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Guy friend asking for massage
18/f. I was hanging out with my friends and gave one of my friends (girl) a back massage. My other friend (guy) was also there and asked for a back massage so I gave him one and he loved it. Whenever I hang out with him, he asks for a back massage. Now he keeps asking for thigh massages but I'm not sure if I should. Is it appropriate to give a guy friend a thigh massage?
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Your question falls under the old saying like beauty; it is in the eye of the beholder. It is really up to you if you feel comfortable enough with him as just a friend and not a lover. As a lover a thigh massage would be a great part of foreplay but as a friend I think he is asking a lot of your friendship for once you start massaging he cans ask you to higher and higher and he gets a sexual thrill.
Once again though anything that happens between two consenting adults in private, or in this case in the company of other friend(s) is never wrong or weird. The operative world is consenting. If you don't feel comfortable then say no. If he becomes insistent then he is sexually harassing you and I suggest either you leave or ask him to leave.
A back or a neck massage is a nice way for two people who are friends to go to the next step in a relationship as a massage, even fully clothed, is an intimate gesture. So I question since you have not stated. Does he reciprocate in any manner or is this a one way street with him. If it is just one way on his part then I would suggest you stop offering any type of a massage for he is interested only in himself.
Note: If you enjoy giving massages I would suggest you attend a school of massage and get a license. Even if you are in college or planning to go to college. A license to massage is a much better way to earn extra cash then waitressing or other part-time work that is available to college students.
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While a back massage is an innocent thing same as a shoulder rub, I believe this male friend is thinking of more than just the pleasure of a massage.
More likely if you were to engage in this, he would get his sexual thrills from your hands being on his thigh, and urge you to massage right up to his groin.
You ask if it is appropriate. Depends on how you are applying that word to the situation.
If the two of you are also lovers, or you want to have sex with him, then massaging his thigh might be a nice part of foreplay.
If he is strictly a friend, or you want to avoid unintentionally turning him on where things might get out of control if the two of you were alone, then no...it would not be appropriate.
Here's another thing to think of. Whether friend or a mate, if is important that both people do special things for each other and its not one sided. The way you stated it, he is always doing the asking for back massages for example but there is no mention of him reciprocating with a back or shoulder massage or doing anything else special for you. It doesn't have to be a massage. You could ask him to brush your hair just for how wonderful it feels, or a scalp massage.
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