It's all going to depend on the girl, but here's my answer. I'm 24 and married.

Physical: I'm 5'8", so I prefer a guy who's pretty tall. However, I had a pretty successful relationship with a guy who was just shy of 5'2". Strength and looks aren't too important to me, they're just a bonus. I've dated guys from all sorts of races, body types, etc. My husband is 6'3" and very handsome, so I lucked out there!

How much money they have isn't so important as how they use it. I have less respect for a guy who has a tonne of money and tosses it around on expensive crap than I do for a guy who has a little money but makes it go a long way and saves for the future. It becomes important in a relationship because when you run into hard times (like we have in the past) you need to be able to make it through. When you run into good times, you need to be able to spend responsibly so you have something in case of bad times.

I don't like the polarity between aggressive and laid back. How about someone with ambition and drive who can kick back and chill every once in a while?

As for territorial, jealous and protective? I told my husband flat out when he met me that none of that crap would be accepted on my part. I have a lot of male friends, and I believe that when a guy is jealous and protective he doesn't respect or trust me. I warned him that any jealous behaviour would lead to a swift punch to the teeth.

Maturity is good, but sometimes you need to know how to loosen up and have fun. Sex is important, but compatibility is more important than any particular combination of attributes.

I prefer a sort of clean, professional style. I like my husband best in argyle sweaters and nice jeans. Yowza :)

I know you didn't ask for this, but I'd have to say the most important personality traits my husband has (and the ones I looked for when I was single) are a sense of humour, intelligence, and caring. He also turns to mush around small dogs, so you know he's got to be a good person.

your husband sounds like a good catch :)

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My name is Amanda and I'm 26 years old. I'm currently studying electrical engineering. Armed with a fairly odd sense of humour and a sunny outlook on life, I'll take on just about anything. I'm also cussedly stubborn, which has its ups and downs. Things get tough sometimes, and I've never been one to run from it.

In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

I won't necessarily give you the answers you want to hear, but I'll always be honest and do my best to help.

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