Something I really don't like is the idea that the decision to get married is a one time conversation. It's a huge decision to make, and it should be an ongoing dialogue so that both of you are on board and each person knows where the other's expectations lie.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking him what he thinks on the subject of marriage. You can let him know that there's no pressure, but that you want to know if both of you have the same priorities in the relationship. There's nothing naggy about that.

Your head is in the right place. You're not stamping your feet and pouting because you have the perfect princess wedding planned out in your head and your boyfriend isn't cooperating. You just want to know if you're wasting your time waiting for a ring when there isn't one coming. You want to know if there's an intent for lifelong commitment, which is more than fair after 5 years of a healthy relationship.

We, ve had this discussion before, and we do both want to get married. The thing is, iff he werr to propose, he would want to do it all big amd grandiose and take a while to plan it, knowing him. But I'm not sure if he's doing that. So basically, were on the same page, I'm just trying to figure out when. Which to me, is sort of impatient naggy sounding.

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