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ii love helping people. ii listen and give good feedback. i've helped many friends and i've been through alot so ii may be able to help you.
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I am a bisexual female. A little over a year ago, I came out to my best friend and she came out to me that she was bisexual also, and we started a relationship. We are still best friends, and none of our other friends know about us but two people. My ex boyfriend and her boyfriend. Sometimes I feel like I'm left to the side because of her boyfriend, but she doesn't know what to do either to make both of us happy? I'm very lost and confused. I love this girl and would spend every moment with her if I could, but somehow I just feel like I'm left out because he ALWAYS goes out with us when we go out, but I'm never with them when they go out, and most of the time it's him inviting himself... what should I do?
well tell that girl that , first of all, if she really wants a relationship with you, she has to break up with her boyfriend. it not fair to either of you. that's the exact same thing as cheating. its not right. she has to decide who she wants to be with. ii hope this helps you but uu deserve to have aa real relationship with this girl you love.
i had one boyfriend about 3 yrs ago.
he was my dream guy! he was athletic.. funny.. smart... and we were PERFECT. or so i thought! 'my prince in shining armor turned out to be a loser in aluminum foil' and matt dumped me to go out with his ex! ive had other boyfriends since but ive never trusted any of them because im still not over this one guy! it drives me CRAZY! ive dumped 3 guys because of him... because you cant have a boyfriend if you cant trust them. matt tried to get back together with me... but i was afraid of him making me experience the pain again.. and i dumped him. he was REALLY mad because he said he had changed and all of that bull. how could i have believed him? i went out with 6 girls b4 he asked to get back together with me! but still. i want to like other guys, but i cant get over what matt did to me! it was my first boyfriend, and i really loved that guy. he ruined it. for a while he ruined me. for a while i was emo (no cutting.. just black stuff). and when i finally got over it i couldnt love any other guys for long. help me! i dont want to break any more hearts, hearts that are undeserved to be broken. sorry this was so long!
seriously he wasnt even worth it. aa guy that dumps uu for another girl is undeserving of a girl like you. dont worry about relationships right away and take time to get over him first. ii know its hard to forget ur first love. but in time you'll realize that it wasnt true love and he wasnt worth your love.
no one expects you to trust them fully in the beginning of a relationship. so date some guys longer than you have and hopefully that trust will grow.
well there is this guy, and i really like him but he has a girlfriend. and he flirts with me and stuff and i do it back. i think about him all the time and my friend says that im obsessed with him. i mean i dont think im obsessed i know i like him alot. i dont constantly talk about him but i think about him alot. but i do talk about him alot when im with her because shes the only one who really understands how i feel my other friends dont really care about this kind of stuff. so am i obsessive over this guy because i really like him..and i know i cant do anything about it until he breaks up with his girlfriend to really like tell him how i feel, but i think he knows already. please help -- i rate high.thx - -
well michelle, i dont think its fair to this guy and his girlfriend that you are flirting with him and he is flirting with you. if he really likes you, tell him to break up with his girlfriend because it isnt fair to her that he is liking you while he is with her. and you have to be patient. if he really likes his g/f then it will be a while until they break up. stop flirting with him and tell him he is only allowed ONE girl. he cant use you as a backup or flirt with you and lead you on like that. sorry for the long answer and i hope this help.
sincerely, linh
ok right james asked me out he was the first boy i was attracted to in college until along came tony. Now Tony won't talk to me because i rejected him 3 times when he asked me out and he thinks i told the whole skl and he thinks i am proud to have rejected him.Now i think he hates me he won't talk to me. Right i kinda held hands with Tony but we never kissed or anything and i was thinking James is the one who is not childish hes also really clever. Will Tony ever talk to me again what can i do to make friends with him again? and will he still fancy me becoz hes telling my friends how hes over me! but is he really over me? what can i do because everyone is calling Tony a pushover because of what i did. Now some of my friends say ignore him don't phone him.. my other friends say phone him say sorry i just don't know.
tony should listen to you and listen to ur side. if he really wanted you, he should wait for you to be ready instead of trying to run the guilt trip on you.go to him when YOU'RE ready.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years..we have been recently getting in arguments about stupid stuff really..but he said hes starting to think that i dont care about him.. i really do care about him alot..How do i prove to him that i havent lost my love for him?
well, stop arguing. you say you argue about stupid stuff so obviously you are aware that the fights are not worth it. talk to him. be more understanding and dont fight so often. take him out sometime for ice cream or sumthin and explain to him that you still do care for him
So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help
trust me honey, big boobs are not an easy thing. i hate mine too. and it seems that he is only kissing you and cuddling with you to go all the way with you. my advice is to back off. i mean if you two aren't dating, you really shouldn't be doin all that stuff anyway because you know it's not real. if it was he wouldv'e asked you out already. and i don't think he truly likes you at all. because if he did he would be proud of you and show you off to his friends instead of refusing to hang out with you with friends around. just don't get caught up with him. i'm a sucker for sweetness too, but you have to learn to know if its real or not. and this guy doesn't seem real at all. i hope this helps you.
-Linh
i met this guy dj we went out for about 7months..we broke up 3times..i didnt do anything serious with him (but thats besides the point)when we went out i was really happy when i was with him..but the second time we broke up he went out with this girl Moriah...me and dj stoped talking when they went out because she would get mad and i didnt want to mess up there relationship..cause i guess im a nice person like that lol..but when they broke up we started to talk again..me and dj ended up hooking back up...but i always had this feeling that he still wanted to be with Moriah...dj and i went out for about a month...and in that month of time i met this guy brian..and i started to like him..i cheated on dj with him..i told dj about it and we broke up..and i hooked up with biran...dj hoked back up with moriah..so me and dj didnt really talk...me and brian been together for almost 9months now..and just a few days ago dj and i started talking again..and i think i like dj again i mean all my feeling for him are coming back to me..i still like brian..i think i have mixed feelings...what do i do??...
sorry if this is hard to understand..i tried to explain it the best i can..
---im a 15 female--
hehe. hun you're only 15. you have your whole life time to be with boys. right now, i think you should take some time out and be with yourself. but if not, your gonna have to choose which boy you like more. which boy treats you better? you say you've been with dj 3 different times? well who's to say you two won't break up 10 more times? i hope i helped but you need to make your own decision
Im an eighteen year old female who hasn't had even close to a boyfriend since I was fifteen. I'm not bad looking, so that's not the case.. But I really just don't know why I'm not meeting anyone, or at least when I do meet someone I'm interested in, they are usually not really interested in me. I'm just really lonely I guess. Whenever I get close to a guy, it just ends up that we become really good friends, and I turn into his shrink on girl problems..hah pretty sad.. I'm not looking for tips on picking up guys lol that's not it. I'm just looking for feedback from guys/girls in the same situations or have been in the same situation, and their thoughts. Thanks =]
i've in that same situation right now actually. there is this one guy i really like but he just sees me as a friend. he talks to me about all his problems and everything. but the thing is, one of the problems he tells me about is this one girl he likes who tells him everything, just like he tells me everything. he was scared to say anything cuz they were too close to ruin anything. but he told her. apparently she felt the same, and they love the fact that they are able to talk to each other about anything in the world. so maybe your guyz like you, but you gotta go for it cuz you don't wanna spend the rest of your life wonderin what coulda been.
me and my ex bf nate went out for almost a year and i just decided to break up with him all of a sudden. sometimes i think it was the biggest mistake of my life and sometimes i think it was the best. he says that he's 100% over me and i tell him im over him to but i dont know if i can be over him. he was the first guy i ever fell in love with. he was completely devestated when we broke up, abut he's over me now and i dont know what to do. i still love him, im just so confused. what do i do?
if your sure your not over him, tell him. you tell him your over him, but it's a lie right? well he could be lying to you. if you two really felt deeply about each other, he's probably not 100% over you. its best to let him know you still love him. you can't get rid of your first love. he's gonna stay with you for a long while before your truly over him.
I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.
boys are goofy. you say he stares at you? well has he always done that? cuz if not there is a good chance that he does like you. does he talk to you more often? because if you don't know what kind of person he is, how do you like him? and how can he like you? get to know him and if you think you know each other well enough, he'll drop some hints like ask you to go play video games at gameworks. trying to slide you in his schedule and act like your another of his guy friends to hide his true feelings for you. trust me. if a guy tries to flirt, its obvious. hope everything goes well.
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well i've liked this guy for a very long time and we've gone out and recently hes been flirting with me alot, well today a friend of mine was having a bonfire and me and my friend we'll call her "person x" were the only girls there. Well my ex has been known to flirt so he was casually doing it with both of us. then him and i break off from the rest of pack and we both get the wild idea to go swimming in the river. so we both strip ( not totally )and the whole time im scared hes holding me really close to him and he even carried me back to the house because someone lost my shoes. anyways at the end of the night he takes "person x" away and i already knew what was happeing and you guessed it he asked her out and she said yes after knowing how much i like him. Its not just that but in the morning she'd been telling me about how the love of her life "was being a dick" but she couldnt help but still like him and then when i asked her if she really liked my guy she said yea and i asked her more than the other guy and she said "as of right now yea, cuz hes being an ass". I dont know what to do! she's known for being fickle about the guys she likes. she like a guy alot and then after they go out for a couple weeks decide she really dosent. Also at the party she kept saying how much of a retard my guy was and she always makes fun of him, like what he wears and what music he listens too and they hav almost nothing in commen they're so different. I'm just so lost on what to do! HELP!
well hun. it seems like "person x" likes alot of attention from the guys. she likes to flirt. about your guy, she probably liked him before but didn't wanna seem like a bitchy friend so she made fun of him so you won't get an idea like she liked him. but she's probably just going after him so she could have a "backup" when her guy acts like an ass.
I really STILL like this guy I went out with in the past. He's now going out with another girl but I still REALLY like him (its been about 9 months) and I can't get over him. Everytime I think of him I cry. What should I do?
definately tell him. he wants to know and you will feel a whole lot better. maybe the crying will stop knowing that he knows how you feel about him. hey, he could still like you too but he's just going out with another girl to try to get his mind off of you. you should really tell him. hope everything works out for you.
i like this guy on the internet but he'll be a senior next year and hes hot he says that i am to but im afraid to say anything else ill be a freshman and he lives like 5 states away and its on msn not no chatline
stay away from him. haven't you heard? long distant relationships NEVER work out. i got myself in the same stupid position last year. and i have never regretted anything more in my life. over the net, guys can say your gorgeous but behind their computer they're laughing their asses off with a few buddies. don't trust him at all. take care of yourself.
i otld this kid that i liked him and he has a gf. Now hes saying hes gonna break up with her and then he started asking me all these nasty questions like "if we went out could we have sex" and "do you shave" and "would u let me finger you" and then i told him that no i wouldnt have sex with him and when i told him that and then hes like "dude this isnt even him bye" and then they got off but i kno it was him and now im afraid he'll tell everyone PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!!!!!!!
you know what? let him talk. you could embarras him like he did to you but you don't really wanna lower yourself to his level do ya? stay away from him. he's a creep and not worth your time. if he talks, well i'm sorry hun but you can't be a whore like all those other girls. LoL don't worry about it. you did the right thing. take care.
why are guys nice to some girlz and mean to other girlz, even if they're not mean to the guyz?
guys are nice to otha guys cuz they all have summin in common. they all like girls. now to girls. most guys (not all) are more focused on outer appearances than what is really within a girls soul. WHICH IS WRONG! my advice, don't change. you don't want a guy who's gonna take advantage of you. just be yourself and the RIGHT guy will come around.
ok here the thing.this one girl that i like is on the war path with me.she doesn't talk to me & makes stuff up about me.but i really like her. so wat do i do? do i say the heck with her or wat?
HELP A POOR BROTHER OUT!!
-thanks
well, do you like her? i mean really like her? is it her mind or her body? truthfully, if i were you,(despite the sex difference LOL) i would get her out of mind. quickly. what kind of stuff does she make up about you? see, NObody deserves to be treated like shit. confront her. ask her why she's makin shit up. maybe she's conceited and thinks she's better than you. whatever the case may be, FORGET ABOUT HER find someone who is actually worthy of your love. good luck with everything.
most people say im too young to be in love, but there's this guy, i've known him for as long as i can remember.he's one of my really good friends.i find myself daydreaming about him all the time. i get all these weird emotions around him. lik when he smiles, and laughs. when he looks at me with his soft blue eyes.i want to tell him but i dont no, could it mess up our friendship??wat should i do? tell him? or keep it to myself?
first of all, ANYONE is capable of falling in love. but remember, love is a very strong word. it could be just lust. well, i think that you should definately tell him. does he flirt with you? if or not, telling him will get a load off your mind. and your heart. you'll feel alot better after you get all that off your chest. and if he is TRULY your friend, and he's not into it, it still shouldn't ruin your friendship.
Well my brother is 18 just turned recently and he has this friend he is also 18 or 17 not sure yet.Well he is so nice and really understanding. I can talk to him just about anything.He is like one of my brothers bestfriend and he is so cool. I like him very much i'm about to turn 15 I don't know if i should stay quiet about it and keep it as a crush or let him know.Or how can i get tips if he likes me or not. plz help thanks.
you should tell him. get it out of your system, i mean if you REALLY like this guy. i also have a crush on my brother's best friend shh!!! LoL i told him and we're dating now. now if your brother is anything like mine, he's probably VERY overprotective of his little sis. if your brother has a problem with you two, just remind him that he would much rather you go out with someone he talks to and trusts much rather than a little punk that he doesn't evn know. but be careful. there is a law between 18 year olds and minors. just don't do anything you'll regret later cuz, believe me, regret is not something you want to feel. take care
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there is this guy and ive known him for 2yrs and we've always been close as freinds like i can help him with problems and vice versa but we always flirt and i think he likes me hes been droping signals and i think i like him to. schools out and i dont see him as much but when we talk or hang out we flirt im goin to a party next week i think he'll be there--could u tell em somthings i could do to really send the message
make tha first moves. girls like girls who aren't afraid. who are aggressive, but not whoreish. by the end of the night, if he doesn't tell you first, tell him how you truly feel. if he doesn't feel the same way, its ok cuz you'll feel alot better to get your feelings out. and it shouldn't ruin your friendship if he is truly your friend. but it sounds like he's really into you. good luck!
i am a 16yr old girl, and i havent been in a relationship recently bc i was raped/abused by my ex. and honestly im afraid of being in a relationship because of the past. i know i shouldnt let that effect anything in the future, because its done and over with... but i cant help to think what happens if someone hurts me again like my ex? and i no not every one on this planet is a sick minded freak like my ex was... but i cant help to wonder. there are numerous guys who like me, including 2 of my ex/bfs, who treated me with so much respect... but there is another guy who does like me, and i guess i like him too... but hes not really my type... hes sort of a dork, and yeahh. i know that doesnt matter, what im getting at is, if i do choose any of these, how do i make sure they wont hurt me like my other ex, and who do i pick??
well sweetie, truthfully i've been in a situation similer to yours. i know it hurts like hell but it will take a while to get over. as for these boiz, make sure you know them well enough. usually tha ones that will treat you the best are right in front of your eyes. but you have to look for them. maybe an old friend who's helped you with all your trouble. someone who's always been there. just follow your heart. and not every guy is a creep. there are the selected few. just live your life. you're still very young and a guy will come to you soon enough. hope i helped! take care.