You can think what you want, but keep it to yourself until she comes to you for advice.

What happens if one of these relationships lasts longer than a few months? You've been hostile towards the boyfriend since the start. He'll never like you. They'll spend less and less time with you because you make the girl choose between her boyfriend and you. Then you lose a friend.

More food for thought: I have a friend who dated this colossal bag of dicks in high school. None of us liked or trusted him, and we all let her know. Her response? Shut us all out and move in with him. I didn't hear from her at all for over a year. Turns out that he was abusing her badly and she was all on her own because we had pushed her away from us. If we hadn't been so openly judgmental and biased in the start, she would have come to us when things started to get worse. Instead, she desperately avoided the "I told you so" and got into a bad situation. You can protect your friend better by being there for her.

It's not that, if these guys even think about doing any wrong against them, they answer to me

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