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love and sex
i have been married for 17 yrs my husband is a very caring man and i do believe that he loves me he never goes out without me for a drink he is a hard worker but the problem is we do not have sex its been five months i have put a bit of weight on and i feel that may have put him off i have spoken to him about my feelings but he justs says I'm not fat then he will ask if i want to go to bed but i cant because i feel has if i have to prompt him and all the romance has gone his he only doing it to please me?
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Thats a tough situation you are in. I will try to help as best I can. You have been married for a long time. I think to survive that long you two love each other. No questions about that. I DO NOT think he isn't sleeping with you because of weight. Do not get yourself down about that. Men actually can sense that and it can be a turnoff for some. If you feel sexy and act sexy, we will see that confidence and actually get turned on by it. He is probally burnt out from work, and sex is the last thing on his mind. I know I have felt that way from time to time. If he comes home from work, and its a routine, then its not going to change anything. My suggestion is to spice things up. Wear something you know turns him on, do something romantic together. Or you can actually make the first move. I love it when my wife does this. For me it can get frustrating if I always have to initiate. Almost like I have to put on a show and go through all the motions to get her in the mood. It can feel like work, and that may be why you haven't slept together. A suggestion is, don't ask him about it. He already knows how you feel. In a sense, just attack him. My wife actually did this once as we were walking out the door to go to a party and it was very sexy. It boosted my confindence which in turn allowed me to perform better.(At least I think so) You are his wife and he loves you no matter what. Don't get down on yourself. I know how you feel when you said that you didn't want to have sex with him, because you felt you shouldn't have to ask. There's your answer. Don't ask. Feel sexy, and take what you want. I would be really suprised if he turned that down. Hope that helps. If you have any more questions feel free to ask me
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He sounds like a great man, he may just be going through a rough time. Just like women, guys go through moods and phases. So try getting him in the mood, fix a nice candlelit dinner or do something romantic and that should get him in the mood.
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