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i'm a male, over 20, alone as hell.
i've never been able to get a girlfriend, i've tried and tried.
it seems like some crule cycle with me, meet a girl, ask her out a couple of times, start to like her and suspect she likes me too, try to be there for her and everything, try to move things up a notch, get the "you're such a good/nice/fabulous guy, i just wanna be friends" routine. Then i'll let go of how i feel as much as posible and try being "just friends", then she picks up the biggest jerk known to mankind and i get to sit across the table watching them make out (TORTURE, for those who care). then the arshole will proceed to cheat on her, she's crushed, i have to listen to all the bullshit and cheer her up, only to find her back with the butthead a week later, then a month later he'll cheat on her AGAIN...
by the third time this happens i simply fuck off, cause she's still won't go out with me and she keeps on going back to the total jerk and every month i have to be there for her.
WHAT THE FUCK, girls always tell me what a "NICE GUY" i am and the friendship crap, but why won't they go out with me.
I'm starting to accept that i'll die alone and bitter, and am starting to avoid woman totally.
I just don't know what to do, i'm really starting to lose it with woman.
I'm over 20 and i haven't even kissed a girl yet. WTF?!!!!!!!!!!!!
should i just kill myself now instead of becoming a full blown alcoholic?
should i try to like guy's more, and simply go gay?
at least i get alot of attention from gay guys trying to chat me up at bars, though im not gay. but women.......FUCK
i need advice please. (link)
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well...this seems a lil crazy..i doubt you wanna hear just tell her how you feel...so ill tell you somethin differnt..you may not have kissed a girl yet..barley any girlfrineds but thats not what life is about...people always say its about boys/girls frineds an marriage..but ya know its now it most def. not..so i just say live your life the best you can an you know you will find someone soon...if you realli like this girl just all i have to say is tell her...tell how she shoudnt go back to him...and be there for her but not as much because you dont wanna be a good frined more as a boyfirned...oh yeah an also tell her she looks nice..but not alot..only some days...dont forget to menchin details about you how you could be a good boyfriend but do not say its you..just describe yourself in momeents when she is upset...well i really hope i could of helped...get back to me if it worked or you like my advice!!!
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16/f
ummmm...like the subject says, i've never been kissed. and it gets to me. everytime i think about it, i get all depressed and start to think that i'm ugly and that no one will ever like me and i'll never be loved. how do i stop thinking about this?! i don't wanna feel like this anymore....
thx in advance
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well....dont you ever think the first kiss you have will be first love...or maybe a romatic night with your boyfrined...kiss dosent always just come an go...usally its a special moment thats gonna come when the time is righht...dont lose faith .... just when you find the guy that you like alot an he likes you an when the right time come it will...belave me it takes time...so dont be depressed just think about the perfect moment you wana have when its gunna come..
hope i helped
Tasha
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ill admit, we had our bad days. Me and will, well we went out a coupl of time over the years. I always ended up being the one to break it off. it never seemed right. Then he asked me back out and this time it was diff. i mean we got along SO MUCH BETTER then we ever did. then on 8th grade graduation night, he dumped me for no reason. he says he is over me and i swore i was over him too. now its like an old flame is being rekindled. he doesnt wanna try again but i think there might be something here we can build on. anyone have any advice for what i should tell him??? please help me if you do!! Love Kels (link)
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you should talk to him about this...like i bet you told him how you feel..an if you didnt just tell him...an i think he dumped you just to get you back fro all those other times you broke up with him...or another thing is maybe he was just afraid he realli actually liked you an he didnt want it to get to serious...i mean you both are in 8 goin on 9....yeah you could get into a serious one but yet he is scared that he dont want none of you 2 to get hurt so he is helping the both of you...so 1st you shoud talk to him ..ask him why...an then just maybe start over as frineds..an see what happens next
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I think i messed up majorly with my crush. we danced last night at a monthly dance our town holds and it incredible. the thing is, we got bumped into, so we kinda broke apart, and he asked me in a sad way "oh is that it?" and i didnt know what to say. i should have let him know how much i love with by saying someone like "does it have to be?" but i didnt. i feel like i lost him completely. he said he really really likes me as a friend. im in love with him and i think he knows that but my problem is that i dont know how to go about talking to him anymore. i dont know what to say or what to talk about. im so confused. i feel like i screwed up big time. if you want the whole story about what happened, i posted a question called "heaven for me, hell for him?"
thx everyone
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hey..im goin through the same thing..but i went out with the kid before this...well i did lose him an i dont want that to happen to you...if you wanna talk to him...just talk about maybe hanging out sometime...like as frineds..if you both are fighting then just try talkin to him an sort it out...an if he gets all cocky then be the calm one...now if you both arent aruging then just talk to him about hanging out..i mean yeah i bet you realli wanna go out with him ..but hey maybe if you both get really close then you could eaither go out or become frineds of benfits...like not go out but do stuff together...something like this
You: Hey whats up
Boy:Nuthing to much just hangin out you?
You:Nuthing to much...i was wondering do you wanna just go out an hang out...you know as frineds?
Boy: "and whatever he says"
see i mean its ain so hard
now if you 2 are aruging
You:Hey look im soory about the other night
boy: Yeah it was pretty meessed up
an then you to just talk it out
i've been through this alot...so just try it ...lets hope it works !!!!
-Hope i helped
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Friday night I was at the movies. Me,my 2 friends and this guy that likes me took some pictures. I sat on his lap. I have a boyfriend of 3 months. Is that cheating and is it bad and should I tell my boyfriend? I feel really bad! Please help! (link)
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Now if you Just sat on his lap thats not bad at al...but if you did shit with him then yes it is...but you can tell your boyfrined becasue you know sooner or later someone else would...who ever else was there...an if your boyfrined is nice an understandable then you can...an if he gets mad..well let him...he should be able to get over it...but dont feel quilty...things happen an well life goes on...so just tell him !!
hOpe i helped
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i have a Question. The guy that beats me. His brother likes me and he said that if i do anything with his brother he will kill me. His brother is not like my ex he is a lot nicer and i really like him what should i do? Michy (link)
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well...your boyfriend beats you...wow....thats how my mom was...but then she kicked him ...so he said he would kill you if you would do stuff with his bro..well you sould brkae up with him...or do something..beasue this isnt right,...so tell some one..an if you do happen to brake up with him..make sure someone is with you...like your mom..or leave him an go on vaction to your moms.....well if he keeps beatin you realli need to leave him...it took my mom 15 years of beating to leave my dad.dont put your self through this ...well hopeing i helped..buh bye
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Hey.. This is pretty general. What are some basic signs that a guy likes you? (link)
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some basic signs are
1. They look at you alot
2.They flirt
3.They call you more then ever
4.They are always talkin to you alot
5.they are REALLI nice
6. all over you
i have the same probs with this kid in school
and he likes me and thats what he does...hope i helped//
-tasha
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Well see i'm 15 and i'm a female and i'm not going out with this guy, but i gave him head and he ate me out at a football game in the back of his van. I was caught up in the moment and now everyone is calling me a slut. I have no idea of what to do, should i stick up for myself or just ignore them. The advice would be very helpful. thanks! (link)
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Well..Just stick up for yourself...its what you wanted to do ..it isnt there choice to choose who they think you are an then turn you down...they all are just pissed becasue they didnt do it before you...So just fuck them i think if they were all true frineds to you they wouldnt mind...so hope i helped
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how do u get a girl to want to go out with you? (link)
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well from hearing from a gurl who had alot of gerks..you really dont wanna be the guy gurls talk about in bad ways..so let me help you out
1.Flirt..then when you are just be really nice
2.ask her if she likes you ..."do you like me"?
3.Then tell her how you feel..
but one thing dont go any gushy mushy shyt right away....
4..never let a gurl run all over you..then they know you'll do anythin for them
5..not many gurls like guys who will do anythin for them ..well i sure dont
6..just be your self
-hope i helped ..
tasha leigh
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ok my boyfriend will leave me messages and at the end of them hell tell me he loves me...and then when i call him back or watever or in person he wont say it....like i wrote i love u on his hand one day cuz we wer messin around and he just smiled....im so confused why wont he say it to me in person or on the fone but hell say it in messages? (link)
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Same thing has happened to me ...i know its questiong you alot i bet...wwell maybe hes shy to tell you how he really feels about you...but he must love you alot to feel shy to say it...just dont make a big deal..you 2 just hang out alot i bet..some day he'll say it..it may be soon or not but mt Boyfrined woukdnt say it eaither and then one day he did ..so just give it time..some r shy then other boys..hope i helped
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My last boyfriend and I used to call each other *all* the time. I really like my current boyfriend but I'm way to shy to call him! I'm always scared he'll be busy or something and that I will look stupid. (link)
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well...what i do is just call him..i can see how you feel..but dont hold on callin some0ne...if he calls you then your okay...but just take a deep breath and call him ..when your on the fone just start a funny convo and then you most likley wont be afraid to call him...hOpe i Helped..
tasha leigh
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alriqht . about three and a half yearsz aqo ii went out with this kid justin and we were on and off for about a year or two . for a short time we stopped talkinq but it started up aqain about 9 monthsz aqo . we started hanqinq out more and more and ii realized that ii still love him as much as ii did back then - if not more . ii dunno what to do about it thouqh because my best friend likesz him too . even thouqh she`sz only known him for 3 monthsz and she has a boyfriend of a year . ii dunno what to do thouqh . should ii tell him how ii feel or just keep it quiet ?? and how do yu think ii should qo about tellinq him that ii still love him ?? thanksz in advance for any advice yu miqht have .
xO stacii leiqh (link)
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Well coming From me...Tell him how you Feel ...maybe he feels the same way about you but holding it all in..like your doin now..You dont wanna hold any feelings in..and for your frined she has a man..she dont need 2 ..tell her that you known him longeer an how you feel for him...dont talk 24-7 about him then she'll start likin him more...just talk to her and be like "UmMm Well i might go out with Justin." -thats if he likes you- and see what she says..you never know..if shes one true frined then she wont mind and she'll understand clearly...you'll never know till you tell him how you fell..Eaither invite him to a movie and tell him..or write him a note...or better off ..tell him yourself...it may be better so that he knows you arent shy to show your feelings..welll hope i helped...
P.S. make sure you tell your frined..
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My boyfriend told me he didn't love me but he likes me alot. He doesn't know that I love him and he keeps trying to get me to tell him but I wont, I think he's guessed. I just want to cry, I knew he didn't love me but when he told me it just made everything 10 times worse. I really love him, what shall I do? (link)
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well ..you love this kid right..and he said he likes you alot well thats just like sayin i love you ..so there really isnt a dif..but if you truley love him well stop holdin all your sad ness in and tell him eaither at the movies in a note or on the fone..but eaither way you need to tell him so that he knows its true..if you tell him then he may say the same back..if you kno those boys well enough he loves you alot and he wont show it but i bet he crys every night while he thinks of you...so just trust in your self and think postive not negative..tell him how you feel and it will change alot i bet !!
thankz hope i helped -tasha
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dont think i'm weird but all my life i've looked at girls and never thought it was weird but now i might think that i acually like girls as well as guys but i'm not sure what to do?(i'm a girl)
i dont wanna be sean as weird for liking the same sex but i think i acually do its weird....so should i react on these feelings or just supress them and not do anything for fear of rejection? (link)
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Okay Gurl ..Lisen up ...I understand how liking gurls is posssible...im gurl too and yeah there are sum gurls i will look at ..but i dont think of them like that..sence you do i think you should just tell a really close friend and talk to her about it..or another thing to do is just not think about sum gurls and try your hardest not to like them...Just follow what you wanna do and do what you think is right ...hope i helped if you need me then box me in!!**
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I'm 13 M and I was recently talking to my friend (13 F) when she told me that she liked me. I had a crush on her for about a year now and so i was excited when we talked more i thought that she really liked me. But then when we talked again she told me that she liked me but that she liked my friend better. See the thing is i can't stop thinkin of her and i dont know what to do.
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Okay my Advice is to tell her to her face not on the fone or PC that usally changes things ...and also talk to her alot more then usal but dont call her 24.7 not good for that ..just tell her strat to her face how much you like her..and how bad you felt when she told you taht she like aonther boy more...just talk to her and then when its the right time ask her out..do what ya think is the best way to work...hope i helped ..ya neeed me box me in..
tasha
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ok im almost 13 and im going into the 8th grade. Ive never had a boyfriend in my life. But ive liked guys and i was always afraid if i asked em out theyd reject me and it would go around i would be a bigger loser that i am now because 'i tried to ask out someone more popular than me' or something. because im not a geek or anything but im not popular either. Im like the in-between-kinda person. I know you'll say "just ask em out, who cares what they think" but its easier said than done. I dont know what to do...PLease help me! thanks (link)
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okay gurl lisen im the same thing as you say but dont call ur self a loser...jus think do you really like these boys do you really need them..i have been through the same thick and thin..an its hard for the first one ..im not as poupler as people think but still i kno it very hard to go ask people out ecpessicly for us gurls and what you sould do is write a note to him and it dont hve to be perfect.but befor you do ask anyone out make sure you kno them well enough not to well or else it mite brake up the friendship.beloive i went out with this boy not even knowing him and he is such an ass to gurls..i hate im so befor you do anythin make sure you kno him pretty well and dont think about that boy 24/7 ...you should jus try to have fun...hope i helped..box me in if ya need me
P.S .follow your instinks
tasha
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hey im 13 nd me nd my boy friend recently spilt but i still like him nd i just found out that he still likes me to but i dont no wat to do cuz my best (guy) friend likes me now nd my ex nd him are really great friends nd they both asked me out tonite nd i said i have to think about it to both of them wat do i do!! thanks in advance! (link)
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Okay .well the thing i would is just give it some time let them think things over ..tell them both that you dont wanna brake there friendship..ut if its okay and then dont care who ever you date then just try to see who you realy truley love..just follow your instinks be yourself...dont worry about them..jus give them 2 time to think and see if they are really ready for this..i just dont want you to get hurt or them..some guys seem nice t 1st but in the end they change so think really hrd abut this who do you truley love...hope i helped...if ya need me box me in..
tasha take care
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I went out with this guy for 4 months, (From October to January) and I broke up with him because I thought I had no feelings left for him. I guess it was just a time of the moment thing, because ever since January I've been soo depressed. I've wanted to kill myself. I'd cry every single night. Sometimes I still do. He's not taking me back, and he's a year younger. So I guess he might think I took advantage of him. But, his bestfriend rides my bus and he told me a bunch of shit that wasn't true, and he made me believe it. So basically I was forced to break up with him, blah de blah de blah. I told my ex about his best friend, and he made exscuses for him. Like "Maybe he was jealous, or sometimes he gets mad or hyper and does stupid stuff".
So anyways, this guy that I seriously want to spend the rest of my life with, well I need a way to get him back. I don't just want to be with him forever, I need to be with him forever.
Please, If someone could help me at all, I'd owe you a big one, and I'll rate you too, I just need help. =/ (link)
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look gurl im 16 i been where u been i thought i was in love...and one thing i learned is that love conquers all...and itf its meant to be itll happen...now as much as its goin to hurt if u want this boy back act as if you do not care ur not wit him...go out and have fun with ya gurls...live it up gurl u only live once u got ur whole life ahead of u...another thing do not let him kno u wanna spend foreva wit him..guys r terrified of commitment and thats prolly why he isnt wit u now becus he is afraid to think of commiting to ONE person for the rest of his life...another thing...when u see him act like nothing eva went on no drama nuthin u see him in the halls simply smile and keep walkin or if he is walkin wit someone u kno go up to the person he is walkin wit and hug them say hey wuts up a lil conversation and then just walk away and act like u didnt even see him cus that will get him thinking like "i thought she liked me""wuts goin on" and then he will keep thinkin bout u and then hell come to think why didnt i get back wit her...and who knows maybe by that time u will be wit someone else but im here for you gurl u need ne more advice u no where to find me :)
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Okay i have been with the same guy for the past 4 years all high school you could pretty much say, but anyway...All this time i have been a virgin yeah we do everything else and yatta yatta but i dont know i think that i want to have sex with him, i know that im ready but idk I love him with all my heart but what if i could get better or something? i mean i know hes awesome at everything else but what if hes not good at sex? then what do i do just resort to everything else that has kepted me happy all this time? please give me some advice
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OKay wow..lol..i understand but i think that you should wait till hes ready and if he is then go ahead but what im sayin its gunna hurt and will suck after words..but if you reallly love him that much that wont show love its jus a thing..so do what you think is best
Tasha
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Okay I am in love with this guy. We are friends but he doesn't know I like him. He is a year older than me but in the grade behind me.. ya not the smartest person and he is coming to my school next year. So, he thinks i'm hot but he doesn't like me. But I really like him do you know any way I could tell him and keep our friendship the way it is like not change it and do you know anyway i could maybe make him like me a little bit more (link)
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okay well i think that you should tell him but make sure he knows that if he doesnt wanna have that kind of relationship with you that you can still be friends... i hope i helped... if you ever need anymore help just drop one in my box... :)
Tasha
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