okay well im a freshman and i have a boyfriend (a junior) who used to smoke and party all the time. And i kno he likes to drink but i told him if he ever went back to smoking or got drunk that i would leave him with no questions asked. And i have this trusting problem... i dunno it's just realy hard for me to belive people. Like i always think their lieing to me or will eventually. I have my reasons why (family issues id rather not discuss. And he swears on his life that he won't get drunk ever again. But what if hes lieing to me and has been lately?? But i kno he loves me alot and wouldn't do anything that wouldn't make me happy. But i still have my doubts. Do you think he still drinks? And any ideas on how to help with this trusting thing? Any advice at all in general id be willing to take! thanks so much i love you!
i've answered questions with this quote before and i'll use it again. "Innocent until proven guilty." You have no proof that he is drinking again and i'm not talking about "you heard it from someone at school" i'm talking about actually catching him in the act. You HAVE to HAVE to HAVE TO trust your boyfriend or you could have some totally serious issues. If he was willing to change who he was for you, it's obvious he cares about you very much and you need to put faith towards that. If you don't your relationship could end quite quickly and i am very very serious.
about the putting faith towards his love and trusting him thing..i don't know what you can do. You have to do something, whether it's therapy, or whatever. I do know that you have to be able to trust yourself so just be careful. If you are suspicious of your boyfriend or anyone for that matter keep it to yourself. do not tell anyone and do not do anything to prove yourself right. if something really is up you will find out in time when you are supposed to find out. eventually each time you are proven wrong you will learn when and when not to trust your "instincts" on this. i hope i helped and please...be careful. Your relationship and maybe friendships are at stake here. good luck.
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im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.
guys are complex from where i'm standing but i think he may have been hinting at it. i mean, why wouldn't he want to go the prom with his girl friend? especially when it's long distance and he doensn't see you as much as if he had a girlfriend near by. 2 years with him should be enough to know if you can trust him with other girls. remember that saying, innocent until proven guilty? i'd stick to that if i were you. i think you should talk to him about prom and see if he wanted to go with you and tell him you will if or if not he did. prom's a fun time. good luck.
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ok well there was this guy, he was like a nerdy inda guy. i dont like him, at all. and at a party there were these guys having a kissing contest and were trying to see how many kisses they could get foom girls. and the nerdy guy wanted to too and he asked me for a kiss. i asked him to wait a second and i left and never came back, he look so sad. i feel bad cuz i never thought id break someones heart. i dee him at school sometimes. i feel really really bad. what should i say if he asks me about it? thanks, appriciate it
Well, kisses are very intimate and personal and if you didn't want to kiss him you then you shouldn't have but the way you turned him down was a little harsh. i'm sure he won't talk to you but if you could befriend him and just not mention it that'd make his day. you shouldn't pre judge him for being known as a geek. i bet he has some good qualities you'll like to be his friend. good luck.
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Here is the thing, yesterday I took one of my friends to see her boyfriend and she wanted me to stay with her so i did. And her bf(we'll call him steve) had one of his friends over(we'll call him rick), well i was talking to rick for awhile and I think i am starting to like him but I have no way of talking to him except through steve which is also one of my friends but how can i get steve to ask rick if in anyway he would like me or how can i just be able to see him with out sounding desperate to steve? I was thinking something like a double date? HELP please anything will help!!! thanks alot
well, it sounds to me as if you have the answer. a double date would be a good idea. that's most likely what i would tell you to do in the first place so there's no reason for you to even ask the question. you have the answer urself. good luck to you.
--ally
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well i went out with a guy for about 7 months. then we broke up. i really love him and he always tells me that he still loves me and misses me. he was acting like he wanted to go back out w/ me. so i tryed to get him back but last night i found out that he wouldnt go back out w/ me. now there are two really hot guys that want to go out w/ me. but i still love my ex-boyfriend. i like the two other guys a lot but i dont want a boyfriend because im still not over my ex. now i dont know wut to do!! what do u think? what guy should i go w/ or none at all?
it looks to me as if your ex was leading you on a bit there. i think maybe he just wanted to see if you wanted him but pretending he wanted you. it was cool of you to try again and go for what you want, that took guts and i give you props for that. about these 2 other guys, well if ur not over your ex, you prolly shouldn't go out with them. i mean, you could if you really truly wanted to but it's just not fair to them to be in love with someone and go out with them. that could blow up in your face and you got things to deal with now. i think that you should just take some time to move on from ur ex-boyfriend and not go out with anyone. after all you don't need a guy to be happy or have fun. just take some time for urself and when you feel you're ready you should go out with people, but only then. good luck with everything, i hope it all works out.
:)
--aLlY
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last year one of my best friends went out with this guy for about a month. they broke up because he never really liked her. this year the 3 of us have a class together so im with him alot. he told my best friend (his ex) that he kinda likes me and i started having feelings for him to. but my friend just told me that she really likes him and hasnt gotten over him since last year. i dont know if i should tell her i like him to or just ignore it. she wants to go out with him now because shes not going to the same school as us next year. should i say something to her or just wait to see if we still like each other next year when she doesnt go to the same school?
don't go behind your friends back! tell her! if she's your friend she'll understand. she had her chance with the guy and it just didn't work out. things like that happen. he likes you, and you like him..right? well what a PERFECT match! it's not often that happens hun, your friend should understand your feelings and get it through her head that it is OVER between her and this guy and that he like you. You should get a chance with him too, your friend is being greedy and i think she's a little jealous and trying to get him back so you can't have him. that's not fair to you OR him, don't stoop to her level, don't go behind her back, just tell her how you feel and if she's really your friend she'll see that you should be with him. i hope i helped a little so you can see what i see. hope it all works out. bye
-ally
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Hello.
I have been having really bad luck with guys lately and im getting really tired of it. I dont know what to do because it always seems as if I either get to shy and dont know what to say or i say somthign really stupid. can someone please give me some adive.
o don't worry. of course ur gonna be shy and nervous around a guy. it's not bad luck its just bad timing. when your with a guy just think before you speak so you don't say what you want, run it through your head and make sure its what you want to say and think about what'll happen after you say it but don't take forever in thinking or he might think you are weird or something. and..just relax. take deep breaths, calm down and just have fun. don't be shy becuase from what i've seen in my schoool, guys don't like shy girls, they want nice open and friendly ones. just think before you speak and relax and just have fun. hope i helped ya
--ally
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okay, i met this guy at a party.. and we like held hands and stuff and i think i like him but i'm not sure. we dont go to the same school but i know a lot of people at the school he goes to and everyone says he always talks about me (in a good way) and i dont know what i should do.. i talk to him online sometimes.. and once on hte phone.. im confused?
well, i think you should totally see him more often. call him up and ask to do something. i mean it sounds like the spark is there you just need a little bit more help to flame it up! going to different schools doesn't matter at all! if you get along then hey its all good. and a good side of him going to a different school is he won't get clingy or jealous too easily and you wont get tired of seeing eachother. its nice to want to see someone more than you can. i hope it all works out and that i helped you.
ally
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I watch alot of movies..well..alot of love movies. The movies where ppl fall in love. And the more i watch those movies the more i want that in reality. I want to be in love..does neone else feel that way?
Or am i just stupid for even thinking that :/
I dont just stick with the movies..i read the books too. It's normal to want to replace reality with fiction but its just not gonna happen so ur not stupid at all but lets all remember that reality can be just as good as fiction if we work at it. just dont expect the guys to actually be NICE like in the movies. tty
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Can you tell me wat masterbate means
Yes hun, masterbate means to rub ur genital areas in order to feel good without sex. Like a girl's clitoris and a guy's penis. It's a normal thing, everyone does it and it's nothing to be ashamed of if you decide masturbating is for you. All it is, is rubbing ur outter sexual body parts for pleasure to yourself. Hope i helped :)
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I'm almost 15 years old, and I'm female. I've always been very open about myself. Recently i found myself attracted to both boys AND girls, and I want to be open about it. My parents are very supportive, but how do i make the bashers at school leave me alone, if and when i DO come out to them? I want to show GAY PRIDE!
Well, I have a friend who is bi and a lot of gay and lesbian friends, it's really a common thing tho some people don't see it all that much. A lot of people hate me and my friends cuz they are bi and gay and i don't care. If and when you tell people about yourself you need to realize, people WILL in fact hate you, whether it's right or wrong they will and before you do tell people you need to make sure you'll be able to accept it. All i can say to deal with those people is to keep your head held high and go on with your life. Eventually, they'll go on with theirs. And if they don't, there's always teachers, principals, adult figures in general, If you ever feel even the slightest bit unsafe in your school you go to an adult figure and talk about it. You should always feel safe in school..ALWAYS! I'm glad you wanna tell people about it but you need to make sure you'll be ready for the reactions of people. If you lose friends over it, they were NOT good friends, and hey you probably will i'm like the only friend of my friends who are gay because their other friends sucked. Always be proud of who you are no matter how many people might dislike who you are. Good luck hope i helped. :)
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Hey Im the one that asked the question about talking to the guy I like Well I talked to him today and it went really really well thanks
Thanks for letting me know, i'm glad i helped you. Would you believe i've never had a boyfriend? makes me feel good to give advice that's good even tho i've never experienced it personally..drop me a note anytime.
--ally :)
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I go to HHS and I really like this guy Named Derrick problem is I dont really know anything about him and he doesnt know anything about me He doesnt even know my name I just really really like him for some reason We all hang out at lunch And my friend said he wont go out with me unless I talk to him But IM afraid to what should I say to him Ive never talked to him before in my life except I said HI once Im a really shy person when it comes to guys I like so someone help me Please I need to talk to him 2 morrow
well, i don't think talking on the computer at first is a great idea..i think you should talk to him face to face because it's a more sincere thing ya know? What you need to do is just face your fears, if you really like him you'll just do it without even realizing your scared and just say hi, derrick. And go from there, talk don't just walk away after saying hi and make sure you look him in the eyes, it's more real and true when you do that. After that you should get his phone number or sn so you can talk to him all the time. Good luck lemme know how it works out. hope i helped ya!
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ok, my friend has liked this guy for two years... and i have liked him for two weeks... he asked me out and i told him that i would have to check with my friend.... and shes like i dont care... but she looks so sad... then my other friend just dumped her boyfriend of 7 months and i kind of like him..... i am so lost plz help me... what should i do?
okay, now since your friend said it's okay i'm gonna assume you are now going out. k? well, your friend had her chance to say, no i don't want you going out with him. She didn't take it hun so whatever problems she has with you and him, are her problems cuz you gave her the chance to say no. I really think you should stick with this guy cuz hey he could be quite a catch..as much as you might wanna go out with 2 guys, you really can't and actually be..decent. I think you should stay away from the other guy cuz him and his g/f just broke up and it was a pretty long relationship so, i think it's best to stick with what you have and if you find there isn't any chemistry then break up with him and go with the other one..but make sure to give the one you have a chance. I hope everything i said made sence and i hope i helped. Good luck..let me know how it works out!
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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.
Well, hun that's sad he's like that. I think your choices have been very good and steady all through this and it shows me that you are very smart but you can't help how you feel about people. I truly believe it's time you got over him. He hurt you once and if he hurts ya once he'll do it again. Now don't go thinking you can't change guyz cuz it is possible for a guy to change but some of them you just can't and he seems like one of them. If this is the way it's ended it seems like he's not for you and you should try getting over him, get involved go out with friends and try to go for someone else. But, if you do go out with someone don't try to find him in others cuz that's very unfair to that person. It's natural to keep liking him, but you can't forever because this isn't the way love should be. It's time to forget him. Hope i helped and good luck. :)
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im 13 in the 8th grade and ive never had a b/f. the guy that i like keeps on saying that he dosent like me.
is there something wrong with me?
no. you can't force people to like you. it's not a big deal if you don't have a b/f just be happy single. I'm 14 and going into high school and i've never had a b/f either and i'm completely content. You can have a good time without a b/f. There is definitly nothing wrong with you, guyz just aren't interested in you. Once you start high school then you'll see guys are more open minded and go for other girls. Until there's a guy that likes you back, be happy with your single self. I've heard it's a lot easier being single than taken. Good luck.
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ok heres my problem. i met this guy like.. awhile ago in a class that was for high school but he doesnt go to my high school. and i liked him but i stoped cuz i decided i would never see him again. well tonite i saw him at.. at r county fair or what ever u call it. and we talked for a lonng time. and i started liking him again. his friend.. said that he wanted to keep hanging out with us,(me and my girls) so they did. we talked for a longg time. and i really like him. he is so nice hot funny.. my only problem is.. i have no clue if i should keep likng him. we go to different high schools. and i dont think.. we will ever see eachother very much. even though he said he wanted to hang out with him. when i say i like him i mean i really like him alot. it realy bugs me because- i dont no what to do. he makes me smile. he gave me his aim sceen name n we chat it up n stuff but i realy dont no what i'm getting my self into// i like this boi alot.
HelP PlEaSE?
You know what? You should keep liking him. There are all kinds of people I know who are dating guys from other schools and their relationships work out so well sometimes and sometimes they dont. Go with it, have fun with him and keep liking him and hey if it doesn't work out then you'll know better than to like someone from another school but you can't ignore these feelings. You have to follow your heart. Good Luck.
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i just started going out with this guy i meet at cokemusic playing the matching game thing there. well i dont know what he looks like. he says he has hazel eyes and blonde hair. he sounds really cute. well he doesnt have a scanner and cant give me a picture. he told me his name and age etc. before i told him mine. im pretty sure its true {{the info. he gave me}} well i want to know what he looks like and i really dont know what to talk about. all we talk about is cokemusic.com so i dont know i think i need more to say to him and stuff. im 13 and he just turned 14. im going to turn 14 november 16 2004. well i dont know what to do someone help!! he sounds sweet. i know i dont know him that well but i want to. im really confused.
Okay..you met him on the computer? Well, this is time for my lecture i'm sorry to say. This same thing happened to this person in my town. She talked with this guy on the computer who was "the same age" as her and they started e-dating. Then, her curiousity got the better of her and she asked what he looked like and he told her and then said he couldnt send a pic..same situation as you, remember. Okay she was really pretty sure he was telling the truth about everything and then he invited her to meet him at an airport to go across the world to another country. She snuck out against her parents wishes and she went and it turned out he didn't lie about his looks but he wasnt the same. He lied and it ended up he raped her. So you see, he could be telling the truth..but he could be lying. I dont think you should compeletely trust someone you met on the computer cuz even tho you are "pretty sure" you just cant ever be 100% sure. You need to be careful. you dont wanna end up like that girl in my town. I hope you do the right thing and be careful at what you tell him from now on. you dont want to get hurt. If he asks you to meet somewhere in person dont go and make sure to block him. Never ever do anything that you don't know for sure what's going to happen. Do the right thing and be careful. Good luck. :)
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ok theres this guy i've liked for a while and he knows that. well he always wants to hang out and be friends with benifits. well i told him that i actually want to have a relationship with him. he told me he doesnt want to rush into getting a gf bcuz he just broke up with his old one. but they broke up like 5 months ago. so he said lets hang out more. is this guy just using me? is he scared to have a relationship with me? i'm clueless.....please help me
Okay. This guy could be doing anything. If he wants to be your friend with benifets then i really dont think you should be with him because he said he didn't want a relationship. That's technically what a friend with bennifets is. I'm sorry but i really think he's just using you for some "fun" for himself. If he just wants to be friends then maybe his old girlfriend really hurt him and he is scared to open his heart. But from what i can see from your story..i'm thinking he's just using you for...well "a little fun" for himself. I hope i helped a bit. Good luck. :)
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whenever a guy and a girl makeout, why do the guys always asked if the girl liked it?
Well, guys are strange people when you speak girl. Hmm...well i've always thought that the reason they ask is becuase they want a good reputation and for a guy reputation is one of the most important things. If that's not right boys then let's get this straight and you answer this question.
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