thick. You don't wanna scare him off. After a while, I'd suggest talking to him about it and asking him if he'd think it wouldn't work for you two to go together. But for now, I'd say just give it time and keep flirting with him like you are. Keep the relationship the way it is now.
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i've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. he comes over almost every day, considering he lives in the neighborhood next to me. every time he comes over, he thinks we always have to do stuff sexually. and the last time i saw him, i asked him if everything has to be about sex and he said yes. should i dump him, talk to him, not see him as much? help! thank u! i rate high =) (link)
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Personally, I think you should dump him. Here's why: If he thinks that all your relationship needs or is based upon or requires is some form of sexual activity, why would you want to be with him? It's apparent he thinks that everything you two do together has to in some way involve sex so I don't really think he thinks much of your relationship except for that he can think sex is the most important thing between you two. If thats the kind of relationship you're going for, then go ahead and stay with him but if you want more than that, I doubt he's gonna change so I suggest you make some changes of your own. Starting with who your boyfriend is.
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im 14 almost 15 and i have never had like a real boyfriend should i be worried that im going to go to prom alone because i think about it a lot (link)
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Give it time, I'm sure you'll find someone eventually. But if you're too impatient, flirt with the guy you like. Never hurts to try!
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hey yall i jus found out that my bf is probly cheating on me and this stuff happens to me all the time i always get used at and it really sux and wel i jus dont no how to deal with it cus wenever this stuf happens i get really depressed and shit and i think about cutting and stuff but i never actualy do it i jus need sum way to get out of this place or idk i jus idk (link)
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You don't need to deal with that kind of crap. If a guy is cheating on you, dump him. No one is worth your time that isn't going to want to be with you and only you.
Don't get so down though. Your life shouldn't depend on whether a guy likes you or not. Just go back to the feild and find yourself someone new that will care about you and won't cheat on you. Don't settle for what you think you deserve. Everyone deserves the best.
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my boyfriend is moving to new jersey at the end of this month..we're both 13 and we really like eachother but i dont know if i should break up with him..right now we live on long island..but should i break up with him since hes moving to new jersey? i have NO idea what to do!!! please help!! (link)
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If you think that you both can maintain a long-distance relationship, go for it.
However, you're both young and you'll probably meet someone new. You probably won't be able to see each other as often as you like and it might just be easier to break up and stay friends. Other than that, I don't know what to say so I hope I helped!
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I'm 14/F n im goin out with what some people call a 'player' everyone is telling me that i should break up with him right away. but i cant! he makes me so happy and i really like how he makes me happy if im upset or anything. i feel i can really talk to him about anything and everything. my friend (who is a guy) is telling me now that my boyfriend has hit his past girlfriends! i dont know if thats true or not. everyone seems to be against my going out with him and i dont know what to do anymore. they're telling me that he is going to ruin my life and im making a huge mistake by staying with him! i dont know if i should break up with him or stay with him. but he makes me soo happy and thats why i dont want to break up with him! i just dont know what to do. if anyone has any advice please give it to me, id really really appreciate it. thank you.. (link)
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You don't want to be with someone who isn't going to be faithful and trustworthy. Sometimes the majority knows more than it seems. Do a little research, talk to his past girlfriends about what you've heard.
If he really makes you that happy and he seems like the kind of guy you want to be with, go ahead and try it but if you're still worried about what people are saying, do what I said before and ask his past girlfriends about it. You might be able to talk to his friends, too.
Let me know how it goes
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Okay so i have this friend that we will call David. He's my best friend, but I think i like him and he might like me, im not sure. I can't get him outta my mind. I'm going crazy. Should I tell him that I like him or just keep it to myself? I mean I tell him everything and he came to my b-day parties and everything. I really don't know what to do. I hope someone can help me soon.
Signed,
Confuzzed (link)
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It's funny, I was actually in your situation not long ago. If you and him are really close, I suggest confronting him about it. Ask him how he feels about you, if he'd ever want more to your relationship. If he seems nervous or distant, back off and leave the subject alone. At least a little while. He might not like you more than a friend or he could just be embarassed because he DOES like you like that. If you're too scared to confront him directly, you could always try dropping subtle hints (always seeming approachable, try and be "accessable" whenever he might need you(but don't let it seem like you have nothing better to do with your time). Smile at him a lot(don't over do it!)
Let me know how everything works out :)
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ok i went out with this guy i regret it and i made a mistake by breaking up with him. we still like eachother things r good we r still friends and i want to go out again (he doesnt kno that tho). he just told me how he thinks we should be friends with benefits. do you think this could lead into a relationship or does he want to keep it this way? help. thanks xox (link)
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Well, you really need to talk to him about this. You're only going to get yourself hurt if you want more in the "relationships" and he just wants to be friends with benefits. Talk to him about it, and regardless of how scary it may seem, tell him how you feel. If he's really worth your time he'll stay your friend or maybe go out with you again. Maybe he likes you the same way that you like him and he's just trying to make it seem like he doesn't? Take a little time to talk to him about it and find out if he really does want more to the relationship. Don't settle for anything.
To answer your other question, it may or may not lead to a relationship. This could be his way of staying close to you or he may only be looking for fun. You need to talk to him about this.
Tell me how it all worked out! Good luck!
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