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Hello!! =)
Ok a bit about myself! Really don't have a lot to say..I'm 16! I love helping people out and listening to others. I completely love this site. I don't have many experiences when it comes to love life (which is the cat. that i answer the most). And i have nothing else in mind to say...i'll edit it when i come up with more!

Anyways people, ask me advice and i'll give it my best shot! Leave some questions in my inbox (with your name or something that would let me know if its you) and update me whenever you can. Looking forward to it! Take care

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Hey Thought I would bring you up to speed

Well I did think about what you said and I wanted to give Brent a second chance. But I also wanted him to do it himself. I didn’t want to push it on him. Well Last week I was mentioned online to everyone what I wanted to go out on the lake for memorial Day and whoever wanted to come was invited. I was shocked hearing from him saying that he might come up for it since he was going to only be an hour away that day. I was not going to get my hopes up till that day just in case there was any cancellations on his part. Well He showed up at the right time and went creek hopping ( hiking along the creep) all day. I found it quite funny because he had never been there but was up to going on up ahead to make the trail and rocks were safe enough for the rest of us to get across. We sorta made him our guide that in reality never been there. later After I took everyone else home we went out to eat and then walked down my main st. Showed him my high school and stuff like that. we talked forever and he even took my hand which I thought was funny. Then I took him back to his car and we ended up talking for 3 hours (well mostly talking).about everything To government(which I never really talk about) to childhood memories. one point we were talking about goals in life. he asked me what I wanted to do with my life. I am still not completely sure. which is what I said. and he said kinda jokingly I could always come and keep him company in Sacramento. I just laughed out loud and said “funny" and then later on he made the comment again little bit more serious adding" Like I said before you can always come stay with me.. there are lots of job opportunities up there and my rent is only this much etc. To let him be at ease I told him I would keep him in mind. I don’t know if I were to do something like that. I never lived with anyone besides my own family. Plus I don’t know if he would be able to handle the kind of relationship I want. I am the kind of person waiting for marriage if you know what I mean.( my own personal standards not religious standards) And I think it would drive him nuts that I wouldn’t be wanting to go that far because it is only a one bedroom apt. He doesn’t know about my standards which I know I need to discuss with him before he make suggestions like that before he can handle it. The next time I am going to see him is next week at the club for my friend's birthday. found it quite funny before because my friend told me before when I was a little hurt by him to not tell him about her birthday thing at the club. So I didn’t. But one of the first things she tells him was her party at the club. I was sitting right there too. it made me scratch my head like "what??" I asked that to her tonight, and she said " Oh I got over that after he made the effort to come up here and plus I invited him for you" and my friend is not young either. she is 36 but great fun to be around. Just makes me wonder some time. So if he does bring it up again( like at the party) How do you think is the best way to put it? it is a tricky topic to discuss don’t you think. Well i gotta get some sleep. my brother is graduating tomorrow and I need to be awake. Get back to me soon.

Hey there!! It's been a looooong time =( i wasn't allowed on the internet cuz of my exmas but i just finished =) anyways congrats. on your brother's graduation. How did it go? =D Hope it was fun. Anyways here's what i think:
I love the standards, i have the same standards too. Not religious but personal. I'm only 16 years old and i've never had a boyfriend because i don't want one. I want a serious relationship that may lead to marriage which is why it's way too early at 16 years old. Anyways sorry, thats a whole different topic.

I think it's way too soon to think about moving there for him. He needs to prove himself to you first, he needs to show you how much he cares about you or how much he really wants you to be there! He also needs to sacrifice for the relationship...if he wants a relationship. Anyways i think that the idea should be put on hold! Until you both discuss your standards and if you both want a relationship. Hey its an improvement for showing up at the lake house.

How did the party go? If the topic comes up again, you're going to have to tell him about your personal standards. Try to ask him to move to your area. Why should you make the huge adjustment. If you guys really want to be together and both of you think that it will work out, how about both of you make some changes and move half way through. You know waht i mean?

Anyways best of luck!! Update me about the party and how things are going so far with Brent. How are things going with Chris by the way? Im really sorry that this is late. Since exams are over im free now =) take care. I'll talk to you soon. =) Hey give me your email and i'll add you. It'll be easier. =) Anyways up tp you, see ya!

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hey hun , thanks for getting back to me.
I have doing some thinking. but then also things have been happening that make me think twice. I first decided I think I should slow things down with Brent. I think I should let him make an effort to see me . He sent me a message telling me he was going to be at his family’s house (same town as the club) for his sister's graduation and wanted to know if I wanted to come down there and hang out. I was thinking " hmm an effort sorta .... but it is only because he is already going to be there. “Kinda felt like subliminally I was told "if you want to see me you better come down." I know that sounds silly. I just want him to make an effort to see me without having something else being the main reason he was there.

Any who I have this other guy that I have been friends with since High school. Chris. well I kinda knew Chris always liked me but then I was not into liking guys that were younger then me.(He is over a yr younger then me and I know that was a silly reason to not like him. high school was 4 yrs ago and I think differently now.)well even after high school we kept in touch when we weren’t in school or work. Also we went to the same church so we kinda knew each others families. Then 2 yrs ago he had to move to Arizona with his family.( I live in northern Cali) well at his going away party( 2 days before he was leaving) we were watching this movie and wrestling around tickling and we started kissing. I am not really that type of person and there were people around us. usually I am really shy about stuff like that. So I got to hang out with Chris the next day ( last day before he left) so we have been trying to keep in contact since he has been down in Arizona. Sometimes there would be spurts like a month or 2 where we don’t hear from one another because of school or work. Also Chris had a spill of bad depression too. Worse than what he has had in the past. which I was able to help him out of it. Never anything dangerous though. He couldn’t hurt a fly. But we have been communicating a lot more lately like we used to. Wants me to go down and visit. he even made an effort to come and visit up here. over 12 hrs of driving. And says he still cares for me the way he did in the first place and would let nothing ever hurt me. He never has and never will. I told him this joke ( hope you like it)


Stumpy and his wife Martha went to the state fair every year. Every year Stumpy would say, "Martha, I'd like to ride in that there airplane.” And every year Martha would say, "I know Stumpy, but that airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars.” One year Stumpy and Martha went to the fair and Stumpy said, "Martha, I'm 71 years old. If I don't ride that airplane this year I may never get another chance.” Martha replied, "Stumpy, that there airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars.” The pilot overheard them and said, "Folks, I'll make you a deal, I'll take you both up for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say one word, I won't charge you, but if you say one word it's ten dollars.” Stumpy and Martha agreed and up they went. The pilot did all kinds of twists and turns, rolls and dives, but not a word was heard. He did all his tricks over again, but still not a word. They landed and the pilot turned to Stumpy, "By golly, I did everything I could think of to get you to yell out, but you didn’t.” Stumpy replied, "Well, I was gonna say something when Martha fell out, but ten dollars is ten dollars."
I asked him if he would ever do that. he said to some but not with me. I said I was glad I was worth 10$. He said "No, you are priceless." Kinda made me feel special.

Well he just told he may be moving again but now only an hour away from me!!

Now I don’t really know what to do. Do I try to make things work with Brent or do I wait for Chris to move back? I need reassurance!! Thank you! talk to ya later

Heya! I don't blame you for thinking twice.. Chris seems like a really nice guy, the sweet generous type =). I don't know what's wrong with Brent, he invited you to his sister's graduation (which is also meeting his family [big step] and celebrating with them) but at the same time he's telling you in an indirect way that you should come if you really wanna see him :S. I say discuss it with him. Ask him why doesn't he come to your town?? Doesnt' he wanna see you? and tell him that he should try seeing you too. See how he replies back. Btw how often do you guys talk?

Who do you like more? Bent or Chris? I mean Chris was always there for you and he liked you since high school and he tried seeing you (even though he is over than a year younger than you) is chris a better guy that you can see having a serious relationship with or is he a good little brother to you that you enjoy talking to all the time?

And Brent? Do you think he's gonna try and make an effort? How much do you really like him? Don't push Brent out of the picture just yet. Talk to him first. See what his real reason is? If it's as pathetic as 'gas is too expensive' then i say forget about him and move on. The guy isn't worth it if he doesn't care at all. =( Good luck with all of this, i bet its hard =( im here...talk to you later...btw if you want give me your email and ill add you on msn =) take care! update me soon =)

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hey I thought you would like a little update on my dancing guy.


well I got to see him last Saturday at the club and we were having lots of fun and everything. as it was time to go he was walking me to the car and I said, "One of these days you are going to have to come up to (my town) one time." hoping for anything like a "soon I will come up" or a maybe, even if it wasn’t true. But all I got was " no I don’t think so, it is so far away, and gas is too expensive." It kinda hurt my feelings. Like this was the only time we would see each other. I am feeling like i should not pursue this too much if I am the only one that wants to make a sacrifice for us to be together. am I wrong? Or do you think with what I said kinda scared him off, which shouldn’t be hard because we already live so far away from each other. I know I should talk to him about it but i am not sure how to bring it up in a way that wouldn’t cause to much heat and drama. Can you please help me with this predicament. I don’t want to end it but I don’t want to feel like I have to be the only one to make it work. In my experience it does not work like that. What should I do??

Hey there! I'm really sorry i didn't get back to you sooner. =( Anyways, thanks so much for updating me. I'll try my best...

Ok, this is a little bit hard. Its kind of a tough situation to be in =(. First of all no girl would expect an answer of 'gas is too expensive' =( i think if a guy really cared about you they would try their best just to see you. Cost shouldn't matter. I don't think your wrong, i think your totally right. For a relationship to work, both of you should work together. Both of you have to make some sacrifices, not only you, cuase thats just not fair. If he truely cared, he would've made sacrifices too. You deserve way more, you deserve way better.

Don't lose hope just yet. To bring up the subject again, just be like 'Hey you should really come visit sometime! I can show you around and we'll spend the day together' if he says no again, then this is what I would do, just stay distant for a little bit i guess...:s i think he'll miss you and come to you..if he doesn't then honey =( i dont know about the way he feels ... Man i wanted the fairy tale to have a happy ending...but there isn't an ending just yet. Don't give up ok! =) I'm here for you if you need anything!!

I'm not sure if that helped...i really hope it did somehow! Anyways update me later ok, ill reply sooner i promise! im really sorry again! Anyways take care of yourself, talk to you later. Good luck, hope it works out!

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I have a friend who's a guy. We've been friends since 3rd grade and I care about him very much. Although lately these feelings have escalated into love. I really want to be with him but I know he doesn't want to be with me. He might go out with me just to make me happy, but I know in my heart that he wouldn't be happy. I don't know what to do.

Hey!! I definately agree. Love is too hard!
You have 3 choices. Either you TRY to move on and find someone else or you never tell him and keep hiding it or you can tell him and come clean about it no matter what gets in the way. It's your call, no one will make the desicion for you.

My advise is be honest with your feelings. Take a risk for love. You can take a chance and tell him how you feel. If its too hard then maybe you can write it on a note or a letter.

If you dont take a risk, you might end up like me. I've never taken a risk, and my result is ive never been in a relationship. Im always too scared of having my heart broken. Im a very cautious type of person. But dont be scared like me. IF your heart does break =( it will heal. Maybe quickly, maybe slowly but it will heal.

But if it was me, id never have the guts to tell him, not only that, but id be too afraid. Id be thinking that maybe if i told him it might ruin our relationship as friends. Also it would be really hard for me to move on to someone else pretty quickly. I would just keep hiding it and hope maybe one day he would return my feelings. Dont follow my footsteps.

Maybe that wasn't much help and was too confusing. But think about it and see whats best for you. Good luck with everything. Take care.

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ok so i like this guy and i kinda want him 2 notice me. but the thing is that i am NOT pretty. so what can i do 2 make him notice me? he's in a different grade so it'z kinda hard 2 talk 2 him and i don'T wanna talk 2 him yet , i just want him 2 notice me for now...
help??

Hey there!
How about you try and join different clubs or activities in yours school that he joins. If they interest you that is. Just be yourself and go with the flow. Since he's not in your grade then just try and join the clubs he joins. Or you can meet the people in his grade and you guys can go out as a big group together. Then, that way you guys can get used to each other and start talking. I don't know if that helped. Hope it did! Take care

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Okay there's this kid, let's call him Henry.

I can't stop thinking about Henry. But my best friend is like in love with him. He doesn't talk to my best friend and my best friend doesn't talk to him. She just "worships" him from afar but tells everyone that she likes him, when she herself does not talk to him. Me on the other hand I talk to him all the time in school. In lunch I always feel like he stares my way when he walks past the table with his friends. Henry likes this freshman. She is using him as like a safety, avoiding him when he tries to ask her out and falling back on him when she is lonely. What I want to know is why do I think about him when he doesn't even like me? I don't want to like him. I want to like someone whose available and who likes me back. Please help me I don't know what to do and my life sucks as it is. Thanks in advance.

Hey there hun. =)

One thing that's for sure is you can't help who you like! If you have feelings for this guy you won't be able to change them or ignore them easily. He will stay in your life, and you guys are going to talk, so you have no control on it. You can't ignore him all of a sudden. (That's a not mean =( )

I think you like him, because he's a good friend to you. Once again, you can't help how you feel about him.

But this is like trying to get over someone. What you can do is just think of him as a friend. And try going out with different people. When you guys hang out, hang out in a big group.

I don't know if that helped! Hope it did. Good luck, update me and tell me how things are going. Take care.

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My boyfriend and I have been having serious problems. I don't trust him AT ALL!! And that makes our relationship stressful. Although he has given me reasons not to trust him so it's not 100% my fault. Well heres my question, yesterday I went to his house and when I got there, he was asleep and his phone was on the counter. So I went through it and found all these texts to girls and theres more to the girls, but we got into a HUGE fight about it, and I'm still with him. Some of those girls are his friends (but I've heard that one of the girls have him head) and 2 of the other girls, hes either had feelings for or I have a VERY strong gut feeling her has feelings for her now. I dont know what to do!! It's been almost 2 years, and I'm sick of being unhappy, and not trusting him, yet i love him and I want to be with him.. what do I do? How should I approach this situation?

Hey!
I'm just going to tell you what i believe and i've always believed this. If there is no trust in a relationship, then it won't work out. I'm not saying that you should give up just yet, because you seem like you really love this guy. But there is no easy way to fix this.

I think you should talk to him calmly. Have a calm conversation sharing both of your feelings, and no arguing or yelling or fighting. Tell him how you really feel, that you love him but cant trust him, and its upsetting you and hurting you so much. Just let it all out and let him know that you care about him and that he should show that he cares about you too.

To fix it, i think that you guys should spend more time with each other. You guys can go on more dates like movies; dinner; dancing etc. anything and you guys need to talk more often.

Two years is a LONG time. You guys may need to consider some time apart and see where it takes you. But don't look in to that just yet. First talk to him and spend more time together and talk more.

Anyways i hope that helped. If you need anything else ask away! Update me and tell me what happens. Take care and Good luck!

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we were humping with our clothes on, what is that called?
i also rubbed his dick adn he touched my vagina with clothes on, what is that called also?

Hey there! I honestly don't think there is a right term, if there is i don't know about it. But you can call it grinding or rubbing i guess :S. I don't think that helped, sorry but i don't know if it has a name. Take care, if there's anything else ask me!

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I have a boyfriend... of 4 months... and i just cheated on him with my ex..... i dont know what to do?
and I can not tell my boyfriend... pease... help!
F-- 15

Hey there!
I think that your boyfriend will find out sooner or later. But it would be way better if it came from you and it would be way easier if it was sooner. Becasue imagine if you told him after a few weeks then he'd get mad or imagine he heard it from someone else he'd still get mad since he trusted you and you hid from him the truth.

First of all, you need to ask yourself why did you cheat on him with your ex? You and your ex might still have feelings for each other. If thats the case then you need to sort it out and break up with your boyfriend. But be easy on him.

If you don't have feelings for your ex then when you tell your boyfriend make sure that he knows it was a mistake and you never intended on it to happen, you'd never want to hurt his feelings.

If you choose to not tell your boyfriend and hide it from him, then you can either break up with him (if you have feelings for your ex) or you can stay with him and hide from him the truth (but you might end up feeling guilty)

As i said before, if i were you i'd see where my feelings are nealing towards if its my ex then id break up with my boyfriend; if its my boyfriend then im gonna tell him about it and how it was a mistake! (I know this just sounded kind of confusing) I really encourage you on letting the whole truth come out! But once again its your choice and no one can make this decision for you!

Hope i helped! Tell me what you decide and tell me how it goes! Update me soon ok? Take care and if you need anything else ask me!!

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Okay... I am like.... in love with one of my really good guy friends. But I don't know if he likes me. I recently had a friend-M.- who I hate now, and she told him she likes him... and he didn't like her. Now they're not friends. I have two best friends... A. and L.. A. likes him as much as I do and he knows she likes him cause he figured it out but I don't think he likes her. I'm debateing wheather (sp?) or not to tell him.... I'm worried if I don't I'll burst... and I know he thinks I don't like him because he saw a note I passed to A. about how I like a guy with gold/brown eyes and he asked me if it was him and I chickened out and said no like 12 times. I'm so upset. I'm torn. And he sort of likes my best friend L. but he would go out with her to make M. jelous. I'm so torn and upset.. but I think I'm in love. And if you think I should tell him... how should I go about it?? WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????????????

Ok, first you need to calm down, and take a deep breathe!

Second, if you really want to let him know then tell him. Only if you feel like your going to burst out and because your so torn up about it that you want to get it off your chest then tell him. You can be like, "I lied earlier when i said it wasn't you i was talking about in the note. It was you...etc." or however you wanna tell him.

You don't have to let him know if you don't want but it sounds like you do. It's up to you, it's your choice!

I don't know if any of that helped. Tell me what you're going to do. Tell me how it goes with him. Take care if you need anything else ask me. =) Good luck.

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i was the one who just typed the question cheater.

im falling in love with my boyfriend. and i dont want to break up with him. and i havent yet. things are definitely going to change in our relationship, and everything has to start all over again. do you think im doing the right thing?

all my friends want me to dump his lying, cheating ass. but i just cant bring myself to do it, i dont want to live without him.

so one more chance. and i told him if ANYTHING happens. his ass is out of the picture.

what should i say to him to get him to understand that it is not okay, what he did. and that it hurt me a lot. and that he is the biggest fuck up. i want him to feel incredibly sorry for what he did. which he already does. but im afraid of making it seem like its no big deal. when it is.

i will definitely ask him how he can lie straight to my face and then be all of a sudden falling in love with me.

Hey there!
I think you are a really kind person to be able to forgive him. I'm not saying that this is wrong, i will encourage you but i can tell that you really do love him. The question is, since you haven't broken up with him, are you happy? Like is everything going well so far in your relationship?

Looking at this from your friends side, they're just trying to protect you from getting hurt again. So ya, i just want you to be careful about this and if this makes you happy then thats all that matters.

You need to talk to him. Always remind him that what he did won't be erased, even though what happened has happened and its in the past. Just let it all out, and tell him how you feel. Everything that you told me, make sure he knows it. Tell him that its a big deal for you and that it hurt you so much but you're forgiving him only becasue you love him and cant live without him. Let him know that you do love him, but it will take time for you to forget what he did, you may never forget what he did.

To fix this up, you guys need to talk more often, spend more time with each other! Both of you need to be honest and always share how you guys feel. Have more dates ;) movies; dinner; dancing..etc anything! hehe

Hope it helped! Thanks for asking me, love to help you out! =) Take care....if theres anything else, please ask! :D id be happy to answer!

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my boyfriend had sex with another girl a week after we starting dating. we barely knew each other, but we were still in a relationship. for the next 3 months he denied that it happened and stuck to that. he made me believe that everyone else that said it was true was lying. i had trust in him. i knew it was true the whole time, but i just wanted to convince myself that it wasnt. he finally confessed to it, after 3 months of straight to my face lying, and sleeping with me.

i asked him why he chose to tell me, and he told me because he was falling in love with me and knew that i had to know. he tells me that he is willing to do anything to stay with me.

what would you do?

Hey there!
This is kind of a hard one to answer! But im going to give it my best shot!

First of all you have to see how you feel about him...if you really like this guy so much to the extent that you're able to forgive him then ok give him another chance. But be hard on him, don't pretend that everything is ok when its not! Tell him how you feel and how it really hurt you! Ask him how come all of a sudden he says that he has fallen in love with you when in the past 3 months he has been lying to your face.

Lying to your face for 3 months hurts a lot! If its really hard for you trust him, then it might not work out. I believe that for a relationship to ever work out it needs trust! and i also believe in second chances and that people do change...its harder for people to change for the better! If you think he CAN change, then help him out! Make him turn into a better person. =)

I guess my answer is if it were me, if i liked this guy so much and believe that i could have a serious relationship with trust then id give him another chance since he barely knew me in the first week. Plus im a person who forgives easily..anyways the answer will always go back to you..no one can make the desicion for you! Its your choice...do you think this guy will be honest again? is he worth it? and do you think he'll be able to change for the better?

Good luck. Update me and tell me what happens later on ok?! Tell me what you decide..take care, if you need anything else, ask ill answer ;)!!

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do you believe "once a cheater always a cheater" ?

why or why not?

Well it does happen. As everyone said it depends on the person. People change and others don't.

I believe that it's hard to trust someone again when they've cheated on you! That's why even though the cheater doesn't cheat again its still hard to forget what he/she has done. If they cheated on you it creats an assumption that they're capable of doing it again. That's why its hard to fully trust them again.

Dunno if that helped, hope it did! Take care, if you need anything else ask away! =)

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OK well theres 2 guys we will call one Bob, and then other Evan

Ok well i really like Bob and Evan.
Bob and I went out last year, and everything was pretty good. but then he broke up with me and then everything was pretty sucky. However later i started to like Evan, but Evan's parents thought that he was "too old" for me. which is kinda weird b/c my parents should be the one saying that hes too old. But i'm 14 very soon 15, and he just turne 18, so really its not that bad. But Evan and I remained pretty good friends even though his parents wouldn't let us hang out or anything.
Now Bob decided that he like me again? We went to the movies, he totaly lead me on, and the next week he changed his mind and said that he thought it just wouldn't work?? But then i talked him into letting me have another chance. He charged his mind back and forth like a million times, but as of now its that he likes me. I really really like bob, like more than anyone else even Evan. However Evan's parents decided to stop being retarded and now are ok with us hanging out so i think this weekend we might do something.

Ok so you might be asking ok well wahts the problem, you have two guys that like you. And the whole picking one isn't really the problem neither. The problem is, I like(d) Evan a lot before and i still do. but we just have to be friends so i kinda got used to that...I really like BOB like a lot. But the thing with him is that he never acts like he likes me. IN school he won't talk to me, not even say hey in the halls we just ignore eachother. and then with Evan its the competly opposite, hes relaly really nice to me, gives me hugs, and waits for me after classes...you know actually acts like he does like me.

I WANT Bob the most, but i like Evan the best-like the way he actually does talk to me in school. I really have no idea what to do. i just like bob and evan, but i want bob the most, but he dosn't act like he likes me at all. I hate it soo much idk waht to do.

Hey there! You need to be honest, you can't go out with Evan when you have stronger feelings for Bob! =( i know he's really sweet but think of how it's going to work out later on, you're going to go out with him when you're thinking of Bob and wishing that it was Bob instead!

Bob keeps changing his mind about you! =S you need to talk to him and tell him that things need to change, he needs to change his actions! He has to act like he cares and act like a good boyfriend! If he doesn't then he doesn't deserve you! Talk to him and ask why has he been having second thoughts and see his reasons...btw why did you guys break up in the first place? It might have something to do with that...anyways update me! i hope i helped!! Take care and tell me what you're going to do! If you need anything else ask away! :D

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please will some one be my girlfriend

Aww, hehe i don't think you should meet someone on the internet and go out with them. Not that i have something against it, but try to meet some girls and get to know them. Then give it a shot. Good Luck, if you need anything else ask away! Just send to my inbox! take care =) byee

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dear advicenators, i think if had my first real crush(im a girl and im 13).i really kinda like this boy but nothing can happen cause i cant date for 8 more years or my dad will kill me.ive tried avoiding this boy but idont know how to tell him that i want to be friends and nothing else.what should i do?

Hey there!
I'm guessing that the guy likes you too and he wants to go out with you!

Be honest with him, tell him that you like him but you can't date for another 8 more years becasue of your dad =( don't avoid him just tell him the truth! (It's up tp you to tell him if you like him) Also let him know that you can stay friends =)

Hope i helped, take care!! Tell me what you're going to do =)

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aww thanks hun. thanks for getting back to me. I knew you would like that story. I have never really had this kind of thing to happen to me before. it is like a fairy tale.Very new for me. He was telling me that he was going to be at the club this saturday for his grandmas's birthday, I thought ok "family kind of thing back off I understand" but then I saw the look on his face like "aww man that sucks" when I told i had to work a split shift that day anyway. So then i am thinking "he wants me there with his family around? Wow!" So if I get sent home early like I did this last time I will go down to to the club and surprise him again. I love surprising him. i think it makes him feel special, which to me he is.At least it would only be an hour drive instead of over 2. and it will be worth it. I cant wait for saturday.
It felt like I could tell him anything.communication wise we just clicked. like one of those old friends you just know for years.
*sigh*

Hey there!! Of course i'd get back to you!! ^_^ I'm loving the story...its really cute!!

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Do you think it's wrong to take a picture of your boobs for a guy you're not dating?


p.s. I like him. He says he likes me. If that helps.

Hey!

My answer (and thats just me) is that i wouldn't take a pic and send it to any guy...but your question has an answer that depends on who people are...and its their deicision..some girls don't mind it...others do...As for me, i wouldn't prefer it =)..its your choice! take care

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Well I couldn’t find the building and got lost which caused me to miss him on stage. So sad. Intermission came around and I saw him talking with some friends. I stood where I was and did not approach him. I wanted to see if he would spot me. At first he didn’t but then I saw him catch my glance and was totally shocked to see me and came right over after I did a little *surprise* wave. He gave me a big hug and was still in awe. Wanted to know why I didn’t tell him I was coming. I said it would not have been a surprise and it might have thrown him off. He wanted to know what I thought and usually I am good at lying but I could not bring myself to lie to him. Plus I am also an actor we can when tell when we are being lied to. So after the 2nd act (which he was not in errrr) he invited me along to come to the special reception that only the high ticket payers got to do or the cast. But I actually had one. It was all that was left when I called for cancellation tickets. 100$ but it was well worth it too. And I did get to meet Carol Channing. She is hilarious by the way.
So we talked and he said it was getting late because he had to be at work at 3 am. He said if he knew I was coming he would have called in sick because he was having too much fun. It was only 10:30 and to me it was also too early to drive all the way back home when I had just gotten there. So he offered his couch at his place, and I accepted. . Well we get back to his house and we were just talking and goofing about everything. Even gave me something to wear for pjs since I did not know I would be staying down there This went on for about 3 HOURS. We thought we only had one or two things in common but come to realize so much more. Then it happened. We were have a silly fun argument about even being in Japan for even just one day counts as being there he said it didn’t and then he kissed me! Very lightly but perfect. We kissed from off and on for a little while, while we were talking. Said something to me like “ Why do you have o live all the way in Sonora?“ and I replied ”why do you have to live all the way in Sacramento?” But it was after 1 am now. He gave up his bed for me but stayed and cuddled with me until he had to get up for work he was even joking around saying he was thinking “ Man I am cuddling with Hayley right now and I do NOT want to go to work now.” You would not believe how comfortable I was wrapped in his arms. I soon drifted off to sleep but quickly awoken yelling no because I had one of those instant nightmares ( some car was trying to run me down). He was wondering what was wrong and I told him and he held me a little closer and said ”Don’t worry I got ya” I thought it was soooooo cute. I felt safe and protected. This was the first time I had been able to fall asleep on a guy I was cuddling with because usually I am a little tense like “they might do something to me in my sleep“. But I had no problem then. He got up and left later for work and was gentleman enough to when he got back a few hours later not to wake me and just stayed out on his couch until MY alarm clock went off and then came in to say good morning. He said I looked peaceful. I was. His bed was so comfortable I did not want to ever get up. But I did. He walked me out like a gentleman and kissed me good bye and watch me pull away. I would have stayed but I had to hurry to get back to town because I had to be at work, And of course I got lost coming home too. I have no sense of direction when I am by myself. it was a nice day considering I w got soooo lost I was 1 1/2 hrs late for work just trying to get back to town.
Then I stopped at a friend's house after work where she knew where I was going but thought I was coming home. i told her I just stayed up there. I didn’t say anything else and couldn’t look at her, and the next thing that popped out her mouth was " So is he a good kisser?" and I am like " what do you mean?" trying pathetically to not know what she is talking about but she knows me way too well and i spilled and thought it was so cute. and here I am now. Cute long ass story huh??? exhausted and must go to sleep. talk to ya later

Hey there!! I'm really happy you updated me! You're my first question in my inbox hehe anyyyways!!! Omg im soo happy for you!! It sounds sooo cute!! Seriously adorable!! This guy definately likes you...>.< i can't get over how cute this story is!! I want more updates!! hehe anyways i see that everything is going very well :D...hopefully it continues that way!! :D It sucks how you guys live so far away from each other! =( but keep meeting up half way ;) hang out again and tell me more!! :D this sounds like a good story! i just love listening to people's love stories and how they fell inlove...SO CUTE!!

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I posted this earlier but i need more responses



22/f
I went dancing with a couple of friends of mine the other night. Now we have to drive an hour to get there and recently we see a friend (Brent) of our that we dance with down there. well I really like him but not real sure how to let him know, or if he even likes me. On the way down My friends were teasing me how I would never have the guts to dance with him (very riska) the way my other friend does. Well that day I figured well since I am playing hooky from work why not? It wasn’t immediate though. I had to build up the courage. Brent kinda helped me though. we were all sitting and this one song came on and I was the only one that went out on the dance floor because I liked the song. It was a 2 step song and suddenly Brent comes up to me and said he was going to teach me the 2 step. I was such a dork, but eventually got it. And I felt so comfortable with him. Then a little bit later the perfect song came on later for me to make my move. My friend Sabrina had just been dancing with him and she said she had to go to the bathroom. The song “pretty Woman” came on and I just went for it. Just about all out. I had never done it before but it seemed natural. we did this mostly for the remainder of the evening. Couple times I was even toying with him. It appeared as though he was liking it but also driving him crazy. And every time a slow song would come on he would actually ask me to dance instead of assuming it. Once even, when I was sitting out because I was tired and Brent was dancing with Sabrina a slow song came on and he was dancing with her,( I had no problem with that because she is married and was just dancing) a second one came on right after that but they were coming back to the couch and I hear Sabrina say ” Well I guess you will finally be able to take that break you wanted” (she hated the country song that was playing) but instead he surprisingly offers his hand out to me very charmingly and wants to go dance again with me and I hear Sabrina say ”okay I guess not” We were eventually sitting next to each other more into the night. He even was stroking my arm very casually. Little at first then more. He even had the guts to when I would lean forward to talk with Sabrina he would have his arm up on the sill so when I leaned back he would have his arm around my shoulder. We got closer too. He would start playing with my fingers and I would respond with same and eventually we were holding hands with one and the other I was all wrapped in his arms all cuddled up. I was really relaxed and comfortable until my friends said that we had to head home since it was getting late. They thought I was falling asleep because Brent was also massaging my head and neck and it just felt so good. I was so not tired. My heart was definitely racing. Afterwards we always have this tradition of walking next door to this 24 doughnut place to get doughnut holes for the ride home. It helps me be more awake for the drive home since I am the driver. Well We start walking and I said I was cold and he wraps his arms around me to keep me warm. I thought it was cute. We get our doughnuts and eat for a minute and start to head in the car. I am not sure if this worked but he gave me an extra long hug and out of umm last second thought I kissed him on the cheek very quickly and got into the car ( It was raining.) And he watched us from under the beam until we left. So what do I do now? Do you think he like me? Do you think there is any chance between us? He also lived an hour away from the club but in the opposite direction, meaning we are 2 hours apart. With our constant flirting now what? Was I giving off the right vibe? Was I too much? Please help me!! I need LOTS of answers! Thank you very much for your time!

Some of you might be familiar with my previous questions. they were about being envious of my friend and her dancing and not sure how to tell this guy how I felt. If you want to the whole story feel free to reefer yourself to those questions.

Hey there!! I read the whole thing!! wow...i think the guy really likes you!! :D it's sooo cute hehe! What i think you should do is keep hanging out with him and talk to him more often....i like the dancing part hehe...so keep meeting him in the club...and hang out! go with the flow basically!! >.< I think you guys have a chance!! Good luck!!! :D Tell me more about it later..and tell me how it goes!!! take care :D byyyee

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