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So i got bored of answering questions so i wanna know: what is an original name that you call your boyfriend for girls and for you guys what do you call your girlfriend...i want absolutely hilarious and original ones soooo if it's in a justin beiber song-sorry:/ lol also what would you like to be called? come one people make my day:)

Squishy & Squishier.

LOL got it from Finding Nemo. :)

-Erin [22/f]

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She's been having nightmares for the last 3 weeks. She had dreams that she saw her best friend die. She's really scared she wakes up at night crying. She sometimes cries in the morning too. She doesn't wanna talk about them. What can I do to comfort her ? What should I say to her ?

ok sorry, but these questions are getting creepy..

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Do you get stretch marks after having sex?

If that were true, then 90% of the population would look like zebras. Think about it. :)

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is it okay for a 19 year old to date a 24 year old? just curious to everyone's opinions :) thanks!

Hell yeah! I was 19 when I started dating my 24 y/o boyfriend. 2 years later, and we're still together. :)

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At what point does it become normal to just say happy anniversary every year and not like every month? my boyfriend used to be really good about remembering to say it every month, sometimes better than me... but we've been going out for six months and he dosen't say it anymore... he stopped saying it at five... is that normal? thanks in advance :)

Yeah, that's normal. You just need to tell him that it makes you feel good when he says it, and maybe that will motivate him to say it more.

Me and my boyfriend have been celebrating months since last March. But it will be a year in a couple weeks, and we decided that after that, we'll just celebrate the year. It makes sense, cause if you think about it, it would be kind of stupid to say "Happy 13 months!" or "Happy 1 year and 1 month!" LOL.

Just remember, he's been with you for half a year, and obviously loves you, so don't worry about so much. It's a guy thing. :)

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this is going to sound retarded but....i need your help. my boyfriend asked me out on january 15th. is one month february 15th, 4 weeks from when he asked me out, or 28 days since hes asked me out?!?

thank you haha and sorry for not knowing this! xoxo

Yeah, I always go by the same date of every month. So in your case, the 15th. :)

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About a month ago, I went to a poetry slam and I met this guy. Me and him had been sitting next to each other and we talked on and off throughout the event. Later on that night, I found him on Myspace and we started talking more and getting to know each other. During the next few weeks, we went from messaging each other on Myspace to texting each other. As more time went on, our texts began to get a bit more flirty. I'm pretty interested in him and I think he might be interested in me, too. We've only talked in person at that one poetry slam, so we decided we wanted to get together to hang out in person sometime soon.

We had things planned out (we were going to hang out after my classes and then we were going to head over to a cafe so I could watch him perform at the open mic).

I still live with my parents and I don't have a car, so I still have to go by their rules and ask before I go anywhere. When I asked my mom if I could go, she said, "No". The reason why is...I'm 18 years old (19 in June) and he's 25 (26 in September). That's a 7 year age difference. I'm not a minor anymore, so that's really not a problem. And we were just going to get to know each other better (me and him are trying to take things slow). But my mom doesn't want me hanging out with him because she's uncomfortable with the whole situation.

I really want to hang out with him, but the fact that my mom's not happy with the whole idea is a pretty big hurdle.

Does anyone have any advice or anything about what I should do? I want to see this guy, but it's going to be hard for us to give each other a chance (and--if that chance goes well--have a relationship) if we've got my mom to worry about all the time. So please, help me out?

Thanks!!!

Well I was in the same situation as you about a year ago. I wanted to date one of my brother's friends. And I had just turned 19, whereas he was 24. Obviously, neither of my parents were not very happy about me wanting to date him. So what I did was invite him over a few times, so my parents had a chance to talk and get to know him. They ended up really liking him, and they saw that he was a genuine guy and not some older creep who wanted in my pants. And now I can happily say we've been together ever since. :)

Bottom line: Bring him over and let your parents get to know him. This will ease their discomfort about the situation. :)

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When a guy goes to second base and is feeling your boobs, is he getting something out of it or doing it for you?

Yes they definitely get something out of it. Guys love boobies. :)

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Hi I am 16.f. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. He is my first true love, and everyone says 'youll never forget your first love' and everything, like our relationship will never last. But what if I TRULY think he is the only one I could ever be with. I know I am young, and of course I wouldn't get married now, and I have time to think about it but on one hand I can't imagine a future with anyone else, but on the other hand EVERYONE seems to think that just because I have never loved anyone else means I wont last long with him?? Is it possible that I just happened to find the perfect guy right off the bat? Has anyone had an experience like mine??

Currently actually. I'm 20, also been with my boyfriend for 9 months, and he is my first true love. I honestly can't imagine being with anyone else, even though i'm still young. Not saying that either yours or mine will last.. no one can know that. But I think that there are some lucky ones, maybe us included, that can find their perfect guy "right off the bat". If you really believe that he is the one, then that's fine. Just remember that relationships take a lot of work and commitment, so as long as you're willing to give your all, then there's nothing wrong with having high hopes. :)

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16/f, I know that I would much rather be called beautiful by a guy than "hot" or "sexy". So what do guys prefer to be called by girls?
Thank you!

I call my boyfriend my "studmuffin". Haha weird, but he digs it. :)

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my boyfriend is a senior and im a sophmore. hes lets say alottt more experienced then me. and its not that i dont feel comfortable with him. but its just kinda weird that i dont have as much experience. we havent gone farther than handjob and fingering so far. but i would wanna lose my virginity to him but i feel that it would be alittle uncomfortable for me knowing hes done it times before and i havent done it once...so if this happened to anyoneee pleasee help :].
&& boys howw would you feel with a younger virgin being less experiencedd and if it wasnt "good"?

Well I'm almost 20 and my boyfriend is 25. I haven't ever had sex (and don't plan to yet), but obviously at his age, he's had some experience before. So I know how that feels, and yes, it's a little awkward.

But the good thing is, when we finally decide to take that step, he has told me that it's really a good thing, because it shows him that I trust him and love him enough to let him be my first. And I'm sure your guy probably feels the same way.

And if your guy really loves you, then it's not going to matter whether you're "good" at it or not. I doubt he'd expect you to be completely perfect anyway, since it's only your first time. And from what I've heard, a caring, genuine guy isn't going to mind "teaching" you either. ;)

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16/m

i have the life some kids dream of. if i'm persistant i get whatever i want, within reason of course. in other words, if something is realistically within my reach, my parents will get it for me, and money is almost never an issue (until i start asking for BMWs and Mercedes). and other than one time i can think of, there is no time in my life where i was anything but utterly happy.

my girlfriend has had her dad leave, her sister die, had an abortion, lives with a single mom who had JUST RECENTLY lost her job, and in no way shape or form can i relate. they're short on money, and the only thing other than me that makes her happy is cheering, and that is a financial burden to them. what's even worse is that she is the best girlfriend i could imagine having through highschool, and she is so positive ALL THE TIME, and she's just been really down on herself lately. and there's nothing i can do.

ULTIMATELY:
i'm a 16 year old boyfriend. and she's my 16 year old girlfriend. i care SOOOO much about this girl, but i feel absolutely TERRIBLE for not being able to do anything except be supportive and tell her that everything is going to be ok, when in all reality i can't promise that. i have been the best boyfriend i could be, and that doesn't even seem like enough. so here i am, asking strangers for a bit of advice.

i rate, so please quality answers only.

To me, it already sounds like you've done all you can really do. You can't change what has happened to her, and you can't really prevent what happens in the future. But letting her know that you'll always be there for her, might be a bigger help than you think.

I can't in no way say I've had a life as bad as hers, but when I'm feeling down, whether it's on myself or my current situation, it always helps to know that my boyfriend is always there when I need him, either to talk or simply offer a hug. It feels so much better knowing that someone cares, and it really makes me feel a lot better.

So as long as she knows that you're always going to be there for her when she needs you, then I think that's more than enough. And I can just tell by what you've said, that you really care about her, so I give you major props for being such a great boyfriend to her. Not every girl is that lucky. :)

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So there's this guy that I've recently started liking. He's in one of my classes but we've never really talked too much or been good friends. We were more like acquaintances but then he did some stuff that made me and my friend think if he could maybe like me.

Before I liked him my friend and I were in the lunch line and him and his friend come up and we all just start talking and at one point he just comes up and puts his arm around me and my friend. My friend told me later on that he didn't put his arm around her until after he put it around me and she thought that he only did that so she wouldn't feel left out or something but I don't know.

Last week, after I started liking him, I was walking to class with a friend and he was walking by himself in front of me and once my friend left to go to class he turned around and started walking backwards really slowly and started talking to me. But then one of his friends came up and they started talking so I went into class but then he comes up behind me and puts his arm around me and I put my arm around him and we hug. It was just really sweet and it totally made my day.

A few days later we were kinda talking a bit more here and there and after class I asked him for a hug and he gave me one. But then a couple days later my group of friends somehow ended up sitting with his group of friends for lunch and he was kinda rude to me. The next day I saw him before school and I waved to him but he was really awkward about it like he didn't really want to but he wanna be rude or something. In class the next day he ended up grading my quiz and since he sits right by me he just turned around to give it to me and I said thank you but he just gave me a blank look. A little while later the teacher asks him to give me a piece of paper and he just kinda throws his hand back and kinda throws it to me in a really rude way but I said thank you anyway and he didn't even say anything.

So today I was expecting the same kind of treatment from him and I wasn't even planning on talking to him because I didn't like the way he's been acting. But when me and my friend were walking over to the building our class was in I saw him standing by the door just holding it for people as if he was waiting for someone and then he looked back and saw us and he kinda straightened up a bit. We walked through the door and my friend said thank you but I didn't say anything I just kept walking and I was kinda expecting him to stay by the door but he was walking behind us and he ended up walking next to me with my friend on my other side and they started talking a bit and I just piped in here and there and when my friend left to go to class we walked the rest of the way together and we were talking and laughing and he was just being really nice to me.

I don't get it! I mean one day he's so sweet to me and the next he's like ignoring me! What's up with this?! My friend says that he could like me since guys treat girls weird sometimes when they like them but I don't know! Why is he acting this way and how can I find out about how he really feels about me?

The best way to find out how he feels is to ask him. It sounds like he does like you, but he probably thought he was coming on too strong, too soon, which caused him to back off a bit. He might have been a bit embarrassed about it, especially if this only happened within a few days. Give it time, and see what happens. But like I said, if he keeps acting strangely, ask him what's up.

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okay, so dont know this guy at all, but i have seen his myspace and stuff alot since some of my friends are like best friends with him. and i went to go see my friends band preform, and hes in it. so i asked to be friends with him on myspace, and commented him and said ," you guys did really well last night, i dont think i got a chance to meet you last night, im ashley" and he commented back and said, "hey thanks! im jake btw since we didnt get to meet =]"
and so i said, 'nice to meet you' and he said back, 'nice to meet you too =]"

and i saw these SMILEY FACES in his comments and it kinda made me think he ment it in a flirty way? is that true or not?!?! what does it mean? if your a guy let me know if you add smiley faces to be flirty or what? and if your a chick, let me know what you think? cuz i might be freaking out since i thought he was adorable to begin with hhahha,.

I think you're probably overanalyzing haha. He could very well be flirting with you, or he could just be a friendly guy. Either way, I think you should keep talking to him casually and see if anything develops further. :)

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Am i a slut if ive been fingered and eaten out at age 11?

I'm gonna have to agree with the other person. No one should be experimenting THAT early..

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everytime i keep going back to my ex boyfriend who always keeps cheating on me and stands me up. and today we finally started talking again since the summer. i dont know if i should go back to him or not. this would be the third time i went back if i did.

Well he's cheated on you and stood you up before.. who's to say he wouldn't do it again?

I personally don't think you should get back together anytime soon. Stick to friendship, until he can prove he's more trustworthy.

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okay well im a real tease around my boyfriend, like ill kiss all around his lips but not on his lips. but he wants to know how to do that back to me and he cant thing of anything to do to me to tease me like that...
guys are is there anything you do to your girls to tease them?
or girls is there anything your guys do to you that make you go absolutly crazy?

It drives me absolutely crazy when my bf kisses my neck!

It's also sexy when he kisses my upper chest or nibbles my ear. ;)

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i cant seem to stop getting hurt by this boy. we dated for 2 years and i was in love. the first time he broke up with me it hurt so bad. he did it about 3 times and always came back to me. the last time he broke up with me i tried to make it work for a month and then gave up and tried to move on. about 3 months later he started talking to me again. of course throughout the time we didnt talk i still always thought of him and i still had a ton of feelings for him, i just was trying to get over him and it was working. but when we started talking again he had already gone off to college which is only about an hour from where i live. anyways for about 2 weeks we just texted and stuff until he finally asked me to come down. i said i didnt know if it was a good idea and he told me how he still had feelings and that he thinks he might still love me. so that weekend i went down tehre and it was amazing. he was soo nice, it was the good him the him that i missed, the him that loved me. when i got home that night i texted him and he didnt respond. the next day we didnt talk at all. it was strange because before he would text me everyday. so the day after i called him and he didnt sound like he wanted to talk? when we hung up i just started bawling because ive been through his whole i love you i miss you and then i dont like you thing tooooo many times. and i had this horrible feeling that he was going to let me down again even though he had said it wasnt going to be liek that anymore. but the next day he actually ended up texting me. just saying whats up, but i knew he was thinking about me. but i brought up going down there again adn he said "idk" like wtf does he mean idk? just before he was telilng me he still loved me he still misses me and now he doesnt know if he wants me to see him again?! at that moment i knew he was going to try to play those mind games with me again and my heart just cant take anymore from him..... yesterday i got on facebook and his status said he was coming home 2morrow. it just sunk down my stomach. like are you serious? you're coming down and he didnt even say anything to me? especially when i asked about comeing down ther again sometime.. i just cant do it anymore. i have so many feelings for him but i just feel like.... i deserve better?! what do you guys think?! i actually just like 20 minutse ago deleted him from a friend on facebook, and about 5 minutes later he called me. i didnt answer.. i think i need to just let it go?

I was in almost the exact same position as you. I never actually dated the guy, but came close a few times. He played mind games with me just like that.. "oh i miss you so much, we should get together, blah blah blah..", then a day later, ignore my texts, act standoffish. It went on for almost 4 years, and I got so sick of it. I was in love with him, and I basically let him control my emotions, day after day. I was so hurt and heartbroken. But I finally realized that I deserved better. And so should you.

The best thing you can do is to just cut him out of your life for awhile. Don't talk, don't text, don't instant message.. nothing. He obviously has mixed feelings and doesn't know what he wants. Until he figures that out, there's no reason for you to let him control you like that. After some time, yeah, it's ok to talk to him, but make sure he knows you only want to be friends and nothing more. The second he starts playing games with you again, stop talking to him immediately. You deserve way better, and you'll eventually find a guy who can treat you right. Until then, enjoy being single and live life to the fullest. Don't let anyone bring you down like that anymore.

Now, after going through all that myself, I can proudly say I'm over it, and I've found myself a great guy who treats me right and really loves me. And so will you. :]

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and he fell asleep. I was texting him and he didnt text back. It was about something really important to. I mean normally I dont care at all, but I was pretty much telling him something that ment alot to me and he just fell asleep and didnt text me back. Is it stupid that it hurt? And is it stupid I'm kinda pissed off? Normally I wouldnt care, but....I dunno....I've been having a rough day...and it just sucks....but thanks in advance!

Aww hun, calm down. :]

It's no big deal. I'm sure he didn't do it on purpose. My guy does that to me all the time, and yeah.. it's annoying. But guys need their sleep, you'll learn this. I know it sucks cause it was important, but tomorrow's another day. Don't sweat it. :]

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My friends and I are 17. I'll be 18 soon. One of my friend's bf is 21. I always thought that was a little strange until one night him and a couple of his friends came over and they were all so nice. I can really see why she'd go for an older guy because they are so much more mature and interesting to talk to.

Anyways, me and one of his friends who is also 21 hit it off. He was really flirty and really nice. Everyone says hes a nice guy too. We've been talking and he wants to hang out and stuff.

When I was with those guys I felt like we were all the same age. I mean as the saying goes, age doesnt matter. Most of my friends think its great but a couple are like WHAT ARE YOU DOING? Idk I feel like as long as he doesn't make me feel uncomfortable it shouldn't matter... is there anything wrong with a fling with someone a few years older?

Thanks so much!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with flirting with a guy 3 years older than you. :]

Man, I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. Most people I know, even my parents (although not at first haha), are perfectly ok with it, and that's TWICE the age difference as you and the guy you were flirting with.

Generally, guys mature slower than girls anyway, so it's almost like you're the same age. And like you said, as long as he makes you feel comfortable and is respectful of you, then it shouldn't matter. :]

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