And this is why they warn people against ditching their friends for their boyfriend. It happens to all of us at some point or another, so don't worry too much!

I'm going to disagree with JustJess. It's perfectly normal to have friends outside your relationship. Each partner needs to keep their own separate life to a certain extent. Sure, it's nice to meet friends of your boyfriend's, but if there are some you don't like or if you don't enjoy doing what they do, you'll come off as the cranky girlfriend who can't let your boyfriend off his leash. Not fun for anyone.

So, how to make friends. I'm in the middle of trying to make some new friends for a different reason, so here's what's working for me:

Of course, there's the option of reconnecting with old friends. They might be pissed off at being left behind, but a simple apology will clear up a lot of things.

There are also lots of ways to make new friends. Do you work? Start trying to make a connection with your coworkers. I work a part-time job mostly for the social aspect of it. You could try signing up for a class that interests you, like yoga, pottery, creative writing or cooking. Another great way to meet friends is to volunteer. Anywhere where you'll be gathering with people with shared interests is a good place to find friends. It does take time, but when it starts paying off it's worth it.

You'll need to keep yourself occupied while your boyfriend's away anyhow, so why not pick up a new hobby or two? In my time alone at home I've picked up knitting, crocheting and sewing. It's my me-time, where I get to peck away at whatever project I'm working at or play video games with nobody to nag me to get up and do the dishes :) Try to stop thinking of it as abandonment and start thinking of it as a much-needed break.

Great advice!!!!!;)thanks!!

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