Personally, I wouldn't go rushing into labelling myself if I were you. You're not actually bisexual: you're bi-curious if anything, since you haven't actually had a chance to test things out. It's normal to change what your leanings are as you get older and experience more. It doesn't mean you have to wear a big label on your forehead and change your whole life around.

As a bisexual person, I have to give you a big warning: being into both sexes doesn't give you a free pass to be unfaithful. If you want to test the waters with guys, you had better clear it with your girlfriend first. If she's not okay with it, then you're going to have to keep it in your pants if you want this relationship to continue.

When it comes to telling her, just let her know that you've been having sexual feelings towards men lately, that you wanted her to know but that it doesn't change the way you feel about her, and that you will only take it as far as she is comfortable with.

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EDIT... because obviously I didn't do a good job the first time around :)

Before you go assuming that I'm some bigot, I'd like to remind you that I am also bisexual, in a same-sex relationship, so I know where you're coming from and would be insulting myself if I was, as you say, attempting to do so without being noticed ;)

When you say that a person isn't their sexuality, that was the point I was trying to get across with my first paragraph: don't let this revelation mix you up too badly, because you're still the same you that you were before.

It's great being bi when you're looking for a partner because it opens things up. When you already have a fantastic partner, it makes life extremely difficult. I never implied that you would cheat: only that it's really really hard (as I know from experience) to give up that other part of you and stay monogamous. I don't know you, but I do know other people who have made discoveries about their sexuality later in life and have messed up their relationships badly because they were driven to dishonesty by their need to experiment and their partners' not being on board.

I don't think being bisexual, bi-curious, homosexual, or heterosexual should "change [my] whole life around" anyway. It's not like it completely changes everything about me and who I am. A person is not just their sexuality.

I never said I planned to - or thought I could - just rush into experimenting with guys. I would never even dream of being unfaithful towards my girlfriend, and I thought that I had made those implications pretty clear.

I do appreciate your third paragraph, but the first two just feed into the horrible stereotypes of anyone who isn't "straight", and I don't appreciate you trying to insult or degrade anyone without being noticed doing so.

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