Well to tell you alittle about myself. I'm a 32 year old woman. I have three children that are my life. I have been married for a three years now. It is my second marriage, my first one falled but that's ok. I love to help people when they need it. I will try and give you the advice that will help. Hope to meet new people too.
E-mail: eric.april@hotmail.com
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Location: strykersville, new york
Occupation: stay at home mom
Age: 30
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Ok so this friend of mine is really rich and all kinds of girls try to get with him all the time. He's had it happen a few times that the chick he's been with uses him for his money.
He says he doesn't care that girls go after him for his money because it's just a way for them to connect and get to know each other better. I think if a girl is after your money, she's after your money and she isn't interested in getting to know you.
If I had that kind of money and I knew a girl I was seeing wasn't in it for the real me, it would be a MAJOR turn off.
What is your opinion on this? Wouldn't it bother anyone that people are after such a supreficial thing? (link)
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I would bother me alot. It says something about a girl who only wants a man for his money. If your friend doesn't mind that so be it.For me I look for things that matter in a guy not what he has in his wallet.
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i've been with this girl for a few months now even though we are usually in different towns. i don't konw if she accepts me as her boyfriend yet, even though when i asked her about it she does not give a yes or now but merely keeps communicating with me amorously. How do i find out form her if she takes me to be her boyfriend, if she akes me seriously if she has someone else,etc. Thank you. (link)
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Well if she doesn't give you a yes or no answer, then she doesn't look at you as her boyfriend and she's probably going out with someone else that lives near her. I would just ask her if she's seeing someone else, so that you can move on and find someone else that wants to be yourgirlfriend.
good luck
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Okay this is going to be really long..so i have been on and off with my first love from 7th grade im now in 10th..but last summer i moved on and met my 2nd love which i really did love and wanna be with.we were together everyday nothing came in the middle of us..then my dad past away and my first love came back into my life because my family went threw alot when i was with him and he knew my dad unlike my 2 love..so i went to my first love for some help and understanding..my 2 love went outta town the night i found out..my first night didnt leave my side and was there with me for the next few days til i left and went out of town..while outta town both of them would text me sweet things..but i would only talk to my 2 love on the phone at night..on the way home waiting in the air port my 1st love had been textin me all day and told me he wanted to be with me again..but i didnt look at him like that anymore because i was in love with someone else..so i got home and that night my 2 love came over and spent the night with me and just held me cause i hated to be alone..so me and my first love were back to being friends and just checkin up on eachother all the time and making sure we were both okay..so then it came down to get everyone in texas together for my dads thing because we had two one outta state in our hometown then one here for his friends here.and both of my loves were there..which they hate eachother..so i didnt really know what to do..i had my 2 love right by my side.my first right behind me holding my shoulders as i was crying..after that i went out to eat with my family my 2 love came with me..then i went home laid around because i was just really still hurt about it all..then i went to my friends baby shower.i saw my 2 love there later that day..then he went home and i was afraid to be alone and my friend told me to call my first love so he could come be with me so i was okay and could sleep because she had her boyfriend and the baby with them..so i called him and he came over and spent the night with me well since we were gettin close again we both got the feelings back for eachother and we ended up making love..he was my first for everything..we kept it just with us and didnt tell anyone..and that was aug.27th..i was still with my 2 love and was so scared to tell him..so i didnt say anything sep.past and i was having sex with both of them..and by the end of the month i was late..so homecoming was Oct. 1 and i went with my 2 love and we all were with the same people so we were around eachother.then me and my boyfriend left and went home and got ready for the after parties..well he got a call from his dad saying he needed to come home cause the cops were out everywhere.so i went to the party alone and ment up with my girls.and my first love and his girlfriend were there.(this whole time he had been with someone else too)so then they left and he gave me a hug goodbye and said ill call you later..then by the Oct. 3th me and my first love said we werent going to talk anymore and i was okay with that cause i knew i was doing my boyfriend wrong the whole time and i wanted to tell him but me and my first love knew if i told him he would kill my first love..then i just went back to being true then Oct.6th i found out that i was havin a kid..and i didnt know whos it was..so i was mad at myself and just upset with it all.so my boyfriend thought it was his.and started to cry and was happy and said that we were going to get married..and my first love came over to make sure i wasnt lieing and looked at the test and then just asked me who i thought it was but i didnt know..so then it was Oct.10 and i started to get sick and my family didnt know what was going on with me but i would always be sick so my mom took me to the doctor who gave me pills cause i couldnt eat or drink without it comming back up.but i didnt tell the doctor anything.so then what she gave me didnt work so i had to go back and they tested me and my sister found out that i was 7 weeks along.she said she wouldnt tell my mom..so then i was outta school for a few days.(which we all go to the same school)..so around Oct.15st my first love told his girlfriend what was going on and that it might be his.and i went ahead and told my boyfriend which my first love told me not to..so then everything was all messed up and stuff.And my sister told my mom so my mom knows at this point shes hurt and mad but wants me to keep it..then Oct.26th came and i was hanging out with my first love at my house eating dinner and just talking about it all and he just kept saying he couldnt believe that it was happening.so then we went and got juices for me to drink and came back then watched t.v well before i know it my 2 love is calling me and we havent talked since i told him then i freaked out and told my first love he was here so he got up to walk outside to leave and my 2 love is standing there at the buttom of the side walk and then my first love walked up and was like are you mad at me and my 2 love said keep on walkin then my first love said why cant u just forgive me?..and my 2 love was like i said keep on walkin..and i was standin there cause they told me to stay out the way.then my first love turned to me and looked at me and when to get his keys and went to walk off and my 2 love hit him and broke his nose..so they started fighting and i jumped into the middle of it all and got hit and pushed around.and got into it was my 2 love and my first love went to the e.r...so then i started to get sick really bad again and wasnt talking to my 2 love..so by Nov.8th my first love went and they did some work on his nose..and when he got out i went over here..but by this time i had lost my baby and i had been 9 weeks...so now i was really hurt because if i didnt jump in i would have still had it..so i went over there and saw his family and we just all talked.which his dad made his go to the cops and push charges on my 2 love..then around thanksgiving break me and both of them werent talking and i was just working on myself and making myself happy..then after christmas day my 2 love called me and we started talking again and we talked all the way up to Jan.6th...then stopped and then started again when i started going to my new school..and we were on the low cause we didnt want anyone to know.then today outta nowhere he said we couldnt talk anymore and i dont know why..he just said he couldnt but i heard from people at my old school that he was talking to three other girls but i let that go and didnt care but now im starting to think that it was true.and me and my first love are in a fight because we dont trust eachother so nothing in my life seems to be going right but for my new friends at my new school which is really small and everyone knows everyone.and theres this boy that i kind of like and he is really sweet and we hang out this weekend and for once he just held me and didnt want to do anything else which made me feel really good and unpushed into doing more.so now i dont know what to do about anything and need alot alot of HELP!! so please help me out!! sorry this is so long but i was rate HIGH!! 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I'm sorry for your loss. Your your sake you should just have no contact with these two other boys. Start thinking about yourself and doing things too. Hang out with your girlfriends. It's hard to put things right when they go wrong. Put yourself first. God luck and god bless
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When a guy says "will you go out with me?"
What are you supposed to say? Just yes?
Were confused!
Thanks in advance!
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When a guy asks you if you'll go out with them you don't have to tell them right away. you can wait and tell them later. god luck
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After 3 years of dating my true love, she decided we needed some time apart to get our priorities straight. its going on 3 weeks, and not a day goes by without her calling me, we hang out from time to time, however, there is ovbiously no intimacy. I love her so much and I know she loves me cause she has told me. My question is, with valentines day comming up, iam not sure if i should get her the flowers and a present...I dont wanna look like im trying to push her into getting back with me, and at the same time i dont wanna look like i dont care about her if i dont give her anything...what should i do? (link)
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Even though valentines day is coming up it doesn't hurt to tell her that she means the world to you and that you are giving her some time but also it tells her that she's the one for you and that you'll always be there give her flowers and a persent. Give her a card and tell her how you feel about her. good luck
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ever since i started walking to school there have been these 2 girls who always say hi to me and i never really thought anything about it until one of them asked me out and at first i wanted to go out with her but then somthing inside me told me she's bad news and i dont know if it's because im neverous i dont know if it's because ive seen her smoke a few times i dont know what it is but could someone please help me i dont know what to do. (link)
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Your smart to worry about her. does she go to school or is she not. get to know her and that. Maybe you could tell her you would like to be firends and see what happens from there. good luck.
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Hello, my name is Bill, and I'm a 15 year old male. At my school there is a girl I like, named Courtney. I have known Courtney for a few years, and last year I started having more feelings for her. I told her I liked her, but she wasn't sure of her feelings, some people said she liked me and some people said she didn't, so I was very confused. What made it worse was Courtney and I had a fun relationship, she was really funny and was probably the best friend I had that was a girl. When she found out I liked her, she didn't feel as comfortable around me, and we didn't talk very much. Well over the summer I didn't see her much and I lost some of the feelings I had for her, but I still liked her a little bit. When we came back to school, she talked to me normally again, she was more comfortable around me and we talked a lot. I know her family and they know me, and they are very nice people. We still talk a lot and hang out, but usually in a group environment. In the past month I have started to like her very much again, but I haven't told her for fear of what happened last year will happen again. People tell me that last year was different and that she is different now. Others still tell me that she isn't sure who she likes. I know her very well and I don't want to lose my relationship with her again, but I really like her and I just want to tell her. She is a very amazing person, and I not only like her for her looks (though she is very beautiful), but I love her personality. Every time I see her I just can't help smiling. But there is the down side to telling her, please help me out on this one, I'm very confused. Thankyou very much for reading that and I look forward to hearing from you! (link)
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even though it's only been a year, she still is somewhat like she was last year. Just wait to tell her. If she thinks you like her a little bit she might do the same thing she did last year. Just be a firend to her and wait. good luck.
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I'm a 14 yr. old female and there's a guy in my computer class and we started chatting with each other the other day so I geuss you could say we became friends he's really nice, and I developed a crush on him so I was asking his friend/x-girlfriend some questions about him. but then during another class he stole the note from her and well anyways he thought i was going to ask him out so he started avoiding me then later that day he kinda got over but i told my computer teacher we were chatting the day before and we werent suposed to be and she got infront of the whole class today and basically told everyone that I snitched on myself and him but i didnt mean to and he got mad at me so should i just leave him alone or should I try to get closer and say sorry?even though i already have wrote him a note saying im sorry. (link)
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You should apoligize to him and tell them how you feel and that all you wanted was to find out some stuff about you and that next time that you'll ask him. good luck
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Ok so i have known this guy all my life! well a few years ago he moved ..but we still kept in touch occasionally. and also we have always considered each other bro and sis, well he moved back this past summer and everything was ok and all but now he calls me at a minimum of 8 times a day! and every weekend he is with me. now dont get me wrong i love the boy to death but he comes with me and my frieds on our "girls night outs" and then staurday nights he comes to my house then sunday he is hear to! and i dont want to be mean and i have even tried saying things in the past liek well why dont u go do this or that...and even trying to be mean dont work because he doesnt take me serious! please HELP ME i dotn no what i am going to do. and the other problem with him he tells me who i can and cant date..he doesnt liek me are anything he is just..i dont even no how to explain it. and GUys want talk to me alot becaus ethey think im dating him or there afraid he want liek him. (link)
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Hi. Well you need to sit him down and explain to him that he has to do other things beside hanging out with you all the time. He has to give you some space and be able to go out with your girlfirends. maybe you could help him find something to do, like a hobby or some friends he can hang out with. Or desinate a day that just the two of you can hang out together.
good luck
am
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my name is mark im 19 and im a male ... im dating a girl we dated for 2 years on and off we broke up over this past summer and over the summer she did stuff thats bothering me now in our relationship she had sex w. a total of 3 guys multiable times and messed around w/ 3 other guys she told me everything b4 we got back together and it botheres me alot i dont know whwat to do i talked to her about it and shes there for me and all but i dont know what to do i need some advice the only reason im w/ her is because i really love her anyother girl i would tell leave me alone but i need something that will help over that break up i only messed around w/ 2 girls but we didnt have sex or ne thing like that i dont know what to do help me out please (link)
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Well first of all did you tell this girl that your with about the 2 girls that you were with. Maybe that will help you out. Plus if you guys were broken up over the summer then it shouldn't hurt that bad. Because you messed around on her. This is just a bump in the road and if you both are talking about it then you'll be able to get over it but it will take a while.
good luck
am
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I'm a 21 year old Female and I have a very big issue with my weight. This issue is affecting my happiness and love life. My question is how can I NOT let this affect me? (link)
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If your weigh is effectin your love and happiness that you could try going to a gym and see if a friend will go with you the two of you can try and get in shape together. Go slow at first so you know how much you can do. Plus before you do that you should go to your dr's and see what kinds of foods and exercise you should do first.
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There is a guy that I was friends with 8 years ago when i was little and i moved and since then i hadnt talked to him or seen him... up until a week and a half ago. i dont know why but i seem to have feelings for him already even though its been so long. We've talked every day in the past week and a half and hes a really nice and sweet guy and he told me he sorta likes me too... hes supposed to come to visit so i can see him again soon. i dont know how to act and even if we did really hit it off he doesnt think it would work since hes lives 5 hours away by car.. it really sucks and im supposed to be going down to my grammas(that lives 2 minutes away form him) this summer for 3 weeks and were planning on spending time together and other times between now and then but i have no idea what to say or how to act when i see him again for the first time and im really nervous. help please (link)
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Even though you know him 8 years ago, he had changed since then. You and him have to get to know each other all over again. When you go to your grandma's maybe that will give you a chance to know him and him to know you. give it time and if it doesn't work then you guys can always be great friends.
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Dear Ruth,
Hi I got a problem and I was wondering if you could give me some advice.
I'm in a relationship for 2 years now with a married guy. I never asked him to do anything and to be honest I always had the hope that he will leave his wife one day. Well 6 weeks ago the army send him back to the states. Suddenly 2 weeks before he left he told his wife all about me and that he don’t want to be with her no more. So he ended up to go to Colorado to his next duty station by him self.
Well after he got the states we talked on the phone and talked every day on the Computer. He was different he rubbed old stuff in my face like 6 month ago I talked to people on the internet. The reason I did that was cause I really needed the attention what he couldn’t gave me because he still was living with his family in the same house and also made me believe for a while that he will never leave her. So I thought the only way to get over it is to keep my self busy or find someone who helps me get over it. I don’t know why I did that because I love him a lot and I would do anything to make this work me and him. Well like I said he rubbed in my face all the time and said he don’t need a girl who talked to other guys cause if I would love him I would never done that. I don’t know why he brought this up cause we talked about it and I told him why I did it and everything was alright again. I mean I even told him everything.
Anyways 2 weeks ago I went to the states to visit him and it shocked me that was not the guy I met and knew for 2 years. He was distance sometimes really quiet and it seamed he was thinking a lot. I was planning to stay 3 weeks there after 2 weeks he wanted me to go back home cause he said he needed time to think. I did understood it cause I know he never been by himself after he left her. There still lived at the same house for 2 weeks and she was yelling at him all the time. So I thought he needs to be by himself to start working at the stuff what happened the last few weeks.
I got back to Germany did not hear a week from him. Yesterday we talked on the phone again. He said he don’t care about anyone no more, he got no feelings for no one and he just want to be left alone. I was like ok if you telling me you don’t care about me no more I guess I wont care no more neither and hanged up. I was really said and hurt that he said this after all we went threw. I also was mad that I went to the states for a jack ass like that. Today I called him again I know it was wrong but I couldn’t believe what he told me the day before. Well the talked normal until he started the internet thing again. We pushed each other that
far that I told him everything I felt. I said that he is a liar for telling me 2 years that he loves me and never want to lose me. That I cant believe he told me before he left that he loves me and then 4 weeks later he don’t have any feelings for me anymore. You can’t stop loving someone in a short time like that. He said that I should start to understand that we will never be like we used to be and there is NO us in the further I can be his friend and if I cant respect that then we should stop talking and break it off all the way. I should get the prcture out of my heat that me and Him are married and have a life together. I denied that I had a picture like he thinks made up. He wants to be single the rest of his life and he doesn’t need that shit no more. He DID love that’s how he ended it.
I don’t know what to think I'm really confused we really went threw a lot of problems in those 2 years and he also used to be my best friend all that is gone. I can’t believe he just can turn his feelings off like that. I don’t believe him that he wants me to find an other Boyfriend I just cant. Maybe I’m the dumb one here and just can’t take it that he dumped me, but I can’t understand why he is acting like this. He always was honest to me and never said he will leave his wife until he actually did and I think that surprised him too. He told me that he never thought he was able to tell her about me. He told me about his problems with her and that he doesn’t love her no more but ever made me any hopes. So I know he did not just played with me for 2 years. I don’t know what to do this is not the guy I used to know.
Please help and tell me what to too. Right now I feel like I’m falling and falling and cant never get up again. I’m so hurt that I can’t even walk or think about anything else. I don know what to do no more. Please help me.
If there is anything else you want to know let me know. Sorry about my English but I’m German and I’m really up sad and cant thing straight.
Thanks Jasmin
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I hope that I can help...
Don't feel sorry. This man that you know for 2 years is not the same man. He's changed. He told his wife that he didn't want her and that he was not coming back to her when he left and told her about you. He's probably feeling really bad and maybe he want's his wife and family back. He probably told you this so that he could work things out with her or he is seeing someone else. Once someone cheats on someone the can't help themselves and do it again.
You have to start over and find someone that is going to love you for you. Leave the past behind you can start fresh. It will take sometime but your probably a strong person. There's more men out there and will treat you with the respect and love that you need.
If he tries to call you or write tell him how you feel and tell him that you never want to see him again because you don't need to be treated that way.
Good luck and god bless
am
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Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up last friday. I miss her so much, I truly love this girl, my best friend. I feel hurt and at the same time confused, even though we have talked over the phone and even gone to the movies once since the break up 4 days ago. I dont know what to do, all i do is think about her and us, I cant believe its over, i seriously thought this was the "one" i was gonna spend my whole life with. Im done crying but sadness is all over me, I dont know how to deal with all of this. Ive been in many relationships, however, none were as serious as this one. I wanna call her so bad and be with her, i look at our pictures together and i get the need to cry. My question is, should i call her and tell her how much i love her and ask her to get back with me, or should i give it time and not call her for sometime in order to get my thoughts and feelings straight, and allow her the same opportunity? (link)
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Well don't know who broke if off, but if she did, did she give you a reson. give her a little space and give your self time to really sort u=out your feeling for her.Try and do stuff with your other firends and try not think about her. I know you want to call her and tell her how you fell but it might push her away even more. She might have done something and can't tell you. Just wait and maybe she's not the one for you.
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My math 10 teacher has been acting really strange around me. He came up to me the other day and said "my wife's maiden name is the same as yours". He also said I reminded him of his wife when she was younger, and said it in a kind of romantic (yuck) way. Another time he caught me and my friend writing notes, and then he came up to me, tried to read the note, and then said "oh it's a love letter to me". Another girl heard and thought he was joking, because she said "I highly doupt that sir". But I know he was being serious. I always catch him staring at me. One day he heard me say the F word. He told me to stay behind after class. Instead of giving me crap, he said "I'm really suprised at you, but I'm just going to give you a warning". He was talking seductively. I know he was enjoying having me all alone.
It feels really gross and wrong of him. I am only 15. He's like old enough to be my father. What should I do, and is he being inappropriate or am i overreacting? (link)
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I think your teacher is being inappropriate and you should tell your parents or you guidance couscler of this and have it stop know, before it goes to far.I hope I helped.
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How do you get someone to finally let you into their hearts. I'm totally in love with this person but they are so scared to let others in becuase they aren't used to having someone love them so they totally ignore the fact that I do. We're still very good friends but ... I dont know what to do. Can someone give me an idea on how to make him open up to me and be my boyfriend? We used to date but he broke up with me becuase he wanted to sort through some things he said he's never felt a connection like this with anyone else but he's pulling away from me becuase I know he's scared, its been 3 months since we broke up, all our friends say it seems like he wants to be with me but one week he'll be flirty with me and then the next he'll try to start fights with me even though I don't budge and I still stay by his side ... can someone help me becuase he's leaving for a week and a half, I just want to give him something to think about while he's gone, I want him to know I won't hurt him. How do I do this? (link)
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WEll you could write him a poem and tell him how he feels and give him a picture of yourself or if you have one you and him together that would help too.That might help him think about you and see what happens when he gets back. hope I helped.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. He always compliments me and is very good to me. My problem is that I feel funny undressing in front of him and I can't wear sexy nighties in front of him. I have a very low self-esteem. When I look in the mirror, I see fat. I want to be able to wear sexy things for my boyfriend and feel good about myself. What can I do??
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Well you could try putting on a sexy nighty without him being there. Do this for awhile until you feel comfortable doing it in front of him. Take a little time and soon you'll be able to to undress in front of him and wear sexy nighties. I hope I helped.
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Hi, I would REALLY apprecaite some advice :) OK, my partner (male 32) is driving me (female 26) up the wall! We have a 6 month old baby. My parner works, I am at home alone with the baby all day. He has this really annoying habit where he get's home, sits on his lap top and then only goes to bed at about 5am! His alarm goes off at least 6 times before he gets up for work (obviously making him late!) and then he has to stay at work late to make up the time. By the the time he gets home from work, I am so wound up that we argue! I have tried to comprimise by designating "laptop evenings" but when we do this, it lasts for a few days and then we are back at square one. The worst of it is, that he he has difficulty with "demands". He sees everything as a demand and then feels that he must rebel! This makes him worse. Please can you give me some practical advice to get him to sleep earleir and to wake up on time for work. We are due to get married in Jan and I feel that this is a real reason for me to call it all off :( Thanks :) (link)
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WEll If your having problems now. I would wait before you get married. What's so important that he has to get home and then go to his lap top. He was already at work, So he shouldn't have to get on it right away. Have you asked him what he does on his computer until five in the morning. If he can't change for you or your child, think real hard if you want to marry this man. Not to be rude but he's not putting you or his child first. I have been divorced once and my ex did the same thing and he never changed when we got married and after four years of marriage we just went our separte was even though we had two children together. I thought of them and not myself. Thinking that I don't need this man to walk all over me and my children. I have found a man that had put me and my children first. Hope I helped sorry so long. If you need to chat, email me if you want. keemkick@hotmail.com
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Ok so this guy started to like me but i didnt like him...he started to like me the very first day we met and then the second day i started to like him he found out by my friend!!! And well he asked me out and i said yes!!! Do you think i should have waited or did i do the right thing?
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If you like him a little and then he asked you out. If you din't want to date him you should have said no. but you said yes of there most have been some feeling toward him. If you feel that you made a mistake just tell him that you only want to be friends with him. Your both still young.
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To start off, i'm only 15 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for five months. We just recently broke up, and a week after our break up he got a new girlfriend. I was really upset for awhile, and I couldn't even eat because of it. I cried just about every day. I constantly think about him, and regardless of how bad he treats/has treated me, I still have an enormous amount of feelings for him. I don't know why I can't get over him. My friend told me "If you can't get over him, maybe there's a reason". Is it possible I'm in love? Or what is it that I'm feeling? And why can't it go away? (link)
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You'll get over him. Just do stuff to keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends. your not in love you, it's puppy love.
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