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Hey I'm Tricia. I've been through a lot of stuff, like divorce, depression, relationships, dying hair, & bad days! I'm always here to help.

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Well i kinda got this girl that i like but then i hang with her brother alot cause he's like my best friend and we always hang out i mean i go camping with his family every year and then i realized that i kinda like his sister and his sister is my age i mean we have so much fun together when were camping and just love hanging out but i dont know how this would set with her brother but i do really kinda like her but i dont know how she feels but some of my friends have said we flirt alot... what should i do? Ask her out or not?

Her brother wouldn't be much of a best friend or a brother if he got in the way of you and her. I say you should go for it and ask her out! Good luck & please rate.
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Me and my bf has been trough a lot ....just to be toghether
I had a big fight with his parents...(I post it on advicenators)..The problem was only with his parents..so we had his brothers and sisters coming to visit us almost everyday and that is fine but now it is getting to much ..we don't have privacy in our home and it is costing us to much money to have 4 extra people in house using electricity ,food and water .I have to cook for 6 people almost everyday ....and this cost money!!!!!!!

Last week the brother of my bf desided to stay for about 4 days and my bf did't ask for my permision..the thing is we have our computer in the bedroom ..he stayed on the computer
(with the radio on)till 6 o clock in the morning 3 nights in a row..The fourth day I told my bf that this is gettin to much ...we are only students and we can't afford to be spending so much money and that I couldn't sleep for 3 days long because of the noice..He told me that he was sorry but he did't know that his brother was gone stay for so long

I don't know what he told his brother but....
he got all mad and stuff ..the worst is he came last night and did't say hi to me and today he wrote ..."I don't need your house anymore to chat...thank God I have my own house to chat till the time I want"....on his msn

I really tryed to stay in peace with them because I don't want my bf to get in a fight with his brother for my sake ..BUT THIS IS GETTING TO MUCH!!!!!
How can he has the nerve to write something like that..after all I did for them

The worst is I'm feeling very sad...and anger ..

I wrote back to him telling him he is a ungratefull dog....I was very mad

Did I do wrong ......what should I do next??

I agree that it is too much for students definetly to pay for extra people around the house. You also cant be staying up because of distraction. I think you had every right to say what you did! I agree with you, he was an ungratefull dog! Don't feel bad, you had to do what you had to do. Make sure your boyfriend is okay with everything! Good luck & please rate.
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do u think that i should kiss my bf or wait until he kisses me? I am very lost but what should i do?

PLEASE HELP

If you feel like your boyfriend isn't going to in a while, you may need to take charge & kiss him first. If you want to get anywhere in your relationship, you can't be afraid to push it along a bit, just like in this instance. Good luck & please rate!
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I'm a really fast girl and I beat all the boys so nobody really admires me except for my speed I need help on how to look like ( i dress sporty)so i need all the advice that I cAN GET!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, you should where some nice girly jeans that show off your figure, then where some girl tops. Not t-shirts, but baby tees. They aren't revealing but show your feminine side. Also, don't only talk about sports or stuff like that. Talk about other things you enjoy. Good luck & please rate!
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ok so here is a conversation i had with this guy that i like and i can't figure what exactly he meant in his last text message so i'm gonna type the whole conversation and i want you to tell me wat you think he means. I'll rate 5's to everyone that gives me an opinion. O and my name is *Debbie* and his is *Nathan* And this conversation was at 11:30 last night.

Nathan---how about we give what we both want a chance and see how good we really are together. hit me back adn let me know what you think you might like.

Debbie---in shock didn't reply for a minute

Nathan---are you going to text back anytime soon i would really like to know what you think before i go to sleep, i guess i could just call you.

Debbie---Well depends on what you really want.

Nathan---You know what i really want what is it you want.

Debbie---No i don't think i know what you want.

Nathan---I want you and you do know that what do you want, I wouldn't mind there being an US but that would be up to you. but what do YOU want.????

Debbie---(i sent this one to the wrong place)I want there to be an us to.

Nathan---are you there can i get a response please, just leaving me hangin ain't cool you know. I will call you in the morning but i want you to text me.

Debbie---I sent it to your phone instead of your screenname but i want to be with you.

ok this is where i get confused.

Nathan---i never got it but *that's good* i'll call you later ok.

Are we dating? What does *that's good* mean?

Thanks signed
really confused

I think he meant "thats okay" instead of "thats good", because I've made that mistake while I was typing, even when I am talking. Just keep talking to him about it & don't jump to conclusions. I hope everything works out! Good luck & please rate.
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I have been with my b/f for about a yr and a half now. We have definitely had our ups and downs. Last year i was at a friends house and one of my b/f's good friends showed up. He asked if i wanted to hang out. Went to his house and he put the moves on me. I refused to have sexual contact with him. Even though i had the urge to. He told me that he was sorry and that he couldnt help but wonder why i was with this other guy and that he thought i was pretty.

Ever since that time, he always makes comments to my b/f about how my b/f doesnt treat me right. Or he will joke around about how im his type. We live in a tight-knit town where everyone knows everyone. I see this guy everyday and he always smiles or stares and then looks away.

My major problem is that im finding more and more that im not in-love with my bf anymore as he has become physically violent.

My sister-in-law thinks that i should leave my bf and go with this guy. I am quite tempted as he and i have so much in common and he knows how to treat a lady. I also have a medical condition where i cannot have children. And this guy has full custody of his little girl. Every time i see him with her i melt because he is such a good father.

Am i wrong for wanting to try and have a relationship with this other guy?
And do you think he would be interested in trying to have a relationship?

If your boyfriend is physically violent, then you need to leave him before you get hurt badley. The other man sees much nicer and understanding, & I think that it would be better for you if you went with him instead of your current boyfriend. I hope everything works out in your situation! Good luck & please rate.
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so last night i got really drunk and cheated on my bf and i cant even remember what the guy looked like (i hope he wasnt ugly lol) but the problem is i dont feel guilty about it at all and i know thats not normal..so does this mean i should mabey reconsider the relationship i have right now with my boyrfriend?

If you don't feel guilty, that means there is something wrong in your relationship. I, personally, think that you should reconsider your relationship, & think about if you really value it as much as you should. If you find you don't, then you should move on. I hope everything works out in your situation. Good luck & please rate.
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my friend kayla .. thought it would be a GREAT joke to IM my boyfriend and act like some girl looking to hook up .. and the thing is that kayla has a tendency to make things up .. or to invision things differently when she doenst like the person .. and she really really didnt like how my boyfriend treated me.

well she called me after she 'IMed him' as mandy moody, and he apparently asked her for pictures, her age, grade, and said that he had a girlfriend but wasnt thinking it would last much longer, becuase 'i didnt put out'.

so when i heard this, i got very hurt and very upset. and i tend to make snap decisions and judgements in the heat of hte moment .. so i broke up with him .. now i realize talkin to him would have been a better idea.

the more and more i think about it, the more and more it seems as if kayla maybe did say that just to get me to dump cody .. her own sort of motivation in a way .. because for someone who had such a problem with me not puttin out, he never made any moves .. all the things we did do I INITIATED! .. so i guess my question is .. what should i do .. try and talk to him .. see if i can get him to take me back .. how would be the best way to go about doing that?

guys opinion .. would you take someone who did that back ..?

i mean i wasn't completely happy with how he treated me, but i cant do this anymore. i cry constantly. the only time i dont cry is when i sleep, and then i dream about him. so i wake up and cry more .. i liked this kid for over a year. 7 months of that was trying to get over him. now ive dated him and fell harder, and now i have to give him up. what kills me is i didnt lose him, i let him go ...

I think you need to talk to your boyfriend & explain to him what happened. Then, try to get the truth from him. Ask him to tell you all of the conversation. Then, if what he says is different from what Kayla says, then I think you need to have a talk with her. Did you even have a say in this? Did you give her permission? You have to make sure you have a clear story from both sides. Then, you need to maybe talk to both of them at once.
& also, when you talk to your boyfriend, make sure that you tell him how deeply sorry you are and how much you love him.
I hope everything works out okay between the three of you, & that you don't lose a friend & a boyfriend. Good luck, & please rate.
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Me and this guy name Marcus likes each other a lot and like we talk all the time and were really close but we live like 1 hour and a half away from each other and he said he thinks we will never date because of the distance and I dont know what to say or do now.. and like i'm really upset and i told him i was but he said theres nothing he can do.. what do i do?

I think the only thing you can do in this situation is roll with it. Just let him know that if he ever changes his mind, that you'll be there. This kind of situation is tough to deal with, but I think that is the only thing you can do. Good luck!
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Fourteen;Female

Okay there are these two boys they're best friends. Or atleast thats what Matt thinks but Jeff really hates Matt. Anyway I like Jeff all last summer he was sweet and alll this stuff and he liked me but nothing could happen becasue my best friend Maria liked him. So them I liked Matt who is SUPER HOTT funny cute nice but only sometimes. Other times he pissy and concided. Now its the end of the year. And my friend Sarah likes Jeff alot, but I think im starting to like him. Jeff always says he lves me and stuff and we always talk about Matt and how big of a dick he is and im so confused. So I want to know, if you were me what would you do?

Well, I have to say one thing to start us off here, your friends do not "own" a guy because they liked him first. I used to think that & I'd try not liking the guys I liked because my friend liked them. Your friends can't tell you who not to like, it's your choice.

Anyways, you have to choose which one you like more. Think about what you like about each of them, and then decide which one has the better character traits. Make sure you go with your heart & not with what your friends think. That is a big mistake that can lead you somewhere you'll end up unhappy.

I hope everything turns out okay for you.

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whats a good program that you can fix up pics and were can i download

irfan view is really good! go to download.com & you can find it there.
This would also go under technology, not love life ;)
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You gave me a one on this because I told you this goes in technology?
Gimme a break!

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theres a kid named Aaron that i really like,and hes in seventh grade,im in 8th.im VERY shy and find it hard to talk to guys that i like.i really want to send him a message on myspace or something so i can start talking to him, but the problem is, i dont know what to say!i dont know him very well.i've asked all my friends, but all's they keep saying is say "hi, i know you from school,i really like you, we should go out" or something along those lines, but that isnt anything at all that i'd say.and i dont want to go out with him right away, i just want to talk and be friends with him.he knows i like him,my friends make it quite clear lol,but im not sure if he knows my name and that.

so does anyone have any ideas on what to say to get a conversation going?

thanks!sorry that was so long!

Oh wow, do not do what your friends said!
Send him a message just like "Hey, I'm [insert name] from your school. Just saw ya on myspace & thought I'd say hey."
It may sound corny a bit, but it works, trust me. Don't say anything along the lines of going out or you liking him. Just become his friend first. Good luck.
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Me and my best freind are really close. Like I hug her whenever I see her in the hallways and stuff, and people keep joking about us being lesbians cuz we're always together and stuff. But like she sleeps over my house alot, and we sleep in the same bed, like hugging eachother kind of. Im not sure how to explain it. Most of them time we just lie there next to eachotehr talking. I like being close to her though. I dont know if this is weird or anything or means im a lesbian or somthing.

Me & my best friends are intimate as well. This is nothing to worry about. It's normal to feel good when you are close to some one that you love [notlikethat] a lot! People are just looking at something to poke at. As long as you know that you aren't a lesbian than you should ignore what people say.
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So its summer for my school and like theres this guy and we both like each other and i want to go places with him with my group of friends and can anyone think of any place besides the movies because that is soo boring:]

THANKS I RATE 5S FOR ALL.

Amusement parks are always fun. I go there with a lot of friends and we have the time of our lives. Laser tag or other indoor stuff is also a lot of fun!
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Well! I am looking for some ideas. You see my boyfriend always comes over to my house or we go to the movies. IM BORED OF IT! What's something fun we can do! Oh and by the way clubbing is not an option. I live in Miami, Florida if that helps. I just want to have a really fun day and then end it with a romantic tone you know? Please help me out. =/

Well, here are a few::

-Go see a movie.
-Go to an amusement park.
-Go see a local band play.
-Go have a nice dinner at a romantic resteraunt.
-Pack a dinner & have a picnic on the beach.[dont forget candles]

Hope I helped, & good luck

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i just met this kid last week, he's cute, funny, nice etc. he was the one who called me to hang out 1st but i always feel like when we talk i am getting mixed signals, like he seems to like me but then he just signs of line or puts on an away message without saying bye & the convorsation just ends. we hung out twice last week wehn we 1st met (he asked me both times) i want to hang out again but is it too soon to ask him? i don't want to seem like a loser or to clingy. is it bad for me too call him? can anyone tell me what to do? & why doesn't he say good bye online?

Well. I know I can answer "& why doesn't he say good bye online?"
Well, a LOT of my friends do that. I even do that a lot. Its just quicker and easier.

Guys call me and ask me to hang out alot. Mostly my best friend's BOYFRIEND. But we don't like each other. So, he might just be friendly. Personally, I think it's much easie to talk on AIM, but you can call him if you like

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ok well i am a 17 year old male, and of course my problem involves a girl. i have a major crush on this girl, i mean the whole nine yards. sweaty palms, loss of words, clumsiness, you name it (which is wierd because i NEVER have problems with girls). the cool thing is that i think she has a crush on me too. the thing is, my best friend (17/M) also likes this girl a lot, although she doesnt like him. i need to know what to do in this situation, because it is driving me insane. i will provide feedback. Thank you so much!

Hey hun, don't worry. The same thing is going on with me right now. Remember, your friend doesn't own the girl, so he can't have control on who you like. It may seem awkward between you and him, but you should keep liking this girl and don't let anyone stop you.

In my situation, I like a guy who likes me, and my best friend LOVES him but he doesn't like her.

What I say is just go with the flow, and don't let anything get in the way.

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ok what are some good excuses to brake up with your boyfriend??

Don't come up with excuses, just come out with the truth. It will be much easier to come out with the truth to stop any more problems in the future.

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Okay. So there is this guy. I was always attracted to him, and at times I really liked him, but it was just there, never acted on it or anything. Well he was a little wasted and he told me that he has feelings for me and that he likes me. How do I know if he was just saying that or he really meant it. When guys tell you that they like you and have feelings for you, are they telling the truth?? Now that I think he likes me, I am beginning to like him also. A lot. So if a guy tells you that he likes you should I take it seriously. The biggest problem is that he is in college and i am only a sophmore. So guys do you really mean it when you tell girls that you have feelings for them?

Well, when a guy is sober -- trust him.
If he is wasted -- ask questions.

Talk to him and ask something along the lines of "Hey, umm, you were wasted last night and you said somethings. Is it true that...etc."

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so I fantizise about my gf a lot. not like sex but like making out and stuff. we've never made out but I know she'd like it but I don't know how to tell her that I want some of these things without seeming like a perv. like making out and laying on a bed and stuff... laying between her legs and kissing her that kind if thing. how could I tell her that I want that or would it be better to just do it and see how she reacts?
thx!

Hun, that is perfectly normal. But, you could approach this situation in two ways.

1. You could tell her. You know her better than I do, so say it in a way you know she'd like it.

2. Just do it! Go ahead hold her hand, then kiss her, then make out... & so on until you are ready for anything else. I like it when my boyfriend goes slow with things, so I don't feel rushed.

Good luck!

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