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do guys like a girl shaved down below?
juuusst wondering..

It totally depends on the guy, but from personal experience, my boyfriend prefers it shaved. I have too sensitive skin though, so i just trim. It's always easier to compromise!

-DD

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hey, do you guys believe once a cheater always a cheater? also not just cheating on someone in general, if they cheated on you in a relationship that they had with you in the past.

Yes i do! my ex cheated on his girlfriend at least 3 times, once with me with out telling me he had a girlfriend, but she kept giving him more chances, and he just kept moving around from girl to girl. I do not believe in second chances when it comes to cheating. You'll just get screwed over!

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I'm a women age 20 i've been with two men in my teen life, i found out i was bi in the age 18. i hated it and i wish i never had feelings for my best friend. we both knew each other for 7 years, and i've always had feelings for her. in our senior year at high school i told her that i liked her, but i didnt want a relationship with her if she had the same feelings. she didnt respond but was shocked. i worte her a note the next day telling her why she seem alright with my likings to her, she didnt write back. for the whoile five years i ignor my feelings, we still hang out and we both have a great time with each other. but lately i see her flirting with me, laugh at every joke i say, leans on me for no reson and she loves teasing me.(she told me that)

i ask my guy friend about this and he said she might like you. she trun down three men who ask her out, she came to me and told me. then i wrote a note telling her my feelings are still strong with her. she didnt write back but she called me at midnight. (she never did that before in my life i know her) we talk for two hours but not about the note.

everyone says to me to talk to her faca to face and tell her about my feelings.

but my qeastion is: If we do get together now what?

we are both women and best friends, if she wants to be with me will it last? what if we break up will we still be friends?

i dont want that and i want to tell her i dont want to be with you if she says "yes I luv to be with you."but i'll crush her if i did.

but if she say no I'll be happy but mad if she with some guy and not me. we both need to talk about this i know.

but heres my 2nd qeastion :did this ever happen to you? were you still friends? explain to me please. Want her to say no but i know i wont ge over her plaese help me.

Yes this did happen to me with my first boyfriend, and we're still friends, and he's now dating my other good friend. As long as it's a mutual break up, then it should be fine.

NOW

You need to talk to her to her face. She can always ignore, or throw out a note, but face to face you can't get away from it. If she does feel the same way, you should try for a romantic relationship. It would be dificult to be best friends when you know you're both in love with each other, which could in fact hurt your relationship as friends. If she doesn't feel the same way, and you do not purse a romantic relationship, then things should be fine, she already knows about your feelings from your notes, so there should be no more shock to her about this.
i can't tell you if it's going to last, but it never will last if you don't try.

hope i was of some help

DD

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hey im a guy 13, and i was wondering whats the most important thing to girls to make a guy hot. is it clothes, looks, popularity, sports, scent etc......

Definetly scent, i love a guy who smells good, (I've followed a guy through a store to just smell him.) But ya, a personality also has to match the scent. And smile. whether it's a good smile or not, show the teeth, and it shows you have confidence. A nice build is a bonus, but not necessary. It's ALL Attitude!!!!!!

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Hey what qualities do girls look for in guys. I have some basic ideas but just wondered.

I think this pretty much sums it up!

http://www.lyricstop.com/albums/jojo/howtotouchagirl.html


;)

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The guy that I’ve fancied for quiet a while now recently hooked up with this new girl in out class. To be honest she is fun and nice and they make a nice couple but a few days ago we had a school disco and I just couldn’t help but feel jealous. We’ve never been close but I always wished we were and watching the two of them dance to the last song which was the only slow song I realized that I really want to be in her shoes. The next day some of the girls were telling her that he told one of his friends that he would sleep with her when she is ready and apparently he was very nice and considerate about it. At that moment I just wished I were his first one and then got thinking about it. I even thought of trying to get like friendly with him so to break them up but now I feel guilty for even thinking it, because it’s something that I consider low and cruel especially since I think they are a good couple. So now I just don’t know what to do, on one hand I want to be with him on the other I don’t see how I could be with him by playing fair. What should I do?

There is absolutly nothing you can do. It's too late, and you should have made a move earlier. You'll just have to wait and see if they break up. I've beeen waiting 3 years for a guy to break up with another girl, whom i think is totally wrong for him, but anyhow, it's too late!!!

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ok well this guy told me he liked me! and i told him i like him, and we kind of act like boy firned and girlfrien like we always hug and everyhting, but the thing is i have started talkign to him about 10 days ago after the summmer break for which we didnt talk at alll. and we hung out for the first time and idk at first we didnt talk and hung out with other people but then at the end we did and got more firnedly to the point that it was quite friendly. and umm im just wondering how long is it gonna take him to ask me out??? like agh he told me he liekd me like 2 days ago? and i wnat to know how soon he will ask me out!! also a couple of his and my friends ask me if we like each other so i hope thats a good thing =)

Talk to him and say, something like i really like you and i was hoping we could be boyfriend/girlfriend, type thing, There's Nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out, it shows you have courage, and he'll probably admire you for it. Go for it!

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13/f/Tx
My boyfriend asked me if I was ready for him to kiss me. I've truthfully never kissed anyone before. He's taking me to the movies this weekend. He said if I was ready he wanted to kiss him there. I told him to talk to my cousin because she always knows everything, but he wants an answer from me. What do I do?

First of all, what on earth would make you think he should talk to your cousin. This is probably something private between the two of you, and of course he would want an answer from you. How's you Cousin supposed to know if you're ready.

Second off, don't worry about kissing him. Just kiss him, it's not like you're losing your virginity or your soul or something out there. If you're scared you won't kiss right, well, he won't care...He'll just be happy he's kissing you. Get Over it and get some Sense!

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Is facial hair on a 15/m attractive or is it showing that your a some kind of beast

not attractive at all, on a 15/m. wait a few years for sure, till you're at least 17!

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I'm a 17 year old male and I've been seeing this girl (20 female) for a while, and she's really cool. She's really easy to talk to and I just generally enjoy being with her. We had a conversation about smoking and drinking (both of which I am vehemently opposed to) and she told me that she never smokes OR drinks, which was a huge part of my attraction to her.

I found out though, through her telling me, that she was at a party and had a few drinks, and smoked a couple of cigarettes... Now I don't know what to say, because I want to tell her how I feel about that (I don't associate myself with people that don't respect themselves enough to avoid things like this) but we're not really going steady or anything like that, so would it be weird for me to express my feelings towards a subject, or is it not my place?

Definetly talk to her. It's always nice to know someone is concerned about you. Just be sure that when you say something, it doesn't come out like you are trying to controll her or something, just state that you are worried about her turning this into an addiction etc...

Hope i helped a little!

-DD

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ok so i may sound stupid, but here it goes.

there is this kid on my Cross Country team who is AMAZING! he is extremely cute, athletic, and nice. buttttttt he's a junior and i'm only a freshman, and my selfesteme is low to begin with, so it's like why would he ever notice me.
i'm thinking it's just a dream crush.

i am in a semi relationship now (we aren't like going out yet until school starts and we know whats going on) and i REALLLYYYYY really care about him. but whenever i see the other guy i just melt. ahh what do i do?

Sounds to me like you are more into this guy's looks, and so if i were you, i wouldn't do anything about it, and i would stick with the other guy. If you do decide otherwise, though, stop putting yourself down and force your self esteem up. it's only a 2 year difference anyways, so if i were you, like i said, i would stick with the semi-relationship, and turn it into a real relationship :)
Hope i was of some help

-DD

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How do you know if you're falling in love?
I know its supposed to be something you "just know" but honestly, .. how would I "just know?" Is it some sort of feeling?

You'll just know. You'll feel special when you're around themm, you'll wanna be with them, it's hard to explain, but it something that you will just know and feel it in your heart.

-DD

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okaty firstly, sorry if this is long. but please read.
okay, me and my ex dated for 3 years. and i`m in 8th and hes in 7th.. and we broke up when i was in 7th and he was in 6th because he wsa in middle school and i was in highschool. and idk we just grew apart.. (We broke up september of lastyear) and we went out a few times after that when we were still in diff. schools.. but it didnt work.. and over tha summer.. we were gonna go out .. ut idk it never happened i guess.. and now we`re in the same school... (today was the first day) and now that im like around him, since we`rre in the same wing (hallway).. i really miss him.. we havent really talked but everytime he sees me he runs into me and such. i still have lots of feelings for him and i can tell he still likes me.. but i dont know what i should do =[ any advice?

14/f 13/m

Totally go for it! If you think that he still has feelings for you, and you're starting to feel things again, totally go for it. Scope him out and talk to him privatly and away from your friends. It sound to me like things will work out for the best :)

-DD

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okay, well im 14 years old, turning 15 in a month. i've been with my boyfriend now for a little more than 11 months. and me and my friends were in my town the other night, and we saw these 3 really hot kids and we gave them our numbers. and they called us and we hung out that night. then the next day all my girl friends, and all the guys we met went to the movies. im going into 9th grade, and the guys we met are going into 11th. one of the guys likes me, and i think about him alot, and im scared im starting to like him too. he told me he likes me and he asked if he should like stick around. i mean idk what to do. its not fair to my boyfriend. so please please please help me!

If i were you, i wouldn't want to mess anything up with your boyfriend. If you're dating around, do it single. Aswell though, you're still young and at that age it's best to date around to find out what you like, ya know? , but this guy may just be using you, so stick with your boyfriend, but don't be totally tied down to one guy for all of high school, let loose and have fun. High School will be some of the greatest days of your life :)

-DD

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From June 6 through the 27 I traveled to the UK. During the middle of my trip my BF emailed me and said he was leaving to go to Iowa to visit his Grandma. He was taking his best friend Felix. When I got home from the UK, I emailed my BF because I assumed he was home. He didn't reply. So I waited and waited (I also kept emailing him). This went on for about 1 month. Finally I emailed Felix and asked if the were home yet. He replied the next day and said they'd been home for weeks. I was FUMING!!! He was at home all this time. Why won't he email me. I never said anything mean or bad to hurt him, and I feel so sad. Does anybody know why he'd do this?

*** I can't call him because his dad has a very demanding job and needs the line open all the time.

That is a good sign of Cheating!
If i were you, i would make a couple of surprise visits over to see him and find out what's really going on. Maybe actually does have an excuse. Doubt it though, but still drop by and see him!

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I've had a crush on a boy since I was in third grade. Now I am going into sixth when school starts again. I asked him out in fourth grade and he said "Yes I will go out with you." Everyone found out thou. A month later he came up to me and said "You know we are just friends." Then I would say "Ya, I know."
I love him not like him. He is a christain (And I am supposed to marry a christain). And I was going to go up to him and say," Why did you say we were just friends when we were going out and if it is because everyone knew then we can go back out starting now and no one has to know.
But I don't know if I should.

You should say something. For sure. think of the 2 sides. if you did, he could say yes. and you'll be happy and all, or he could say no, and then you'll know. Side 2 is that you say nothing and ponder it for a very long time wondering if something would have happened if you had sais something. You choose which you would prefer.

My only warning to you is to be careful. Being the age you are(which can't be 13, but anyhow), children at that age can be very hurtful. Peers are very pressuring, and you could have things go in a totally wrong way if you don't watch what you say. Think about what you are going to say, plan it out, and rehearse it. Look fab, and go for it!

If you ever have any other questions, I would be happy to answer. Just drop one off in my box :)
-DD

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Hi, everyone. I'm a 15 year old male, and so is this girl I like. I honestly don't know why I am attracted to her. She is overweight, and that's just a turn off for me, like most other guys. But beside the few extra pounds (actually about 30), she's gorgeous. (or so I think) She had chestnut colored brown hair, and paleish skin in contrast. Her blue eyes are amazing. We sat next to eachother in biology all of last year, as the teacher never changed the seating arrangement. We talked a lot, and I'm very shy, so it was a change for me. She talked to me first, and from then on we became very good friends. She bought me a cake on my birthday & gave it to me in class. She laughs at everything, so I don't know if she thinks I'm funny, or not. But I love it. I love talking to her, I love her laugh, I love how random she is, how different, how uncaring of what people think. (dont get me wrong, shes not a geek or anything, shes in with all the right kids, shes just overweight). I couldn't tell if she liked me, but there's something about her that makes me want to be with her all the time. As I said, this would be awkward for me, because she is overweight, and my friends would definitely have fun teasing me/her over that. I don't know what to do, I asked her for her number & aim screename, so I have those now. Whenever I see her get online, I IM her. I told her when I was doing driving school so she could maybe sign up. I think I'm just confused on what to do. Why is it I'm so attracted to her? Should I tell her how I feel? What about my friends?

- You shouldn't care what your friends think. If they are really your friends, they'll accept you for whom ever you like. Why must everybody be so shallow anyways? So what if the girl you like is a little over weigt. You said you think she's gorgeous, and so may other guys think this too, you never know, eh?....

ANYHOW

- I can't tell you why you're attracted to her. People can't really tell you that. You should just know it but it sounds like you like her because of how she makes you feel when you are with her...

- I think you should totally tell her how you feel. Don't worry about your friends. Like i said, if they are really your true friends, they'll accept the fact that you like this girl, all though they sound like jerks, but if you don't tell her how you feel, you will probably never know if she feels the same way about you. It would suck to look back and wonder too, that if you had said something, whether something would have happened!

Hope i helped. Any other questions, feel free to ask me , Ta Ta - DD

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Is it more apropriate to tell a guy your home phnoe nummber or your cell phone number?

I would say definetly your cell. That way he knows it's you that will pick up, so there's greater chance of him calling....BUT....If you get into a relationship with the guy, i advise you to have each other's home numbers. First of all, it's more personal, and second of all, i was in a situaton where i only had the guy's cell # and it turned out he was living with another girl. So At first i would definetly say cell though. Then later, your home#.!!

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ok
im 13/f and im gonna be going into 8th grade.
with not ever having a boyfriend, no first kiss no nothing!
and it sucks.
my love life better get better before i get to highschool
any ways i could maybe get a boyfriend or have boys get to like me more?!

You are still so so young for that. Some people may feel that they need to be in on all that type of stuff and have a boyfriend at that age, just to show off. Myself, i never had a real boyfriend till i was 16 years old, like i had one of those guys when i was 15 that it's like o ya i'm his girlfriend but we never did anything or went out literally anyways. Same with all my friends. So what i'm getting at is that 13 is really young right now. you'll probably see a difference once you get into high school! There's also no way to make a guy fall for you. It will come naturally. Guys will like you for just being you!

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Okay, i dont usually do this, but i cant trust my friends with this one. I have a boyfriend who ive been dating for 13 months. in the last four months, ive started to fall for a guy i work with and have been working with for two years, we are jokingly refered to as the work couple. lately my boyfriend and i have been fighting a lot, and i spend more time at work (im working full time this summer) i dont think that i will be truly happy with either relationship, but the situation im in right now isnt appealing either. i feel like im losing interest in my boyfriend, yet i love him just as much.

what do i do?

I had the same problem. I ended up having to dump my boyfriend because he was living with his real girlfriend, but anyhow, you need to choose one or the other. Going with 2 guys is always a bad idea. You could always in the ends wind up with neithor of them. If you feel like you don't like eithor of them then i would try to move on from both of them and find someone who will make you feel like you are in a relationship you should be in. It sounds to me like you are beginning to have stronger feelings for the guy at work... You should talk to your current boyfriend about the fighting you are doing. Try to patch things up. If not, then maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship since you are fighting so much. Give the work guy a try. Explore new options. You may find yourself happier with him.
Hope i helped a bit. and i hope things work out with you. It's all up to you and how you feel... Think About It!

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