Hey Everyone It Is Irishdude405
I am A very Understanding person that likes to listen to your thought and i can relate to many of you hear because I've been through many Situations that you may be going through. I'm not to into sports but i love being active. I dont Have a girlfriend at the current moment. I am Attending Highschool Next year and im Hopefully going to go to college raise a family and be a writer. Now Dont hesitate asking me a question They Will be Answered and They will have Advice for every specific Need!
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i just met this kid last week, he's cute, funny, nice etc. he was the one who called me to hang out 1st but i always feel like when we talk i am getting mixed signals, like he seems to like me but then he just signs of line or puts on an away message without saying bye & the convorsation just ends. we hung out twice last week wehn we 1st met (he asked me both times) i want to hang out again but is it too soon to ask him? i don't want to seem like a loser or to clingy. is it bad for me too call him? can anyone tell me what to do? & why doesn't he say good bye online? (link)
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Hey..i have been going through the same exact thing..and the best thing to do is just to wait for them..if they like you enough then he'll get back to you and if they don't...then he isnt worth your time
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Hay it's Running! Okay, about my x-boyfriend. he asked me out and then dumped my about one or two months later. he and I didn't live as near as we would have liked to. I had liked him for two years before he finally asked me out. I was "asleep" when He told my friends, and he also kised me to wake me up. I didn't even know that he had kissed me util he asked me out later that day. All of my friends were laughing when I woke up, and they wouldn't tell me what had happened. The day that that happened was the dance and it had just ended, so we went outside to cool off, and I fell asleep on the hill while everyone was talking. After I woke up I heard everyone telling him he should do "it" I didn't know what they meant until we went back inside and he turned around and asked me out. I found out that a week later I was going to move and he was really supportive. He stayed with me as much as he could the rest of the school year. Then over the summer he seemed like he was ignoring me. I would call and either he wouldn't answer or he would have to go like two minuets after. about a month later, I was at my friends house having a sleep-over, and we decided to call him and just say hi, but my friend told me she wanted to talk to him, and so I let her, not knowing what she wanted to talk to him about. But all of the sudden she asked him "do you still like Shannon? Because if you do, you certainly aren't showing it!" Then really fast she put on speaker phone. I expected him to say yes, and that he was just bussi or something. But instead he said "I only like Shannon as a friend." I was petrified! My friend hung up on him and hugged me. Now he and I are "friends", and so I invited him to my friend get-together. He got there late, because he had to go somewhere with his family, but he would be back in time to come a little late. After he got there, he acted as though we were still "together", but later he said that is how he treats friends. I still love him and I really want him to love me again. My friends were really mad at me because we were flirting at the party. I didn't know what to tell them. I just want to know if I did something wrong? Can you help me figure it out?
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Sorry that is so long but it was a long story. If you need me to tell it to you short I will. By the way, is the nickname thing a bad idea,Because I wouldn't want all of these people to think that I am wierd, even if I don't know them, and even if I am wierd! (sorry, that was my bad attempt at humor. I ussually am very funny, but not when I'm sad, which is very often lately.) Can you make me understand why he dumped me? Maybe if he acts like that with me,(and I know for a fact that is not how he traets all of his friends, because I was his close friend before he asked me out and he never treated me like that.) should I ask him if he wants to try again?
Thanks,
Running (link)
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It seems like when you moved that it was so hard to stay close in that way so it just grew apart i am afraid to say. I would wait for him to make a move if he is going to make a move. As far as your friends go, They'll get over it and you'll get over him eventually there will be plenty of others trust me! You shouldnt care what people think about ur nickname. You'll Be Running , Ill Be Jogging!
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This is Running, again. (by the way, is that stupid? You know, the nickname and all?) that is only one of my questions. My other one is what do boys like in girls, in general? I mean, I know that boys kinda like different girls for different things, but I just wanted to know. I had a boyfriend, but he dumped me shortly after we started going out and I never knew why. So of coarse, I wanted to know why he dumped me. so do you think you could help me out like you always do? thanks.
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Well i need a little more backround information on the relationship before i can answer that question. as far as what boys like in Girls, I like a girl that has a sence of humore but can talk about serious things. I like a girl that is Low key and wont Slap but will still joke and play around. This is the kind of girl i like but everyone is different you know? But send me a little but of information about the relationship and ill be glad to anser that question
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How do u ask a guy out? i really like him, and i kno he likes me, but hez really shy, so i kno he won't ask me out, and boyz alwayz ask me out, so i don't kno how 2 do it myself
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What you should do is ask one of your friends to ask him for you.
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15/f.There is this guy that i have been liking FOREVER. For about four years now, and he is one of my best friends. He always flirts with me and calls me and invites me places. Last time we went to the beach with alot of other people and he only hung out with me. I dont know if hes just flirting with me or if he really likes me. But the thing is, i don't know if i should say anything to him because if he doesnt like me,I don't want it to change our friendship now. Im so confused. I don't know what to do. I mean i don't understand if guys think about those things totally different than girls. Please answer.Thank you (link)
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Well Boys CAN be hard to understand because boys dont understand what they want themselves. He could just be flirting or he could like you. Its hard to tell. But it sounds like he just wants to be with you when you are in a big group of people. So what i would do is have one of your friends ask one of his friends " Oh does he like* You * because he sure does seem like it" and then if he knows he'll tell her or if he doesnt he will find out because Curiosity killed that cat ya know. then have your friend be like Oh ok TELL ME WHEN U FIND OUT;)
You ask, I'll answer Irishdude405
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Same poster as "Sordid Love Polygon."
I'm eighteen years old, female, and I was unpopular at my high school. Somehow, however, I ended up being friends with a lot of the football players. I got really close to one of them, Alan; he ended up becoming one of my best friends. He's the perfect man in every way--smart, funny, cute, nice--except that he's OBBSESSED with SEX.
Alan has a girlfriend, Bella. She's a nice girl, and I like her as a friend, but the two are toxic to one another. When they have problems, it's like all the life gets sucked out of him. They're really harmful to each other.
Even when they break up, he always has other girls in line... (Naomi, for example). He's got a reputation for being able to get anyone to sleep with him... sex is a huge part of his life.
Now that I've graduated, I find that I'm... in love with him. I think about him every day... When I’m not thinking about him, I’m thinking about these two characters from this game I like who are just like him and me. I really care about him... and I think he knows it, since I kissed him once. But he has a girlfriend. Even if he didn’t, I’m waiting until marriage to have sex, and I'm afraid he would convince me to do something I don't want to.
I know I can't be with Alan. I don't want to damage my friendship with him or Bella, and I know he’s not right for me. But I don't know what to do. These feelings I have for him are making it hard for me to deal with other guys, and just thinking about not seeing him every day in school is killing me. I guess what I want to know is, how do I get over a guy who doesn't like me anyway? (link)
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The best way to get over a guy is getting to know and hanging out with other guys. You want to stay away from him by doing other things so your not thinking about him all the time. I hope things turn out alright.
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Irishdude405
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Heyy! I am a 14 year old girl
I have a MAJOR problem... I have a boyfriend of almost 5 months and we are really happy! He was my first kiss...let alone that but we haev madeout and french kissed! which sounds like alot but when you see how happy we are you could see why we have done that! The only problem is our parents dont know and we dont plan to tell them any time soon...both of us arent supposed to have a gf/bf until we are 16 or 17.... we are seriously meant for each other and he says he loves me and i love him...i haev never felt this way!
WHAT SHOULD I DO! I dont know if we shoudl tell our parents or just wait to tell them...what would you do???? any advice would be helpful!
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You should wait to tell them. My friend is in the situation and her parents wont let her go anywhere if her boyfriend is there. Just keep things on the Down Low for a while. But they love eachother a great deal and they have a true relationship.
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sooo many but i feel nothing......
i dont kno if yall have this problem but all my guy friends are so close to me but everyone in a they will fall for me !! and this time 4 of my guy friends like me!! jordan .. brenden ... dylan ... & lee and there my friend and all of them kall me all the time and text me on my cell!! they all want to be wiff me and i dont kno should i go out wiff one of them ... and if i do wut will my other guy friend think!! i have already been out with jordan ... and that didnt work to well because i dont like shy guyz because i making A-L-L the moves and were best friends and we kiss and it was werid so i ended that! and i have goon out wiff lee before 2 and we have kissed but it was werid and we liked being friends better! so that ended and i have been out with dylan2 and we didnt do mch but i still dumped him all of thses guy i have been out wiff plenty of time!!!! except breneden and i dont kno wut to do!!! and i hate being friend with benfiet with all of them cuz we tried that t it go S-U-P-E-R old and i felt bad! but anywayz can yall help me i dontkno but to do turn um all down so i dont hurt someone ... play along wiff all of them cuz its summer ... or just say yea to one of um !!!???!!! thx so much I RATE HIGH!
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Well i wouldnt go out with brenden just because from the sounds of it, it seems that you'd much rather stay friends. I would mess around the summer and stay single and wait to find out what happens and who you like over the summer ok?
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~Irishdude405~
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ok, i have a boyfriend but he isnt the hottest thing in the world. a few people think he is kind of hot, though. anyway, i have this one guy friend that likes me, and always makes fun of the way my bf looks. he is friends with my brother and myself, and lives next door so is at mh house 24/7 and plans on making trouble whenever my bf comes over. it's very annoying. any help?
also, a few other girls i am friends with next door want to meet him and i know they will not be the nicest about his looks probably. i'm shallow, and i know i shouldnt care, but any advice? thank u very much. goodbye. (link)
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Your guy friend is making fun of you because he is jealous because of your boyfriend. Boys will always make fun of someones boyfriend if they are jealous or feel insecure about themselves its weird but its their own way of making themselves feel better. and the girls seem like trouble but you shouldnt care because if you like your boyfriend your the only one that needs to like him (( besides his like mom or dad )) lol
Irishdude405
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My boyfriend is 16 and he has a anger/authority problem. His name is John. He has been to the jdc 5 times and boot camp 3 times. I was just wondering if you think that will eventually cause a problem in our relationship or if it could cause him to get violent with me?
14/f P.S. we have been together almost 2 months now. (link)
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i think you should get away from him. It is a ticking time bomb. But the only thing im worried about is your safety if you do break up with him.Idk But tell him that his attitude makes you feel unsafe and that it is hard to trust someone with an anger like that. Watch yourself!
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i recently went on vacation with my family and a few cousins whom i hadnt talked to in a long time to california. me and one of my cousins started getting somewhat close, and i am ashamed to say i like him. eh. any help? (link)
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Yes, STOP. Liking a family member is like messing with gasoline and a lit match. Friends will think you are weird, Familys will talk. people will talk about you. I may be sounding a little harsh but, I'm trying to stop you from making a terrible mistake!!!!!
Irishdude405
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ok so here it is.....
i really like this guy and i have known him for about a year know. He likes one of my friends and he always tells me how much he likes her. I dont know what i should do. Should i give up and move on or stick in there and hold on to him??
please help me
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Well it seems like this guy really likes your friend, That sucks things like that can really suck and make you feel awful. The only think you can do is let time run its course. You might wanna take this time to just flirt around and just get to know other people.
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~Irishdude405~
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i don't know what to do because my boyfriend got grounded and he says he's going to sneak out to see me but last time he did that he got caught and got grounded for even longer. I've been trying to talk him out of it but its not working. what things can i say to him to try to talk him out of it because if he gets caught then we won't be able to see eachother for even longer. (link)
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Say to your boyfriend, Listen I'm happy that you want to see me but you've got to use your head. The more you sneak out the longer you will stay grounded. Say i need you to stay in Do it for Me Do it for our relationship. I hope that will make him think about sneaking out. Hope i could have been a help. Tell me how it goes and Send me any advice you need.
You Ask, I'll answer ;) Irishdude405
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Ok, there is this guy that I like. My friend found out that he liked me too. He was mad about me knowing I liked him. I told him it wasn't a big deal because I like him too. So now we both know about our 'secret' crushes. It's just weird because he was acting different. I don't want to ask him out right now though because I'm going on vacation Sun. and I won't get to talk to him. So don't tell me to just ask him out. Does anyone know why he's acting different? Or what to do in a situation like this?
Thanks!
p.s. I'm 13/f. (link)
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i said this in one of my other advice tips. Boys tend to get awkward around situations that he cannot control. Like now if he flirts with you it is because now he knows that you know he likes you and it is putting him in an uncomfortable position. and people will be like OoOoOo you like her!!! and its something that boys like to avoid. Boys also tend to want what they cant have untill they can get it. Boys are weird that way . I'm a boy so Yes we are weird a lot!:) but a lot of boys will stay away from a girl because he is shy and he doesnt know what to say but hang in there!
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~Irishdude405~
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ok there is this guy on myspace thats wants me to hang out with him. i don't know if i should. i know my mother wouldn't agree with it, so what should i do?? is it good to meet someone from online?? (link)
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BIG NO NO, BIG NO NO you NEVER meet someone that you dont know online. They could be saying that they are a 17 year old football player, but a 36 year old reapist. This isn't a good idea and i WOULDNT DO IT. This is stuff that happens everyday. People being tricked into hanging out with people and then they are reaped and murdered. Im concerned for your safety PLEASE DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Irishdude405
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I'm really worried about my girl friend her grandpa is in the hospital. Well she's sad and streesed out. I'm sad for her, but I don't know what to do for her. So my question is... What should I do for her? Or should I do anything at all? (link)
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Buy her some flowers and tell her that you hope everything is all right kiss her and then let time take its course. thats all you can do my friend.
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I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!? (link)
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You should get rid of his sorry ass, its only gonna get worse. He thinks he can get anything he wants off you but that aint gonna happen. you tell him that you want nothing to do with him. Your better than that and you deserve someone who is willing to understand and appreciate YOUR rights and YOUR wants. You dont need that from anyone
Irishdude405
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ok there is this guy that i like and he is my best friends brother.
well i went to his house one night and we ended up kissing and i couldnt help but to fall even more for him...
he acts like he likes me but im not for sure if he does,....
because after that night we went a while without talkin and now we are like the best of friends but i wanna be more/please help the best you can i am open for any advice (link)
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This is one of those things that boys do when they feel awkward about something, like staying distant will make it all go away. Keep at it and maybe he will begin to like you more than a friend (( if he doesnt already)) ;)
you ask I'll answer Irishdude405
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So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help (link)
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You sound like a beautiful girl and if he cant repect you as a person and covers his heart with pride and popularity dont you waste one more minute with him. if he isnt willing to express his love for you infront of people then you need to find someone who has the balls to do it.
you ask, ill answer Irishdude405
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Ok so, my crush asked me out last night so of course I said yes. I'm new to the whole dating experience, im only 14. I like him a lot, but whenever the thought of going to the movies or something comes up, I automatically make up an excuse to not go. I don't know why. I'm very co-dependant and I would be too scared to go anywhere unless it was a double date or something. He says hes okay with that but I dont know whats wrong with me. I think my main fear is making out. Yea yea laugh, but I guess im just scared to do it. I dont know whats wrong with me and why im so scared to go anywhere with him. I'll rate you high. Thx a bunch (link)
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you just started going out with this kid and its your first boyfriend and this is everyones reaction" oh what about kissing and stuff" Trust me everything slowly falls right into place and you will start to feel more comfortable with him and what you do with him. Trust me your not alone in all of this;)
you ask, I'll Answer Irishdude405
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