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My name is Melissa :]. I live in California.I seriously do. Fresno,CA. Look it up. I didn`t know what or where Fresno was until my dad came home & told us we were moving there.. I live in like the friggen richiest part of Fresno called Clovis[it`s another city that`s in Fresno.]Nothing ever happens in Clovis.No robberies,killings,etc. Things always happen in Fresno. This city is so effing small that you find out about everyone`s problems. It`s like Gossipville. My highschool is even worse. People talk smack like it`s their hobbie, so i`ve had my share of gossip about me. Doesn`t really bug me, unless you continue to do it. Then I get pissed. Who wouldn`t?! Fresno is okkaayyy, if you meet the right people. But Clovis will always be the most boringest place ever.



I've been through alot. Anything really. I don`t really trust people that easily, but if I do, then congrats, you`re awesome. Don`t straight up ask me what i`ve been through. If I really really really really really really really really know you, then I might tell you. But you know, it`s hard telling people what you`ve been through because it brings back so much horrible memories. I got over some shit, but it still leaves marks..Welcome to a world where being yourself isn`t good enough..



My closet is full of clothes from Hollister,Abercrombie,Forever 21, Charlotte Russe, and all those preppie stores that you hate. I can`t live without my cell phone or a purse. Don`t judge me. If you do, I friggen hate you with a passion.I have alot of confidence, and you might think that i`m cocky, but i`m not. I actually think low about myself, but what girl doesn`t? I sometimes think that i`m better than a few people, but i only compare to those who are pretty shallow & fucking dumb. Like gossip starters, stalkers,backstabbers, & anything like that.I'm probably the coolest 15 year old that you`ll ever meet :]. I love going to the beach, even though i HARDLEY ever get to go. I was born in San Francisco. I move alot. I stayed in new york for 4 years because of my daddy's job. But now i'm back here in california.I love my friends. I'm a really nice girl. I`m full of sarcastic remarks.Anything acustic(sp) realllyy turns me on. I love it when a guy can sing & play something hot, aww so adorable, don`tcha think?! ;]



I have a boyfriend & his name is Junior. He's gorgeous.HE PLAYS THE ACUSTIC GUITAR & SINGS FOR MEEE!! Oh man, I just feel like grabbing him. He makes me really happy && he surprises me alot. He makes me feel all like..warm and soft inside.Shut up. Your jealous. I know. Our love is anything but average. We have the weirdest relationship, but I wouldn`t trade it for the world..I love it when we watch re-runs of the O.C. I love how he can watch romantic movies with me. I love it when he lets me win in video games.I love when he kisses my nose or forhead. I love it when he trips me lol. I love it when he gives me piggy back rides & won`t let me fall when i`m standing on fire hydrants.I love it when we eat chicken nuggets together & share only one drink. I love it when he squeezes my face cheeks together & kisses me. I love the way he runs up to me at school & jumps on me. I love the way we skip together holding hands. I love it when I take out the crust of my bread && he eats it. I love it when I turn out to be hecka sick & he comes to my door with soup & his blanket. I love it when he sends me like .. friggen 2 page love letters & he sends them through the mail & i get them. I love it how he believes in me & teaches me to make better choices and incourages me. I love the way he can easily cheer me up with the simpliest things like smiling. I love it when i start crying and he cheers me up by doing the "balony dance". Lol. I love the way he pokes my cheeks with his finger. That`s love, baby.♥

I say tre-cool & dunzo alot.


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Okay, a week ago, this guy who I barely even know (I don't even know his last name) sent me an e-mail declaring that he loves me and wants to be with me. I sent him a very polite decline, because I just do not feel that way about him at all, and now he keeps on e-mailing me with guilt trips about how he thinks he's going to be alone for the rest of his life, and he keeps telling me that he loves me. I suspect that he thinks that if he keeps doing this that I'll change my mind...I don't quite know how to deal with this. So far, I've treated him like I would want to be treated were I in his position, but he's starting to make me feel really uncomforatble. What can I do??

Thanks!

You should block his email address, or just send him an email telling him that you don`t like the way he writes to you & he makes you feel uncomfortable & if he doesn`t stop, then your going to take serious drastic action...or measure..which one sounds more cooler. :] ♥

If i were you i would just ignore him.

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i'm going back out with my boyfriend after he cheated on me. but i know he won't do it again! a lot of people tell me that i'm stupid.... "once a cheater always a cheater!" but i love him so much and know he won't do it again! WHAT DO I DO?!

I went out with this one guy who cheated on me AGAIN. It lasted for about.. a month.

The reason why we broke up is because I found out that he cheated on me throughout the whole entire time we were actually together.

Now we don`t even talk. I don`t even acknowledge at school anymore. Such a jerk.

Anyways, I would say take a chance, but if he cheats on you again, just realize that he wasn`t good enough for you & it`s not your fault.

I know that the guy I went out with & your guy aren`t the same, but just watch out. ♥

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In your opinion, how old should a girl at least be before she has her first kiss? 4th graders dog-drooling all over each other's chins don't count.

I agree with everyone else. 12 & no younger. But if you get your first kiss older than 12, it`s okay. ♥

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caution: this is extremely long =\
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. iduno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much

Omfg, I haven`t even read it yet & i`m scared. This has got to be the longest thing i`ve ever gotten..Thank you. Seriously..Lol. Jk. I`ll still answer it. :]
Ok so anyways.. !
At first I was thinking maybe you should get over it, but that just wasn`t my thing to say.
Don`t IM him. You HAVE to talk to him in person. IMing him is just going to be so akward, and if two people who haven`t talked in a while, suddenly gets this IM from them, I would be like uhhh...
You just need the confidence in talking to him, & having enough confidence can take so much work. I wouldn`t blame you if you were shy. I`m still shy even know I have alot of confidence. I know thinking of things you should say is hard, but if you start off small, you can make him talk to you, or you can get the courage to talk to him. He probably does remember the things that you guys went through, he just isn`t showing it. Guys like to hide their emotions. Look at him, smile, and then turn away. Not even a big step. But start small. Then make eye contact. When he isn`t looking, drop your pen near him && ask him to pick it up. Then from then on, you might get a little courage to talk to him. Just say ANYTHING. But not anything weird. Just talk about anything that`s around you guys. My friend was sitting in front of the guy she liked & he asked her for gum & she was so nervous that she just said No and turned back around. She came to me so then I told her to start talking to him before I punch her, and so the next day he asked if she had gum again & she`s like oh yea I do & she asked what his favorite type of gum was & they just kept on talking ever since. And he finally asked her out after like..4 months or something. They`ve been talking between those months,too.And now they are going out. So see how something SO little & dumb can lead into something even like..great? :] You`ll be fine. Just get yourself together & talk to this guy that you admire. It`ll work. ♥

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There's a guy I REALLY like. Let's call him "Shirt".

Shirt has called me hot on a few occasions, sometimes to my face, and sometimes not.

Today, one of my friends was hounding me about who I like, and when she said to tell her, Shirt looked over.

The thing that confuses me is that sometimes he doesn't even acknowledge me.

I don't really know him that well. We have a Sadie Hawkins dance coming up, and I was wondering if I should ask him. I rate!

I'm 14/f, and he's 17/m

Shirt? Lol..

Anyways, I think you need to start talking to him more. Get to know him. Yes, we all know he thinks your hot, but he doesn`t even "acknowledge" you. Start talking to him on Monday & if you guys get close enough, then ask him. ♥

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is it odd to date somebody a year younger then you, and he's a little bit shorter then you?
Im a female.

Not at all. Don`t worry about it. It won`t seem weird. :] ♥

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this one is for guys. ok, i used to go out with this guy and then i broke up with him, for no apparent reason. well, he still liked me ALOT and now i like him again. i asked him back out and he said that he'd say yes, but he made this bet to his friend that he wouldnt go out with anyone for sixth months. he claims that he REALLY likes me, so is there any way that i can convince him to break the bet? because now the friend that he made the bet to, wants us to go out. im sorry if this is confusing, but if you can please help me
THANX!

Just ask the friend that he betted with to call the bet off. Just tell the friend that you really like this boy & you wanna go out with him.

C'mon. This question was easy...

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OH NO!! i got a hickey last night from a really hot guy. At first i thought it was funny, then i just was like "oh no, not again" lol--His MOM saw it..She was OK with it but she was still upset with him. Now I'm afraid what MY mom will say. THe 4 hickey's i had before this i made up excuses for ..i got hit with a baseball, it was my necklass rubbing me, etc.. what do i do to make it go away? I'm trying the "frozen spoon" and "toothpaste" i've also tried ice. ANY MORE ADVICE. PLZ HELP = URGENT!! -hickkey girll =O

Sometimes grabbing like a cap of something & twisting it on your skin works.

You can also use make-up to cover it up.

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What are some things girls like guys to do at scary movies? Like hold their hands or what? We are going ot see the hills have eyes and i don't know if she would like it if i put my arm around her or anything... 13/m

I like it when i'm watching scary movies & my boyfriend just grabs my hand. And sometimes if I'm really scared, he`ll give me a kiss on the cheek & give me this really cute smile. Lol. It sounds cheesy but the little things like this that he does just makes me all like..warm inside. It just makes me feel special knowing that he cares even though the movie isn`t real. ♥

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ok.. so my boyfriend looks at porn. ive never had a problem with porn with any other guy ive been with, but lately its been getting to me. I just cant bare the thought of my boyfriend fantasizing about other women. even worse; their bodies are perfect && mine are far from it and i just dont want him comparing me to them. So my question is:
-Is it ok for me to feel this way?
-Is looking at porn considered cheating to some people?
-Should i say something to my boyfriend
-If so what?
(hes very stubborn)

It is okay to feel like this. Porn is a very big huge deal in a man`s life. :o]

Porn isn`t considered cheating. Atleast not to me. You shouldn`t feel so insecure about this. He`ll probably never meet a porn star & go off and cheat on you with these girls. He won`t. He still loves you. And i highly doubt he`s comparing them to you. Just tell him that you don`t want him to watch so much porn. Tell him that you understand but you just hope that he can take it down a notch.

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My boyfriend said I was irresponsible and lazy just because I'm not going to school today. One. day. And he refuses to let me kiss him, when I next see him and now he's ignoring my calls&IMs. I don't know.

Yes. You do have the right to be angry. He`s really overreacting. But i just hope you don`t break up with him or do something stupid because most girls will break up. Just because they are dumb. Anyways, he`ll be okay with it. I missed school today because I was sick & my boyfriend got a little sad & mad, but he said it was alright. Lol. Don`t worry about it. Everything is going to be fine.

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i realli realli like this guy and he is all i think about day and night and he says he likes me but he doesnt want a gf right now...wat should i think?

You just have to think what he told you. It doesn`t mean that he doesn`t like you or doesn`t want to be with you, it just probably means he`s really busy or just doesn`t feel like being in a relationship just yet. Don`t lose hope. He still likes you. Just keep talking to him like your talking to him right now. And just keep on acting the same.

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my friend didnt know how to make out n like use her tongue n stuff......so she like did it with her dog i guess

is it just me or is that a lil weird?


she told me she did it tho so she wouldnt look stupid when she does it with a guy fer the 1st time

WITH HER DOG?!?!

Wow. She might as well stick her tongue in the dog`s butt. No offense to your..weird...friend. Anyways, I agree with you, it`s really weird..

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My bf came over to my place one day while I went to check my mail. I came back with all my mail, a couple of bills, and one letter that had no return address on it. My bf got very suspicous and asked me who could of wrote it. I said I didnt know, and that it was none of him business. He accused me of cheating on him. I got really mad and told him to leave. He said he wouldnt leave until I opened the letter. I told him no, so he grabbed the letter and opened it. It turned out to be my cousin. I told him we were through.
Is what he did illegal? I heard someone say once that it's illegal to open someone elses mail. Does anyone here know?

Yes. It is. It is because you told him not to open it and since he grabbed it & opened it, he can get in trouble. But i mean, would you really tell the police that your ex-boyfriend opened your mail just because he assumed you were cheating on him. No offense or anything...

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okay im 14/f and my bf is 15. right so people say im like " pretty" & like shes a loser or fag or whatever. and i dont get offended because i dont care what other people think. but sometimes i feel like i dont like him & i think thats bad. like i could be with someone else ? but then he tells me he lvoes me etc etc. but other days i feel like i like him no matter what he looks like. im desperate for help .as if this didnt have that written all over it ! =)


..please help hun i just dont know what to do. & now i feel guitly talking to him when i feel like i dont like him.

Aww. Well you just got to ask yourself if you`re happy being with him. I know you probably explained it in your question up there, but it seems like you have to force yourself to be happy with him. Sure you like him sometimes, but you can still be really close friends with him & not even feel guility about not being happy with him when you guys are friends. Because obviously being friends with someone is way easier than being WITH someone who you just question your admire to them. You`re questioning your relationship, and that`s not a good thing.

If I were you, I`d just be friends with him. He`ll still like you & you won`t have to make yourself feel like crap when sometimes you don`t like him & want to be with someone else. Just choose whatever you want. :] Hope it goes well.

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While i was helping my guy friend from work at work he said i was a distraction for him, what does that mean?

If his tone of voice was serious, then it means that he can`t work with you around him because you distract him. Meaning your bugging him.

But if his tone of voice was like flirty & just not serious, it means that he can`t work because your distracting him which is a good thing if this is the case because he`s paying attention to you.

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ive been "talking" with a kid for 6 months now.
Talking is when your not going out but your "about to" and you both like eachother & know it
well im still liek nervous around him and idk were so different but i think thats what makes it good uk...well i guess what im wondering is should i wait around for him? dont tell me "if i think its worth the wait" because i wouldnt be here if that was the case idk hes 17 im 15 and yeah. leave your AIM sn so we can talk more and i can give details if you want.

15 && a 17 year old isn`t that bad. It`s not even a big difference at all. It seems like you really want to be with this guy. So if it`s only the age number that your worried about? Then there`s nothing wrong.

You can IM me if you want at H0LLYW0ODGLAMOUR.

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Is breaking up over the phone okay? Or should I make an effort to do it in person?

Just break it up in person. Unless you broke your leg or an arm or suddenly got in a wheelchair, then do it on the phone. Other then that...No.

It just makes it seem like you have balls to do it in person. The phone just makes things more akward.

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I NEED HELP!!!!!!! WHOEVER ANSWERS THIS ILL RATE 5!!!!!!!!

okay...well i recently found out that im a lesbian...and the other day my friend (shes a girl and didnit kno i was gay) came over. we were working on our homework and then...it happened ...i koodnt control myself...i just jumped on her and we started making out and stuff....we went rlly far if u know what i meen and she said she had a great time but didnt want this to happen again,....i love her sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much and dont know what to do...any advice out there????????????????????

Talk to her about it. ALONE. And this time, when you are alone, don`t jump on her. If she doesn`t want to be with you, then she doesn`t. You can`t pressure her to be with someone if she doesn`t want to be with them. But since she had "great time", she might want to be with you. Tell her how you feel & come out to her.

FEEDBACK:
How was I being rude? I was just suggestion that you shouldn`t jump on her when you are talking to her. I didn`t even call you weird, let alone made you feel weird. Oh well. Sorry...I guess.

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ok welllll....do guys findd it weird when girls play video games? or is it cool? and do guys like it when girls are girly but still "boyey"?

P.S. boyey is not a real word..i just made it up...fyi

Aw how cute! Lol, well my boyfriend first started liking me when we were playing video games actually. I won. And that`s when he asked me out. I was like yayyy! :] Some guys just love it when other girls can be hecka tight with them in the things they do. I have this guy friend who practically tells me EVERYTHING [& I mean everything..] because he see`s me as "one of the guys". I don`t get insulted. It makes me feel special. :] But yea, me & a couple of my guy friends still play video games. Just when we`re chilling. :]

PS- Sorry I`m not a guy. I just had to answer this question. It was cuteee. lol

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