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girlfriend with rough life.
16/m
i have the life some kids dream of. if i'm persistant i get whatever i want, within reason of course. in other words, if something is realistically within my reach, my parents will get it for me, and money is almost never an issue (until i start asking for BMWs and Mercedes). and other than one time i can think of, there is no time in my life where i was anything but utterly happy.
my girlfriend has had her dad leave, her sister die, had an abortion, lives with a single mom who had JUST RECENTLY lost her job, and in no way shape or form can i relate. they're short on money, and the only thing other than me that makes her happy is cheering, and that is a financial burden to them. what's even worse is that she is the best girlfriend i could imagine having through highschool, and she is so positive ALL THE TIME, and she's just been really down on herself lately. and there's nothing i can do.
ULTIMATELY:
i'm a 16 year old boyfriend. and she's my 16 year old girlfriend. i care SOOOO much about this girl, but i feel absolutely TERRIBLE for not being able to do anything except be supportive and tell her that everything is going to be ok, when in all reality i can't promise that. i have been the best boyfriend i could be, and that doesn't even seem like enough. so here i am, asking strangers for a bit of advice.
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I think all you need to do is what you
have been doing. In reality you can't promise
to always be there for her, you're 16 and
you don't know that, but you're there now.
You say she has a positive attitude all the
time, so she must not let her life get her
down a lot. She has dealt with some major
issues for a girl her age, but they make her
the girl she is.
The truth is everything won't always be
easy for her. Its that way with most people.
Some always struggle through life, but they
get by and are even happy despite it all.
You don't have to relate to her on everything.
I'm sure she can't relate to how easy you
have it compared to her. But, you get along
and enjoy each others company now. Thats
all that matters.
Don't overdo it with Christmas gifts,and
things like that, she will feel bad she can't
spend much on yours. Other than that, just
enjoy her company and be there for her if
she needs it. :)
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To me, it already sounds like you've done all you can really do. You can't change what has happened to her, and you can't really prevent what happens in the future. But letting her know that you'll always be there for her, might be a bigger help than you think.
I can't in no way say I've had a life as bad as hers, but when I'm feeling down, whether it's on myself or my current situation, it always helps to know that my boyfriend is always there when I need him, either to talk or simply offer a hug. It feels so much better knowing that someone cares, and it really makes me feel a lot better.
So as long as she knows that you're always going to be there for her when she needs you, then I think that's more than enough. And I can just tell by what you've said, that you really care about her, so I give you major props for being such a great boyfriend to her. Not every girl is that lucky. :)
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