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age aint nothing but a number...right?
About a month ago, I went to a poetry slam and I met this guy. Me and him had been sitting next to each other and we talked on and off throughout the event. Later on that night, I found him on Myspace and we started talking more and getting to know each other. During the next few weeks, we went from messaging each other on Myspace to texting each other. As more time went on, our texts began to get a bit more flirty. I'm pretty interested in him and I think he might be interested in me, too. We've only talked in person at that one poetry slam, so we decided we wanted to get together to hang out in person sometime soon.
We had things planned out (we were going to hang out after my classes and then we were going to head over to a cafe so I could watch him perform at the open mic).
I still live with my parents and I don't have a car, so I still have to go by their rules and ask before I go anywhere. When I asked my mom if I could go, she said, "No". The reason why is...I'm 18 years old (19 in June) and he's 25 (26 in September). That's a 7 year age difference. I'm not a minor anymore, so that's really not a problem. And we were just going to get to know each other better (me and him are trying to take things slow). But my mom doesn't want me hanging out with him because she's uncomfortable with the whole situation.
I really want to hang out with him, but the fact that my mom's not happy with the whole idea is a pretty big hurdle.
Does anyone have any advice or anything about what I should do? I want to see this guy, but it's going to be hard for us to give each other a chance (and--if that chance goes well--have a relationship) if we've got my mom to worry about all the time. So please, help me out?
Thanks!!!
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If you no longer are a minor than the choice is yours to whom you choose to date or not. Your parents may not approve of the age difference but after all you are an adult now. However, Keep in mind that some older folks sometimes take advantage of younger people. (Not everyone, but it has happened) make sure you fully trust the person and that there isn't a doubt in your mind. I would also try talking to Mom, Let her know that you really like him and assure her that he is the one for you. Ask him over to the house a few times and maybe her opinion will change.
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Well I was in the same situation as you about a year ago. I wanted to date one of my brother's friends. And I had just turned 19, whereas he was 24. Obviously, neither of my parents were not very happy about me wanting to date him. So what I did was invite him over a few times, so my parents had a chance to talk and get to know him. They ended up really liking him, and they saw that he was a genuine guy and not some older creep who wanted in my pants. And now I can happily say we've been together ever since. :)
Bottom line: Bring him over and let your parents get to know him. This will ease their discomfort about the situation. :)
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