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Hello out there! My name's Kim AKA PurplePudgyPenguin or PPP. I'm happily 16! I'm young but I'm smart (at least my friends claim, I dont think so though, lol, I'm such a nerd) Well, if you want some advice, despite how young I am, I'll be more than happy to give it to you. So just send me an email, or write on my advice column. Thank you all! Stay positive and live life to its fullest. Byez!!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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well i really like these 2 guys but the one guy broke up with me and his life is really messed up but hes willing to take me back and the other guy is soo nice and sweet but i like the other guy more. im a 13 year old female.

Hello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG today! Hm... I have to think of something amusing to get you into high spirits. Hm... Amusing.. amusing...? *Cough, cough* Ick... I'm eating watermellon and I choked on a seed. It was an evil seed, but I spit it on the floor and my kitty ate it. Good kitty! Yay! I did it. And yep, that really did happen *Nods*.

Down to business! Okay, I can think of a few things to help you out. These are suggestions! It doesn't mean you pick one and think it'll magically work like a fortune cookie. Doesn't happen that way. Only you can decide what to do. These are just to help the gears in your brain work along and get you through it. Much like a cross-stitch sewing thing. Someone can help you out, but its up to you to finish your masterpiece up.

1) Don't date the guy who's got a rough life just for pity. There's no love there, just well... pity. It won't last anyways.
2) The second guy sounds so sweet. But get to know him better. Take your time with studying him. Hang out with him at school. If he's still sweet and nice, go for him.
3) Same as B. If the other boy you broke up with is having a messed up life, then hang out around him. If he's getting distasteful, or you just can't take it anymore, don't go for him. But you said you liked him better, so you may end up staying with him.
4) Make a chart. List things you look for in a guy. Pair the two up together. See which one is more appealing to you. Don't make it into a contest and just go "yep, he wins". You need to be HONEST with yourself. If not, you may as well flip a coin.
5) What do you know? Flip a coin! If you just can't decide, flip a coin. Date one guy for two weeks, tell the other you may still be interested in him to make sure he doesn't go off with another girl. I suggest dating the nice guy first. Get to know each boy. Whichever one you feel more comfortable with, take him.

I know this probably doesn't help much, and you're probably thinking I'm psychotic (random person: flip a coin?!?! Who comes up with that? / ppp: aw. =( ), but I really do hope I helped in some way shape or form. If not, there are plenty of other advice givers who would be more than happy to help you out. Take care!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Hey my name is Rachel and my bofriend jesse and i are both 17 years old and the problem is that we don't have any classes together and my mom won't let me see him after school i've talked to her about it I talk to him on the phone quite alot and the only time I ever see him is about 15 minutes at breakfast before the bell rings at school what should I do?

Hi there I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your advice giver this wonderful...evening? Well it's evening for me anyways. Anyways! I'm a huge romantic! I feel kind of guilty for telling you some bad, evil ideas, but this is all I have. These are SUGGESTIONS and - (random person: you started this out really badly / ppp: i know. No muse today.. / rp: then why are you giving advice in the first place? / ppp: .. cause i'm a good person? / rp: pft!) and you should do whatever your heart tells you to do. Don't just snatch one of the ideas I provide for you and think it's going to work. It all depends on you.

1) See him after school anyways. Make up an excuse to tell your mom. Say something such as, "I'm just going over to ___ *insert girl friend's name here* for a study session, I'll be back __ *insert time*". I know you'll feel guilty for lying to your mother, but that's the only way I can think of you getting around her.
2) Just tell the truth! Come out to her and say that you love your boyfriend. Tell her you'll do anything to keep him, even if that means disobeying your mother. But be very, very cautious. Bring this matter down gently and maturely. Your mother still has the rights to ground you. Be calm when you tell her and make no threats or insults towards her.
3) Once again, tell the truth. Not like 2, just say you're meeting up with your friends when you actually are. Invite your boyfriend along beforehand and hang out with him there. It could be as simple as a basketball/football/volleyball, any kind of game thing. Or just at practice somewhere.
4) Call him up secretly. Wait for you mother to go to bed and let your heart flutter. If your mother tends to catch you, just say it was one of your girl friend's asking for homework advice. If she asks about the time, say that she was having MAJOR troubles. (^_^ I'm so evil! I did this with my mumsie too. Word of advice, never try this two times in a row. They tend to catch on).
5) Make him your tutor! Or you be his tutor. Get permission from either your teacher or principal before doing so. Get a note and give it to your mother. She may tell you off and ground you for doing so, but then she'll have the school system to deal with. It'll definately be a good back up, and a great way for you to see your boyfriend.

Remember, these are suggestions, and nothing more. It's up to you to do whatever you feel is best. I do hope things work out between you and your boyfriend. What you're doing to see him is inspiring! *dreamy sigh* Unfortunately, my boyfriend is on my parents' goodside, no sneaking out or anything there. Well, time to cut this off before I bore you anymore. Take care!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Hi my name is Vanessa. I live in the UK although all of my family are in South Africa. My husband is English and we have a little boy who is 14 months.

Where to begin. My husband and I have been having A LOT of problems over the past year. The birth of our son has put a lot of strain on our relationship to the point that we no longer have a relationship.

I no longer want him to touch me, we fight all the time. He is constantly calling me names. I am constantly putting him and his family down.

I have always been a little unstable. I have a history of drug abuse (3 years ago now) I was anorexic for a few years (5 years ago) I am slightly depressive and latley, I can feel myself getting more and more unable to cope.

I am in a lot of debt and that brings about a lot of financial stress. Instead of supporting each other, we use each others problems as ammunition when we argue.

I am very needy and I desperaly want someone to love me and touch me and look after me. I would not be able to cope on my own and moving to South Africa is not an option because of the debt that I am in the UK.

I need a realtionship where I am supported but I know I will not get it from my current husband. He will not go to a therapist because he can not open up to people. He says that I have made him that cold and suppressed. I don't think that is true.

We are both unhappy and have needs that are not being met. The solution would be to move on but how can I with a small baby and no friends or family in the uk??? I think that I would fall apart on my own. I think I would drive myself mad. I have done it before.

I have thought about therapy but I can not afford a therapist! I can not go on the NHS (free medical care) because that will go on my record and my husband has told me several times that he will fight for custody for our son and he will use my instability against me.

I love and cherish my son. He wants for nothing. I give him everything he needs and everyone I know says that I am an unbeliveably good mother who lives for her son. I would never in a billion years hurt him. I do fear that my husband will take him away from me if I see a therapist on the NHS.

I need a solution. Some advice. Someone that can put themselves in my situation and help me to figure out what I should do next.

I am desperatly unhappy :( Please help :)

Thanks for your time!

Hi there Vanessa! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin, AKA Kim, and I'll be your AG on this monday __ (I'm tired of writing morning, evening, night... I'm always wrong).

Oh my... Honestly you've pointed out every single piece of your problem, I'm very, very impressed. However, I've never been married before (*Big sign hangs over head flashing 'Only 16* *Rips it down*) or had a son. You sound like a very terrific mother, and for that I just want to give you a big hug! Your son is so lucky to have someone so willing to care for him. Through my eyes, you're someone I'd like to look up to - not saying this for an 'aw' reaction or anything, I mean it - because you see your son's welfare above your own. You're ready to face your husband to keep him by your side. You've got a great sense of motherly instict and I am greatly impressed by that. I can't tell you much more of what to do. You want to start over with a new lover, and you don't wish to be with your husband any longer. It's a tough call, since you have your son to worry about. You're cornered, and feel trapped (I'm imagining myself in your position. So I'm taking this through what I would feel. Sorry if it's inaccurate ^^; ), and you don't see any way of getting out. I'm so sorry to say this, and I know you won't want to hear it, but for the sake of your son and your love for him, put aside your own needs. I know it hurts and you're probably thinking, "This girl's only 16! She doesn't know what it means..." and in fact I don't, but I don't think having a new lover is worth giving up the son you already love very much. I was thinking, I'm no genious in the law category, but if you got a divorce paper that joins custody of your son, wouldn't that sum things up? Maybe I watch too much 'Liar, Liar' but I thought you could do that. I'm so sorry, I'm so clueless here. I'm not helping much am I? I really should just end it here.

I'm so sorry. This advice is by far the worst I have given, but since no one gave you any, I thought I'd lend a hand. I'm very, very, very sorry for not being of better help and/or assistance. I hope I did at least something. You are a very good mother, never forget that. What you're doing for your son is breath-taking and inspiring. Don't give up for a moment. Don't let your husband win. And you never know, maybe if you are patient with him, he'll start to lessen up with the fights. Another thing, I know it'll hurt your pride and once again you'll probably be thinking i'm amateur here, but give in a bit. Tell him your sorry, try to make the rift between the two of you slacken up. For the sake of your son. I'm sorry. It's not what you want to hear, I know. I can picture having someone say that to me and thinking they don't understand and it's none of their business. I'm so, so, so sorry again! I hope I helped.. again! If not, there are thousands of other AG's ready to help you out. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Well one of my best friends cuzin was over and he cute nice and funny so i told sammythat i liked him....wellshes was like you should tell him cause you guys keep flirting and its so cute and i was like no i dn think he does and all that bull but in the end sammy told him i did so he kept asking me to make sure sam wasnt leing and i didnt answer him...I only did once outa like 100 times of him asking well i like him but ive had problems with guys in the past cause im not a pretty girl...so some tll me the oters are just my friends and i hate liking somone then know that i would have no chance so thats why i never told anyone before sam that i ever liked someone...well after i said yes taht i liked him then sam was like oh you guys are going out thats so cute...i just gave her a dirty look cause he never asked me.Then i told sam that and she told him again so shes my middle man i guess well he asked me and i said yes which i never was saposed to because my dad says i cant date till i married and im only a girl im not a women yet so i wanna but my dad would flip i know its because he cares about me and doesnt want to see my hurt but he cant protect me forever and i want to start dating and i know not to have sex...and if i do condom im not stupid and im not ganna throw my goals away cause there mroe inportant to my now then ever.but im to young to even think about sex so im definetly not ganna do it...well anothenyasked me if i had kissed before and i was like i shouldnt answer that but i said no cause i never had..and i belive in the first kiss has to be important.well he kept asking me questions about kissing and if i would and everything but i told him that im not ganna kiss him and everyone was like if you even hold hands ill kill you so...im to young to do anything and i wanna know that hes the right guy and the real reason i dont wanna kiss him because at the end of the summmer i wont see him cause i cant be like ohh im going to the movies with a guy cause my dad would come and sit i row behind me so yeah hechsha no and i wont see him so i wanna tell him why bother cause i dont wanna just be your penpal cause i like him and hes nice and i dont wanna hrt his feelings but the first kiss he ever had he was four!!!what is that...
i wanna tell him and not let sam but am i doing it for the right resons>>>?

*Looks at the top of advice box* .. Ever notice it says "Your brilliant answer"? But my answers aren't brilliant... O.O whoops! Sorry, my mind sometimes just... leaves... *cough, cough* Anyways!
I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG on this monday evening (morning, night,... you know what I mean). It sounds like this guy is just a small crush to tell you the truth. Don't worry about hurting his feelings. It'll sting for a bit of course, but the guy will get over it and nurse his wounds. Infatuations don't last long (trust me). Basically, dont get your hopes up with this boy. On a side note, you could hook up with him. Just - Oh boy... evil teen-to-teen advice again. I really need to stop with this stuffs xDD - fib to your dad and say you're going with some group of GIRL friends. I say 'fib' because it's better than 'lie' you see. ^^;; I'm kind of a rebellious teen. Nah, don't lie unless you really, really, REALLY want to be with someone. But if you want to lose him, just tell him. Write him a note to make it easier on you both, or gain the courage to tell him face-to-face. Up to you. Email him, send him a note, write a message in the sky.. anything that makes you feel comfortable.

I hope my advice was worth reading. I apologize for it's blehness, i'm braindead right now. There are thousands of other AGs who would love to help you. So don't be afraid to ask some of them for help. Hope I helped! Good luck!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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every boyfriend iv ever had has beet me up.they have choked me,kicked me,punched me.chased me and jumped me,some of my guy friends have hit me with bats and the list gos on and on.i have NEVER had a boyfriend who hasent.there has to be somthing wrone with me because even some of my guy friends have beet me up. whats my problem that i always get beet up.13/f im currently single

*Too shocked to give her proper introduction*
THEY HIT YOU WITH A BAT?! THEY CHOKED YOU!!?? Oh my..! Honey, honey, honey. First of all, if you were here, or if I was there i would give you the biggest hug I've ever given to anyone! That's just aweful! And you're 13, no less! (Oh I always hate these message back and forth things. I'd like to get more details of what enviroment you live in, your parents background, and the type of people you hang out with. But since we're doing this I'll have to use my imagination I suppose.) Honey, I can think of three things you should do, but trust me you don't have to. If you feel uncomfortable at all with any of the suggestions, just turn away and follow what you think is right. This is advice, not an order or instructions.

1) Go to your parents or an adult you trust. Tell them more thoroughly your problem. I'm not telling you to rat on any one of your exboyfriends, you do NOT have to give them their names. But try to seek help ASAP.
2) They're young, they're boys, they don't know how fragile we women are. What seems like them chasing you and hitting you with bats might just be their way of growing up. (*Remembers hitting her brother in the head with one of the inflatible bats...*) Ok so the same principals don't apply. I doubt myself here, but it could happen.
3) If you're embarrassed, or frightened to tell your parents or guardian or teacher or whoever, go to a friend you trust. Spill your heart out, cause that's what friends are for. You do NOT ever have to put up with this alone. There's always going to be someone there to help you and pick you up when you fall. Also, do try to stay away from boys who seem quick to anger or who just haven't matured enough. Wait awhile until your knight in shining armor comes along. You'll know it, believe me. He's going to be sweet, handsome, and charming. Totally disney *dreamy sigh*

Once again, none of these could be right. Except the last part of 3, cause that's a happily ever after ending and those are sooo purdy and coot! ... *cough, cough* Moving along. You should do whatever your heart and mind tells you to do. You don't have to take this abuse any longer. Believe in yourself, and the fact that you're strong. You're a woman after all. ;D

If the advice I've just given to you is not of your liking, or you just plain hate it, turn to another AG. There are thousands of people who are more than willing to help you out. I do hope my advice works in some way shape or form. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

P.S. THANKS FOR THE FEEDBACK!! In fact, I do have an e-mail. ultrasonic_kitty@hotmail.com. You can contact me there if you'd like. Thanks again for the rating and comment. I'm so glad I made you happy. ^_^

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So, over the summer I fell in love with my best friend. You see, I moved to Germany and left him behind and went to visit him over the summer. Well, we slept together, numerous times. Towards the end of the summer I got a UTI (a urinary track infection)... and I couldn't get it treated until I got back to Germany. So my mom made a doctors appointment for 2 days after I got back. Well, the doctor wanted to give me a pap smear, but she checked my urine and found too much bacteria in it, so the pap smear wouldn't make a difference. Now I've been taking medicine for my infection for almost a week. yet I'm still bleeding a little bit, and I bled the whole week and a half I had it. Which I don't know if that was my period gone astray or if it was because of the UTI. I've been noticing some symptoms of pregnancy. I'm eating more, peeing more, feeling nauseous in the morning, and sometimes all day. My boobs are swollen and I've been tired a lot. And I'm going to try and get a pregnancy test sometime this week, but I'm afraid. I'm not afraid of being pregnant, I'm afraid of not being pregnant. I love my boyfriend very much, and can't stand to be away from him anymore. His parents won't even let him come visit me. Maybe if I was pregnant, they'd have to let him come? And if not, I'd have something of his... something we CREATED together to keep me sane. Do you think I could be pregnant? Or just crazy? Maybe it's from stress. I know if you think you're pregnant, you're body will sometimes think you're pregnant as well and you'll get the symptoms.

Hey there hun! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG on this lovely monday evening ( or morning, or night... I have no clue what time it is where you are ). I'm no doctor, and frankly I'd rather not become one (blood... ick...) but it sounds to me by the symptoms you described in the earlier message that you indeed are pregnant. I'm 16, so I've never been pregnant before, but I've heard about it and I think you hit the nail on the head. I can't give you a positive answer, that's what pregnancy tests do, but I can guess that you are carrying your boyfriend's child. First off, please let me inform you that having a baby around may ruin your relationship with your bf, but it could help it all the same. You shouldn't hope that you're pregnant to paste together your relationship. I know it hurts to lose someone you love, and it probably scares you to look ahead. It scares everyone. Ever notice how a child seems to be wary before they try something as simple as a food? They get scared too. It's natural. Don't fret one bit until you've got a positive yes/no answer. But don't count on your bf coming to your side. You may be out of luck there. For the most part, you sound so excited to have this child. And GOOD FOR YOU! Many women become very scared and have abortions or become rather clingy to other people. You're facing this situation head-on. Great, great job! I'm proud of you for that. Honey, whatever happens, don't be scared of the future. Embrace what happens with open arms. you'll need a positive attitude for the baby, if it even exists (once again not giving you a yes or no answer ^^). I wish you the best, best of luck with your boyfriend. I really hope things work out with you and you have a beautiful baby and end up together with him. Disney ending would fit you just fine.

If the advice isn't to your liking, or if you are unsatisfied, there are plenty of more Advice givers that can kick what I just said in the rear. (I sound like a corny advertisement xD). So don't be afraid to turn to any one of us. I really hope things work out and my advice helps.

Luvs
~PPP~

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Ok, so I like this one guy(let's call him Ben), and he likes me. He's already kissed me, and I am REALLY tempted to kiss him back later. Problem is, my mom doesn't want me to date until I'm 16, and if I do date him, then before I do, I have to take him home to see if she approves.

Well, everybody knows that I like him and that he likes me back, and a friend of mine asked him if he'd be my boyfriend for me. He said yes, and I guess we're a couple now, but I haven't taken him home or talked to mom about it yet. What do I do?

P.S. I'm 13 and I'm a girl.

SOO SORRY FOR THE LATE RESPONSE!!!

And, unfortunately, I no longer give advice on this site anymore. If you still need help, you are more than welcome to send me an email at ultrasonic_kitty@hotmail.com

I am soo sorry, once again dear! I'll be sure to help you as best I can in my replied email!

~PPP~

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So, my boyfriend and I are weirdos who can never come up with anything to do. Just looking for some nice Valentines Day ideas. Thanks!

'ello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin, and I'll be your advice-giver for this wonderous saturday night. -dances to it, receives blank stares from readers- erm... *cough, cough* Down to buisness! Now, the following things I am about to list are my opinion. Your guy has his own mind, his own likes, his own hates, so I have no clue about his personality. I'm going to try to list the basics so bear with me. Here's the list of Valentine goodness!
1)A flower. Yep, yep. Guys are suckers for flowers, no matter how much they deny it. It's traditional and sweet, all at the same time. He'll love it.
2)A picture of you and him together. You dont need one of those fancy frames for this. Just cut out the picture in any funky shape you want, and stick it on a construction papered heart. And, of course, you can personalize it any way you'd like.
3)A video tape (if availible). Record yourself saying "This is why I love you." You can joke around, or write this on some paper. It's totally up to you.
4)A stuffed aminal (I mean uhm... animal). Get him a cute dog, or maybe a bear with one of those hearts stuck to its paws. What kind of a guy could turn down a fuzzy animal to cuddle when he misses you in the night?
5)A mix tape. Totally up to you on this, and of course, if it's availible for you. Some people dont have cd burners, that's understandable. If you do, just burn some of his favorite songs onto a disc, including a few of your own, and give it to him. He'll probably be listening to it all night long, dreaming of you.
6)Make him a card! Corny, yep, I know it. It may sound childish, but trust me, you're guy's gonna love it. Just slap some words onto a piece of construction paper, cut out some hearts, maybe draw some, and add a few sparkles, and ta dah! Your guy will totally hang it over his bed so he can wake up each morning and smile at it.
7)A big box of chocolate! Guys pig out, we, as women, know that (that's why they make us cook). He'll probably have those wolfed(or is it wolved? -shrug- my grammar isn't the best ^^'') down so fast that he'll have a stomach ache, but then, you can always be there to give him a hug and kiss and make it all better.
8)A hug! Your guy will melt when you encircle your arms around him. Trust me, every guy is a sucker for a hug.

As I said before, the list is totally up to you. You can say "No" to everything, or pick something and take your chance. Completely your choice. I hope that I've helped, and if not, there are plenty of other advice-givers that could totally kick my butt at this type of stuff. Anyways, I do hope I did help. Have a great V-Day!! Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Hey You Guys,

Well you know the big day is coming up Valentines Day and im so happy that i have a boyfriend for V-day but i dont know what to get him. I asked him to give be suggestions but he said he doesnt know and i dont have to buy him anything. But i do. And the only thing i have for him so far is 5 carnations. So help me out please..Thanks so much

Take Care Everyone_____

Hello there! My name is PurplePudgyPenguin, and I shall be your advice-giver for the evening. Ok, down to busyness... erm, buisness. Alright, first off, the carnations, great job! Guys may not like the whole flowery idea but that's a pretty good tradition and, even if your guy isn't all into flowers, he's gonna love them anyways. Hm.. I'm just going to say my opinion, since I dont know this guy, nor what he likes/dislikes. You can just look at this list and go, "Nope... Nope... Nope... yeeeeeea-nope..". You can by all means do that, since you know him and his personality far more than I do. Ok, now here's the list (of what I think, remember this is just a suggestion. You do NOT have to get him these things if you know he wont like it).
1)A teddy bear!! Oh c'mon, who doesn't want something warm and fuzzy to cuddle with at night when you're not there.
2)Chocolate! Forget the dog, candy can be a man's best friend (except for mine, he doesn't eat candy but... MOVING ALONG!)
3)A mix tape! It's simple and cheap. Just burn him some of his fave songs, including a few of your own, and hand it to him. That way, he'll have something to remind him of you whenever he turns on his cd player.
4)A create-your-own card! What kind of a guy can refuse one of those cute little construction paper cards made by his true love? All you need is markers and glue, no artistic ability needed (it's cuter if you just scribble ^^)
5)A poem or a brief list of why you love him. You dont have to be a genious in english to write this. Just take a list of his favorite sports, colors, shapes, underwear, whatever! You dont have to make a poem, just list some things, each starting with "This is why I love you..." and then at the end, end with something sweet.
6)A hug. Awwwww who could refuse one of those? It shows your guy you care and that you love him bundles. It's short, but has a lot of meaning.

The list is pretty corny, I'll admit. I hope that some of them work out for you. If not, I'm really, really sorry. I do hope I gave you some ideas though. If not, there are many more advice-givers that would be more than happy to fill the slots. I truly hope I helped. You take care and have a happy valentine's day!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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okay. this is complicated. so i liked this kid. lets say his name is brian. so i liked brian and he had a girlfriend and then he dumped her and he was like immediately flirting with me. like we were at the school basketball game and he was like so can i use your phone and i passed it to him and it had all service bars and then he said oh i think i need to use it outside will you come with me and so i did and we madeout before his mom came and i felt bad for his ex since it as like a day after and im kinda friends with her. but now i reallly like him and its now like a week since the basketball game happened and we wanted to hang out but he always has like lacrosse and hockey so its almost like we can never hang out and we were supposed to hang out friday but he was talking to my friend because we were going to hang out with her and her boyfriend too and he said he didn't wanna hang out anymore. and now he like doesnt even talk to me and i know he doesnt really even like me anymore. basically what im asking is like what can i say to him to make him see that i like him a lot and just want a chance but not make myself seem so desperate. i really like him!

Hello out there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'll be your AG (advice-giver) for the morning. Ok, now down to buisness. It seems like this guy, Brian, is not a very friendly puppy. He probably was only infatuated with you, not in love with you. Or he could've just been trying to get back at his ex, or make you feel bad. Guys are like that sometimes. Some could love you to death, and some would spit on you as they watched your heart shatter. It hurts, I know the feeling. It's the reality of life that makes it hurt so bad, really. Guys will love you, use you, or ignore you. Us, as girls, just have to accept it. Now, as for your question, I dont think this guy is worth even your energy. Obviously, he's trying to give you the cold shoulder. Then again, this is my opinion, so I'll give you a few suggestions. 1) You could straight out tell him that you like him and that you want him to take you back; 2) You can ask him questions about homework and what-not and view his responses. If he seems annoyed, dont even try anymore, but if he's tolerant, than keep going until you can hint to him that you still like him; and 3) Keep hanging out with him. As before, if he's annoyed then there's not much more you can do, but if he allows you to hang out with him, stay friends until you're confident enough to talk to him and tell him right out how you feel. Still, I dont think this guy is even worth your time. But! As I have said before, it is my opinion.
I really hope I helped. If not, there are plenty of other AG who would be more than happy to help you out. It'll work in the end. Good luck, girl. Stay strong, and if the match up doesnt work, move on, find another guy; one who'll love you until the end of time. Take care! Have a good Saturday!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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ok i like this guy. me and him made out last friday. he likes me and i like him. he asked me out but i said no at first because i liked this otehr guy as well and he new that. well i decide that i wanted to be wit him so i called him a few days later and he said he didnt want a gf after thinking aobut it. that really sucked for me because i useally get attached to guys if i kiss them. so i was a little upset. me and him are still good friends we flirt a lot and hang out. but hes a little shy so its hard somtimes to like flirt with him becaus ei flirt with other guys too. but today he looked so cute, lol! and i just think to myself that i made such a mistake by saying no. im happy me and him are friends but skool year is almost over and i wont talk to him for like the whole sumer and i will really miss him alot. and i just wish there was something to do. i just hate myself for saying no at first. what should i do? im upset and i like him and he likes me and i just dont no how to feel?

hello! I am Super PurplePudgyPenguin, here to save the day! -cape flies and smacks her in the face- Heehee, excuse that. Anyways, before I chase you away with my total insanity, time to get down to buisness. It sounds to me like this guy and you are pretty tight. You two sound closer than close can be. It's so sweet to hear. If he said that he didn't want a girlfriend, it basically means, he needs time. He may not know how to take rejection, and this is the way his heart is healing, or how he is adapting to it. Just hang out with him, flirt with him, and maybe, just maybe, he'll start to warm up to you like a boyfriend should. Then you should ask him out again. Tell him how much you love him, how hurt you felt when he turned you down. If this guy is the right one, he cant possibly say no to that. If he does, by chance, turn you down again, then remain friends and dont go any further than that until he's ready to. You can date other guys when you stay just friends and you never know, the next guy that comes along might be your knight in shining armor after all.
Well, I truly hope I helped you out. If not, there are other advice-givers that'll be more than happy to answer your question, WAY better than what I can come up with. Take care, hun! I hope my advice as been of use and not just bathroom reading material (heehee, that's what one of my friends calls it but she's a dorkus ^^). Byez!!!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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Wow, this might take a lot of typing.
Ok, so there's this guy I like, I'll say his name is Joe. Well Joe is like the greatest guy ever, except he doesn't exactly live in my town. He lives in a whole different state. I understand that you all will say I'm too young to know what love is, but yes we do say we love eachother, however we're not going out. Now, there's a guy here who likes me and I like him a little bit, and he keeps asking me out. I just don't know what to say to him because I don't want Joe to get mad. But no matter what I do, one of them is going to get mad at me. I don't know who to pick...or how to even get out of this situation without hurting anyone. I like Joe a lot more, but it's just so inconvenient that he lives so far away. And the other guy told me not to worry about it, but I know he doesn't really mean it. So, my question is...what do I say to them?

-sips coffee- ... -receives blank stares- Oh! sorry! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin. I'm here to help you out. Okies, first thing's first. If you truly love Joe and not this other guy, go for Joe. It doesn't matter where he lives, love makes no difference in distance, nor age, nor gender for that matter (yep, gender cannot stop someone from falling in love with that special someone. Heehee, got it from a bumper sticker :P) This other guy, doesn't sound like a person you can truly trust. I'd tell him that you're just not ready for a relationship and turn to Joe. He seems like such a sweet guy and I can totally relate to what you're going through. One day, you and Joe will totally be together and the distance will be just another obstacle you both will have to leap. Love's full of them, and I dont think your too young to understand love. I'm gonna tell you something very important -clears throat dramatically- Love is something an infant can understand. They love their mothers and fathers and sisters and brothers and even the grandmas who come and squeeze your cheeks so hard your face goes numb. Love can die, or love can live. It depends on the person's heart that will hold it inside. If you truly love Joe, but you only have feelings for this other guy, go for Joe, because more than likely, Joe's going to be the one who's going to catch you when you fall. Distance plays no role in love, it is merely that leap over the river that everyone must take. Dont worry about a thing. Just follow your heart and you'll be just fine.
I hope I helped. Honestly, I do. If I didn't, there are hundreds of other advice-givers that would be more than happy to help you out. Hope you have a good day and that everything works out just fine. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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There is this guy at school that is really smart and really nice and really... cute!!I don't think he even knows I exist though. I was wondering besides being myself, how to get his attention without the whole school finding out I like him. I want to talk to him but I don't know how or what to talk about since I don't even know him.

'ello there! PurplePudgyPenguin here! I'm going to be your advice-giver for the morning (Or evening, whenever you read this..). Well, that's a problem all of us girls have to face at some point in time. Yes, curse the male species for being so complex! -cough, cough- I'm ok. Ok. First of all, if you want to talk to him just bring up some question about homework or something simple. See his reaction for it. If he sounds annoyed, I would wait a few days, try again, and if you still get the same reaction, just drop your feelings. No guy acts that way towards you when you merely ask something is worth it. Now, if the reaction is in a positive, warm way. I'd definately go for it! Say things like, "Well, I've been having trouble on this math problem. Could you please help me?" Just get his attention for awhile. Then, little by little (and believe me, you'll need a lot of patience for this), build up a trust with him. Ask him if he'll be your partner for a science lab, or if he'll come with you to ask the teacher a question. This may sound obvious, and so what if people find out you like him? I know it'll be annoying to have rumors floating around and gossip in the air, but dont worry. As long as you still love him, your emotions are gonna be stronger than the words people exchange. Who knows? Maybe, just maybe, he has feelings for you too.
I hope I helped. If not, then there are plenty of other advice-givers that could kick my butt at this gig (or job. I like to refer to it as a gig cause it's too fun to be considered a job ^^). Take care, hun! If you have any other problems, I'm always here!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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So lately I've been hanging out with my boyfriend alot. We've been going out for about a year now and he's starting to get pretty confortible with me. I mean I love him to death. We're both 14 by the way. But-- sometimes he tells me things I don't need to know and I mean, it's nice that he can be himself around me, but he goes too far. And sometimes its just downright embarassing being with him, but I stick with him because I love him. All the guys think it's cool the things he does but most girls think it's just odd. I don't know what to do ... help!

-Hands her bubble wrap- ^^ Just pop that for the next 10 minutes that I'm going to gab away. I'm PurplePudgyPenguin, and I'm here to help ya out (Isn't that obvious? heehee. Thought so...) Well, it seems to me that this guy really likes you back in the same way you like him. Thus, his lack of verbal containment. But! If he makes you feel uncomfortable like that, you should tell him how you feel, or just change the subject. If he starts talking about something nasty (well... nasty or however you'd describe it. I dont know him so I cant classify it as anything and... moving on!) then just say, "Hey, what'd you think about the basketball game, last night?" or something of that sort. Just get off the subject for awhile and let him cool down a bit. If this persists and you just cant take it anymore, take a deep, calming breath, and tell him right out that you feel uncomfortable when he talks about those things. Tell him that you'd rather talk about something different. If he loves you with all his heart, he'll understand and let the subject he was talking about, just fall. He'll except your wishes and remain by your side, no matter what.
Well, I truly hope I helped you. As I always tell people, if I didn't give you the right answer, someone else here will. There are plenty of other advice-givers that could mop my advice up with a sponge. I hope you have a good day and that my advice really does help. Take care!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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I have a crush on this guy, actually it's more than a crush, I think I'm in love with him. We have been friends for 3 years, but I've always hoped we'd become more than friends. Well someone recently asked me what qualities about this man that I love attracted me to him. Then suddenly it dawned on me: He's exactly like my father!!! These are all the similarities:they both have dark hair and brown eyes, they both have really hairy chests, they are both very tight-wadded with there money, they are both workaholics, they both drink a lot of beer, they both are very flirtatious with woman, they are both humourous yet serious, they both have REALLY bad tempers, they both have been the boss of there own business, they both have been called an asshole behind there back, they both have been to court because of enemies made at work,they both are the oldest child, and they both have sex addictions (my dad cheated multiple times on my mom, and my crush admitted to me that he struggles with pornography.)
Well now that I've finally figured out why I'm so attracted to this man, it kind of grosses me out. Should I still have feelings for this man? Because in some perverted way it feels like I have feelings for my dad.
What should I do?

Hello there! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin and I'm here to... give advice (no duh, right? lol. Figured) Anyways -sips coffee and looks all professional- It doesn't seem to me like you shouldn't be too worried. If you really like this guy, you should push aside who he reminds you of and just love him for him. And actually, you're at a great advantage. If this guy is just like your dad, then your dad and him are going to get along perfectly! Dont worry about anything, you just have to ask yourself, "Do I still love him?" Now to answer this question (Yes, I am going to blab some more. MWAHAHAHAHA!). Try just hanging out with him for awhile. If you find yourself still majorly in love with him, then forget about who he reminds you of. You should just love him for him. Actually there is a saying like: "We marry our fathers" but forget about that. You love him for just him. Oh, and dont worry about feeling like you like your dad too. It's just an odd emotion that'll pass away soon. Just keep hanging with this guy and, before you know it, the thoughts of him reminding you of your dad, will fade away. I can't promise you that they'll just disappear because all minds are different and work in different ways. It's up to you if they fade faster or go slower.
I seriously hope I helped you. If not, there are plenty of other advice-givers here that are 10 times better than me. If I couldn't help ya, they definately will. Take care, hun! Have a good day!

Luvs,
~PPP~

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i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now when we first got together he said he does not want a relationship and that and his best mate even said not to do anything with him he will just get what he wants then leave but he did not and it did not bother me before but not i think that it may turn it to a realtionship and that but every time i see him i cant help but think that he is sleeping around with other lasses how can i tell if he realy likes me or not and if he is sleeping with other lasses one min he is close to me the next he acts distant please help i will rate

Hey there! I'm PPP and I'll be your advice giver for the evening (did that sound corny, I though so... sorry, hun. Just wanted to get you to giggle a bit). Well, down to buisness. Honestly, I know this may not be the answer your searching for, but if you can't trust him, he isn't the right one. I dont think cornering him is the right answer, it may just make him feel like you are being nosy and no girl wants their guy thinking that. He may distrust you after that too and that could drive him to actually cheat on you, if he wasn't before. I'd stick around him for a while, if you still can't trust him, then you have two options: 1) you can keep hanging with him and just see if the feeling will go away or 2) you get rid of him, not him, himself but just let your feelings fall. Seriously, a guy you can't trust is not the right guy for you. If you let him go, who knows, you might just find that perfect someone you could trust with all your heart and soul. You just gotta keep trying, that's the whole reason why we date, it's trial and error. I really hope I helped you out. If this isn't what you'd like to hear (I know it's not. I understand this, been through it) than you can always look deep down inside yourself, or ask your best friend. It'll work out in the end, you just gotta put your heart and feelings first.

Luvs,
~PPP~

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