If his response is "Stop being insecure", you should hold off. You're raising valid concerns, and he's refusing to acknowledge them. If even raising these concerns is causing him to clam up, that's a warning sign for you.

Keep in mind that he doesn't have to put anything on the table for this trip: you're coming to him. It's your money, your time, your risk. He's got nothing to lose.

I'm not reading a whole lot of respect into his actions. He doesn't seem particularly serious, which is understandable seeing as it's a long-distance relationship that hasn't progressed past "talking".

Keep your money for now. Tell him why. If you decide to go later, you'll have the cash, and if you decide not to go you can treat yourself to a weekend in Vegas instead!

your so right im so on my way to vegas! :) thanks

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