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hey guys! my name is cait♥ and i adore giving people advice. my obsession is 8th&ocean. i even have the theme song as my ringtone ; ] hehe. anyways im a cheerleader and i love every minute of it. well dont be afraid to ask me certain questions because im always here for you = ]. thanks for coming here and reading this. so you like my advice? add me!! = ]]. cait♥

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Hi my name is Sofia im 10 years old and theres a boy i like his name is guy i relly like him and i dont know wat 2 say can you please help me. you can talk 2 me by aim heres my screen name sexy51496 or my email adress sexy51496@yahoo.com

hey, well sweetie first of all your 10 years old you shouldnt be on this site. anyways well i give you alot of props because your actually a girl thats willing you ask a guy out. usually girls are afraid of that. so if i really like this guy i would just keep dropping little hints that you like him. flirt alot. also make sure hes single and that he isnt interesting in anyone because if he is thats an automatic no. just casually ask him if he wants to hang out one day then ask him while your chilling. cait♥

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14/f
theres this guy...he saw me at this party i went to with a bunch of my friends. He noticed me out of about a million girls there and was interested in ME. he's a grade above me and lets just say has a reputation for being a "bad boy" He always calls and texts me and before i would call and text him back but now i'm kind of unsure. we hung out once at the movies and talked the whole time. he's really hot and popular and i guess you could say i do kind of like him a little bit. i really want a boyfriend and am kind of desperate but i don't know about him. Practically all my friends are telling me to ditch him because he is known for being really rude and mean to people and being perverted and pressuring you into moving really fast. i've never even kissed anyone before so i don't know if he's right for me because all i think i would do would be make out.. and he would prob. want much more. i'm so confused and my friends don't help because they all tell me different things. i don't know whether to give this guy a chance (i mean i do really want a boyfriend and he is extremely gorgeous and popular AND a grade above me!) or to listen to what alot of people are telling me about him..that he is a complete jerk and is a "man whore" i really seriously don't know what to do :( i'm sooo confused..please help me!

hey, sorry i took so long to asnwer youu. well dont listen to your friends. some of them might just be jealous because he is gorgeous and a grade above you guys. so give him a chance. see what happens. if he pressures you to do something that you dont want to do then thats when you ditch him. he might think that your "not cool" anymore but its not cool to be pregnaunt at 14. so stay safe and just give him a chance. cait♥♥

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well everytime i get a haircut and i get it blow dried it's always sooo pretty and soft and shiny!!! how do they do that??? cause everytime i do it it is shiny and soft and pretty but i know it could be better than that so how can i do that??? i have special shampoo and conditinor but that dosnt work that good though..
what should i do??

hey, well leave in conditioner protects your hair from natural oils around us everday. so use leave in conditioner [ preferable from paul mitchell ]. use the paul mitchell extra lather shampoo too. even if your not straightening your hair use redken straightening balm. it helps tame frizz and make your hair flatter and less poofy. i would just take a regular brush [ not round ] and brush thorught you hair while blow drying it on hot/high. then if your hair isnt naturally straight there might be some curly/wavy areas. go over those areas with a straightener but dont go over it too much. cait♥

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My boyfriend broke up with me because
he thought we'd be better off as best friends again.
We were best friends before.
I'm in hell right now I miss him so much.
I want to be back with him...I dont know what to do. Should I talk to him about it?
I'm a wreck.

hey, well hes basically telling you nicely that he doesnt like you anymore. its the nice way to say that its over. you cant make him want you back. just deal with being best friends. cait♥♥

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I work with this girl && i went out with her and her male cousin On friday. He really wanted to meet me so i was like whatever and we went to the mall and hung out (the three Of us). My friend was pretty much walking in front of us the entire time so i was walking behind with him. We left the mall and went somewhere else. That night he made me laugh harder && more then any guy has ever made me laugh in my life. Now the only thing i can really think about is him && i cant get him off my mind. Wierd. We talk onliine && the phone sometimes. Only problem is Im 17 and hes 21.

What do you think i should do. I wouldnt mind being with this guy.

When i walked away from him and his cousin he was begging her to tell him what i had said && thought about him.

Ill ratee.

hey, well age doesnt matter. what i think is that anything five years and over is bad. anything under is finee. so if you two are serious about being together then go for it. who cares what people say. cait♥♥

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15/f...i went out with this guy ive been best friends with since sixth grade and were now in 9th and so it was a few months and everything was perfect and i just told myself everything was wrong but it wasnt and so i broke up with him for no reason at all i was just like its over.. and so its been about two months and he went out with this other chick and they broke up and now i realize what a big mistake ive made and we were BEST friends we told each other everything and after he wouldnt even look at me and the past week ive been just trying to make small talk and he'll talk to me and he gives me that look like " make it better please" but he doesnt act like that you know?..i want him back so bad i miss him soo much but i dont expect that i just want it to be the way it was before and ..

hey, things like that ruin relationships of both kinds if you let it. dont let it happen to you guys. talk about it with him and hear him out. express all your feelings towards teh situationa dn dont hold back. cait♥♥

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last summer i met a boy in a chatroom ... yes i know chatroom. I use to go in them all the time when i was bored and whatever play around i guess anyways i started talking to this kid, and over time i actuallu started to like him. I never seena picture of him at first so i know i liked him for him and not what he looks like. We kinda dated ... ughhh sounds gay i know i know. Its not like i cant get a guy in real life, i can and i do but i always end up thinking about him. I've seen his picture only a month ago and hes alright! not cute or anything but i still love him. His personality is wonderful and i cant get enough of him, but the whole idea of meeting him from online makes me feel like a geek! i dunt noe. I had a boyfriend before i met him and i was in love or at least i thought i was. i already knew what i wanted but now i want him!! is that weird??? And i know hes not a fake!!! he has a myspace and has ALOT of friends on it from his school and we talk on the phone?? do you guys think its weird .... do you think its possible to be in love with someone you hardly know but in a way you do!!

hey, well be careful. this happened to me before except i met the kid on myspace. we talked on the phone and on AIM. he could have been completly fake .. but luckily he was real. no its not weird to love soemone that you just meet and hrdly know. cause i did. i know exactly how you feel. cait♥

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Ive been best friends with kay for 3 years and recentlyy she started dating jay. Now Jay is an amazing person,Cute resepectful loyal hard working funny and intellegent. And Kay whom I love to pieces is the EXACT opposit now dont think im beig mean she really is she quit her first job after a month.Anyway i guess my question is what should I do?

hey, dont do anything. its her relationship. dont get in the way of things. let her make her own descisons even if there bad ones. she isnt five and she def. doesnt need your guidance. let her fail or suceed by her descison making. cait♥

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I am a teenage girl with a boyfriend. What do I do if I see him with another girl?

hey, just privately talk to him about it. tell him hwo you feel and dont hold back any of your feelings. cait♥

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ok so their is this boy we can call him j and i REALLY like him. i am thinking about going out with him but my parents would freak out because hes mixed (white and black) and im white. their not racest or anything. they just disagree with me going out with a black/mixed/any race other then white person because they think that putting mixed children situation is wrong. i of coarce STRONGLY disagree! i think that it shouldnt matter what race you are. so as i was saying i want to go out with j but should i really go agenst what my parents say AND not tell them im going out with j?

what should i do??

please HELP!

hey, well if you feel comfortable lying/hiding it to/from your parents then go out with him. but if you feel the need to tell them then just have them meet him! cait♥

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f/14
ok, so theres a guy and i really really really really like him, we've already dated once and i wanna get back together. I told him i liked him and he said he liked me to, he also said he sorta likes this other girl and she really likes him also. Its really hard because shes really cool and shes my friend
i dont want to make her mad at me or sad or w/e if i DO go out with him again, but i also really like him so i dont know if it matters whether she hates me at this point or not, besides i can't see her being like that. Some people say that hes going to ask me out again but he reluctant because im too shy. I think thats why he dumped me before, i dont want to blow it and i really really like the guy(obviously lol)
i know this is a weird question but does anyone have advice about my shyness, i'm not shy around my friends and he's one of them but ever since i found out he likes me, i get all nervous around him. Maybe its because i think hes judging me??? Or comparing me to the other girl???

PLEASE HELP OUT!!!!

i rate 5's

hey, well its normal to be shy around guys you like. but in my opion if he told you that he likes you but also told you he likes antoher girl, they he isnt 100% interested in just you. i wouldnt get too involed with him until hes sure your the only one he likes. if you do get interested in him alot and start a relationship it could involve a heartbreak. so be careful. cait♥

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ok so i broke up w/ my boyfriend a couple months ago and lately ive really been missing him and thinking ive made te biggest mistake of my life. were friends and i know he still loves me and would jump at the chance to be with me again because he tells me all the time. but for some reason im scared to tell him i still love him and want to get back together. it shouldnt scare me i know we would be happy and back together but something is restraining me from telling him how i feel. whats wrong w/ me? please help!! i really miss the way things were. thanks!!

hey, wel never hide your feelings. just tell him. if he still loves you maybe youll go out. if not then it wasnt meant to be. cait♥

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My man has just joined the army. He is going through basic trainning right now, which is something that is very stressful and hard (for y'all who dont kno.) I've been sending him letters, cards and pictures but i want to send him something special. Many items are not allowed (porno, drugs, tobacco, food, etc.) I need some ideas of "special" gifts to send him. (No big gifts though) Got any ideas???
18/f

hey, make a dvd of you saying hi to him and such. in the backgroudn you should put your favorite song that remidns you of each other. you could also make a slideshow of pictures of you two. cait♥

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okay i liked this guy now for about 2 months and he has liked me, we would talk on the phone every night and he would always tell me he loved me, but he would never ask me out and i dont get why. anyways just the other day he started bein a dick to me, not answering my phone calls, saying he'll call me back and never does. i just dont know what to do, im soo heartbroken it aint even funny i even thought about killing myself. i rate high

hey, please dont kill yourself! well i think he used to like you, but then lost interest in you. maybe he was too shy to ask you out and first and wanted you to make the move. since you enevr did he could have jut gave up on you. let him know that you are still intereseted in him. if hes not interested in you then move on. dont waste your time onna guy that doesnt care for you. cait♥

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At school I have liked many girls and everyone shoots me down. Mostof them tell me that I could be cool enough to go out with them if I didn't hang around with the nerds. I am not a nerd but I hang out with them because they're nicer than the popular people I could hang out with. Every time I tell A girl that they still shoot me down. What should I do?

hey, well dont change for anyone. i guess its your option with what group you want to hang around with. but dont label them, they arent soup and shouldnt be labeled. cait♥

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Do you think it's necessary to know your partners past sexual experience? Would you want to know? Would it bother you? I learned from personal exp. never to ask, yet I found out how much experience my girlfriend has had accidently and when I confronted her about it she didn't deny it. Something changed with me when she admitted it. I feel really insecure about it now. I hate finding out. What would you do??

hey, well i think that you should always know about your partners past. even if its bad or even good you should still know. i think that you should be get to ask each other questions that youve been wanting to know. it will help make your relationship stronger and it will also help you be able to confront each other in times of need. cait♥

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hello i have a situation that i'm really not sure about i don't know who really to ask so i figured out side help is the best advice so here gose i have a really close friend i met almost 8 years ago and i know i was still a teen when we met but i fell hopelessly in love with him and been this way ever since he lives about an hour away from me and this is one of the reason we never got together but for the first year i never met him (i met him though a good friend there related) but we use to talk on the phone for hour's on end and it was fun we were just friend's i never thought of him as anything else but when i met him i knew he was the one for me and agian i was young but something told me and still tells me that where ment for each other we kept close connection's for about 2 1/2 year's than he got a girlfriend and stopped talking to me all together and told me that he though of me like a sis he dosen't remember this but i women never forget's we stoped talking for almost a year and when they broke up he started talking to me again just not as much and for the past 6 year's this is how we've been we talk every so often and we alway's talk like we've never stop he know's my feeling for him i'm not shy about talling him and he tell's me he loves me still to the day but also say's he not in to long distance relationship's which is understandable i've tryed everything in my power to get him to open up to me because i want to movve by him to see what happens between us but my only problem is that we really don't talk much any more. his friends that i know tell me i'm wasting my time but i don't see that because in the past 8 year's he's alway's returned to me and he alway tells me he loves me and we act as a couple when were together but have never really been together not that it matter's i've tryed to stop talking to him i moved and changed my number it lasted almost a year than he kinda kidnaped one our our friend that i'm very close with and made them bring him to me . i've tryed to give him and altamatum by telling him that if he didn't want me than that was fine i'm happy to move on but i need him to tell me that or he has hold over me i told him that if i didn't hear from him by a certin date i would just know but again he called two day's before and made everything a lil better i want to be with him more than ever but i don't want to move away from all my friends and family for nothing and i'm fankly sick of the run around he's been dealing i'm know in my 20's and i've never really had a ral relationship because of him everytime i get close with some one he pop's p in my head and i can't get emotional with the person i'm with i hold back my heart cause he keeps me waiting i don't want to loose him but i all i have is what he tells me and what his freinds tell me. i know he cool with me movin by him he's offered to help me find a place and move but i'm very scared and i don't know what to do i want to put this all behind me and have a couple of time but just hearing his voice bring me back if you could help me it would be gravely apprecated i thank you for taking the time to read my messed love thank you bie

hey, you guys should meet up to talk and hang. keep doing this and see how it goes. who knows what will happen = ]. cait♥

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((14/f)) and the boy ((17/m))
k, so i met this kid at the beginning of the school year. and basically we've been in love ever since.
but we aint going out because of my mom
she hates him, and shes never even met him.. and she thinks that he just wants sex, cuz she assumes thats what every guy older then me wants. but ivee already told him that im not having sex, because i think im too young, and he understands completely. and i know he doesnt want sex, because its been 9 months and hes still here.
and we both really want to go out,
btu the problem:
my mom
and our school.
our school talks way too much crap

any suggestions on what i should do?

hey, well forget what the people at your school say. its you and the guys relationship, NOT the whole schools. as for your mom. i think she will be pretty upset if she finds out that your going out with him after she said no. you should have a talk with her WITH THE GUY TOO! both explain to your mom what the situation is and important facts. dont hold back on your feelings. cait♥

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ok its me again alright he told me he loved me and everything has been going beyond great with him but thatr was up until the last 2 days hes been acting really weird like at first when her told me he loved me i believed it 100% but now when he says it im kind of confusing and wondering if he means it or hes just saying it because i want to hear it i mean i know he loves me but hes acting like he doesnt care should i just get him alone n spend some time just me n him? im not ready to give up on him n i know hes not ready to give up on me so what do i do?

hey, my guy is like this too. im wondering if mine is bipolar. lol anyways. just give him another chance. if you prefer explain to him how you feel and dont hold back your feelings. i think its just a typical guy thing tho. cait♥

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(im a girl, 14) Right I am freaking out over this and i really need help..

There is a new lad at our school called Ashley and me and my friend (laura) both like him loads. He seems to like us both but as Laura is in more classes with him she is getting to know him loads better and hes already said that he thinks theyre going to be great friends. Laura has a boyfriend already and she says that she'll let me have Ashley but he still flirts with us BOTH in front of her boyfriend .
In their classes together Ive heard that they get really close and hes pinned her against the wall etc and they sit together. They also talk about people and she says that he said that i was pretty/fit but then she asked about her and he said 'erm..no' but I reckon that he only said that because she was there and didnt want to give her ideas..Hes also said that he wouldn't mind going out with either of us.

So the next day I totally freaked when i found out that he had been flirting with her in science, and i was pulling letter keys off the school computer and threatening to kill her so much that I really scared my friends. Its all going great for her ;-(

It so happens that day that she is staying down (she lives in a village)because we both go to this tramplolining club every wednesday and after school at the gates I was freaking out and pulling my bag apart and on the verge of screaming/ smacking her / crying n biting my nails off... and he was still flirting with her on the way to the local shop we all meet up at but he doesnt normally walk this way . Finally i decided to sort this out with her and i was nearly crying but she said that shed lay off him etc for me (bless her).

And what do you know he started flirting with me. I kept getting hugs and he was showing me how to do drumming etc and he was coming to watch us (probably Laura) at trampolining with her bf later on..

OK So now we're at trampolining and we both talk to him as much as each other but hes giving her piggybacks and he gave me a single shoulderlift to show of how strong he was. He probably knows I like him because of the many people who have been coming up to him and asking him if he likes me etc. After trampolining we went back to his where we were sat down watching TV with his cute puppies jumping allover us and I was sat on the couch next to him getting closer and he was talking to me and asking laura questions.

We went to the kitchen (all 4 of us [me laura Ashley and her bf, Lewis]and he was flirting with us both (tickling me and jumping up behind me etc, doing exactly the same to Laura and her bf was staring daggers)and we decided to go to a shop and buy a pizza. Me and Laura bought the pizza and he seemed to be tagging along with her more but then on the way back to his place he had his arm around me and I was loving every second and he kept putting his hand round my waist…J Back at his house we were in his kitchen again with the pizza on (her bf didn’t seem to mind him messing around with her anymore because we were all just great friends) and then I realized that now he had his arm round her (serious twinge of jealousy)….. But then he has his arm round both of us either side of him as we waited for the pizza to cook. I kept whispering to Laura that I REALLY LIKED HIM I have honestly never felt so badly for someone I was almost shaking when he entered the room. So after a while she takes him outside and all I hear is playful giggling and I am worrying but she comes back to tell me that though he’s happy with his girlfriend if he ever dumps her he will definitely say yes to me. And now I feel like a total prick for acting kinda shy around him and leaving it at that. Does it mean anything when he hugs you last?

Today at school I saw him and hugged him and I was so happy until I found out that he was going on the school trip that Laura was going to and he wants to share a room with her……..But in dance today he came running over to me to knock me down/ hug me and I was just like ‘Hi?’ and he me and laura kept talking to him as he’s the only boy in our class and can break dance. We had to choose groups and he chose to be in a group with me and Laura and not the popular, pretty people or his other friends he knows better. We were so chuffed. He was teaching us how to do a box jump and lifting us up by the waist (more me than her) and all the popular people were scowling at us with jealousy :-)At the end of the lesson they all had a go at him and asking him why he was hanging out withus losers but he stuck up for us and we were really surprised at his guts etc. After the lesson he jumped up behing me again and he walked me to my next lesson. Although he didnt walk the same way home again to see me..

I want to know who he likes best and whther to make a move or not...? Because I dont want him going off with Laura on this French trip if Im going out with him, I feel like tearing my hair out coz I wish he would make a move on just one of us and stop confusing me...

congrats if you finished reading this btw lol and thankyou for your answer lol luv rachel xxx

hey, well i think he doesnt know who/what he wants. to save either of you from a heartbreak i would just stay strictly friends with him. of course you can still flirt but just dont expect to be anything but friends with him. but if he does tell ONE of you that he likes you then thats a different story. you can be mroe then friends if that happens. cait♥

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