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Hii 14/F me and this guy know each other for about 3 years* I really like him and I dont know it he likes me*
He holds my hand
He say he loves me
He sends txts saying mwah and so on*
He is jelous when i am around other guys
I don't want him to break my heart so does he like me? Or should i just get over him
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Hi! It seems like there is a good chance that he likes you, but you can never tell for sure unless you ask him.
I think holding your hand, saying he loves you, and getting jealous when you're around other guys are indicators that he likes you. Here are a couple articles that I think will help you further determine whether or not he has feelings for you:
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You
http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-if-He-Likes-You
I think that should help. But you can try flirting a little and seeing how he responds (if you haven't already been doing so).
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-with-a-Guy
Good luck!
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Hii 14/F
my best guy friend like me* i don't like him in that way and i don't want to ruin our friendship* how do I let him down easy (link)
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This kind of thing has happened to me before. It happens to almost everyone eventually.
It's good that you do not want to hurt your friend's feelings or be mean. Being generous of his feelings is one of the first steps in turning him down. It's important to turn him down without sounding mean -- while still making it clear that you don't like him in that way.
First off, don't tell him you do not like him like that in front of everyone, so he isn't as embarrassed.
When you do tell him, it's important to remain calm and polite. Calmly explain how you feel. Say something like, "I'm flattered that you like me, because you are a good friend. I just don't like you in that way, though, but I hope we can still be friends." But what you say is up to you.
Now you watch his reaction.
If he seems okay with your decision, say you are glad you can still be friends.
But you can be more firm if he begs you to go out with him (or if he asks you if your feelings have changed a week later).
If he looks as if he will cry or just seems really sad about it, tell him you will still be there for him as a best friend.
Good luck!
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hi athena..can you help me about this ,i love my family,and we do a lot of fun thing together.But i still think to die.There is someone i love,but shes not in this world anymore.I love her very much and we have making promise to die together.And i cant forget her,everyday in my life ,i think about her.I cant live like this anymore.I hofe i die soon.. (link)
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First of all, I can tell that you need someone to talk to. You can email me any time: athena4896@gmail.com.
Have you read this before? It helped me a lot, and I hope it will help you too: http://areason.org/
I know you don't truly want to die. You just want the pain to end. You've had enough pain from losing this person.
The pain can end without your life ending as well. You don't have to feel awful forever. You can get help and start to enjoy life again.
Are there any solutions other than killing yourself? Are your problems so awful that nothing else can be done to alleviate them? There are other solutions, even if you don't realize it.
Think about your reasons to live. What things have you been wanting to do before you die? What will you be missing out on? And remember your family. If you kill yourself, you won't see them again. And they will miss you very much.
I'm going to try to help you feel better about missing the person you mentioned. First off, it might help to make time to grieve for her. But you should also try to remember the good times you had with her rather than only thinking about how much you miss her.
Try spending more time with your family and doing fun things with them (but I'm assuming you are already doing that). Having a good time with your family will help you feel better. Also try doing other things that give you comfort.
You might feel lonely and think nobody understands how you feel. Just remember that others have gone through grief and sadness before. There are probably other people who miss this person. Try talking to them, as well as other people who are going through this kind of thing.
Remember, things will get better for you. You don't have to feel awful forever. And just because you're trying to cope with your loss does not mean that you have to forget this person altogether.
Have you told anyone else about how you feel? I recommend confiding in a family member. They can help you find a therapist or someone else who can help you deal with your grief and suicidal thoughts.
But if you feel like there is absolutely no one you can talk to, call a suicide hotline. Try calling 1-800-273-8255.
I hope I was able to help you. You are not alone. Many others have felt grief and suicidal thoughts before, but they stayed strong and found ways to keep going. I promise you will find a way to keep living. I believe in you.
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there is nothing i want except to die.. (link)
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I think you should read this. I promise it will help, and it only takes five minutes to read:
http://areason.org/
I'm sorry you have to go through this. But you're not the only one who has felt this way. I have felt suicidal before, and so have many others.
Do you really want to die? You just want life to get better and the pain to go away.
The pain can end though -- without your life ending as well.
What problems are you facing, and are there any solutions other than killing yourself? Are your problems so permanent and awful that there is nothing else that can be done to alleviate them?
Think about the reasons why you should live. What things have you been wanting to do before you die? And who will your decision affect? Even if you don't realize it, there are people out there who love you and don't want you to kill yourself. You deserve to be loved.
I can tell that you need someone to talk to. I am here to listen if you want to talk. My email is athena4896@gmail.com.
You should find someone to talk to about the things that are going on in your life. You can confide in a close friend or trusted person, or you can inbox one of the columnists on this website. Either way, you probably will get some advice on how to solve your problems.
Your life doesn't have to end yet. Someday, you will find a way to be happier, and you will look back on this and be glad that you got help and didn't make the wrong choice. Remember, you are not alone. Many others people have felt suicidal before, but they stayed strong and found a way to live.
You're a special person, and your life is worth a lot more than you think. You can have a beautiful life. No matter what problems you have, there is always a way to keep going.
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I want to die
So tel me , some painless option how i can die (link)
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I think you should read this. It will only take a couple minutes, I promise.
http://areason.org/
I am going to try to help you -- but I will try to help you find a way to keep going rather than end your life.
When you think about it, you do not really want to die. You just want the pain to end. I went through a suicidal phase before, but I eventually found a way to be happier. So trust me, I know how awful it feels. But this won't last forever. You can get help and start to enjoy life.
What problems are you going through? Are they awful and permanent enough that there isn't anything else you can do? Find someone who will help you find other solutions.
It might seem like there are so many reasons to commit suicide. But think about the reasons for you to live. What have you been wanting to do before you die? What will you miss? And whom will your decision affect? There are people out there who love you and don't want you to kill yourself. They want you to find a way to live and be happy.
Focus on the good things in life and the reasons for you to live. Find a hobby or activity that you are interested in, and find people whom you enjoy being with.
I recommend talking to someone close to you first before you try to find a counselor or a hospital. It can make things easier.
I am here if you need someone to talk to. My email is athena4896@gmail.com and I will try to help you in any way that I can.
Your life doesn't have to end yet. Stay strong and get help, and you will find a way to get through this. It won't last forever.
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Im 14f and have known I was bi or gay all my life, and im comfortable with it.my best friend...ive had a crush on her for years.she knows I do, but it hurts sometimes, I really like her shes straight.im cool with our friendship.its amazing, but how can I stop you know...likeing her in that way so muxh? Cant get over it. (link)
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Hey, I'm bi too! I've been in your situation many times -- and I also had a crush on my straight best friend before but eventually got over it. Isn't it hard when you have a crush on a girl, but you can't be with her because she's straight?
I can tell that your friendship is important to you. That's one of the main reasons why you want to get over this crush. You want to be able to have a regular friendship where you feel the same way about each other, and you don't want things to be awkward between you two. I'm going to tell you what I do to get over my crushes on straight girls. These might be helpful for you, too.
First of all, it helps to spend time with other people and try new activities. Have fun hanging out and going places with your other friends -- it'll help take your mind off that one friend whom you have a crush on. Just make sure you do things that don't remind you of her, and pick things that both interest you and distract you from your best friend.
Make sure you also have boundaries. It's okay to hang out with her every once in a while, but try to reduce the amount of time spent hanging out with her. Putting space between you and your best friend will help you get over it.
It sometimes helps me to look around for a new love interest. But don't find someone who closely resembles your best friend, because you'll only compare the new person to your best friend. Look for someone who is rather different. If you look around, you'll also be able to find other girls who like girls.
Lastly, remember that love comes in many different forms. Maybe she doesn't like you the way you like her, but it doesn't mean she cares about you any less. A while later from now, you won't have a crush on her, but you will still love her. She will still be your best friend, and you will still be hers. You will look back and realize that your friendship is worth the effort it took to get over this crush.
Who knows, you might meet another very special girl -- this time, one who likes girls just like you do.
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8th grade- female
So there's this new guy at my school and he's reaally cute. I was talking to him today at recess (he's only in a few of my short, minor classes, so we dont talk at all ) and we were just exchanging the usual, He likes boarding, I told him it was really cool, my friend mentioned I do gymnastics and he was really impressed by it and he asked me questions and told me he has a trampoline at his house - he also said he gets staight B's and I laughed and said me too ,,and basically we really hit it off, and all my friends say we'd be cute-- ?? but the girl who introduced us -my bff, in his class- is really pretty and I'm insecure that he may like her instead of me.. basically my question is- How do I leave a cute and good impression on him? We're hanging out tomarrow at lunch , so please answer soon! thank you- so sorry for spelling/grammar my device is almost dead and I do not have time to go over- thanks!! (link)
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Hi! I'm another eighth grader. I agree with Lauragracey1 that kindness and personality is much more important than appearance.
I just want to give you a few more tips on leaving a good impression on a guy:
- Smile and be confident. When you're talking with him, keep showing that you're interested in who he is, and he'll think you're a fun person to be with.
- Understand what this guy likes to see in a girl. I can tell that he's probably interested in your personality, so you're good with that.
- Don't be afraid to flirt a little. Who knows, he might flirt back!
- Be there for him. If you think he's not having a good day, ask if he's all right. Show him that you care about him and that he can trust you.
- Always remember to be yourself, because you are a special and unique person.
Here are a few other things that guys sometimes look for in a girl:
- loyalty and trustworthiness
- generosity
- a good sense of humor
- intelligence
- patience
- a unique personality
I hope I was able to help! By the way, don't worry too much about your best friend. Maybe she's pretty, but this guy clearly thinks you're unique and is impressed by your personality. Just remember to keep up what you're doing and maybe try some of the tips I suggested.
Good luck! You're a great person, and I think it will go well.
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