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Im freaking out with jealousy and envy
(im a girl, 14) Right I am freaking out over this and i really need help..
There is a new lad at our school called Ashley and me and my friend (laura) both like him loads. He seems to like us both but as Laura is in more classes with him she is getting to know him loads better and hes already said that he thinks theyre going to be great friends. Laura has a boyfriend already and she says that she'll let me have Ashley but he still flirts with us BOTH in front of her boyfriend .
In their classes together Ive heard that they get really close and hes pinned her against the wall etc and they sit together. They also talk about people and she says that he said that i was pretty/fit but then she asked about her and he said 'erm..no' but I reckon that he only said that because she was there and didnt want to give her ideas..Hes also said that he wouldn't mind going out with either of us.
So the next day I totally freaked when i found out that he had been flirting with her in science, and i was pulling letter keys off the school computer and threatening to kill her so much that I really scared my friends. Its all going great for her ;-(
It so happens that day that she is staying down (she lives in a village)because we both go to this tramplolining club every wednesday and after school at the gates I was freaking out and pulling my bag apart and on the verge of screaming/ smacking her / crying n biting my nails off... and he was still flirting with her on the way to the local shop we all meet up at but he doesnt normally walk this way . Finally i decided to sort this out with her and i was nearly crying but she said that shed lay off him etc for me (bless her).
And what do you know he started flirting with me. I kept getting hugs and he was showing me how to do drumming etc and he was coming to watch us (probably Laura) at trampolining with her bf later on..
OK So now we're at trampolining and we both talk to him as much as each other but hes giving her piggybacks and he gave me a single shoulderlift to show of how strong he was. He probably knows I like him because of the many people who have been coming up to him and asking him if he likes me etc. After trampolining we went back to his where we were sat down watching TV with his cute puppies jumping allover us and I was sat on the couch next to him getting closer and he was talking to me and asking laura questions.
We went to the kitchen (all 4 of us [me laura Ashley and her bf, Lewis]and he was flirting with us both (tickling me and jumping up behind me etc, doing exactly the same to Laura and her bf was staring daggers)and we decided to go to a shop and buy a pizza. Me and Laura bought the pizza and he seemed to be tagging along with her more but then on the way back to his place he had his arm around me and I was loving every second and he kept putting his hand round my waist…J Back at his house we were in his kitchen again with the pizza on (her bf didn’t seem to mind him messing around with her anymore because we were all just great friends) and then I realized that now he had his arm round her (serious twinge of jealousy)….. But then he has his arm round both of us either side of him as we waited for the pizza to cook. I kept whispering to Laura that I REALLY LIKED HIM I have honestly never felt so badly for someone I was almost shaking when he entered the room. So after a while she takes him outside and all I hear is playful giggling and I am worrying but she comes back to tell me that though he’s happy with his girlfriend if he ever dumps her he will definitely say yes to me. And now I feel like a total prick for acting kinda shy around him and leaving it at that. Does it mean anything when he hugs you last?
Today at school I saw him and hugged him and I was so happy until I found out that he was going on the school trip that Laura was going to and he wants to share a room with her……..But in dance today he came running over to me to knock me down/ hug me and I was just like ‘Hi?’ and he me and laura kept talking to him as he’s the only boy in our class and can break dance. We had to choose groups and he chose to be in a group with me and Laura and not the popular, pretty people or his other friends he knows better. We were so chuffed. He was teaching us how to do a box jump and lifting us up by the waist (more me than her) and all the popular people were scowling at us with jealousy :-)At the end of the lesson they all had a go at him and asking him why he was hanging out withus losers but he stuck up for us and we were really surprised at his guts etc. After the lesson he jumped up behing me again and he walked me to my next lesson. Although he didnt walk the same way home again to see me..
I want to know who he likes best and whther to make a move or not...? Because I dont want him going off with Laura on this French trip if Im going out with him, I feel like tearing my hair out coz I wish he would make a move on just one of us and stop confusing me...
congrats if you finished reading this btw lol and thankyou for your answer lol luv rachel xxx
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hey, well i think he doesnt know who/what he wants. to save either of you from a heartbreak i would just stay strictly friends with him. of course you can still flirt but just dont expect to be anything but friends with him. but if he does tell ONE of you that he likes you then thats a different story. you can be mroe then friends if that happens. cait♥
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wow, thats reaaaaally complicated
this guy sounds like a regular teenage boy who doesnt know what he wants. I think he wants both of you and cant pick because he's been giving you guys both attention at different times.
maybe you should ask him if he wants to hang out with you sometime, maybe with another one of your friends & not laura, and see if he says yes, because if he does then he likes you and if he doesnt then he doesnt like you
other than that there really is no way your gonna find out unless you wait for him to decide, its kinda wierd for your friend to do that with him if she already has a boyfriend..
anyway, good luck & i hope that all this clears up and that he ends up liking youu :)!
<3 allie
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