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Q: Hey :)
okay. I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for 2 months now. We are very close but i am still a virgin as i don't want to rush things. He has admitted to me that he wants to go further but is very caring and patient :) recently we got into a conversation about what would happen if i ever got pregnant,and when i asked him if he would stand by me, i was shocked at how hesitant he was to reply. He came out with things like, 'i'd probably jump off a cliff' and 'i don't know'.
I think it's an honourable thing for a man to stick by his baby's mama and even though i'm not planning on losing my virginity or getting pregnant any time soon, it still bums me out to hear him say that :( should i let it pass as a joke or doubt his character?
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Hey, give him some credit for being honest. You don't mention how old you are, but I'm going to guess somewhere under 20 based on the site demographic.
Most guys aren't ready to deal with the consequences of pregnancy, but since it almost never comes up in conversation they just skim over that. Then when the girl gets pregnant, they bolt.
You've been together 2 months. If you were to get pregnant, that would mean spending a lifetime together in some way, whether the relationship continues or you're just seeing him when you drop off the kid. That's a pretty big commitment to give when you haven't been together that long.
So keep waiting until his answer is "Yes, I would stand by you." That way, you know that if you get in a fix you wouldn't be in it alone.
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Hey, thanks alot, and you're right, i realise how dumb this question is haha i'll probably delete it in a min :/ i'm just a bit insecure, and i really need him in my life...kinda fucked up i know, but thanks xxx
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