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Hey I am Nicole and I love giving advice. I am great at giving advice about your love life and pretty much anything else. If you ever need a helping hand or feel like you just need to talk to someone I will always be willing to help out.
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Alright so Im 13/f and dont think that Im young that Im not allowed to have a boyfriend, we hug and hang out together and sometimes kiss. He is really sweet and nice and I like him but all the time he says we're not too young to date and he keeps saying 'i love you' to me and honestly, yes Im too young at this age to be in love! I used to say it back but now Im snapping back to reality! I dont love him! I like him a bit and thats all! I just dont know how to tell him this... Also, he is nice but he's weird and we have dated before (last year) and then I broke up with him because I liked another guy and then he asked me out in June and I thought I'd be ready for a relationship but I wasnt and I dont know how to say this to him because he has met my family and he will tell my sister and she will ask me why I dumped him! And then my dad will call me a heart breaker again! =(
Also, reccently, Ive started talking to this other guy named Sam. He acts like an idiot at school but over the summer Ive gotten to know him better and he is super nice and sweet and he's really cute =) He makes me feel good. We talk often and we always have sarcastic convos, but the other day we were talking and then he said, "Your cute:$" and I said "Sarcastic?" Sam: "No, like really your cute" Me:"Oh, your a cutie aswell =)" and so from now one when we say out goodbyes at the end of a convo, we either say "bye friend" or "bye cutie" but mostly the 'bye cutie' one! =) I think I might have a crush on him (he's a year younger than me but super nice and my boyfriend is the same age as me).
I just dont know what to do, my boyfriend never calls me like my 2 year older sister and her boyfriend call each other and I think I might need to break up with him. Ive been pracicing what I'd say and its something like" Look, your a really nice and sweet and funny guy but maybe your not the right one for me and I think we should both move on. When you asked me out, I thought I'd be ready 4 another relationship but I wasnt and Im still not. I just dont think we're as close as we were when we went out the 1st time... Im sorry, I dont want to hurt you."
How was that? too harsh? if I break up with him it'd be over facebook not the phone because last time I called him and broke up with him and he started crying and made me cry by crying =/ And I want to break up with him by August 19th (sunday) becuase I leave for my cottage the next day so I would get to take my mind off things. Anyways, what should I do about my current boyfriend, for a week Ive been trying to act like Im not interested so he would break up with me but its not working and also what should I do about Sam? ADVICE PLS?
Unfortunately there no good way to break up with someone. If you're unhappy in the relationship then break up with him. Also please dont break up through text. Try to face your problems in life head on. Taking the easy way out isn't always the best. If you at least call him he'll know he meant something to you. Also when you break up with your boyfriend dont rush into a relationship with the other guy. Like you said you thought you were ready for a relationship before and youre not. If this Sam guy really likes you and is a good guy he can wait a little. Take some time being single to find out what you really want. It'll avoids lots of heartaches. What you planned on saying to your boyfriend isn't harsh at all. Good luck(:
20/f - I was just wondering if it's normal to no longer have feelings for someone but hate the thought of him being with someone else. I realize that I am being incredibly selfish having such thoughts, but I don't know how to get over feeling like this. We broke up about a year and a half ago, and we've discussed getting back together, but it was never successful (either I'd want to but he didn't or he'd want to but I didn't). Even though I'm the one who broke it off after 2 years together, it took me a long time to stop hurting and accept the fact that I ended it because I was no longer happy in that relationship. I'm pretty sure that I'm over him because I'm aware of all the reasons that we were wrong for each other, but the thought of him with someone else really bothers me and eats at my thoughts almost every day. If it's not normal to feel this way after a breakup, especially since so much time has passed already, please tell me so that I can know how crazy I am for feeling like this and work on truly moving on.
No youre not crazy for feeling like this. It was a long relationship and even if you had problems and broke it off it still meant a lot to you. I think you are in the process of getting over him but you're not completely there. If you think that theres no possible way to make things work turn you have to continue on working on getting over him. During the time you dated you grew accustomed to him. Even the thought of him being with someone else is strange and bothers you. You may not love him anymore but you grew accustomed to his company. Realizing that he could go and be "company" (for lack of better words) to someone else is scary. Also Im very sorry it took this long to reply. If you ever need anything else dont hesitate to ask me. Good luck!(: Remember what you're feeling is normal and you just have to work on getting use to the fact that you guys aren't a couple anymore.
There is this guy I work in the same building with. He really likes me, he's said so several times and he always comes by my shop to talk to me. I feel like he is everything that I need right now. He is a really nice guy, makes me laugh.. he actually has his life together.. good job, life goals, his own place, nice car, etc..... That is a plus for me because I am notorious for dating losers. We seem to have a lot in common and I believe that I would have a really great time with him.
So my problem is that I am not physically attracted to him. He is tall, which I do like.. but he is also bald (& I normally date men with longer hair.) He is also kind of chubby... It sounds bad that I pay this close attention to looks, but I can't help it. Also the way he dresses is not what I am attracted to either. He is a little older than me though, I am 22 and he is 28, but the age difference doesn't bother me either. Could an attraction grow do you think? I feel like it would benefit me to date someone that is different from the normal type of men that I date. The few times that I have went out with him have been really nice though. So idk..
I went through the same thong your going through. I decoded to date the guy and it turned out to be a giant mess. He had a great personality but I wasn't happy in the relationship. Maybe you guy will be different, only you can figure that out. From my experience youll end up feeling guilty because you wont have that "spark". Then again everything in life isn't beauty. If you want a long term serious relationship this light be your guy. I suggest you go out to eat and if you start to feel different about him then you should date him.
OHaithere!
I am a boy and I am 13 years old. I am doing grammar school too. In my class, there is this girl I really like, but I am having troubles getting to know her properly, because we almost never talk ;(.
She is quite popular, and the guys and girls that she is befriend with, I like them as people, but they are not my friends. I always TRY to talk to her, and man up, but when I see her, I melt. Literally.
Help?
Go up and just say hi. Girls love confident guys(: good luck! You could just ask her for a hw assignment or something
Ok... I have a boyfriend and things are great except I really also like my best friend in so confused and need advice who do I pick I'm 14
If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.
Johnny Depp
Ok so that quote I think sums up what you should do. Clearly I'm aware that you don't love anyone right now but the concept is still the same. If you really liked your boyfriend you wouldn't be thinking about your best friend. Go talk to your best friend about how you feel. Good luck(:
13/F
ok so there is this guy,lets call him D and i have a friend, lets call her N.
D is one of my really close friends and so is N, i hang out with D every lunch and recess at school and know him really well, i only hang out with guys at lunch and recess but sometimes N comes 2.
i tell D everything along with N and other close friends, lets call them B,J,f, their are both male and E who is female and others that dont matter in this need of advice.
so one Saturday E came 2 my place for a sleepover and we both got really hyper at about 9pm and i called B and what i didn't know was D and J was at B's house for the night 2. and i said some really embarrassing things such as i really like D and i thought he had the cutest laugh/smile and some other really embarrassing things then B said D liked me and if D would ever ask me out, would i say yes and i said yes so B invited me to the movies with D and J and F on Sunday so i said yes straight away and wen i saw my mum i asked her if i could go and she said she would think bout it and the next morning she said no because she hasn't ever met the guys and would like them 2 come over before i go places with them :( so i texted B saying i couldn't come because i was going to the city with my family because i was 2 embarrassed to say mum didn't let me because she didn't know them.
The next day at school,we were doing maths and J said D was sad i bailed, and it was sorta awkward between me and D but the next day it was fine between us and i told N this and she likes him 2 and way before i ever told he i liked D she waz like if one of her friends would ever like D they would be stealign him and the day i told her about everything she was sorta sad.
So i am inviting all the guys 2 my place so we can hang with my mum letting me.
I asked if who D liked and he said me and i really wanna go out with D but i dont want to hurt N.
they are both my good friends.
PLZ HEPL!!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. please dont say stuff like chicks before dicks because D is important to me in a friendship way 2 and we are both really close friends so it wouldn't be stuff like chicks before dicks because D is my really close friend as well as N.
Never choose a guy(d) over a bestfriend(n). This guy may seem like them best thing on earth and your whole world right now but trust me you'll meet other people. Dating this guy would show what kind of a person you are but if you want to choose him over her then go on ahead.Beware of the consequences like a broken friendship. I think both of you should forget about this guy. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea:)
I am pretty much Fill out what I am feeling. I am try my best for anyone try to understand frist I let you know I do have grammer problem so try to bail with me. if you couldn't understand I can do like email thing and thing I know Advicenators don't want real long messages... so anybody that can be able read some long messages not just long just where it be to long on here. so My advice be on about Religon.. i have a boyfreind and well we have different beliefts and there more but hard to me to explaine that why i thought someone willing really try understasnd read longer messages.. comment me and i can inbox you my long needy advice...
You can inbox me:)
I'm 18/F
I've never been kissed, never been on a date, and have never been in a relationship.
Is that normal? I feel like i'm not good enough for anyone to love me, or even like me...
I mean... I've never really put myself out there, or flirted or anything, but no one's ever made an effort for me either.
I'm just kinda freaking out over this.
This is normal you have your whole life ahead of you to find a guy. I wish I would have waited longer, I would have saved my self stress and heartaches. If you do want to be in a relationship then you have to make some effort too. Go out have fun with your friends and if you see someone you like go up to them and talk. The worst that could happen is that they're not interested, no big deal. Good luck:) oh and one last thing set your priorities straight. Never let a guy be your whole world focus on school, work, family, friends and whatever else is in your life too:)
15/m i'm in high school and i want to know what girls like in a guy. like what kind of traits, and also, how do i start a conversation with a girl i like. please help! :)
Personally I love a guy with a sense of humor. Although Ive dated shy guys I like guys who have the courage to come up to me. Although it sound cliche it's true, be yourself. I hate when guys well anyone tries to be someone else. Good luck:)
i've been with this guy for almost a year now,i love him a lot but i feel like i'm not the right person for him,he wants a lot & at times i feel like i'm incompetent.
we fight about small things,things that don't really matter,things like him not being able to reach me because my phone is off,reason-network problems,& he knows that...
we fought yesterday morning & the day before,i have a boil at the mouth of my virgina & i told him about it,he said to me my blood is dirty.i then asked him if my blood is dirty how can the SANBS let me donate blood if my blood was dirty, then he said to me i have an sti...
ican't take it any more..what should i do?
Every relationship has it's ups and downs. If you really love him try to work things out. Never give up on something that once made you smile. If you give up now you might regret it in the future. If you feel like you can't take it anymore and their is no way to fix your relationship then break up with him. Just be prepared for the consequences. I hope I helped you.
Im really getting tired of girls acting like they know guys, "oh, he doesnt care because hes a man,and men care less about stupid little stuff, men move on faster" yada yada yada, they are human beings that have feelings, and just because they dont have the same exact body organ that we have doesnt mean anything,atleast thats what i think,lol.. anyways, me and my ex broke up like 1 month and a half ago, all his fault,all the way.. and hes kind of in that confused "phase" where he doesnt know what he wants , and i should give him some time,but i refused, we were together for a long time.. he bought a necklace, half for him and half for me, it says something very special between the both of us,and we both always used to wear it, we said it kept us Connected,i see him around, and he still wears it, all the time, and he doesnt even bother to tuck it in his shirt, he keeps it out all the time.. what do you think this means? if he didnt wanna be with me, why does he still wear it..
My friend was/is going through the same thing as you. Her boyfriend was "confused". They are clearly made for each other and they both love each other but they both screwed up. They broke up but never lost contact. They gave each other time and space to figure out what they wanted. Right now she's dating someone else and he still loves her vise versa. Give him some time but don't wait forever. My friend is still waiting for him but is so close to giving up. If he can't appreciate you Now he never will. Good luck:) my motto is never give up on something that once made you smile:) but sometimes people change and moving on is the best thing. I hope I helped and didn't just Confuse you more lol.
Okay well he broke up with me and then later that night he said he acted stupid and asked if I would take him back. He also said he loves me and has loved me since two years years ago when we started talking. I'm so confused on what to do. So should we stay broken up or should I give him another chance?
It depends on the reason you broke up. If you were right then make him apologize wait a little and then see if you want him back in your life. Good luck:)
i don't know why he won't let me tell. he let me tell my best friend but now he wants to break up with me cause he afraid it will get out that were dating!!!
This means he didn't truly like you. He is one ashamed of you or two dosnt want other girls to find out about you to keep his options open. Sorry to tell you but this guy is not worth it. Someone who can't even acknowledge the fact that you are his girlfriend is never going to treat you right. If you go along with this it's just like saying to him that he can do whatever he wants with you. Dot let that happen. I hope i helped you out. Good luck :)
who will the biggest winner in the 2010 football world cup in South african?
Brazil :)
My boyfriend sometimes twists my wrists and pulls arms, hair, etc. But he says that he is only "playing". About two months, while playing, he dislocated my shoulder. All my friends say I'm to blame. If I wasn't rude to him, he wouldn't have to put me in my place. But all I said was that I wouldn't get him a soda!
I really love him and he's not mean or does anything to hurt me emotionally me. But I'm afraid that someday he might do something that will end up with me in real pain.
ok this is defenitaly a problem. That is not
Normal. NOBODY has the right to hurt you. I don't know what your friends are thinking but they are wrong.please leaverhis realtionship for your own good. What might start out as something small can turn into something huge. Nobody is worth your pain. Leave now before it is to late.
THIS IS NOT NORMAL HIGH SCHOOL DRAMA. I'M BEGGING YOU TO READ THE WHOLE THING. PLEASE.
16/F
There's this guy at my school that has been literally obsessed with me for like two years.
He texts me constantly, and I used to text him back and we'd have these really cool intense conversations.
But then it got a little scary. About two months ago, he began to text me every single day like once every thirty minutes until I answered him back. And I'd have to answer him back, because if I didn't, he'd come up to me the next day at school and corner me at my locker and ask me to explain why I didn't answer him back. And he just would have this puppy dog look in his eyes, so he looked non-threatening, but he'd also be blocking my way out with his arms.
He's constantly leaving notes in my locker and on my desk in homeroom about how we're going to spend the rest of our lives together and have a bunch of kids. We are not dating.
I've told one of my friends about it, but it's embarrassing because I don't know what to do. Plus, he keeps telling me in every note not to tell anyone because they'll make fun of our "love" and he doesn't like it when people make fun of him.
This note thing has been going on for almost a month. And if he sees me flirting with a guy in the hall, he just gives me this look and then he'll corner me after school again. I'm allowed to flirt though, aren't I?? Well I can't anymore and I've stopped.
The puppy dog look has left his eyes by now.
And the reason why I've finally gotten up the courage to write this is because I'm all out of ideas. My friend that I told doesn't know what to do about it and she isn't really taking it seriously. And I'm too scared to go tell the guidance counselor about it because I'm pretty sure he'd find out somehow. (He tends to follow me around school). But the thing is that sent me over the edge is that he called me last night after school (today is Saturday), and his speech was slurred so I'm guessing he'd been drinking, but he said that he was planning on killing himself soon unless I:
1) stop flirting with other guys
2) stop talking to other people when he's around
3) have sex with him soon
He's crazy, right? What to I do? I was so scared last night that he was going to come over my house. I locked all the doors and I slept in my brother's room.
I don't want him to kill himself, obviously, but I also want him to leave me alone. I'm scared also too that with everything else that's going on (the notes about how we're going to be together forever) that if he does choose to kill himself, he's going to take me with him.
Please help, I'm so scared right now.
ok you really need to tell a guidance councler at your school this is serious. He has a huge obsession with you and you can't let him control your life. Tell somone now it better to save a life and be embarrased than let someone kills themselves.
16/f
This guy Brian and I used to be really good friends but I'm pretty sure he liked me and I didn't like him back last year. We are still good friends but not as close as last year. Since I didn't like him he moved on to another girl but this girl, Alyssa, says she wants a relationship but doesn't want it to be official. What she means by this is she wants someone always there and around but she doesn't want it to be official because she'll have the pressure of having to do stuff. She is really prude, her and Brian had a thing for months and they only hooked up for a second the other night. I don't mean to bash on her but there really is nothing good about her, no personality, not very attractive, plain bitch, and prude. Now that I realize that I like him and want a real relationship how do I show him that? I am never good with showing people I like them, I always get really shy. But I am really serious about this and feel like we would have such a good relationship and my friends think so too. I think he is really just settling for her because there is no one else that he knows definetely likes him. So give me any ideas, suggestions. Thanks!!
hey I'm stuck in the same situation except I can't win him over because he is dating my friend and they seem happy so I know exactly how you feel My advice to you is talk to Brian about how you feel you have nothing to lose. If he tells you he wants to be with the other girl tell him that it's ok and you hope you guys can still be friends.if you truely are meant to be together than destiney will put him in your path again. Hope I helped you out.
Well u see ive been talking with this boy,I really love him,like he is everything i need & wand there is just something about him. But he has a girlfriend. But we still talk and fool around. it kills me but i want it so bad i know im selling my self short so what do i do.Tell him its me or her? because i feel if i do that ill like be crushed. He tells me he doesn't like me as a girl friend number 2 but yet he calles me babe and he treats me like that so like what gives. The other girl doesn't even talk to him,ever but for some reason he still wants her..i just need some advice to see what i should do.
I am sorry to tell you but yes you are selling yourself short. Tell him what you think and tell him that you don't want to be the second girl. If he truely loves you like you love him and you guys are meant to be together then things will work out. Think of this as a test to prove his love after you talk to him you gave to wait and see what he does. If he stays with his girlfriend then he isn't worth your time. Hope my advice helped.
okay (this is a little long, just a warning. sorry.) so like I'm a freshman in high school, (I'm also a girl in case you were wondering LOL) so I know I shouldn't be taking relationships too seriously yet, but this is my first boyfriend so I really don't know what's going on.
I met him in october, and we were good friend, online at least. we talked on AIM whenever we had the chance. then near the end of october he asked me out. we got along well, but the problem was we never really talked a lot in school. we usually said hi to each other or ask how we did on tests, and I sat with him at lunch once, but that was before we were dating. he said he felt bad that he couldn't take me out becaue he didn't have enough money, and I offered him that I could pay but he said that's not right.
so anyway its been almost a month that we haven't spoken and my friends are bothering me about it. I don't wanna end it with him because I think we have something, but maybe it was just too rushed since we've only known each other for like 3 and a half months. and also, he's never on AIM anymore, and he's barely on facebook, so I can't even talk to him like that. and I have 3 classes with him at school, and sometimes we just give each other these blank glances, but not in a bad way. and sometimes when we say something funny we turn and laugh at each other. otherwise, we don't say anything, so I have no idea what's going on between us. just say what you think, as long as it doesn't pretain to punching him in the face and dumping him like a total ass. :P
so yea, thanks if you answer. :)
Before you do anything I suggest you talk to him first You never know what could be going on in his life. If after you talk you see that things are just not gonna work out you will know what to do next. Hope my advice helped.
17/female
i've been going out with a guy for a little over a year. were best friends and have an amazing relationship. the only problem that i have though is that his mom is really overprotective. i haven't seen his room..ever and he has a relatively early curfew. it's frustrating for me because i hate to see her treat him like he's in 5th grade. she's really nice to me and loves having me around, but i think what she does is ridiculous. what should i do?!
Just try to understand she is a mom so she obviously is going to protective towards her son. Try talking to your boyfriend about it so he can talk to his mom and they can figure things out. I hope my advice helped