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Okay, well I had a thing for school that is a Music Festival. Well, there is this guy I know and he is three years older than me. I had a boyfriend at this time and this guy wasn't him. Well, I was around this guy all day I would hold his hand. At one point me and him went into the choir room and there wasn't anyone else in there. So, he fingered me and I gave him a hand job. He kept trying to get me to make out with him. And, we laid on a couch cuddling together. Well, then at the end of the day we ended up making out for at least five minuets and then he tried to have sex with me. Now remember, I had a boyfriend. Well, a couple days later we had sex and I felt so bad so I broke up with my boyfriend instead of telling him the truth. I now have a totally different boyfriend but I still feel guilty and I love the other guy not my ex. But, I love my boyfriend now just not as much.!

You're not a slut/whore but what you did was wrong and makes you a cheater. You say you feel guilty now and you love the guy you are with now but not as much as the guy you cheated with on your ex. Before being unhappy again and then looking for love elswhere which is what you did here. Come clean! Go to your ex and tell him why you guys broke up - he deserves to know. It will give you both peace of mind and allow you guys to move on. As for the guy who you cheated with - talk to him. If you're still in touch and you love him like you say you do then do something about it, don't just go out with some other guy in the meantime to 'fill a gap.' In order to have a successful relationship you have to be happy. So in order for you to be happy you have to come clean to your ex and admit your feelings to this other guy. Tell you current boyfriend what you will be doing, as you should have learnt by now keeping things isn't the way to go.

Inbox me if you need more help, good luck, hope this helps.

AskSinz

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WhEn me and my bf are having sex he gets me so wet that whn his going to put.his dick on me i get dry so fast

I don't think this is a sign of infection or anything this kinda thing happens. I would suggest using a lubricant which you can buy in most shops

hope this helps,

AskSinz

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I really need to talk to somebody about my life. More about my love life though, obviously. I'm not really keen about 'professional' help though. I just want someone like me, going through the same stuff as I am. My friends aren't listening, they're too busy going off with their boyfriends. (14/f) Please??

I'm 18/f and definitely willing to help you out. Just inbox me when you need me and I'll get back to ASAP. Most definitely same day replies!

Don't hesitate to communicate,

AskSinz.

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Well,Im 14 and me and my boyfriend have already spoke about how we feel for eachother and how we want to spend our lives together,i know many say your too young to be thinking about it let alone discussing it,But we really love eachother and he said if we last a few more weeks he will propose to me. Honestly i don't know what to do,i mean i love him alot and weve been together for a while now but im not to sure how to react.i dont know wether to say yes so we have a long time to talk about our future or say no and deal with it when were a btit older.Any ideas?

The fact that you're asking us whether you should say yes or no clearly shows you that you want to say no. You are young but that doesn't change how you feel about someone. I've been going out with my girlfriend since I was 14 and to tell you the truth I did think about spending the rest of our lives together and marriage but as time went on in the relationship you change because you're still growing up. I don't care for marriage any more because I don't feel it's necessary. The fact that you're 14 means you can't actually get married without parental consent and I highly doubt either of your parents will allow this and in fact it will just cause trouble for your relationship and cause you guys to drift apart. I would be really grateful if you could inbox me more on this as I would like to know just how long you guys have been going out and how long you guys have known each other, and maybe we could discuss this further. You need to tell your boyfriend that your not sure about marriage because of how young you guys are and how much things might change in the up and coming years (GCSE'S, A Levels, University etc). Tell him honestly that you still love him and still want to be together and you'd rather wait to get married.

Please inbox me, hope this helps.

AskSinz.

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Recently my boyfriend said things arent working and that he loves me but he is not in love with me anymore. However I don't feel the same, I am still in love with him and want to be with him, we have been through so much. We said we are going to talk about things but I know it will end in a break up which I really don't want to happen. They say 'if you love someone let them go' but its so hard. How can I make him see that it might just be a rough patch and we can sort things out?

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this and atm I'm going through the same kinda thing. It's unfortunate and we want them to see that it's a bad patch but - you can't force someone to love you. When you talk with him ask him exactly what it is that he feels and what he thinks is the problem between you two - don't let him just say it's not working or there's nothing between you any more. Make him explain what he feels for you, why he fell out of love with you, what makes him think that it's not just a bad patch. If he dots around the questions, if he doesn't want to talk, then I'm sorry to say but it sounds like he's trying to take the easy way out by saying I don't love you any more. But by asking these questions you gain closure if the dreaded 'break-up' does happen. Im not gonna be one of those people and tell you that there's plenty more fish in the sea because I know how it feels to just want to be with that one person. It's absolutely heartbreaking to know that it's gonna end but you have to remember one thing and know that it's not your fault. You have done everything you can to show him that you love him and show him that your in this relationship for the long haul, through good and bad times.

I hope it works out for you, I'm here if the outcome isn't what you wanted. I wish you the best of luck.

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Hello Im 13 years old and so is my boyfriend. We have been dating since March 2011 and its now January 2012. He is pretty shy around me and Im sometimes like that. Everyone asks me if we say I Love You and I have to say no because he has yet to say it. Would it be weird if i told him? And how should I? Ans so far he has hugged me. Thats it. No holding hands. And obviously no kiss. How do I hint him i want to go farther

If you have to ask if you should say I love you then you're obviously not ready to say it. Now when you say how do I hint him to go farther I really do hope you mean just a kiss and holding hands. I guess for that you could maybe lean into him when you hug get your faces close? Quite a lot of the time especially at this age both guys and girls are shy. And the majority of girls expect the guy to make the first move - but really you can make a move to if you want something to happen? So just grab his hand one day in the playground or something and be like Hi and have a conversation, don't make it into a big thing, act natural with it.

I hope this helps xx

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Sorry for the length but please still read:
My husband and I have been married 6 years. He is 36 and I am 24 so he came into the marriage with more life experience. Every year we have been married he wants to take our vacations one step further but it seems like I am always the one changing. The first year we were married we went to Daytona everything was great I felt sexy in a normal bikini and we had a good time. Then he buys me all these thong bikinis and insists I wear those when we go to Mexico, and even though I told him I was hesitant, i did. Then the next time we go to Mexico he takes us to a topless resort which I was completely against but after to many drinks and non stop urging I took my top off and hated it. The next time he books a trip, again to Mexico it is at a clothing optional swingers resort (no we are not swingers)!! I told him numerous times I was extremely uncomfortable and I was not getting nude. He loved it! He said he felt free by not having to wear clothes, and he wishes I would let loose and show my body off. Again I told him how uncomfortorable it made me and it was like he didn't hear me. He even wanted us to be intimate on the rooftop while other couples were up there (i absolutly refused). Now he is wanting to book another trip to a resort where one side is clothing optional and the other is not. I tried to talk to him about it and tell him I was not getting nude and we got into a huge argument and have barley spoken since (that was four days ago). I don't know what to do, I feel like my husbands verson of "sexy" is trashy and wrong and I don't want any part of it, but he wont stop pushing me. I really need advice.

You have every right to be upset and annoyed. Him not so much. To me it looks like he wants to show you off? He's 36 and married to a 24 year old. It just sounds like he wants to take you to all these exotic places to show that he's still got or that look over here my wife's hot! Now to him he thinks he's complimenting you, saying flaunt your body because your beautiful etc. but it's very obvious that to you its a violation. You need to have a talk with him, a very serious one at that. You do the talking first. Don't let him speak till your done. Don't argue, don't shout, talk. Say that it makes you uncomfortable, that you only feel like your body should be shared with him and him only. That when he practically forces you to strip you feel to some extent violated, cheap and trashy. That rather than making you want to take your clothes off and be comfortable and flaunt everything you want to do the complete opposite and recoil into yourself and hold onto your clothes for dear life. You need to get stern with your husband because before you know it this could separate you guys if not taken care of.

Hope this helps Good Luck xx

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hi, me and my boyfriend are dating for almost 2 years and i'm in my early 30's and he's in late 40's. we live together. my question is, he's been ejaculating in me for a past 3 months and i always get a period every month as usual. he never wears condom and i'm not on a pill. i know, we're having sex without the protection. we're not trying to have a baby yet but if i'm pregnant then we're more than happy. does it mean we're infertile or how long normally does it take to be a pregnant? thank you all so much.

For some couples it could take ages to get pregnant for others it could be the first time they have sex. The only way to decipher whether or not one of you is infertile is to go for a fertility test. I'd suggest making an appointment with your local doctor/G.P. and discuss what's going on but generally around 85% of couples conceive naturally within one year of having regular unprotected sex. Normally after one year of trying people tend to visit their doctor but some earlier if they have any reason to doubt their fertility or if they're over a certain age (women over 35)It's best for both of you to go to the doctors as it's not just on your part it is also his part too. Trying to conceive a child is very emotional and it is important to support one another as stress can affect the process. If you were taking contraception and recently stopped that could be affecting it as certain types of contraception take a while to stop.

I wish you the best of luck, hope this helps, inbox if you need more help xxx

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I've been with my boyfriend for a year. He currently lives with me and my parents since his mom left him homeless. We are both 18; we don't fight a whole lot, just the typical agruements.

Well, he's been complaining that I'm not as affectionate as I use to be, and that I never want to have sex with him and stuff.

He's afraid its because I'm not attracted to him anymore, but I know I am.

How come I don't have urges to have sex with him as often as I use to, and how come I'm not all lovey dovey with him like I was when we first got together?

*Ever since he's been living with me, is when I stopped being so affectionate. I just feel akward doing it in front of my parents. I like to give them respect, ya know?

*Sometimes when he tries to lay on me, or touch on me, I get irritated, and I don't understand why. Any help?

You're both 18 and he's moved in with you into your parents house. You say that since he's moved in you've stopped being AS affectionate. You say this is because you don't like to do anything in front of your parents out of respect which is fair enough. He should respect that. But I believe that it could just be because he lives with you. There's no pressure to be constantly lovey dovey for the simple fact that he's always there now so you can be lovey dovey any time of the day, where as normally I'm guessing you guys would have to wait a while before you got to see each other - absence makes the heart grow fonder - as for getting irritated when he tries to touch you sometimes or lay on you it could be simply because he's invading your personal space. You used to go to your room to chill out or be by yourself and just relax. But now that he's there it could possibly be that you just don't feel like you could do that when he's around. You've been together for a year now so you've passed what people call the 'honeymoon' phase. I suggest you guys get some 'me time' so that you can miss your partner and have that satisfaction of getting back to him. Explain to your boyfriend that you still love him very much and your still attracted to him but you just don't want sex as often as he wants it and sometimes just wanna be by yourself sometimes, or just lye next to him instead of being all 'up against each other'.
Hope this helps, and good luck with your relationship xx

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This thought has been bothering me alot lately.First,I'm 13/f.But I'm in a relationship with one of my best friend's who've i've known for a long time.He's 16/m.I really love him,and he says he loves me to death,but sometimes it doesn't feel like he does.I'm not a posessive gf,but sometimes he goes for weeks without talking,or visiting me.And when I visit him,or talk to him,he says he's been busy,but he missed me.We recently broke up,because I thought we were better off friends.But he told me that girls would sext him pics of themselves,even when we were dating.He acted like it wasn't a big deal,but for me it was.So when I had a fit,he told me he would delete them,but I didn't feel he was telling me the truth.Now,we're back together,because I realized I loved him more than me bff.But now,I feel as though I should just call it quits,and give up on our relationship,and friendship,and never speak to him again.I really feel that's what I should do.I'm gonna do it today,but first,just needed advice before I did it.Thanks =).

Personally one big alarm bell for me here is the "sext pics". The fact that he hadn't deleted them when they were sent is just a big NO NO in my book. And the way you have described it he didn't tell you about this while you were dating so obviously he was keeping secrets. Now you're only 13 and he's 16 so you guys are at very different stages in life and I think it would be better for you guys to end your relationship mainly because it is causing you too much unnecessary stress and he isn't treating you as he should. If you still want to be friends that's fine but don't fall into that trap of thinking you can't live without him so you take him back at the drop of a hat because then - he knows he can get away with anything and he has the control.
I hope this helps, xx

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so there was this girl that i kinda had a crush on. shes trans. and people bash on both of us almost everyday. im a pretty girl and eveything. boys like me and everything.

but i feel so confused, please help...
i tryed to take my life the other day. because the mean things people were saying, were honestly making me wana die..
:/

It might not actually be a crush that you have here. But this is somebody who you can relate to because your going through the same thing, which is; being bullied. I got bullied myself during school for being a lesbian and there were some seriously hurtful things said and done. But that's not any reason for you to end your life because there's so much more life to live that doesn't involve these people. There's so much you can make of yourself in the coming years. You just need to take a step back from the situation, there's no need to immediately find some kind of label for yourself or work out whether having one girl crush makes you a lesbian or bisexual. You said 'she's trans' which I'm guessing means transgender? I've never seen this girl before but maybe you actually like her because she bares some resemblance to a guy? At the end of the day it doesn't matter, you like who you like and sometimes figuring out your sexuality is just a matter of waiting - you'll figure it out - don't rush it.
Hope this helps, xx

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hi guys, please explain this, my one and a half year of boyfreind says, i think we should split up, don't you?' he says he loves me but it's not working...what does he mean, guys? i love him to death and he loves me as well and he sometimes also says his son comes fisrt. well, he has a son with his ex girlfriend. i just feel so damn broken. we haven't split up but he just seems to want to, i guess. thankyou guys.

Well, I'm a girl but hopefully being an outsider on your relationship I can figure out whats going on here. Regarding the line "My son comes first" He could be feeling guilty about spending time with you and not his son and feels like the only way to do that would be to break up as the temptation to see you wouldn't be there. If he says he loves you but its not working it could just mean that he needs a break from the relationship to refresh the relationship and see if he's making the right decision going out with you as right now you seem to be in a long term relationship and he could possibly feel that it's not fair on you to be in a relationship if he has doubts. I think what you guys should do is sit down and talk it out. Ask him why he doesn't think the relationship is working. Just get all your problems out in the open and make compromises for each other. Hope this helps, good luck xx

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i know this is so weird to ask but my boyfriend is sick of missionary and i always make him do that because i dont know how to ride. he wants me to so bad but im SO nervous im going to mess up or something. dont tell me you should be honest with him and tell him blah no i just want to know the steps on how to ride my boyfriend. so please be as specific!! thankss so much

Get on top with your knees on either side of his waist/hips and go up and down. You can wiggle around a little bit, rub on him etc to make it feel better for yourself but not too much as it can hurt them going back and fourth rather than up and down too hard.
Tip: You can do this postion in reverse, called reverse cow girl. So basically the same thing but instead of facing him, turn around.

Hope this helps xx

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19/f
For some reason I have noticed that I have always been more attracted to "bad boys." My stomach seems to flip for the guys who treat me the worst. I end up dating sweet and romantic guys but in the end I have dumped them for players and jerks who didn't have true feelings for me. This has happened about 3 times since I started dating at age 14. Is there any explanation for this?

I guess the only explanation for it would be the unpredictability, because they can be nice one time and mean the next but you don't know when or for how long. They're not like the 'nice guys' who are so predictable, send you flowers, sweet texts, stay clear of arguments. With 'bad boys' you tend to get more adrenaline pumping through you because of the heated arguments and if you are sexually active then the passionate sex. Just things like that that make you choose the bad boy over the nice boy. You just get more out of the relationship.

Hope this helps xx

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i have a friend whos had sex many times with many different guys. Shes really kool, but most people say shes a hoe. Shes only 13 and had sex with over 3 different guys, She even gave head to a boy younger than her, i dont know how to tell her without hurting her feelings? any sugestions would be appreciated.

Bring her to the side and ask to talk to her. Tell her that she's beginning to get a name for herself. The tender age of 13 is definitely too young for all of this. You should be focusing on your school and having fun with your friends. You need to tell her that as her friend you think that what she's doing isn't good for her, say that you care for her and don't want to see her get hurt, she's taking the wrong life path and if she carries on she might just end up being a teenage mum with a dad who's too scared to face up to the responsibilities. When a girl loses her virginity at a young age. Boys get the wrong idea. They don't love her, they don't think she's amazing at sex. They've heard she does this, they show their "interest" in her and she rises to it. Their using her because they think she's easy. Tell your friend to stop what she's doing and get a grip on her life. I guarantee you she's feeling very vulnerable right now and extremely insecure. This will probably be the only thing she thinks will make her happy. Take her out and try and say this to her, or better yet say it at a sleep over or in her house or something. Somewhere where she can't run away from what your saying. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck in helping your friend, xx

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me and my boyfriend are together for 9 years. we love and care each other so much. we'll be living together soon. months ago he wanted to ejaculate in me but i disagreed coz i didn't want to get pregnant and afterwards i wanted him to ejaculate in me he disagreed saying it's too soon to have a baby. but recently, it's been a while that he says he wants to come in me. is he hinting me to get pregnant? he also knows that i want a baby. thanks.

I dont know because what i can make out from what you've told me he said its too soon. Considering you've been going out for 9 years and your now living together you guys should be comfortable enough to talk about things like this as a couple. So ask him if he wants to have a baby with you and ask him if he wants to now cum inside you because your now basically a family. Don't be like do you wanna have a baby! just bring it up in conversation and be like we need to talk and just say how you said it to me. You'll soon get your answer.

Hope this helps, inbox me if you need more help! good luckxx

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is kissing like hugging?
you automatically know what to do?

In a way, once you get the hang of it and aren't so nervous with it then it becomes a lot easier to do and well it does become like hugging.

Everybody gets worried tht theyll mess up kissing but you cnt really go all too wrong with it try practicing on your pillow or on your hand bcus its sumthing you get better at with practice. When you go in for the kiss make sure your head tilts a bit the opposite way to his and have your lips slightly parted and when your lips touch his kiss him then from there you kinda just have to go with the flow but one rule is if you are inexperienced try saving using your tongue till your completely safe and comfortable with just plain old kissing.

If you do wanna kiss with tongues Open your lips slowly and just a little during the kiss so that one of your lips is sandwiched between theirs and one of theirs is between yours. As you are locking and re-locking lips, brush your tongue against your partner's lips ever so slightly. This should make it clear that you want to French kiss.slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into their mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner's tongue with your own will be very pleasant. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, as this can be a big turn-off. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues. Start lightly. Usually, if the other person wants more, they will come and get it.Go slow. Passionate kisses are good sometimes, but to really enjoy a French kiss, you must take it slow. Do not hurry and instead, take time to explore each other's mouths.
Hope this helps!!xx

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what does snm mean

If you mean 's & m' then its sadomasochism which is basically kinky sex without going in to too much detail. However if its 'snm' and you see this on a conversation or comment or something like, 'you're stupid snm', it means say no more.

Hope this helps!xx

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Im 12, and my boyfriend is 14, hes has sex before, and for a while ive been thinkin about it.! everyone says its worth it, just to get it over with, But im not sure, I mean ive done things, but im not sure about sex ive done everything other than sex, but i dont wanna upset my boyfriend..what shood i do?x ]

Firstly, you guys are way too young to be having sex. You guys are still going through puberty believe it or not.

Secondly, sex isn't something you just do at a young age to get it "over with." In fact that's the worst thing to do. When you lose your virginity you lose it to someone whom you trust and you feel comfortable with.

Thirdly, you said your not sure. So don't do it. You say no to your boyfriend when he wants sex from you and if he gets upset you just say that your not ready. If he starts to get defensive then just don't bother with him any more because he'll only be looking for that one thing; sex. And he'll go find it somewhere else. But don't just give up your virginity to make your boyfriend happy. You have to be happy too.

Hope this helps, good luck xx

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Well, I should start by saying I'm an 18 white British girl who grew up in a very middle class background.

Anyway, I have never had a boyfriend before and have been seeing this guy for about 5 months, I only see him on weekends because he lives in the rougher city area and I am in the country side (I should also point out in England countryside is 95% white while inner cities are more 40-50%). He's from the Caribbean originally and came to England a few years ago, so obviously, he is black. He loves me and his family love me too but my family is against whites and blacks being together, my Nana said people see a slut when they see me now.

Is it honestly so bad to see white and black people together?

No it's not bad to see white and black people together. Racism is very much still alive in the world and its very hard to fight against this kind of discrimination. In parts of England, the majority of the population is white and in other parts its quite multicultural. Where I live, which is the city of London, you see quite a lot of interracial couples and its considered perfectly normal. However it could be that your family was brought up this way, so they were brought up to be against black people as some people believe that they "tainted" our world. As for your Nana saying your a slut when people see you now is quite rude and degrading to you. I think your family believes that you being with a black person will bring you down and turn you "bad". I would suggest you try and change their views on black people. Bring it up in your family and ask them what exactly it is that they find so wrong about your relationship. But otherwise good luck to you and your boyfriend xx

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