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Wow, this might take a lot of typing.
Ok, so there's this guy I like, I'll say his name is Joe. Well Joe is like the greatest guy ever, except he doesn't exactly live in my town. He lives in a whole different state. I understand that you all will say I'm too young to know what love is, but yes we do say we love eachother, however we're not going out. Now, there's a guy here who likes me and I like him a little bit, and he keeps asking me out. I just don't know what to say to him because I don't want Joe to get mad. But no matter what I do, one of them is going to get mad at me. I don't know who to pick...or how to even get out of this situation without hurting anyone. I like Joe a lot more, but it's just so inconvenient that he lives so far away. And the other guy told me not to worry about it, but I know he doesn't really mean it. So, my question is...what do I say to them?
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well i would say go out with the other guy..you and "Joe" can continue this relationship after if you and your hometown boyy fail..Tell joe that it is wiser for you guys both to be realistic about it if you are pretty young then you and joe can go out later..If you like the guy who lives in your town and he likes you i say go for it..what you should say to joe is.."Joe" i like you alot but distance thing isnt working we both are really young and we probaly have a better chance going out with people in our own town..or if you pick Joe over your hometown boy say to the hometown boy..I like you too but i like another boy more than you i hope we can be friends and maybe we can go out if me and "joe" dont succeed hope my advice helppss
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A completely different state? Have you ever met him in person. I think you should try going out with the one who keeps asking you out. It seems like he's never going to give it a rest unless you go out with him. Plus, if you do kind of like him then give it a shot. You don't have to stay with him f you end up not liking him. Just give him the satisfaction of going out with you and thing's should be good.
I hope I helped!
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That depends what kind of a person you are. if you think relationships are about making out and yadda yadda yadda then go out with this other guy who lives near you. But if you are more interested in emotional strong relationships, then stay with "Joe".
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-sips coffee- ... -receives blank stares- Oh! sorry! I'm PurplePudgyPenguin. I'm here to help you out. Okies, first thing's first. If you truly love Joe and not this other guy, go for Joe. It doesn't matter where he lives, love makes no difference in distance, nor age, nor gender for that matter (yep, gender cannot stop someone from falling in love with that special someone. Heehee, got it from a bumper sticker :P) This other guy, doesn't sound like a person you can truly trust. I'd tell him that you're just not ready for a relationship and turn to Joe. He seems like such a sweet guy and I can totally relate to what you're going through. One day, you and Joe will totally be together and the distance will be just another obstacle you both will have to leap. Love's full of them, and I dont think your too young to understand love. I'm gonna tell you something very important -clears throat dramatically- Love is something an infant can understand. They love their mothers and fathers and sisters and brothers and even the grandmas who come and squeeze your cheeks so hard your face goes numb. Love can die, or love can live. It depends on the person's heart that will hold it inside. If you truly love Joe, but you only have feelings for this other guy, go for Joe, because more than likely, Joe's going to be the one who's going to catch you when you fall. Distance plays no role in love, it is merely that leap over the river that everyone must take. Dont worry about a thing. Just follow your heart and you'll be just fine.
I hope I helped. Honestly, I do. If I didn't, there are hundreds of other advice-givers that would be more than happy to help you out. Hope you have a good day and that everything works out just fine. Take care!
Luvs,
~PPP~
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You have to think about it like this.
Joe is a long way away. He will not be able to take you on dates and go to dances at school. If you see yourself having a serious relationship with him...its a long ways down the road. Really, it is.
The other guy (or any other in the future) can do those things with you. You can't just not go out and have fun because you like a guy who is far away. Trust me, he won't either.
So for now, Joe really isn't able to be anything more than just a friend to you. Maybe a very good one, and maybe in the future more than that. But. right now...today, he can't be.
So go out and have fun. Don't worry about Joe, tell him for now you are just friends. He is sure to understand. If he doesn't he will soon.
Good luck with whatever you decide. :)
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