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i like this guy on the internet but he'll be a senior next year and hes hot he says that i am to but im afraid to say anything else ill be a freshman and he lives like 5 states away and its on msn not no chatline
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Over the age of about 19 or 20 age difference starts to matter less, but in high school a freshman dating a snr is a _big deal_. Often it is simply assumed that he wants oyu (the freshman girl) becuase you are easy to take advantage of. More than that, its 5 states away! If this guy is just a crush I' recommend trying to find another who is closer to your age and closer to home. If you still really want this specific guy, then the only way to do it is talk to him. Just ask hiim if he could ever see you guys as moer tahn friends. If you've that good of friends, hes' probably alredy thoguht about it anyway. But is your whole relationship online? How would it be face to face, or on the phone? Is it worth hundreds of dollars in plane tickets? Of course most first answers to those questions is "of course its ok, hes perfect," but just think about how much time, energy and money you (both) would have ot put in to make this work.
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Honestly that really wont work out. Hes A senior, 5 states away and your a freshman. Girl, go find yourself a boy who lives in your town. You'll be better off. trust me.<3
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For one thing, just because he says you're hot doesn't mean you need to do anything about that. It's normal to think people are hot, and complimenting them is a good thing. It doesn't have to mean anything.
In my honest opinon...I'd say most online relationships don't work out. There may be a few lucky duckies out there, but I think finding love the old fashioned way is better.
With online relationships, the biggest problem you're encounter is how honest they are. Anyone could slap on a pretty picture of some dude or chick on their profile, and call themselves 21 years old. And the thing is, you'll never really know for sure what they really look like and who they really are. Online, you can lie about EVERYTHING. You can create your own identity.
Even if you found someone that is telling the truth about themselves, the problem is keeping in touch with them. Talking on the phone is not enough, in my opinion. And since you never see each other, it leaves an even bigger chance of them cheating on you. Some married guy could just try an online dating site just for kicks.
Once you think you know someone really well, and even met them, it doesn't mean you know them. Think about it. The people you interact with every day at school or work, friends, family, etc...you know them all, but you never really KNOW what's behind their mask. If it's like that with people you KNOW, how much safer do you think it is with a person ONLINE?
Lovers separated by distance CAN make it, but only if they TRY to keep it working. They have to constantly communicate somehow and see each other over periods of time. It's a lot of trouble though, if you ask me.
So all in all, I think finding love somewhere in your own home is safer and easier to deal with.
Conclusion? Don't get serious with the guy and don't think anything of it.
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stay away from him. haven't you heard? long distant relationships NEVER work out. i got myself in the same stupid position last year. and i have never regretted anything more in my life. over the net, guys can say your gorgeous but behind their computer they're laughing their asses off with a few buddies. don't trust him at all. take care of yourself.
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