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18/f. I was hanging out with my friends and gave one of my friends (girl) a back massage. My other friend (guy) was also there and asked for a back massage so I gave him one and he loved it. Whenever I hang out with him, he asks for a back massage. Now he keeps asking for thigh massages but I'm not sure if I should. Is it appropriate to give a guy friend a thigh massage?

While a back massage is an innocent thing same as a shoulder rub, I believe this male friend is thinking of more than just the pleasure of a massage.
More likely if you were to engage in this, he would get his sexual thrills from your hands being on his thigh, and urge you to massage right up to his groin.
You ask if it is appropriate. Depends on how you are applying that word to the situation.
If the two of you are also lovers, or you want to have sex with him, then massaging his thigh might be a nice part of foreplay.

If he is strictly a friend, or you want to avoid unintentionally turning him on where things might get out of control if the two of you were alone, then no...it would not be appropriate.

Here's another thing to think of. Whether friend or a mate, if is important that both people do special things for each other and its not one sided. The way you stated it, he is always doing the asking for back massages for example but there is no mention of him reciprocating with a back or shoulder massage or doing anything else special for you. It doesn't have to be a massage. You could ask him to brush your hair just for how wonderful it feels, or a scalp massage.

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