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Hey!

I'm Jacky. =]

I used to have a pic of me up but now I don't because that one was really old but I'll be getting a new one soon.

I was born in Augsburg, Germany although I've lived in many other places because my dad was in the army and right now I am currently living in Rochester, Minnesota.

I hate the weather here.

I wish I could move back to Germany because I love it there. All my relatives live there.

I'm sane here because I have my friends and family.

I'm pretty optimistic most of the time unless someone gets on my really bad side and I try to be positive. It's hard sometimes.

I love to give people advice. I'm pretty good at that.

I play soccer and tennis. I'm pretty athletic and I love to dance. I used to be in precision. I also love to sing.

I'm pretty outgoing even around strangers but that's nothing new. Haha.

If you want to get to know me more just IM me on aim or something or if you need advice just ask anytime because I'm on daily.

Thanks lots!
Jacky.

advice

My a this guy are a little more than friends. I just found out few months ago got a girlfriend. Should I continue my relationship with him?

Hm, well, if you does have a girlfriend, maybe you shouldn't be more then friends.
It's really up to you, it's probably the wrong thing to do since how he has a girlfriend.
I'd say you can still stay friends with him even though it is hard, I know.
The thing I don't understand is if you and him were more then friends why did he go off and get a girlfriend?
Maybe this guy is too good to be true, or maybe he just doesn't know what he wants.
Whether I'm right or wrong, is besides the point.
You should talk to him about it and ask him what he wants.
Also, think about what you want.
I hope I helped hun! xx

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how do you give a hickey? like i know you suck on their neck but i like cant give one it wont work?

Well, have you ever sucked your arm so much that the blood went to the top and it turned all purplish blue?
Well, if you haven't. You should try.
All you have to do is suck, not too hard, but the best place is on the neck because their is less skin around that area and you can make blood come to the surface easier.
Sounds weird, but it's pretty simple. :]

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I have a really bad hickey.
How should I cover it up?
sdlgjhsfdl !

Hmm, well I would just dab some liquid make up on it.And if that'd doesn't work, just use some tanning lotion.
That should work too. :]
Plus, hickey's don't stay long, so you shouldn't have to worry too much, unless it's really noticeable.

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Ok, so I really really really like this guy at my school. and the other day i went to my friends house and she had his number so we called him 2 times. i kept his number, just in case i wanted to call him and ever talk to him, since i have a huge crush on him haha! anyways, i really want to call him again, just to talk but i am sooooo scared to. when my friend was there, it was no big problem. so, should i call him? or just talk to him at school, which i do all of the time. idk what to do!! because, when my friend and i called him, i think he was kinda in shock because we called, he wasn't expecting it. and today he asked " why were you guys calling me?" and i was just like idk, we just thought we would. so..what should i do?? oh yeah, by the way, he doesn't know i like him. thanks guys!!

I think if you really have the confidence you should just call him up.
But otherwise you should ask him if you can call him sometime just to talk or hang out.
That way you can get to know each other and tell him your true feelings about him.
I'm pretty sure he was shocked that you call because girls don't usually just call guys out of nowhere.
But you should ask him about it.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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so there is this one boy
i like alotalotalot.
ive never met him before, he lives about an hour away
and we talk online everyday and on the phone once in awhile
and he tells me he loves me so much and he calls me gorgeous and hes like perfect..
until right now.
i just found out he asked his best friend out because hse just got out of a relationship and now theve been going ofr like an hour
and im like heartbroken.
i dont know what to do
but i just hope it doesnt last
cause i love him alot and im like crying!
what should i say to him
or do?
i dont wanna be mean tho.. but its his fault he told me he loves me so much and then go out with his bestfirned.
any help?!

Haha you met him online?
Hm well that's not exactly the best place to meet someone to get into a relationship..
I know how you feel.
I've done it before and but you're not really in love with that person.
Since it's long distance it's gonna be really stressful and hard even though you feel like you really love that person..
You should pretty much move on because there are many guys out there for you in this world.
You don't need an online guy.
They're a waste of time, trust me.
You'll be better off if you just forget about him.
I'm sure everything will go fine for you.

I hope I helped. =]
Jacky.

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I like this boy alot we are so cute together everyone says i saound go out with him but the problem is he is 18 and i am only 15 wat should i do not go out with him cuz of his age or go out with him n forget all the age stuff
Please help me

Haha wow I have the same situation here.
I'm 14 and my bf is 17 and we're still going out..
I think it'd be perfectly fine if you 2 were going out just as long as no one finds out you are having sex or something.
It's perfectly normal.
No one cares if we're going out, we even hug and stuff in the halls, I don't think people should care.

I hope I helped.
♥ Jacky

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13/f

okay.. its almost been a month since me & my boyfriend has been going out.. and my sister & my boyfriends older sister's boyfriend told me to be careful, because he can do some things, and that they don't want me to be getting hurt. and they think that he's not right for me. so what happened was that.. once and a while.. he asks me these weird questions like "do you even want to be with me?" and im like "yess.. if i didn't wouldn't i broken up with you already?" and he was like "ohh i knew that.." .. 2 days ago. out of nowhere he said "i miss holly" (my friend.. but not so close anymore cause drama). and im said "...." and he says "shes my friend." and im like "yeahh i know." >.< and tonight. i was talking to his older sister, shes my friend also.. and she told me that she saved one of their conversations on aim onto notepad, so she can read it later.. and he was telling holly that he wanted to break up with me but he didn't know how to. and she was calling him "babes" and stuff and he said "iono hun" . and then his sister was like "why do you wanna break up with mary? and how do you not know how to do it? you broke up with linh.. how many times?" and he said "no.." and he started cussing her out. and i she also said that holly told him that i liked some other guy.. WHICH I DONT. i did like a long time ago.. but that was BEFORE i went out with him. it was also weird.. because she aimed me up today and said "neil wants to break up with you." and i said "O.o" and she said "jk."

SOMEBODY PLEASE HELLP ME.

Wow um..
If this is happening, you should confront him about it.
People like to TALK.
So don't let peoples talking get in the way of your relationship.
Most of what your hearing is probably not totally true.
So you should ask him about it and if he's your bf I'm sure you can trust what he's gonna tell you.
I'm sure everything will work out fine.

I hope I helped.
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I recently posted a question about:My friend is Pregnant and I have feelings for her??? If i tell her can it damage the relationship or should i just take a chance and tell her? She is a really nice person and I don't want her to get the wrong ideas. Like i am helping her only for a relationship. I am nervous but I feel she has a right to know.

You should definetly tell her.
But you should tell her when you think the moment is right..
Because you don't want her to get the wrong idea or something.
But you should go for it.
Maybe she'll feel the same way?
I'm sure it will all work out.

I hope I helped.
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so theres this boy.... i havent met him but all my friends are friends w/ him. just to start outt hes a player and every girl wants him. i just finally got over this one guy and then me and the playerr started talking on myspace then aim and now we like always talk on aim and text like every day.. he started out flirting w/ me like he does w/ like every other girl but then after a while he started implying that he thinks that we'll probably end up going out... which he doesnt do to every other girl.. well we've been trying to make plans for a while now but i keep fucking things upp and i fucked things up for the like 6th time and now hes mad at me.. he wont answer my texts.. i dunno what to do. help me out.

Instead of texting, IMing, and talking on myspace, you should make plans talking face to face..
That'd make it a lot easier.
And ask your parents if you can hang out that day to see if you can.
Because if you keep telling him yeah I can hang out that day and then say you can't..
He's definetly not gonna be waiting much longer.
So just talk to each other face to face.

I hope I helped.
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15/f
im in love with my best guy friend. we've been friends with benefits for a while but never liked each other more than friends. now he's going out with my other best friend. we've stopped being friends with benefits but he'll still hug me or rest his head on me and his girlfriend is ok with that. my problem is that i liked him before he was going out with my other friend but didnt say anything because i thought it might be weird going out with my best friend. i still haven't been able to get rid of my feelings for him. i dont know if i should tell him or just try to somehow not like him anymore. any advice could help
thanks

I've been in the same situation just recently..
You can't just hide that you like him.
You should've talked to him about it and asked him if he felt the same way.
That's what I did.
And it ended up that he had always liked me back to.
So maybe when he's single you should talk to him about that.
I'm pretty sure everything will all work for you.

I hope I helped.
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ok i have heard of sexual turn ons like biting of necks n kissing of necks and others but blowing ears? i mean i heard of it but how does that do anything? any reason? so...and rubbing of bellies..ye haha what does that do, i mean how does that turn someone on? i have heard of it so um...help?

Um haha.
Well I know of licking of the ear..
That actually does feel pretty good and it tickles.
Haha.
But yeah I've heard of blowing of the ear.
For some people that does turn them on.
It's different for everyone.
Same with rubbing of the tummy.
Everyone has different turn ons and some are just really weird..
Haha.

I hope I helped.
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There is a boy i really like, a lot. We;ve had our ups and downs and him not being able to make up his mind.
he's had tons of reasons why we cant be together, and even kept changing his mind about if he even liked me or not.
So it finally got to where i told him we could be just friends, i told him about how much he had hurt me, and he just asked why i didnt just hate him. i told him i couldnt, it wasnt that simple, and i just couldnt hate him. so he said fine, i will make it easy on you, and signed off (this was on AIM)
we went about 8 days w/o talking, which sucked. I have more than one SN, they are linked, i just dont use the other one much, but he was logged on on one of them, but not my main one. So i just IMed him "hey, its me! igot a new sn, whats up"
we talked for a while, and then he randomly asked why i was talking to him, so i told him if he didnt want me to i wouldnt, then he told me he just couldnt have a realionship right now, and i told him i knew that and we can be just friends even if it never becomes anything more, and he said we cant be friends, and when i asked why he said because its too hard for him, and whenever he is around me something happens and he cant handle it anymore...so i told him i would stop flirting, and everything. then he just went Away...so to his away message i said that i cared a lot about him, and i wanted to be in his life, even if just as friends. and the time we spent not talking (we didnt talk for about 2 and a half months...that ended about a month and a half ago) was more painful then when he had hurt me before...
when he came back we talked, kinda, but it was awkward...
so i guess my question is:
How do i show him that we can be just friends?

He has a lot of problems, i think he may be bi-polar, and he has told me more than once he loves nothing, not even his parents. But then some days, he tells me he only wants to be with me. So i get that we wont be able to be together until he gets his head clear, and even then maybe never. But i need him to be in his life...

Wow.
Well it could be possible that he has bi-polar.
Because he seems to be having a ton of mood swings..
But if he doesn't even want to be friends with you right now..
You should just accept that and move on.
I know you really like him and stuff but their are way more guys in this world that you could like.
But I'm pretty sure everything will be okay between you two sooner or later..
He's not gonna act like this forever.
He just really needs someone to talk to and to care for him.
But when he doesn't even like talking you should seriously just leave him alone.
Just wait until he comes to you for help.
But otherwise for now, just wait and see what happens.

I hope I helped.
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okay i need help finding out if a guy likes me he tells one of my friends that i am hot and that he was thinking about asking me out but then he starts ignoring me i like him so someone please help

Haha this is definetly typical for a guy.
Pretty sure he likes you if he tells your 'friend or 'friends' that you're hot and he's thinking about asking you out.
But if he's ignoring you..
He's just shy around you!
Approach him and try to talk to him.
Don't be straight forward though and don't ask him out because you don't wanna make yourself look desperate..
Just drop hints on him but you should talk to him, because he is probably scared to make a move on you.


I hope I helped and good luck.
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i think about what my husband did to me all of the time, i can't stop. i know i need therepy for it but in the meantime...
i found out about an affair he had through finding love letters written to a co-worker that he claims is just a friend. what makes me even angrier is she came to our baby shower and baptism. what a lot of nerve! i would love to have it out with her too. she is married with two kids as well. i know it wouldn't give me the satisfaction that i want because if she is that low to come to our family functions, well..
how will i ever trust my husband again, he is so secretive i hate that more than anything. i have talked about everything with him but i just can't trust that the answers he gives me aren't just a waste of my time. what am i going to do? i want to fix our marriage esp. for our child.

Hm well I've never been in this situation because,
1) I'm not married.
2) I don't have kids.
3) I'm probably not even close to your age.
But..
If I were in your situation I would talk about it with him and if you have enough trust in each other..
I'd ask him, 'Hey, are you hiding anything from me?'
Just see what he says..
Also if you can't get through to him, maybe you should talk to a psychologist.
I'm sure that would help to.
I hope everything goes well for you.

I hope I helped.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, and i am 16 and he's 19. But it's alot different because we've known eachother for like all of our lives we have grown up in church together and he's a really good clean christian guy. And i am a really good clean christian girl and he's everything ive been looking for. And i know he's the one for me and i know without a doubt that i love him with all of my heart. But he used to smoke ciggarettes and he quit like 2 years before we started dating but he still does it like once every two weeks and i didnt know that...so he's basically been lying to me for like 4 months??? And i had to find out he was doing this from his brother...he had no intention in telling me! But i know or at least i feel 100% sure he hasnt lied to me about anything else but i just cant believe he would do that. And we got into a HUGE argument yesterday but we kinda made up, but things arent the way that they used to be you know? I just dont know what to do? I never thought he would keep something from me?? What do i do?

Well then you really need to talk about your trust.
If you can't trust him and you think you can't then that's not good.
Try and compromise something.
I'm sure if he's your bf and he's christian he's telling you the truth.
But you have to confront him about it and say, 'Hey, I wanna know the truth, is their anything you haven't told me?'
But be calm about it.
I'm sure everything will be fine.

I hope I helped and good luck.
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Yesterday I asked a question about my boyfriend being too friendly with a female. I got mad at him and he went into a depression and said I am doing it to him. Later he got offended and depressed again when I let him know about the responses I got from this site that were beneficial to me,is he feeling guilty about his behavior, are my suspicions of his impending cheating true?Usually he is very upbeat. I think He is way too sensitive about the subject.

Well if he gets sensitive about it maybe there was a time when he had cheated and doesn't like to be reminded of it.
He just wants to let that go..
But possibly he could be cheating on you if he's sensitive talking about it with you.
If that's the case then you should really talk to him about it.

Hope I helped.
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When i ask him out should i be like" hey i was wondering if you would like to go see a movie with me?" or what should i say. Please help

13/f

It depends where you wanna go out with that person..
But if I were you I'd just be like 'Hey I was wondering, do you wanna come to my house after school'?
Just be yourself and ask casually like how you'd ask any of your friends to hang out.
I'm sure you'll do fine.

Hope I helped.
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i need advice.. Brissa (girlfriend) we've gone out for about 5 days now and she is kid of shy. but i need advice on like what to talk about in Lunch or in the hallway. something other than school or homework something that is about home or cool. HELP!!!!!! thanks in advance.


p.s. do you think i should put my hand around her?

Hmm my best friend had the exact situation because both her and her bf were really shy..
Now they talk A LOT.
But all you need to do is find out her interests and see what she likes..
Maybe you could like the same things?
That's one thing you should talk about.
You should ask her how everything is going at her home and if she's in any sports..
Ask her about her family and stuff.
It's easy for me to bring up subjects because I'm pretty outgoing.
I'm sure you'll do fine though, it's not that hard to talk about something.

I hope I helped.
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ohhh man :(
16 female..

well ive never had a boyfriend. ive never really been good with the guys because to tell you the truth, im pretty shy most of the time and im not a SLUT. ive only madeout twice and let someone kind of feel me up but like nothing in my pants or anything like that! but anyways..everyone including my parents are always asking why i dont have a boyfriend and like everyone else does. it makes me sad when i hear this! i mean im not a girl thats like quiet all the time, wont say a word, wont even talk to a guy! im outoging sometimes, its just when im around a cute guy i dont want to say stupid things and im not crazy as i am when im around my friends! my friends always ask me if i have any guy stories and im always like nooo..and there like why dont you? why dont u have a boyfriend your soo gorgeous you could pratically get any guy you wanted! i mean i dont think im ugly, but im not going to be conceited and say im like perfect or the prettiest girl in the world. i just dont know why guys dont like me. its not like im "mute" or super shy! im so sick of it though and i dont know what to do. im always meeting new people through friends but things never work out or they always have girlfriends! im a big flirt too but not over the top and also i think alot of them just think of me as "the friend" and it sucks soo bad! i need a guy in my life who will care for me and be there for me. i have the worst luck! and i always fall for the wrong ones...


well thanks :)

I know exactly how you feel.
I was in like 6th grade..
I was extremely shy and I never had a bf and my family and friends would always ask me..
Do you have a bf yet?!
It's like umm..No..
Why not?!
Yeah I've been through all of that before and it gets embarrassing enough and really annoying.
But you know what?
It doesn't matter what people think.
I started to get really outgoing in 8th grade and got tons of bf's and stuff.
But Just because I wasn't outgoing before doesn't mean I was ugly or I was a nerd or something..
I just wasn't that confident and I was shy..
That wasn't a bad thing either.
But sometimes it's hard to open up to people and I know how you feel.
I'm pretty sure you'll find the right one when you least expect it.
Just don't look for the person because he'll come to you..
So don't let people give you shit about it.
Just be yourself.

I hope I helped and good luck.
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there is this guy and he is the sweetest cutest guy in the world. one of my friends told me that he thought i was really pretty and that he was thinking about asking me out. but the thing is is hes popular and i am not and he is a sophmore and i am a freshman but i really really like him and i want him more than anything how can i get him to ask me out???

Just act like yourself and wait for him to come..
If you heard from your friend he thinks you're really pretty and stuff, she's probably not lying.
But you should drop hints..
Just don't ask him out otherwise you'll look desperate.
I'm pretty sure he'll ask you out sooner or later.

Good luck!
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