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my boyfriend is a senior and im a sophmore. hes lets say alottt more experienced then me. and its not that i dont feel comfortable with him. but its just kinda weird that i dont have as much experience. we havent gone farther than handjob and fingering so far. but i would wanna lose my virginity to him but i feel that it would be alittle uncomfortable for me knowing hes done it times before and i havent done it once...so if this happened to anyoneee pleasee help :].
&& boys howw would you feel with a younger virgin being less experiencedd and if it wasnt "good"?
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I am in the same place as you are. I'm a sophmore and my boyfriend's a senior. But before you make any sort of move, think about this:
There is no rush because you are with a guy who is just as understanding as a guy your age because they understand. There are so many pros to dating a senior, but the best one is a guy who understands there's time and patience for everything. If you're not ready to have sex with him then tell him you're just not ready. It's not like he's not going to wait, he has to be crazy about you and he'll wait.
I've told my guy about sex and he completely understands that i'm just not ready. I mean he's going off the college around August. I'm not sure what will happen, but you know I'm just taking one step at a time and maybe i will be ready to have sex by then, but i know for now i'm not. Idk it's just one of those things. Don't rush because there's time for everything. I've talked to my boy friend about it before in my basement. We were playing ping-pong (haha) and we were talking about college and all and you know what he said? He said he was a true believer in faith. He said his parents dated, broke up, saw other people and got married and then they ended up splitting up with their old partners and finding each other again and getting married and now they have three kids and one from a previous marriage. He said if it is fate that we meet again, then it is fate. My point is with that is that if you don't have sex now with your boy friend, then maybe later on you will accidently run into him another time. it's like expecting the unexpected when you're in college and dating someone else and you just realize how much you really loved your ex-boy friend you know? It's just one of those things. But then there's the age situation. I completely understand your discomfort with him being more experience and i am going through that weird feeling too. Don't let it get to you though because none of it matters that he had just as much experience because you know what? You'll experience those similar feelings too eventually. Don't rush your youth because if you do, you'll end up not having fun in the end because you'll lose your innocence. Also, don't rush your age because don't forget, you're only a sophmore and he's a senior, if you forget your own age, you'll only get disappointed. Just take it one day at a time, he'll wait, and if he doesn't it's just not worth the time. Sex is something EVERYONE wants to experience, including me, trust me on that, i do. and im crazy about him and ive experienced everything you have trust me on that one. Just don't let your age and experience get to you. and IF YOU ARE READY FOR SEX TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT, it makes everything easier. i talked to my boy friend about it and i feel much more comfortable and ready in that sort of way, but i just want to wait a while and give myself some time to just understand my relationship with him and the environment around me. And if you don't want sex, take him out places, go to the city, drive somewhere, take pictures and keep them. It makes memories for you to look back and admire.
I hope this helps!
Good luck!
P.S.: Don't forget to remember your age.
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Guys i have dated in the past love taking a girls virginity. they also get to teach that girl new things. let him no how you feel about it.
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Well I'm almost 20 and my boyfriend is 25. I haven't ever had sex (and don't plan to yet), but obviously at his age, he's had some experience before. So I know how that feels, and yes, it's a little awkward.
But the good thing is, when we finally decide to take that step, he has told me that it's really a good thing, because it shows him that I trust him and love him enough to let him be my first. And I'm sure your guy probably feels the same way.
And if your guy really loves you, then it's not going to matter whether you're "good" at it or not. I doubt he'd expect you to be completely perfect anyway, since it's only your first time. And from what I've heard, a caring, genuine guy isn't going to mind "teaching" you either. ;)
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