ergh well my name is amanda, but everyone calls me mandy...im known to laugh alot, at almost any situation. i almost always have a smile on my face.Basically i rele like to have fun, and stuff. people think im a quiet chick, wel most of the time i am, but i can be rele crazy if ur a good friend of mine.im very perverted so ya, lol thats about it, and i love to read
E-mail: mandy_moo_moo_rocks@hotmail.com
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Location: missouri
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Age: 13
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okay, ive been thinking about what i am...straight, bi, lesbian. and i dont know.like i think i am bi but im not sure. i found out the other day that my ex is bi and that made me think alot about myself. like if i did anything wrong or something. but i dont know. i think i am bi. but i dont want to be, cuz if i am, then my friends and family would hate me. im only 13 an usually when kids are younge and say the arent straight, people usually dont take them seriously and say "oh your straight, your just saying that to get attention" well im not trying to get attention. im just confused. (link)
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hey, well im in the same boat as you, im 13, and have no idea what i am. but just give yourself some time to think about what you think you are, whether it be, bi, straight, or lesbian.. just give it time, and if you want, try experimenting with other girls to see if you like it. if you're not sure, about your sexuality, don't tell people, that you're bi, because in time you could realize that youre not bi, and everyone wouldnt believe if you were or werent bi..so give it some time, and just think about it..=]
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Okay so theres kid who i havent talked to in a while. & we started talking again today. for some reason whenever i talk to him i get like butterflys or something. i used to like him before but then i didnt like him. do you think i might like him again.? what do yah think? (link)
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ok, i know exactly how you feel, this happens to me all the time.. it could be possible that you like him again, or jsut that you knew you used to like him, thats giving you butterflies.. but if you think you like him, definatley try to persue it, and see what happens
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My boyfriend went with this best friend for his 18th birthday to a strip club..i feel kind of pisssed and disgusted..is this ok to feel this way or am i goin overboard? idk i just feel kind of uncomfortable to think that naked women are gunna be all over him.. (link)
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no, you're not going overboard, its totally normal to be disgusted and pissed at the thought of having naked women over him. just talk to him, and tell him that you didnt like it, and you'd appreciate it, if he didnt do it again.
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My bf broke up with me, he gave me an excuse pretty much he said well if we fight this much now how are we going to have a future and we're going to ruin our friendship. Ok it's an excuse bc I was willingly to do anything for us to not fight but he wasn't. I really love him, when he broke up with me I had to have one of my friends stop me from not starving myself or cutting myself. I can't stop crying, it just can't be over I need to talk to him. What do I say is this over u heartbreaker? lol It's weird bc we only had a few fights and stuff and we were doing good a few days ago..please what do I do I'd do anything for this boy and anything to get him back ik thats desperate..but I LOVE HIM!!!!! (link)
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well missy, I know exactly the situation you're in, and I felt exactly like you. Except, i did do "it" and it sucks, so dont do it, it leaves scars, and i wish i never would have done it. so please dont do it, its a mistake. and well you know im here for you so email, IM me, what ever. and i know what you mean it can't be over, who knows maybe its not, maybe he will come back to you. you know how blake is, he always changes his mind, just dont let him get to you. And it was the same exact way with me, we were fine a couple days before, and then WHAM he did the worst thing possible. i'd do anything for him too, and we are very desperate.. haha.. well we cant help it, we really truly deeply love him. And we believed it when he said he loved us. And it could be true, you know, he could stil love you, he could still love me, or not, but you know wat we will get over him, just not any time soon. And hopefully his new g/f will realize wat an ass he is, and dump him. all you can do really is just let time go by and maybe one day he will come bcak, just have faith. if its really meant to be, love will find a way, trust me. and if not, then im sorry, but you will find another person and be like "wtf, blake was just a first love, and he wil not be forgotten,but i love bob now"..well hope everything works out.. dont let him get to you.
-amanda-
lylas, much
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i like that bob character too!! lol..only if he would hurry up and come!!!!, lol
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ok so i love my boyfriend. he doesn't know this.. ok so i wanna hint to him that i do cuz im scared to just say it and ddont say just come out and say it. .. so what are some good hints. (link)
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well, you could be like:
You: lets play a game.
Him: like wat...
You: guess who I love.
Him: i don't know.. your family
You: yeah true. but keep guessing..
Him: uhh
You: come on its easy..
Him: me
You: yay you got it
..something like that.. i did it w/ my b/f and he thought it was cute, so maybe it will work for you..and if it doesnt, then, just come out and say it.
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theres this girl, lets call her...ariella. shes beautiful, funny, nice...almost seems perfect. but i'm not friends with her at all. she's in my classes but we never talk. she's not in my range at all, and i would never dream of asking her out. how do i be just friends with her...13/m (link)
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well just start a conversation with her. Since shes in your class maybe you could start a convo with her about the assignment, or ask to borrow a pencil. Or if she seen a certain show that you both watch. Just be friendly,and eventually you guys will become friends.
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Ok, so I like this guy. Alot. Like, he's all I think about, and my heart skips a beat every time I hear his name/voice and I kinda semi stalk him (wich I'm trying to not do, cuz I know it's wrong...and kinda creepy)
Anywho, I'm not sure if I should tell him I like him/ask him out because not telling him and pining away in silence is killing me, but being rejected would only kill me faster.
I think he's kinda hung up on/hurting from these other girls, but he might be over it, I dunno and so now I don't know if I should make a move or not... (link)
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if you really want him, but you think hes still hung up on these girls, become his friend first and just have a good time talking about random. Maybe he will get over those other girls and see something in you. But if you don't feel like waiting that long, then just make a move and see how he reacts, or leave him a note in his locker.. something that will catch his attention and think "wow i already like this girl, shes doesnt do stuff the normal way"
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Ok I have a great bf and love him but my ex bf who is also my best friend got a new gf and idk why but it hurts..i mean it shouldnt but it does cause i keep imaging she's so much prettier and better IDK WHY!! is this normal? thanks (link)
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hey, dont compare yourself to her. thats not good. Just relax maybe you are hurting because this was once your b/f and you don't like to see him in any other relationship, because you could stll have a little bit of feelings for him..not that you do. just saying its possible, and yeah its normal, so just chill and forget all about this other girl.
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Ok heres the deal my bf has been in a relationship before me with another girl and he was very serious with her and while they were going out he treated me like crap. Then, they broke up and he was all upset bc he said she was the love of his life, blah blah blah. So then me and him start to flirting and stuff and we both like each other and he asks me out well I said I need to think about this and the next day I find out he's back with her. Well he dumped her and then we some how end up together. But now he says he loves me and a part of his always has and was thinking of me when he was going out with her, but how do I know this it feels like he's using lines on me that he used on her and idk if their genuine or not or if he's just saying this and is going to end up changing his mind, P.S. this boy said he had liked me since fourth grade and it's been a while since then and we've dated before, THANKS SORRY ITS SOO LONG!!!! (link)
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well, i dont know blake as good as you, but i think he seems like a pretty understanding person. And wehn i was going out with him I felt the same way as you do. Cus I knew that he had liked you, and stuff. But I didnt talk to him about how i felt, so i think thats one of the reasons our relationship failed. So i definetley think you should talk to him and work this out, because I know you really love him and it seems as though he really loves you too. And theres really no way to tell if they are genuine unless you ask him, but stll then he could be lying to you to about it. So I suggest talk to him in person and see what his facial expressions, movements, if he seems like hes nervous. But you know how blake is you really cant tell how he feels, cus the so many times hes done this to both of us.Remember im here for you, and i wont tell him, you can trust me. tell me how everything works out.. Good luck to you! lylas much!!
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I have a great girlfriend, one I've been going out for nearly three years now. We have never really fought or argued or been mad at each other or anything. We both have problems here and there with school and home, but small ones with each other. I do need advice on that though...See, my teacher once told me two years ago that most if not all guys will hear a girl tell her problem and then go to try and solve it, when really the girl just wanted him to listen and hear her out. Is that true? Sometimes I find myself doing that, even after thinking about what my teacher said. So my question is...does being a listener and just talking about a problem count just as much as trying to come up with a solution. For these kinds of problems I mean things like: yeah my friends did this to me; I'm not sure what to do about this sport; I feel a certain way when ___; etc. It does seem that half the time she tells me something, I right away try to come up with a solution or tell her what to do about it. It usually ends up falling right back in my face, or making her feel upset. Would you (girls) appreciate it more if the guy that was there...helped out with a solution, just listened to you about it and talked to you about it, or a little of each. Thanks, I would really appreciate it. (link)
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well personally as a girl, i like it when the guy just listens to me,because i may not tell the whole situation and then something bad could happen...but its also nice when the guy does try to help out the situation, but just make sure you know what you are doing before you try to help and make sure you know the whole story.. hope i helped
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For Christmas my bf got me this necklace. I can't say I am dissapointed, don't get me wrong, I am so happy he got me something! And it is beautiful. The only thing is that it is a little formal. It has dimaonds all over the chain and stuff (I don't think they are real though). But my question is, should I wear it everytime I see him? It is a little formal to wear with a normal outfit like jeans and a tanktop. I wore it to a New Years party and he noticed that I was wearing it cause he said, "oh you are wearing it!" and was playing with it. Should I wear it to school? It just seems a little formal. Do you think he would care if I didn't? I sorta wish he would have gotten me something a little casual.
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you shouldnt wear it everyday but like two or three times out of the week
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okay well i know this guy Christian and hes so hot..funny..and nice...and i think im inlove?!!....but the problem is I used to be able to hang out with him but then my mom said i couldn't see him anymore because she thought he was a bad infuence..and that really made me mad...but like on the weekends usually ill go to a friends house and then we will go to the movies and he will go to...but like he gets really frustrated beacuse he can't see me or call my house..so he misses me..but i dont no what to do....should i just keep seeing him behind my moms back....HELP!
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you should talk to your mom and tell her that hes not a bad influence and taht you really like him. and if that doesnt work i would keep hanging out with him because your mother shouldnt tell you who to hang out wiht
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okk so this guy i like asked me out yesterday :-D yea exciting! soo anyways..today at school i felt like i was shy around him..i dont know why cuz im usually soo loud! i want to act like i usually do around him..cuz we were really good friends so he knows how i am...and i also want to be a good gf by talking to him and acting like a gf!
welllll any advice for anyy of this stuff!
thanks.! (link)
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well im shy around my b/f too.. and well i think its because your just shocked that your his g/f and your thinking that you should act a different way around him now since your going out. cause when you guys were friends you just felt like "oh ill do what ever and he'll still be my friend" but now since your going out your probably thinking "ok now hes my b/f i cant be all flirty around other guys and act like i used too" so maybe you should just talk to him and tell him that your still the same you and that your jsut getting comfortable with being his g/f
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 month,tomorrow.We have been planning on going to the movies, but neither one of us thought about it being our anniversary. I just now remembered.So, I'm just wondering if I should get him anything for it? or what?
any help would be appreciated!
I rate 5's!
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well if he doesnt know its your anniversary maybe you should like remind him about it and then see what happens. and maybe you should get him something. but nothing too serious, because its only been a month
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okay i feel realli depressed right now i guess you can put it. well i was on my myspace and i was looking at my friends pictures and came to my ex's picture and i dont no its just i think i still like him but i have a bf now and i dont realli love him but he says he loves me all the time and i just say it back not to hurt him but im not sure what to do anymore i no 4 a fact my ex doesnt like me anymore and never will angain we went out like 3 times already idk i just dont no what to do anymore ive been trying to deal with it but i cant :( can anyone help?
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you seem confused about what you want. maybe you should take a break from having b/fs for a while. until your sure of what you want.
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ok well ive liked this gurl ever since iv known her, 4th grade, and i used to try an make her laugh to like me, well now were older, im 13 adn so is she, so yah i mean at this age we have alot of emotions and dk about things, but we went out over the summer adn had our first kiss.. but she left me the next week for a guy she supposably 'loved' but now thinks is a fag, and well then after a while we both saw other people, my g/f broke up with me a few months ago, for total confusin, and the gurl ive known since 4th grade , just broke up wiht her b/f lets say a wekk or so ago i dk soon lol, wel before she broke up wiht her b/f she said she had feelings for me, and she couldnt choose who, and then she told me she had ben lying baout her b/f to me for months, and it was rele a kid from my class, but any way so i had thot i liked this other gurl, but then like i went over to hmm lets call her sarah(gurl since 4th grade)s house last night, we watched movies in her basment , and soon enough we wer makin out on her couch, like for what seemed like hours, and i truely love her so much, i rele care about her, shes my life(im not a stalker just care about her ok) and well today i talked to her, adn well she sais she just wants to be freinds wit benifets.... and i mean im ok wiht htat kissin her and stuff, but i rele rele want her, i want to go out wiht her , i want to be with her, but she sais that shes scared to go out with me, because shes scared she'l hurt me like she did in the summer , so i just said, oh ok yah thats cool, so now the gurl who i had a crush on before might ask me out , or somthn i dont know, but i dk what to do, 'sarah' sais if an opportunity comes for a g/f that i had to promise to go for it, because she thinks that i need somone better for me, but i cant, i wont , no1 is better for me, i mean we have so much chemistry, and were closer than anyone ive ever ben wiht , no lie, we are like so close we know we care about eachother even as freinds, but i know what i want, and i think that she might be scared , scared of hurting me, scared of gettin close, to close to fal in love wit somone, so yah, i mean, idk im just gonna wait, theres nothin i can do, so thats y i came here
-waht can i do to show her not to be affraid but to take a chance, shes different than she was in the summer, and to take a chance and be able to be happy, because i know shes not, she knows shes not, but i thinnk she was happy last night , ..so was i... wel i rele love her, adn i wanna know some tips on what to do to go overboard for her and i need somthin to get her, to make her need me like i need her, ill rate huge for even an answer at all! (link)
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well maybe you should make a move on her and see how she reacts.. and if shes scared to fall in love, or get close to someone, you should just give her time and see waht happens. if you two are really meant to be then you will be together. i hope i helped and i hope everything goes good for you.. mandy
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me and my boyfriend have been goin out three months today we have been fightin alot in the past 2 weeks do u think thats bad? (link)
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well it really doesnt mean its bad, it could be bad..if the fights are about something stupid then its not bad..when you think you are about to get into a fight maybe you should stop and say to yourself "why are we fighting?" and then just stop the fight from happening
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me and my boyfirend have been goin out for three months today he got me a ring for christmas do u think that is to early to be gettin somethin like that? (link)
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if you are serious about the relationship then its not to early.. i think its a really nice gift, it shows that he really likes you..
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Theres this guy that i thought i liked. I liked him to. Well Today we had an arguement.Becuase i had told one of his friends that i didnt want to talk to him anymore. Well my friend told him, so then he knew. Ok. so today he calls me and ask why i dont want to talk to him anymore? i actually thought like, wow he cares enough to call me and ask. that must mean something right? i dont know, but anyways so i tell him why because he doesnt call me or take the time to IM me or anything. so he tells me why, and the reasons kind of personal, but trust me it was a good reason. so of course i let it go. so then he tells me. well i love you, and stupid me i said it back. ok so it seems like everythings good and all right? but wrong. later today we decided to hang out with my friends shawn and derek, well shawn and derek have been my friends since ever. their some of my really really good friends.so when im around them, i dont know its just crazy . so we were hanging out at my house and stuff. me shawn derek and the guy im in love with {kyle}. so kyle i guess isnt very good at trying to fit in the conversations i guess. i mean you really cant especially since me shawn and derek like nonstop crazineess. but anyways so we were hanging out, and to kyle i guess he saw it as me flirting with them bc we were laughing over stupid things and talking about some peverted stuff. i thought it was funny, well kyle i guess didnt like it so much. cause he didnt talk the entire time. neither did he laugh. so what am i suppose to do? im not going to be like beggin him to join in the conversation. so w/e. so kyle decided to go upstairs and hang with my brothers. well since me and shawn and derek are practically drunk, we werent drinking though we were just laughing at the stupidest things, bc we havent gotten together this whole entire break yet so there was alot to talk abot. but w/e. so were laughin like really retarded. and kyle tells my brother that i have the most annoying laugh, and the gayest laugh ever. and hearing this i was like wtcrap?? like i mean its something completely stupid. but since i care so much about him, it reallyhurts even though its something totally dumb. im just really hurt, bc at first he said that he loved me then he was just talking behind my back? i dont know but im really depressed right now. i know its kinda my fault bc i wasnt giving him attention and stuff, but thier my friends im not going to just dump them.but it really hurts to hear something like this from him. what should i do? (link)
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well if kyle doesnt have the respect to let you have a good time with your friends then you dont need him.
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So here's the facts thus far:
1. 2 weeks ago, I meet a girl who I had known just as a passing acquaitence, and I became closer friends.
2. She reveals to me that she really likes me, however, she has a boyfriend, but that boyfriend has been in the Phillipines for the last 1.5 months.
3. This boyfriend and she had been going out since about early August, but he "moved" in right before his trip b/c his apt lease was over and didn't want to resign until he got back.
4. He got back on Tuesday morning. She's called me a couple of times since then about how she's really uncomfortable about him being there, but he's still not getting the idea that she wants him to move and that she doesn't feel the same way as she did before he left for the trip.
5. However, since Tuesday morning they've had romantic "relations"- and she feels about that. (yes, denial i know).
So what do I do? Do I try to forget this girl or not? Is she serious about leaving him? My mind and heart is troubled. What do you think I should do about this situation? (link)
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you should give it time..if she has feelings for you then she will leave him. but maybe at the time shes unsure about who she wants, she could have feelings for both of you...good luck
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